Partner for life

You never realise, when you start missing someone- When life itself is temporary, how can we have someone permanent in life.

People come to our life for a reason, season or life time (of one of us). But when you expect someone to be with you untill 'death do you apart', and the relationship do not last, it is terrible. Especially when you have children. Irrespective of whether you are in the east or the west.

You cry day and night until you realise that you have no choice anymore than to act rather than react.

You become a single mother with children who don’t understand their parent(s). You are still under shock about the physical violence if any and very very angry inside. You might want time to cool down to speak without crying . You might want time to reconsider and to speak without any anger in summer or fall. But if the spouse do not taken that chance, rather the opposite; you are shattered.

You feel like junk thrown in a bin, a marriage , everything becomes replaceable. It is important to have an individual life style and do anything one wants … almost everything has become replaceable. But this is not possible with a marriage and family life, is what one feels; but with time even this has changed. There are more failed marriages than successful ones.

You have with you tears all the time, you drive tears are comming up, you are under the shower, you have tears, you wrap the kids around, and there is tears.

Then spouse find someone from the internet dating portal. Tell THE CHILDREN that he needs time to try it and the relationship out. The message the children get is : "and if it is not the right one, mum is second choice." What does this mean to them and what does this mean to the lady?

You are not even angry at him. You are deeply hurt and to be honest devastated , sad and have to take care of two teenagers’ feelings because their father has taken that decision. Leaving your spouse after marriage physically and emotionally damages each person's life and the children’s future. What does this mean for their future relationships? That you can drop a family and try a new partner out easy like that? That in bad times you go on the internet, looking for a substitute . It is leaving a bit question mark in their souls for all their lives … that is making it hard. Future generation has to cope with this as well.

And I doubt that the kids can ever forget what the parents do. It will follow them their whole life and parents leaves this burden with them. That is the worst.