Never Say Never

Well almost 42 days since finally got married. Quite unbelievable even for myself. Today at the registration counter when taking the marriage certificate – kept pondering – as there was a common counter for birth, death and marriage. Was it the old me dying and a new me being born???

Maangalyatantunaanena bhava jeevanahetuh may. With this holy thread that I offer to you, please become the purpose of my life.

Marriage has a higher purpose, it can be more than just a political alliance. It is not a necessity; there should be no compulsion to get married. There's nothing worse than being married to the wrong person. You should only get married if you find someone you admire, who will help you understand and fulfil your life's purpose. And you, in turn, can help her fulfil her life's purpose. If you're able to find that one person, then marry her.

Nobody knows real thing, but think they know everything and want things in the name of custom…just the things they want. That is the saddest part of all these rituals in connection with wedding ceremony; better to keep it simple. It would be troublesome either ways – without any questioning or analysis we just follow like a heard or if we do not. Mangalsutra or Thali women carry around their neck – it comes in various shape and size and forms - Thaali is a representative of the family deity – like Goddess Meenakshi, Lord Sundareshwara, Tulsi plant, Lord Shiva, cross, Krishna, one of them is Shivling – It’s the phallus; symbolizing male potency. The irony is that the Thaali is supposed to be concealed when worn in such a way that it is not visible to others.

Once married be prepared to receive surprising feedbacks and views. With the negativities you might feel drained of energy. Till this moment, did you never know yourself? Is the only way out, reducing communication? No response is a response, serious one. Keep walking...But did I stop?

How would one react when they get into a new life and hear these instead of anything positive in one months’ time. 2019 back to be Me?

A man often blames a woman for being blaming when she is innocently talking about her problem. This is very destructive to the relationship because it blocks communication.


Two Bugs that keep me going these days one official and one personal, but Thankfully there are supporters as well at both the places and professional one would end soon. This is in addition to the evening bugs that keep me awake. Nothing last for ever, but interesting times.

Life is a journey and when you think you have finished, you realise it was just a milestone. You should learn to forget bitter experiences to leave happy life.

And read “How to win at life: Let people do what they need to do to make them happy. Mind your own business and do what you need to do to make you happy. The End.

A Year to Remember!!!

Ah what a year with all the twists and turns! Never expected when the year 2018 began, that by the end, I would be married!

Marriages are Indeed made in Heaven!! As Priya mentioned; even my faith in this good old saying has strengthened after my own Fairy Tale Wedding, It’s unbelievable how it happened like at the blink of an eye.

Punctuality is not just a discipline or time management but a matter of simple decency. Because our lives are valuable, no one has a right to expend someone elses life. So being on time is important, very important to me. May be that is why, people say I have got married at the right age. Studied, worked, earned, enjoyed vacations. Things would not be same after wedding, thought there are people who do these even after. Though after father passed away, was almost sure that I would be single for the rest of my life, and would not drive a car as all other vehicle Achan had taught me drive, and we had plans to do this as well together, but both happened this year – which reminded me what I had told Sr. Mercy when in school. I had said studying for upto 20 years, we need our own time, and not marry atleast until 35. She had then asked, why then do you need to marry at all if after 35? I just happened.

The best part after the various travels, and meeting different people was the amazing family and friends get together. Undoubtedly when it was beyond acceptance for myself, there were mixed emotions around of surprise, joy, disbelief, anxiety, and so on. Geetha from Mumbai flew as soon as she heard, and was around me all through. Sharyn came from UK and was with me for more than a fortnight.

For Amma it was a mixed feeling, emotional, and was happy to have her close friends and relatives around – Dheedhi, Jaya Aunty, Chand Aunty…..and Chechis Tara was so engrossed in arranging things – as Greeshma mentioned, Mark it on 30th she is going to sit and cry/whine that she did’nt get to enjoy the time she had…..But Sajeev and Tara did an amazing job and the highlight was their dance making 24th Nov. one of the best days in my life; with all the royal treatment and princely feeling; definitely with the biggest miss – Achan and some others who could not make it, saw him in Raju Chettan who was a surprise. Glad that Sangeetha could also make it on the same day.

Next day the day of wedding eve was full of rituals, guests, smiles, sarees, gifts, omg…..and interestingly the wedding was sandwiched between two royal celebrity weddings – That of DeepikaRanveer and PriyankaNick. Neil was always like how can I meet and talk with all on a single day, all excited with full of plans, ended up playing and having food outside.

It was a rewarding journey, miles to go.