The thought of Sachin's Serial, with Reema Lagoo & Supriya Pilgaonkar in the lead inspired me to write this.
Not always but most of the times; (indeed this too is with exceptions)
4 Stages of marriage:
Stage 1: "Mad for each other"
Stage 2: "Made for each other"
Stage 3: "Mad at each other"
Stage 4: "Mad Bcoz of each other"
What is the difference between complete and finished?
Marry the right person and you are complete, marry the wrong one and you are finished.
What then over is! If comlete or finished, your spouse finds you with someone wrong, it is over! or Completely Finished!!
The someone wrong would be your own in laws, sister, and need not be an ex.
90% of your success in personal life depends on marrying the right person.
In between Children are born, some out of NC: Natural Curiosity, some by MC: Mutual Consent or just by ABC Absolute Bloody Carelessness..
Parents, siblings, spouse, children, are all part of the tree, that is we. Parents and siblings are the roots, Spouse and children are the fruits. How many of us remember the roots when we eat the fruits?
These days it is common to see every other marriage breaking apart; which is saddening; it is better that a marriage is dissolved than two incompatible people sufferning each other for life or if there is some kind of abuse involved.
My colleagues were surprised; but I was not - to hear, from my friend, that one of the conditions agreed upon when they decided to get married, was that they would not stay with any of their parents.
The urge to stay with the married son stems from a strong possessive feeling on the part of the mother. Slowly, the tentacles of possessiveness spread over every aspect of the son's life, throttling the daughter-in-law. DIL is no longer the young bride of 14, but one who has established her career, knowledgeable about the outside world and is financially quite independent. So what does such a women look for in marriage? Love, companionship, respect and understanding from her spouse.
What about the son who is the common binding factor for both parties involved? The typical reactions are usually one of these:
1. The son is emotionally torn between his wife and mother and incapable of arriving at a decision.
2. He is so completely brain-washed by his parents that he starts believing that his wife is really evil, for wanting to go away and spend her life with him and not with his parents.
3. The son breaks off with his parents and goes out with his wife(Brain-washed or out of (Mis-)understanding!).
Having a breathing space; right from the beginning; certainly would ensure a healthy and happy relationship among all the people involved, for a lifetime.
1. Mothers spend a couple of decade being the leading lady; having a character role later is downsizing, which hurts.
2. It may be said that 'A son is a son till he is married, but a daughter is a daughter all though your life'; but for mother, her son is still a son.
3. There are so many comments around; when your own make them, you understand, but if it is inlaws it is taken as a criticism.
4. When your dear and near ones come home, you are busy making arrangements; but if it is someone from your inlaws; you try to avoid them? Why dont you realise; they come not for inspection; but just to see? And when they understand and stop comming; you start commenting on it!! What are the inlaws to do?
5. Don't Son have responsiblity to take care of his mother and siblings? Is it a big thing going to meet her once a month or year? Who has ever gained respect without responsiblility?
6. MIL's are not in competition with mothers. When required she has baby sat for you.
" Age and Treachery will always over-come youth and skill".
Felt sorry for the Son; did not know what to do...But it did inspire me to write this!
There is no greater gift, that a father can give to his children, than loving their mother; and there is no greater gift that a wife can give her husband; than loving her in-laws.