30th wedding anniversery of my parents on 24th January

Well it was the 30th wedding anniversery of my parents on 24th January, and then I had thought, of putting this, but somehow, was quite engaged in work……..

Little things, just wishing, sharing of little movements of joy, a call, an email makes us happy, But in this busy world, at time we either forget, or don’t realize...

Had send a mail to my sis saying:

IT IS A GOD WRITTEN TRUTH TO HAVE A PARTNER IN LIFE, THE ULTIMATE AIM BEING MAN CANNOT SURVIVE FOR LONG WITHOUT A PARTNER...IN THIS LONG JOURNEY OF LIFE, WE COME ACROSS MANY SUCH SITUATIONS WHERE WE NEED SOME MORAL SUPPORT FROM SOMEONE SO CLOSE TO US, SOMEBODY WHOSE HANDS WE CAN RELIABLY HOLD ON TO FEEL THAT "OK, I'M NOT ALONE IN THIS GAME, I'VE A PARTNER TO SHARE THE FRUITS OF MY LIFE, BE IT SUCCESS, BE IT FAILURE"..........IT GIVES A LOT OF POSITIVE ENERGY..........MORE THAN THAT, IT HELPS US BRING OUT A LOT OF POSITIVE ENERGY HIDDEN INSIDE US........THIS FOR SURE HELPS US ACHIEVE OUR GOAL OR THE ULTIMATE AIM OF OUR LIFE...As per the mail........

AS THEY SAY EVEN IN MANAGEMENT...WHAT ONE MAN CANNOT DO TWO CAN DO.... WHAT ONE MAN CAN DO.... TWO CAN DO STILL BETTER............BETTER R THEY WHEN THEY R FRIENDS...SO MANY MARRIAGES BREAK...WHICH IS HURTING...............BUT IT DOESNT MEAN THAT I WILL OR WILL NOT MARRY...MARRIAGE IS FINE, BUT IF IT DOES NOT HAPPEN IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT MY LIFE IS DEPENDENT ON IT...

YOU LIVE LIFE ONLY ONCE, IT IS NOT TO MAKE ADJUSTMENTS, CRY AND SPEND...YOU SHOULD MARRY ONLY THE PERSON YOU FEEL YOU CAN LIVE WITH, BETTER YOU MARRY THE PERSON, WITHOUT WHOM YOU CANNOT LIVE, AND FOR THAT YOU NEED TO WAIT...AND ONCE YOU DECIDE, THE DECISION SHOULD BE FINAL...

TO MARRY YOU GOT TO FIND SOMEBODY WHO LIKES THE SAME STUFF. NO PERSON REALLY DECIDES BEFORE THEY GROW UP WHO THEY'RE GOING TO MARRY. GOD DECIDES IT ALL WAY BEFORE, AND YOU GET TO FIND OUT LATER WHO YOU'RE STUCK WITH,ISNT IT?.

NO AGE IS GOOD TO GET MARRIED AT. AT TIMES I FEEL, YOU GOT TO BE A FOOL TO GET MARRIED. IT'S BETTER FOR GIRLS TO BE SINGLE BUT NOT FOR BOYS. BOYS NEED SOMEONE AFTER THEM.

But indeed we should not miss even the smallest opportunity to serve own parents!!!!!!!

Too much of sentiments cleans your mind n body together !!!May God bless all of US to achieve more milestones in life.....Everything is in his hands and as per his will.......

The World & We.

“ Manifestation and not creation, is the work of science today”. Science is nothing but finding of unity and when this unity would be reached we would stop from further progress.
Chemistry: One element from which all others could be made.
Physics: One energy of which all others are but manifestations.
Religion: One who is the only soul of which all souls are delusive manifestations, one life in the universe of death.
Economics: Wants equals resources.
Market: Demand equals supply.

Ecclesiastes 3:15 of Bible says ‘What ever happens or can happen has already happened before.’ So what has happened before will happen again, what has been done before will be done again. There is nothing new in this world. Civilization, life, food chain, everything is a cycle. One (I) may feel that my thoughts and ideas are innovations, but no, there are thousands and thousands of people with the same thoughts and same ideas. But then some are heard and some are unheard. These are all part and parcel of life. Our knowledge is only as much as a glass of water in the wide ocean. In this world of ours, the only truth or the destination in everybody’s life is death. ‘Death is common to all and nothing lasts for ever’. Mutability is the way of life. The only law applicable in this ever changing world is love, with the only religion being ‘right’- thoughts, deeds and action. Anybody who has a firm faith in a noble task and strives ceaselessly to achieve it will be successful in his life. Thus success is tasted not by Hindus, Muslims, Christians, Sikhs, Buddhist, Parsees or the believers of other religion alone but by those who does the ‘Right thing at the right time’.

The best example for the fact that everything in this world is a repetition is, that the distance between sun and earth is 93,000,000 miles while the sunlight travels at the speed of 1,86,000 miles per second only. Thus before reaching earth it is already 8.3 minutes old and what we say, the new or the first ray of light is not infact something new, but just a repetition.

Another truth about life is that ‘United we stand, divided we fall’. Though competition is always required, cutthroat competition will lead to destruction and cooperation is always required. Eg. Sun is made up of heat and light, which are brothers. Light by itself or heat by itself is worthless but both are required. A common name attributed to these two brothers is energy. Light of the sun, the initial belief was that it was made up of seven colours namely VIBGYOR. But today light is not limited to its seven-rayed domain. The waves of light that lies outside the violet ray is called ultra violet ray and outside red is called infrared. ‘Astronomer Sir William Horschall). The heat becomes intense as we move towards red ray and so beyond it. Its chemical activities are leaned towards the violet. These rays if it reaches the earths surface will lead to disaster (Ozone problem) The waves towards the infrared light carries with it messages, by which we get radio news etc; with the help of the rays towards the violet (Rontgen rays) we can see the deep sealed bones in our body through our covering skin. All the colours in the sunlight blend, making it white. How can we then see different colours in different things?

The answer is that all things do not absorb all the colours. They exclude some offering no reason. These rejected colours are our gain, a gift to our eyesight. The liquid that a thick bloating paper absorbs is of no use to us. The liquid, which is surplus that is left over, is our gain. It is exactly the same with sunlight. The rub accepts from sunlight all its coloured waves but returns to it the red. In this renunciation lies the splendor of the ruby. Its glory is not in what it appropriates. White hair refuses all the colour waves of the sunlight and so it is white. Black hair absorbs all its waves and therefore it is black. If all the objects in the world appropriate the entire colour waves from the sun then our world would appear as nothing but black. The colour would not show up at all. So is there, the need for diversity in the world, without it, life would be boredom. When we see all people as all-alike, it is no seeing at all.

The people of the very ancient past did not try to absorb all colours and therefore found our world to be white. But today people are trying to absorb all colours and therefore it seems black and empty to them. There are many waves of sun, which do not reach earth and much, which air resists.

In our universe sun is at the center of the solar system, and other bodies like planets, comets etc. revolve around it. Just like the solar system our world too is made up of many small elements, which our shastra call (Paramanu) but science call it atoms. Some elements like gold are rudimentary and therefore cannot be split. While others-molecules-can be further split into atoms. The working of the atom is more or less similar to our solar system with one stationery body in the center, sun or nucleus (inside neutron and protons) and others like planets or electrons revolve around it due to the nuclear force. The positive force is in the center and makes others revolve around. Therefore in life too, each individual should be positive. All things, which are in the embodiment of stillness, vibrate, for there is a vibration of this energy in them. Of the energies of sun, light beats upon our eyes, while heat beats upon our body.

Energy, lighting that flashes from amongst the clouds is electricity. It is of two kinds-Positive and negative. We can say that one has ‘virtue’ and the other ‘no virtue’. That is there are two types of people. Moreover everything in the world is made up of two opposite forces and yet there is a natural antipathy between them. Men and Women. The electric spark is called the neutron. Only one proton can keep one electron under control. When positive and negative are equal in number there is harmony. When a home made up of union of a man and a woman has its feminine influence reduced it generally follows that there is dominance of Masculine power. When there is harmony there is no charge. The word charge is frequently used in connection with electricity too. If one ignoring its bond of agreement, supersedes the other, proclaiming its superiority then we say matter is charged with electricity.

As is seen in nations, families and among friends beyond the center of the atoms quarrels persists. But within the center they appear bound in friendship. It is detected that the space left between two similar minded atoms, when all adverse tendencies comes to force is many a millionth part of an inch. It follows then that within this narrowness of the atom there is yet a great force stronger than the repelling force that exist between two protons and this is of a magnetic kind. This force attracts the protons in the atoms as well as the neutrons. In other words, it exerts equal influences on matters whether they are charged with electricity or not. This great magnetic power dwelling in the heart of an atom is the same force that sets the universe at rest, thereby bringing about peace and patience and understanding. In the politics of the atom there is this force, bigger than all the other forces, that is why whatever are reactionary by nature comes to terms with it and together they hold the peace of universe. This makes us see clearly that the concord, which we find in the universe, is not the result of a placid docility. Out of all warning elements a powerful concord is established. Those, which individually are destructive, are the protectors of creation when united.

One more thing must be added. The electrons, protons and neutrons are the same in all matter. The difference lies in the way they are distributed. The molecules containing, six positive minded protons in total, forms into carbon. In other words it is an atom of carbon variety. The atom of Hydrogen has one electron, which of nitrogen has seven, oxygen has eight but uranium has 99. The atom falls into the different cast groups according to the number of positive protons they happen to possess. So also in the midst of numerical differences lies the diversity of life or creation.

The glimpse of our epics reveals that the progress of today is not something new. Eg:

Plane-Resembles something in which Ravana took Sita to Lanka.
Cloning-Resembles the remake of the son of Rama by the sanyasi in the forest.
DNA test- Resembles Sitas agniparaksha, for if she was in fire, she would have turned into ashes.

Things yet to be discovered are:

Death free medicine-Amruth.
Other solar system-Where men of epics reside.

The offer of sacrifice in the form of burning woods with ghee etc., thereby producing heat, which in turn evaporates the ground water and once evaporated, then condenses and brings down rain, was practiced long before evaporation and condensation were defined.

‘History is nothing and does nothing.’ It is man who is and does. For the progress of our nation there is no use imitating the western culture. Modernization by retaining new tradition is welcome. In any field hard work is always rewarded. Mostly the right work at the right time brings luck or fortune and otherwise it is badluck or misfortune. Whatever happens…. isn’t it destined? The will of God…………………..

THE REVELATIONS

1.THE REVELATIONS

(After being to Muringoor Divine Retreat Centre-14th March 1999 to 20th March 1999)

Wise people thirst for knowledge and the hope for the future as revealed in Bible (Isaiah 30-24) is: ‘Foolish people will learn to understand and those who are always grumbling will be glad to be taught.’ What is required is:

Respect ‘others’ (not only our) faith and discover their richness.
Know and obey God.
Don’t quarrel; love your enemies by forgiving them.

God is one and only one. Since God wishes to fulfill the desire of everybody in his omnipresent, omnipotent and omniscient form, he sends prophets, who are his chosen children. We are all children of God. The chosen children are those who have faith in God, who have the Holy Spirit filled in them. People believe the chosen children to be God and starts worshiping them which give rise to different sects of people and each come to be known as a ‘religion’, which is just a particular system of faith and worship.

Mathews 17 to 21 of Bible tells this about the chosen children:
“ Here is my servant, whom I have chosen,
The one I love, and with whom I am pleased,
I will send my spirit upon him,
And he will announce my judgment to the nation,
He will not argue or shout,
Or make loud speeches in the streets,
He will not break off a bend reed,
Or put out a flickering lamp,
He will persist until he causes justice to triumph,
And in him all people will put their hope.”

Avestan Zarathustra, Rama Mahavier Jain, Mohamed, Jesus Christ and Buddha are all God incarnate on earth. Buddha is to Hindus, what Jesus Christ was to Jews. Jesus Christ was a Jew, and Buddha was a Hindu. While Jews rejected Jesus, Hindus accepted Buddha. Even here Charles Darwin’s theory seems to have been applied. The theory says that the Fittest survive, the weak go to the grave. One should be in a position to adjust oneself with the change. ‘Buddha was the first being in the world who brought missionarizing into practice. Nay he was the first to conceive the idea of proselytizing. Now, or today, even here competition is seen. Since the promoters of the missionaries alone are not in a position to cater to the needs of their devotees, they choose disciples from among the devotees. But common people unknowlingly starts worshiping the prophets. There is nothing wrong in it, for Mahanirvana Tantra 4:12 says, “Material worship, is the lowest stage, struggling to rise high, mental prayer is next stage, but the highest stage is when the lord has been realized.”


It means wherever thow seest extraordinary holiness and extraordinary power raising and purifying humanity know thou that I am there. God never ever has proclaimed that Christians alone, or Hindus alone or Muslims alone will be saved. All religious books say that ‘Good’ will be saved. ‘Truth alone Triumphs’. Thus as Vedanta Sutra 3:4:36 syas (Vyasa) “we find perfect men even beyond the pale of our cast and creed.”

Then why do we quarrel? Remember the story of the frog said by Swami Vivekananda on 15th Sept 1893 at the parliament of religion-Swamiji Concluded saying that ‘A Hindu sits in his own little well and thinks that the whole world is his little well,’ This is the case with each individual living on this earth. Quarrels are caused mainly due to misunderstanding. One should be a little patient to understand what is in the mind of others, or what does the other mean by his speech.

The cruel murder of missionary workers in Orissa has been explained in Deuteronomy 13 of the Bible. A prophet or interpreter of dreams may promise a miracle or a wonder in order to lead you to worship other Gods or do other things. His promise may come true. But God is using him to test us. Those who trust God should not tust him’. Bible even tells us to rebel and put to death interpreters. This is what has been done in Orissa forgetting that hate never destroys hate only love does.

It is clearly emphasized in Mathew 25 of bible- ‘Any country that divides itself into groups which fight each other will not last very long’ Thus for the peaceful survival of our nation the one on the banks of Indus which also includes the present Pakistan, only the merger of the two can bring total peace which is but a distant dream, a dream which ought to be accomplished. History has taught us, and excavations have proved that violence begets violence and the inflecting of death leads in turn to death door. Cruel motives of men are sure to lead men to disaster. On the day of final judgments may victory be granted to truth and non-violence.

As is said in Bhagavad Geeta, ‘All those who are proficient in the science of sacrifice, are qualified to reach the ideal goal, which indeed is one and same for all seekers. The science of sacrifice tells us to be inactive in action and active in inaction.’ Knowledge alone can in the end take a person to the ultimate reality. One will see that all beings, including oneself are manifestations of the one supreme self. This infinite knowledge, alone can remove completely our sins (vasanas) and purify us. As in other branches of knowledge, one cannot set a time limit for acquisition of this knowledge. Inspite of these drawback I can say this much, strict adherence to the path pursued, deep devotion to the ideal we have accepted and are striving to reach self restraint and constant endeavor are factors that will help to attain supreme peace (Param Shanti).

If we do not have faith in others we will fail to recognize others and latter will be guilty of the same. Eg. If we do not have faith in others religion/words what would happen is, on the day of final judgement, the day being not far away, we will fail to recognize the truth, and hence would be guilty of the same as had happened to the people who had not entered the Noahas Boat. Thus the only rule in life is ‘Love’.

Edward Morgan Foster in his essay, ‘Two cheers for Democracy’ says that tolerance is the most important virtue because it is absurd or unreal to expect enemies or altogether different people to love each other. Therefore love, which is very essential, does not work in public life and international relations. Tolerance is a less difficult less dramatic but more useful virtue than love and it will enable difficult races and classes to settle down together for the salvation of this crowded jostling world. Understand the plan behind the universe. Be Patient, do your duties.

One thing is quite sure, since all religion teach the same things, those who have true faith in religion will have the qualities of , ‘harmlessness, truth, absence of anger, renunciation, peacefulness, absence of crookedness, compassion to beings, uncovetousness, gentleness, modesty, absence of hatred and absence of pride. 16-21,22 of the Bhagavad-Gita says, ‘Triple is the gate of this hell, destruction of the self, lust, anger, and greed, therefore one should abandon these three. A man who is liberated from these three darkness, practice what is good for him and this goes to supreme goal.

Recognize the whole mankind as one race; if anybody hope that the triumph of any one of the religion/country/person and the destruction of others will bring about unity, it is impossible. Beauty lies where there is unity in diversity. One should overcome the barriers considering, oneself as the sons and daughters of one single God. Each must assimilate the spirit of the others and yet preserve his individuality and grow according to his law of growth. One should never dream of the exclusive survival of his own ideas, and destruction of others. We should aim for the goodwill of all men as we have a common origin. People behave rudely or otherwise only because of ignorance- worst criminals as well as greatest saints don’t make themselves a nuisance to everybody. Be constructive in life, have inner dedication. ‘Be ye harmless as a dove, but wise as a serpent’ and ‘Cause less inconvenience to your co passengers’.


2. Religion.


‘Religion’ means a particular system of faith and worship. What binds man to God is his religion. When men have learnt to build a quiet temple inside his own heart and to be a ministering priest to his own self, religion will have done its true work.

The only way in which religion can be established is by worship, not by argument or discussion. The steps for proper worship are:
Before you can begin to worship God, you must forget yourself, before you can forget yourself, you must learn to control your thoughts and silence your minds. For this you must have humility and child like attitude.
We must not think of over selves as bodies and intellects. Thus you should forget your personal life at the time of worship.
Find for yourself some human intermediary, between self and God who will be a focus.
Make yourself strong and illumined to do without outside help, i.e stilling of the mind.

Self Reliance is the only true worship. What is needed is a fellow feeling between the different types of religion, seeing that they all stand or fall together, a fellow-feeling which springs from mutual esteem and mutual respect…Swami Vivekananda- All religions are different expressions of the same truth, all march on or die out. They are the radii of the same truth the expression that variety of minds requires.

3.God.

(Based on the debate with Mr. Menon, of Green wich oil mills, Thrissur, at the time of audit there with Jayanthy)

There is an unseen, unknown force controlling or moulding the nature and each individual here. We do not know what that external force is and therefore call it God. It is only adversity that takes man to God. Others simply say, ‘Man makes his own fortune and calls it fate’. Only that person in life can know what is fate, who has seen, felt or experienced adversity even by doing good things.

Cotton does not become cloth by itself. If there is a pen and a paper, nothing will come on the paper by itself. Some one has to lift the pen and write on it. This is nature. It is the sufficient proof for the existence of God, to those who do not believe in him. I have not seen the White House at Washington. But it is there and therefore it would be a folly if I deny it. I breath air, though I have not seen it. If we had told our great grandfather that I sitting in India can talk to or see a person who is not near us, he would not believe it, though I can see it happening today. In past people did not know the law of gravity until Newton discovered it. Thus gravity existed before Newton discovered it and would have existed even if it was not discovered.

So is that external force controlling mankind, which is called God. There is nothing like ‘my God’ or ‘your God’, but one single God-the omnipresent, omnipotent and omniscient which is ‘our God’.

Until the reality of God is unveiled, each one of us has got our own ideas. The whole concept of God depends entirely upon where we stand, for different people and also for the same people at different points of life, God means many things. For some it is a personal deity, for some human images, or other images and for some light is the form of God and space is his home. For some it is power-because wherever we go God is there. He is the creator of such a vast creation. Therefore the highest deity ought to be the impersonal and universal.
Everything in life is not within the control of men. There is an external force controlling it, moulding it. Man should learn to build a quiet temple inside his own heart, and be a priest to his own self, for God is within him, around him and everywhere. One must see God in oneself as well as in every other individual. The real God who is presently playing hide and seek with us will one day reveal his identity to us, if we earnestly desire.

I accept all religions that were in the past, and worship with them all, I worship God with every one of them, in whatever from they worships him. I shall go to the mosque of the Mohammedan, I shall enter the Christians church and kneel before the crucifix, I shall enter the Buddhist temple, where I shall take refuge in Buddha and in his law, I shall go into the forest and sit down in meditation with the Hindu, who is trying to see the light which enlightens the heart of everyone.



4. Faith.


Faith is the playing ground of impression developed through birth. ‘A man is as his faith is, nay man is but his faith’. What do you mean by faith? The belief in what I don’t know, so that I may come to know what I believe in is called faith. Faith is that towards which each of us irresistibly gravitates in all our actions, feelings and thoughts. Thus every one of us has a goal, a great destination. This is the faith in each of us. Without faith ‘might would be right’ as is happening in the world of today. If all of us on this earth had faith in God, there would be love among all of us, on this earth and we know that where there is love there is peace and God. There would be no enemity, no hatred, no war, and no bloodshed! Ha! How wonderful it would be. But today all these are present on mother earth, which reveals lack of faith. This is leading us to destruction. There is a great deal of variance in the life of men because of difference of faith. Faith is the man, have a firm faith in a noble ideal and thus act tirelessly to achieve it in a spirit of dedication and love unto him. To one who works thus in the world, success is sure. Eg. Einsten/Edison-Science, Gandhi-Non Violence.

With the birth of a man is born his faith and is the lifeblood of his living. It is a great Power. Often Christ said ‘As ye believe, so will it be’ A doubting mind is a diseased mind. Doubt is like a little germ, which gets loaded in the heart and infects the whole being. There is no happiness for the man of doubting. It throws the whole world into a state of turmoil. A man who thinks himself the most sinful of all sinners, fallen without hope, rises to his feet again when a wise and loving heart comes and rekindles in him the divine spark. Thus faith regenerates. Faith may not eliminate all our troubles. It may make it greater. We should always remember that, there is a place in every heart upon which we can absolutely depend. We must try to find that. No matter how degraded a person may be, there is still within him the divine spark. ‘There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, that it ill behoves any of us, to find fault with the rest of us.’ No matter how small or insignificant we may seem at times, we are always connected with the great whole. As we think, so we become. “Fools dwelling in ignorance, yet imaging themselves wise and learned, go round and round in crooked ways, like the blind leading the blind.”

Swami Vivekananda had said, ‘who will help you? You are the help of the universe, what in this universe can help you? Where is the man, or the God, or the demon to help you? What can prevail over you? You are the God of the Universe, where can you seek for help? Never help came from anywhere but from yourself. In your ignorance, every prayer that you made and that was answered, you thought was answered by some being, but you answered the prayer yourself unknowingly.

Faith is belief in inspiration, revelation or autority. The word sometimes refers to a belief that is held with lack of reason or evidence. 

Faith, Faith, Faith, in ourselves, faith in God- this is the secret of greatness. If you have faith in the three hundred and thirty millions of your mythological Gods, and in all the Gods which foreigners have introduced into your midst, and still have no faith in yourself, there is no salvation for you. Have faith in yourselves, and stand upon that faith and be strong.

Just Few thoughts............

When the people, whom I had been trusting so long, turn to be untrustworthy, how can I trust or belive, the people I meet, today, or at this juncture of life? Why do you love some people so much?? So much more than anything………..or anybody else…..Why do we admire somebody so much….And how hurting is it to know later that they are untrustworthy……Anyways…There is so much of good in the worst of us, and so much of bad in the best of us………..Are all person selfish, and nobody, trustworthy? Hey no…..You should never think so…..

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Why are all always busy?? What do you mean by being busy? Doesn’t it depend on us, we find time for all the things we wish to do.....There is no time for the
things we dont want to do...... NEWS- happen daily,....Just office problems, & friends problems,family problems, country problems....+ our role.... zindegay main choti choti bathey hothey rehethy hey...Khya kare..... Namaku viswasamullathum, news agencyude swabhavamillathathumaaya aarodenkilum manasu thurannu parayan chilapol thonum, when mind is filled with things, we feel if we do that we will be free, but in the long is it worthwhile sharing secrets with anybody?? " Isnt there some self-interest behind every friendship? There is no friendship without self-interests. This is a bitter truth." Mutability is the way of life, friends are made by men, relations are made by God....Which is more stronger, depends.....but in the long run, nobody can overtake the will of God......As per the comment from Sibila, decided not to put any forwards here, and for that created yet another blog……..
http://forwardsandthoughts.blogspot.com/
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There is so much in life, so many people we meet in and out, daily, there are so many things that has happened in our and others life, which have taught us so many things, why don’t we learn from that, and not repeat them…..why do we at time have mad thrills towards others, why don’t we accept advise of elders and those who love us?? In every case, both, the right person and the wrong persons, have justifications to make, do think over if your justifications are right….. Nobody can stop an idea whose time has come., Kanuna swapnagel ellam phalichal, kalathil kalpaney khey enthu mukliyam you live life only once, live it right, live it with dignity. Life is much more than getting all that you want, desire what you deserve, desire is the root cause of all sorrows.
What we know is like pebbles on the shore, what we have to learn is vast like the sea before-There are so many things that u do not know about u, and I do not know about myself…...A bitter truth of life is We make them cry who care for us, we cry for them who never care for us, and we care for them who will never cry for us……Those who care for us, would like to see us as a person, whom all loves, and respects, but for the sake of some other person, we get the curse and hatred of all those who love you……..Who cares/cared for you, did so much for you….. Then what will you gain from those who care for us??….not blessings, but curse, which will make our lives more miserable.
Not education but character is mans greatest need and mans greatest safeguard. Why not we be men of character with courage. Though in real life academic excellence is not enough to be successful, it gives us some amount of value, and respect in society. So many people had wanted to see you as a successful Chartered accountant, not only you; but once you become a CA, the advantages of that would be enjoyed only by you, don’t get demoralized, it is something, for which you have strived so many years, spend so much of your time and energy, and come this far….Success is not final, failure is not fatal, it is the courage to continue that counts. Life is queer with its twists & turns, when things go wrong as they sometimes will, you musnt quit, and turn to mad things, forgetting what you were into……Please do Forget & Forgive, and have no grudge towards others, and take away others peace and happiness……..It will help you to be happy always….And you will get your share of reward definitely, in the long run.
I dont know or understand what could I do now, but hope that this message, will not be a waste.As I know that you have got a caring heart, which is just surrounded by some cloud now, hope you will be able to clear that.....Hoping, wishing & praying for the best and that things will turn out right, positive and for the good, soon. Nobody, but only you yourself can do it. Inshallaha.....

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When You Divorce Me, Carry Me Out in Your Arms

On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy. I was a strong and happy bridegroom.

This was the scene of ten years ago.

The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid, I went into business and tried to make more money. When the assets were steadily increasing, the affections between u seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school.

Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy.! But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes.

Dew came into my life.It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love.This was the apartment I bought for her.

Dew said, "You are the kind of man who best draws girls' eyeballs. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife. When we just married, my wife said,"Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls."Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife. But I couldn't help doing so.

I moved Dew's hands aside and said," You go to select some furniture, O.K.? I've got something to do in the company." Obviously she was unhappy, be! cause I had promised her to go and see with her. At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind although it used to be something impossible to me.

However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt. Honestly, she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner. I was sitting in front of the TV. The dinner was ready soon. Then we watched TV together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew's body. This was the means of my entertainment.

One day I said to her in a slight joking way, "suppose we divorce, what will you do?" She stared at me for a few seconds without a word. Apparently she believed that 'divorce' was something too far away from her. I cou! ldn't imagine how she would react once she got to know I was serious.

When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide something while talking with her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.

Once again, Dew said to me, "He Ning, divorce her, O.K..? Then we live together." I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more.

When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. "I've got something to tell you," I said. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. "I want to divorce." I raised a serioustopic calmly. She didn't seem to be much annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, "why?". "I'm serious." I avoided her question. This so-called answer turned her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, "you are not a man!".

At that night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in my heart. The woman who had been living ten years with me would become a stranger! one day. But I could not take back what I had said.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce, which had obsessed me for several weeks, seemed to be firmer and clearer.

A late night, I came back home after entertaining my clients.I saw her writing something at the table. I fell asleep fast. When I woke up, I found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again.

She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but I was supposed to give her one month's time before divorce, and in the month's time we must live as normal life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and she didn't want him to see our marriage was broken.

She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me, "He Ning, do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day?" This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me.

I nodded and said, "I remember". "You carried me in your arms", she continued, "so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning."

I accepted with a smile. I knew she missed those sweet days and wished to end her marriage with a romantic form.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. "No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the result of divorce," she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was carried her out for the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, "daddy is holding mummy in his arms." His words brought me a sense of pain. >From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, "Let us start from today, don't tell our son. " I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for bus, I drove to office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. We were so close that I! could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this intimate woman carefully for a long time. I found she was not young any more. There were some fine wrinkles on her face.

On the third day, she whispered to me, "The outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there."

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The visualization of Dew became vaguer.

On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as,where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while looking, etc. I nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger.

I didn't tell Dew about this. I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, "It seems not difficult to carry you now."

She was picking her dresses.I was waiting to carry her out.She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed,

"All my dresses have grown fatter." I smiled. But I suddenly realized that it was because she was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not because I was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart. Again, I felt a sense of pain. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to touch her head.

Our son came in at the moment. "Dad, it's time to carry mum out." He said. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face because I was afraid I would change my mind at the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. She said, "Actually I hope you will hold me in your arms until we are old."

I held her tightly and said, "Both you and I didn't notice that our life was lack of such intimacy."

I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door. I said to her, "Sorry, Dew, I won't divorce. I'm serious."

She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. "You got no fever." She said. I moved her hand off my head. "Sorry, Dew," I said, "I can only say sorry to you, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of life, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you."

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into cry. I walked downstairs and drove to the office.

When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me to write the greeting words on the card. I smiled and wrote, "I'll carry you out every morning until we are old."

Anonymous.

Thought for the day: "You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her..."

If you love someone be faithful to that person. Love is not in finding the perfect person, but in loving the imperfect person perfectly.

"Life consists not in holding good cards but in playing those you hold well"

Value the details of life.....................

The Gift of Love . . .

The passengers on the bus watched sympathetically as the attractive young woman with the white cane made her way carefully up the steps. She paid the driver and, using her hands to feel the location of the seats, walked down the aisle and found the seat he'd told her was empty. Then she settled in, placed her briefcase on her lap and rested her cane against her leg. It had been a year since Susan, thirty-four, became blind.

Due to a medical misdiagnosis she had been rendered sightless, and she was suddenly thrown into a world of darkness, anger, frustration and self-pity. Once a fiercely independent woman, Susan now felt condemned by this terrible twist of fate to become a powerless, helpless burden on everyone around her. "How could this have happened to me?" she would plead, her heart knotted with anger. But no matter how much she cried or ranted, she knew the painful truth her sight was never going to return. A cloud of depression hung over Susan's once optimistic spirit. Just getting through each day was an exercise in frustration and exhaustion. And all she had to cling to was her husband Mark.

Mark was an Air Force officer and he loved Susan with all of his heart. When she first lost her sight, he watched her sink into despair and was determined to help his wife gain the strength and confidence she needed to become independent again. Mark's military background had trained him well to deal with sensitive situations, and yet he knew this was the most difficult battle he would ever face.

Finally, Susan felt ready to return to her job, but how would she get there? She used to take the bus, but was now too frightened to get around the city by herself. Mark volunteered to drive her to work each day, even though they worked at opposite ends of the city.

At first, this comforted Susan and fulfilled Mark's need to protect his sightless wife who was so insecure about performing the slightest task. Soon, however, Mark realized that this arrangement wasn't working — it was hectic, and costly. Susan is going to have to start taking the bus again, he admitted to himself. But just the thought of mentioning it to her made him cringe. She was still so fragile, so angry. How would she react?

Just as Mark predicted, Susan was horrified at the idea of taking the bus again. "I'm blind!" she responded bitterly. "How am I supposed to know where I'm going? I feel like you're abandoning me." Mark's heart broke to hear these words, but he knew what had to be done. He promised Susan that each morning and evening he would ride the bus with her, for as long as it took, until she got the hang of it.

And that is exactly what happened. For two solid weeks, Mark, military uniform and all, accompanied Susan to and from work each day. He taught her how to rely on her other senses, specifically her hearing, to determine where she was and how to adapt to her new environment. He helped her befriend the bus drivers who could watch out for her, and save her a seat. He made her laugh, even on those not-so-good days when she would trip exiting the bus, or drop her briefcase.

Each morning they made the journey together, and Mark would take a cab back to his office. Although this routine was even more costly and exhausting than the previous one, Mark knew it was only a matter of time before Susan would be able to ride the bus on her own. He believed in her, in the Susan he used to know before she'd lost her sight, who wasn't afraid of any challenge and who would never, ever quit.

Finally, Susan decided that she was ready to try the trip on her own. Monday morning arrived, and before she left, she threw her arms around Mark, her temporary bus riding companion, her husband, and her best friend. Her eyes filled with tears of gratitude for his loyalty, his patience, his love. She said good-bye, and for the first time, they went their separate ways. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday... Each day on her own went perfectly, and Susan had never felt better. She was doing it! She was going to work all by herself!

On Friday morning, Susan took the bus to work as usual. As she was paying for her fare to exit the bus, the driver said, "Boy, I sure envy you." Susan wasn't sure if the driver was speaking to her or not. After all, who on earth would ever envy a blind woman who had struggled just to find the courage to live for the past year? Curious, she asked the driver, "Why do you say that you envy me?"

The driver responded, "It must feel so good to be taken care of and protected like you are." Susan had no idea what the driver was talking about, and asked again, "What do you mean?" The driver answered, "You know, every morning for the past week, a fine looking gentleman in a military uniform has been standing across the corner watching you when you get off the bus. He makes sure you cross the street safely and he watches you until you enter your office building. Then he blows you a kiss, gives you a little salute and walks away. You are one lucky lady."

Tears of happiness poured down Susan's cheeks. For although she couldn't physically see him, she had always felt Mark's presence. She was lucky, so lucky, for he had given her a gift more powerful than sight, a gift she didn't need to see to believe.

-Anonymous.....

Thought for the day: Love can bring light where there had been darkness . . .