People come into your life ...........

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. But at times its too late, when we realise a person is which one…….When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

I had met with an accident in January, near our office, from scooty, and it was one of the guy from next office of ours who took us to hospital, as the girl sitting behind me was from their office. Week before last, he returned from spain, had gone onsite from his office, and Tuesday, he commited suicide, killed himself on a railway track...He was a smart, intelligent, boy..Only one son, of well to do family.Thats sad!! But its not to tell, nothing is in our hands We are not to see only those sad parts or shocing sides, some say, v make our own fortune and call it fate;) Happiness and sorrow are mere states of mind, it takes equal amount of effort to be happy as to be sad. It was just the thought of a fraction of second that made him do that, if he had someone to share his grief with, at that juncture, he would have not done that…..
For him that was the end of the gift called life on this earth, and for others…life goes on………He had come into my life for a reason?? There are so many such people…..

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!

Specially my school, friends, and those with me for academic studies, some of them are often remembered, some are not remembered that often, but is there deep in my heart, some are forgotten……
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant

Who are my lifetime friends cannot be said right now, as I am still living…. when I had put on my msn, Nothing lasts for ever, someone said, Friendship lasts for ever- At this I remember a quote which says: sometimes, my eyes get jelous of my heart, u know why? Some always remain close to our heart, but away from our eyes.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, and the last is rare, Moreover, even life- it don’t last for ever….

Thank you all my dear friends, for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Ginkoo, Rinkoo and Tinkoo :)

Once upon a time there were three best friends named Ginkoo, Rinkoo and Tinkoo. Their favorite pass time is to go around shopping, chatting, seeing movies, roaming in a junk car, haa forgot sometimes working in office.

Suddenly there came a big brake, Rinkoo got married and went to Europe. So our poor Ginkoo and Tinkoo had to continue with their same routine passing time.

One more big change, Ginkoo also got married, but luckily she is still in Asia but in different place.

So our frustrated Tinkoo came to America for better living.

What now, Lives have changed, no shopping together:( no movies together:( .. Full day mails mails mails between these friends:) I guess this is what finally happens to all of us.

When the days are passing like that, Our Tinkoo's birthday came. So Ginkoo, Rinkoo decided to give a surprise to Tinkoo. So nice na these friends are. There comes the big master plan designed by Ginkoo and Rinkoo and they assigned this task to a third party junk fellow to implement.

What happened next?? "Happy Birthday Tinkoo" with a gift from best friends Ginkoo and Rinkoo:).

So moral of the story is : 3 best friends cannot do anything with out a third party junk fellow... Suman ...Wonderful writer too, Thanks......

Thottappilly Familay Welfare Association get together on 7th may 2006.

It began with Nalaman lighting the lamp, and the prayer song by Aparana, Vasumans daughter. Both ammumas where there. Then an old wedding photo was shown, guess it was Ravimans marriage photo, and a boy circled, and asked who it was. Audience wiere given 10 minutes time, It was Kodakara Anni chettan, and the winner was Amma. There was a good photo of every one of Thottappilly family, which was put there. Then from Gayathree (Gokulan chettans daughter), adhu and so on many, all children, started singing solo songs. I reached when the songs where going on..Then there was sports, potato raise and lemon and spoon for children, lemon raise and candle raise for grown ups. In potato race Sanker was first, and Krishnaindu second, so it was said, they are running with potatoes to fathers hotel….In lemon race Jayaammai was first and had price for musical race too….. Anthakshery was well organized by Ajitha……There were different rounds like 1. an alphabet was picked, and people singing, 2. Aju sang a song, and from it, others continued, 3. One word was picked and audience were asked to sing a song related to it (situation). 4. Name of an actor and actress (pair) was given, and audience were asked to sing a song, in which they are there.There were four groups, and the winner was Sujatha ammai and party. Then we had lunch. After that there was Quiz competation…four group again, conducted by Kishapens wife Remya. and the losser with minimum point was my team, winner, as usual was Sreerags team. Soon after that, Suji, Deeru, Manu and Sreerag went to Thrissur, for Pooram, it was pooram. Then there was musical chair, and finally meeting as usual. For next year, they have put me in the executive committee. After that prize distribution, it is decided that one girl and one boy, highest scorer in 10th be given prize every year. Also scholarship for deserving and needy of Rs. 750/- included Vaishak in it. Pen was given to those who did not get any price- including me J Thus most of them had prizes and gifts in their hands, some even 4-5. Though there were some sorrows, in between competitions, and some had not come, in all there was smiles, unity. Newly wedded introduced themselves, Sudhi Reshmi & Kishapens wife Remya, Kishapen is gone to South Africa. Deepuman dropped us at Potta, ammuma retuned home after long time, and Januammuma went to Kakkanad. I asked ammuma if it is enough for her staying with janu ammuma she said no...Guess it was for the first time ammumas attended this…though it was the sixth year. Pooja cash still not given by money, though most of them had got the advantage out of it, plots unsold, had been sold, houses built, marriages over, blessed with child, etc. in the last year. Also Ammumas family photo was being sold for Rs. 100/- Me created another blog, www.thottappilly.blogspot.com. Hope it would be a success too.

Thought for the day: Could see happiness in most of the faces at the end of the day, though many were reluctant to attend….Life is only traveled once…2 days moments become 2morrows memories…Enjoy every day good or bad, as the gift of life..
Remember, those who choose to be at peace, must help their others to be at peace, those who choose to live well must help their others to live well. And those who choose to be happy, must help others to find happiness, The value of a life is measured by the lives it touches…..

Anger is only one letter short of ‘D’anger

You cannot ignore people, small or big ,under any circumstances ......

Any person who sacrifices, all down the ages, has to suffer. It has been proved that men and women of great power and personality who have triumphantly helped a group of people, indirectly have also ignited jealousy and hatred among another group, may it be your blood relation or otherwise. Meaning thereby if you want to show your benevolence, you have to continue to do it 100% till you last on this earth. For e.g. In a joint family if one brother does take care of the family and takes charge of all for 11 months 15 days in a year, the family members will take it as routine. But if he does not for 15 days, they will point out as well as describe vividly of his 15 days inaction. On the other hand if one brother does not do anything for same 11 months 15 days, even if he does a little here and there for last 15 days, that will be glorified by the family members and recognized in the society. In a broader spectrum, Jesus Christ, Joan of Arc, Mahatma Gandhi and likes have been targeted by the society to have a painful death even if they have given the best of their lives in the interest of the society It is a group of people whose interest is affected by the inaction of the person at the command, who react negatively to the situation. Thus perhaps the celebrities ,rich and famous are not only responsible for their actions that they take, but also are accountable for the inaction and the indifference that they manifest unconsciously or subconsciously to their near and dear ones.

Now take the case of Mahajans, one has to see if he has been accountable for the inaction that he did either consciously or subconsciously for which he has paid the price.He reportedly muttered after the shot.. ."what sin I have committed?" While Praveen says that he regrets but does not repent, he can only explain this riddle. Perhaps the learning point for all of us is you can not ignore people, small or big ,under any circumstances. Prabhavati Mahajan their mother, stayed inside crying for the eldest son, who left home never to return, and the youngest who never showed up.

The Mahajans were simple, Venkatesh and Prabhavati, their three sons and two daughters. Venkatesh Mahajan (Father a school master) died of a heart attack in 1972. Soon after Pramod took his graduation degree, he began teaching at the local village school to make ends meet. Being the eldest of the siblings, it is said that "He brought up his brothers and sisters like his own children,"He began his political career as a pracharak in the Rashtriya Swayamsewak Sangh in the early 70s and went to jail in the emergency years. After that, there was no looking back. Pravin was barely nine, said family members, when Pramod Mahajan had to assume the role of father figure.As for property — a factor that is said to have been a bone of contention — the Mahajans owned 10 to 12 acres of agricultural land in Osmanabad and a plot of land in their hometown Ambejogai. Both properties were later donated to an educational institution.It is said, that, Pravin Mahajan’s relationship with his famous elder brother Pramod, who brought him up after their father Venkatesh Mahajan’s death, was strained in recent times. Pravin wife Sarangi, two children, Kapil and Vrushali the twins, students of Standard XII , were living unobtrusively in Jhanja Apartments at Damani estate in Thane for a decade. The couple's friends said Pravin had taken his family out for dinner on Friday. He left home before dawn on Saturday without informing his wife.He left Thane, some 35 kms away, around six in the morning. He reached worli almost half past seven, and then the fatal incident of him shooting three bullet on his own brother……The news papers said, Praveen told the police, he shot his brother as he was ‘boiling with anger’, for the past several days, as the BJP leader was ignoring him, and in prison, on hearing the news of Pramods death, he just smiled.In this Kaliyug as have read….its truly happening….brother killing brother….hope there would be peace everywhere…..Hope such incidents don’t happen again….. Pramod Mahajan was called the Laxman of BJP…

Most happening politicians, or national leaders, either meet with an accident or is assassinated?? Mahatma Gandhi, Indira Gandhi, Rajeev Gandhi….Let that be….Then there are accidents….too which are unforgettable are that of Madhavrao Scindia , and Rajesh Pilot…Untimely ones… Live this alone..this day politics…Take the case of Sree Krishna or Rama or Laxmana…Remember how Laxmana died??


Thought for the day: The extreme case of infatuation which turns to be hatred in an unusual condition, the human mind works at the highest level of energy, either positive or negative. Anger is only one letter short of ‘D’anger….. You can not ignore people, small or big ,under any circumstances.

Just the next day, there was an article by T.J.S. George, Indian Express, 7th May 2006, which came as an answer to the above question which was:

IT was the finality of event, more than the horror of its circumstance that made each departure a turning point in the nations history. Each death was a reminder of the powerful hold of individuals on our country. Surely history is not a distillation of rumours but a play of personalities. Now another player is suddenly gone….How death changes the course of history! Sanjay Gandhi’s death instantly altered the fortunes of the Indira Gandhi family and, with that, the dynastic destiny of India. If Madhav Rao Scindia and Rajesh Pilot had not died in their prime, would the Congress party be what it is today? If Indira and Rajiv Gandhi had not been killed?

Thought for the day: Death is common to all, and nothing lasts for ever…….Just the way differs......Everything is planned.......To quote Shakespear, the world is a stage, and all men and women mere players.....