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Monday, February 05, 2018

Mattanchery/Fort Kochi & Uduppi/Manipal - Feb 18 Trips


Finally after waiting for 10 long years Rahul and Mamta got a go ahead and with blessings from parents got into wedlock at Ram mandir Mattanchery which gave us an opportunity to explore this place. With sumptuous Gujarathi breakfast we went to Balaji temple, Sri Krishna Temple, Saibaba temple and Jain Temple. Got an opportunity to be part of world conference on religion and be to Santhilals as well.

In a couple of days was Anil' s wedding. Could visit Church and Rameshwaram temple.

Thanks to Rohit for inviting us for his son's Upanayanam. We booked our bus tickets to Udupi. Finally Jisha and myself made a trip though we had to cancell both ours in 2017. Life is what happens to us when we are busy making other plans. A surprising sleeper seats. Though the bus was delayed we reached our stay at Hotel Mathura comforts in the vicinity of Sri Krishna temple on Saturday morning.

After having breakfast and freshening up we set to Malpe unaware of the adventure ahead of us. St.Marys Island as read was amazing, clean and unique with stones; shells; mud and rocks. It is believed that Vasco Da Gama was here. But the unexpected fun was when we returned. We did Parasailing; speed boat ride; monkey boat. I was in the water for long.Returned to the hotel at around 7pm.

Next day morning went to Kaup beach; highlight there was light house on the rock. While returning went to church and attended Malayalam mass. Walked around Krishna temple but search of Iscon was a big disappointment. In the evening went to Kemmanu; did not do the boating but the hanging bridge was scary and though only walkable guys were riding bikes on it. The landscape was scenic. Went to the place were three rivers met and they joined the sea.a bit but less crowded than our backwaters with Fort Kochi and Vypin on either sides meeting Arabian sea.
While returning went to Malpie again to walk on the newly constructed bridge.

All 4 beaches were unique and different.


Next day attended the Upanayanam. Which was an experience by itself . Then went to the Shiva and Krishna temple. The caravan was amazing. Though the deities in the temple can be viewed only from out; was blessed to get in as poojari was getting in for the Pooja. Had delicious lunch and set off to Coin Museum and Manipal . Manipal university and garden was huge and another world by itself. Came back to the hotel and then to the bus stop.

As all good things come to an end; this too did giving us sweet memories.

But there was another sweet day awaiting for us the next weekend and it was the Potluck with family of my dear preceding team at Hoysala guesthouse. Blessed to have everyone with families, some single, couple, with one child; two ; newly wedded; mom to be Bank was the highlight and Joseph's mom guest of honour.

Pancha Bhoota Stalam - Temple visits & Hiking - Jan 18


Completed Pancha Bhoota Stalam
- Ekambareswarar Temple, Kanchipuram, Tamil Nadu (Land)Thiruvanaikaval temple, Trichy, Tamil Nadu (Water)Arunachaleshwarar Temple, Thiruvannamalai, Tamil Nadu (Fire)Kalahasti Temple, Srikalahasti, Andhra Pradesh (Air)Natarajar Temple, Chidambaram, Tamil Nadu (Sky).




Pancha Bhoota Sthalam refers to five temples dedicated to Shiva, each representing a manifestation of the five prime elements of nature: earth, water, fire, air, and space. Pancha indicates "five," Bhoota means "elements," and Sthala means "place." The temples are located in South India, four in Tamil Nadu and one in Andhra Pradesh. The five elements are believed to be enshrined in the five lingams of the temples, with each lingam named based on the element represented.
Category Lingam Temple Location Coordinates
Earth Prithivi Lingam Ekambareswarar Temple Kanchipuram 12°50′51″N 79°42′00″E
Water Appu Lingam (Jambu Lingam) Jambukeshwarar Temple, Thiruvanaikaval Thiruvanaikaval, near Trichy 10°51′12″N 78°42′20″E
Fire Agni Lingam (Jyothi Lingam) Arunachaleswara Temple Thiruvannamalai 12°13′53.76″N 79°4′1.92″E
Air Vayu Lingam Kalahasti temple Kalahasthi, Andhra Pradesh 13°44′58″N 79°41′54″E
Space Aagaya Lingam (Akasha Lingam) Thillai Natarajar Temple Chidambaram 11°23′58″N 79°41′36″E

Thanks to car drive by Sajeev. Our trip started from Kochi on 26th morning in Fiat Lines at 4.30 am to Thirupathi. Chennai roads were amazing. Stayed at Keys hotel and went to Devi temple that evening. Early next morning left to foothills and went up climbing. Interesting walk and beautiful view. Told Amma temples are kept in beautiful locations as only then some would visit. Being holiday, it was very crowded. So could walk around and see places and have annadanam untill our alloted time. Place was well maintained with rest rooms and dustbin's all around. Returned down in bus and by the time we reached it was almost 12 am.

28th morning had breakfast and went to Kalahasthi another Shiva temple on the banks of a river. But the highlight here was the Ganapathi temple below. From there another long drive to Kanchipuram. Kanchikamakshi temple was mesmerising.

29th morning visited Eakambareswarar temple my second visit and few temples nearby before beginning the drive to Thiruvanamallai all excited to do Girivallam.But the temple was so huge and crowded with festival and given that Neil was tired had to drop the plan.

On 30th began our return journey home. Though we could not have our special Briyani had delicious breakfast from Adayar Anand Bhavan during both the leg of the journey.

A family time to begin the year seeking blessings from almighty; soon after a day trip to Maniratnam's favourite spot Athirapilly clubbed with Tumboormuzhi and Peringalkootu - The officers bungalow was a first visit with colleagues from first office - George & Paulson. Highlight of the trip was visiting Litty's house.

Indeed practise makes man perfect. This time around it was easier to climb:
1) Malayatoor Mala - Amazing year end experience with Tara; Sajeev and Neil
2) Athirapilly- Could do it just like that - Though had done it many times before;was first experience to Peringalkuthu Dam. View from IG' s quarter was mesmerising. Great to have the reunion with G&P colleague from where I had my entry into working world.
3) From Thirupati to Thirumala via Alipiri...amazing walk.
4) Missed Arunachala Girivalam though the temple was spectacular.



Padmavat & Aami


On the day of release was at Padmavathi temple...Finally got to watch the movie that was delayed wondering why the hue and cry in this era and society? The tale is said to be derived from Malik Muhammad Jayasi's 16th century epic poem narrating the story of a period of history when unblemished Rajput warriors waged valiant wars while their acquiescent women unquestioningly adhered to a patriarchal code of conduct. Ranveer Singh as Allaudhin Kilji, ebulliently evil and visceral in his portrayal of a venal villain on the rampage makes us hate him; which is said to be the success of the characters act. Movies beauty, as is usually the case with a Sanjay Leela Bhansali extravaganza, is skin deep. It is magnificent and overly manufactured.

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Aami

Went to see the movie for the similarity and familiarity with Kamala or Madhavi but was disappointed to a certain extend. Manju was good but not up to mark.

Both from tcr, brought up outside Kerala, Mumbai connections,Grandmother's pet; Like wearing Burka and like writing and poetry...

Buried Thoughts - Joseph K Jose


One life, Many Stories.
About love, remembrance, mistakes and hope that motivate us to re-examine our lives and find meaning in it.
Every story with a moral and some with deep insight into life; feelings; relations and death.
Simple and Nice.

Sunday, February 04, 2018

Origin


There would be a time to mourn, now is the time for action. I was hooked!

Interesting questions- where did we come from? Where are we going?

Dan Brown takes us to Spain on this adventure and introduces us to more art, literature, architecture, science, history, religion, and gives us some symbols to play with.


There would be a time to mourn, now is the time for action. I was hooked!


1. Origin is the fifth book to feature Robert Langdon, a Harvard professor of symbology and religious iconography. Symbology is a fictional academic discipline created by Dan Brown. The closest real life disciplines would be iconography, cryptography or semiotics.

2. The book is primarily set in Spain, a country rich in history, art and religion - the perfect starting point for a Robert Langdon adventure.

3. This will be the first Robert Langdon thriller to feature modern art; it opens in the Guggenheim Museum, Bilbao. Brown’s previous thrillers have all centred around classical art.

4. The character of Robert Langdon was named after John Langdon, a professor of typography who is known for his complex ambigrams, which play a starring role in Angels and Demons.

5. The paradoxical interplay between science and religion is central to the plot of Origin. This is a topic that's always fascinated Dan - perhaps not surprisingly for the son of a church organist and a maths teacher!

Lady you are not a man - Apurva Purohit



This needs a separate mention by itself.

Today’s woman wants to make a success of both family and career and is unwilling to compromise on either. But the burden of coping with deadlines, recalcitrant children, lazy husbands, difficult bosses and equally difficult in-laws can be daunting, even overwhelming.



In this book, Apurva Purohit, then CEO of Radio City 91.1 FM, now president of Jagran group, shows how women can accept, adapt and achieve their way to the highest rung in every arena. Through real-life stories and funny anecdotes, she provides pithy tips on a multitude of topics: from training husbands to training interns, from the right attitude to getting it right with kids, from dealing with household crises to office emergencies, from building a reputation to paving ones’s way to the top.



I } Before any great achievement comes the ACCEPTANCE of your particular reality-and then you learn to adapt to it, to use it to excel and fly.



The ten lessons of ACCEPTANCE:



1. I accept my femininity: We don’t have to apologize for being women; we must accept all our feminine traits unreservedly. Thankfully, there is no longer any need to behave and look like a man to succeed.

2. I accept that I will feel guilty: Every woman has the right to choose to be either a working mom or a stay-at-home mom or not a mom at all. However, in all cases, there will be some guilt attached. We have to accept that guilt comes along as part of the territory of being a woman.

3. I accept that life is unfair- not only to women but to men too: While it may seem that life has been unjust largely to women, the fact is that men too have many challenges they face, including having to live up to the stereotype of being the main provider of the family.

4. I accept that I can multitask and thus will end up doing more work: Multitasking is a unique skill which only women appear to have; we should accept it as our strength and not as a burden, and use it to the fullest capacity to move ahead in the race.

5. I accept that being a masochistic sufferer is simply not cool: In today’s day and age, suffering is no longer seen as noble but downright impractical and foolish. So let us stop playing the martyr’s role.

6. I accept that I have to wait patiently to take over the world: Traditional stereotypes are slowly blurring and both genders are borrowing characteristics from each another. Men will have to morph into women if they want to survive in the new world; we simply need to be patient.

7. I accept that men can’t bear children: There comes a time in most women’s lives when we will have to take a break from our careers to go through the process of childbearing. We need to take it in our stride and not resent our partners for not being able to play an equal role in the process.

8. I accept that I will improve with age: As women grow older, we become more confident. It is then the best time for us to mazimise our potential and do what we couldn’t do when we were younger- whether it is to learn pottery or start a new business.

9. I accept that everyone need not be size zero: Women need to love themselves just the way they are. Each of us has a unique personality which should form the basis of our individual self-worth.

10. I accept that I can be my own worst enemy: ‘ Women are nasty to other women’ is a myth we all need to debunk and accept the fact that many times we ourselves are the cause of our own problem.



II} ADAPT yourself to your reality – and then you will be able to mould reality to what you want.



The ten lessons of adapting:

1. I will approach life with a positive mindset: When I strive towards achieving success, I realize that having a positive attitude is the first step. I will win the battle in my mind first.

2. I will always work hard: I realize that running away from hard work in running away from success. The single most important driver of success in life is perseverance, and women who have triumphed have done so only because they simply didn’t give up.

3. I will learn to focus on the essential things and sacrifice the unimportant: Being able to prioritize what is important and what is not is a key skill for success. We don’t need to be perfect; it is better to be outstandingly great at the specific areas we have chosen to focus on.

4. I will ask for help in order to have a successful career and home life: We need to create support systems around ourselves at home and at work, by asking for help, and we should not worry about the loss of control it may entail.

5. I will not take advantage of the special privileges I get for being women: It is critical that we don’t take undue advantage of the privileges awarded to us and deliver value back to our organizations. We need to behave with responsibility, especially in the interest of the future generations of women who will come after us.

6. I will have to train my husband to be a part of my support system: A supportive spouse is a fundamental requirement if we want to make a success of our professional and personal lives. Unfortunately, readymade helpful husbands are in short supply and need to be trained.

7. I do not need to be the boss in every situation: Certain situations expect us to take charge and certain situations require us to give up control. We need to adapt and change according to the circumstances.

8. I will be a team player in my family: It is important to think of the family as a composite whole and therefore when there comes a time in our life where a decision has to be made which requires compromise, it is crucial to go for the one which maximises the entire family’s interest.

9. I will build relationships beyond work and use the power of networking: A lack of networking at the professional level is being seen as one of the critical factors by women themselves in their failure to move ahead in the corporate race. It is important that we make time to build these formal or informal networks.

10. I will take control of my own destiny: The difference between women who are successful and happy and those who are not is not in their special circumstances but in their ability to take control of any circumstance and make it special.



III} The final stage. A sense of accomplishment-hard won, but oh so sweet!

1. As I step on the ladder of success, I will always remember how lucky I am: Very few women in the world have received the benefit of an education and the opportunity of using that education to gain financial independence. Let us continually remember how fortunate we are.

2. I will assert that I am an individual: It is important to deal with and debunk the stereotyping of being thought of only in context of the males in our family, as wife/mother/daughter. We must make sure that people recognize us as separate and equally important entities.

3. I will not walk away ahead of schedule: Women start preparing for marriage and motherhood for earlier than they need to and, in the process, the period when they step back from their careers grows unnecessarily long, compromising their growth. We must avoid this.

4. As a boss, I will recognize that I have to treat my male subordinates differently: Male and female subordinates have different buttons, and need to be handled differently. We must keep this in mind and work accordingly for the success of our projects.

5. I am proud to be successful, smart and single: Successful single women are a critical demonstration of the freedome women have achieved in taking control of their own destinies. The sisterhood salutes them.

6. I will not let stone age men or zealots affect me: Regressive men and overzealous feminists are polarized ends of a spectrum and can affect women negatively. Always remain a liberal thinker on the climb to the top.

7. I do not want the crutch of reservation to succeed: Reservations tend to be mere tokenism and can actually harm the cause of women in the long run by promoting mediocrity. We should compete on a level playing field and not depend on reservations to succeed.

8. I will pay my dues to the next generation of women by mentoring the younger men around me: An important responsibility of being a woman achiever is mentoring the next generation of men so that they grow up to respect and treat women as equals.

9. As I whizz up the steps of success, I will always remember that building up a good reputation is more important than building a good CV: A good reputation cannot be created in a day. It is built over millions of moments of being diligent, sincere, hardworking and ethical.

10. I will celebrate my success openly and without embarrassment: It is important to recognize our achievements and celebrate them. Let us learn something from men for a change and praise ourselves whenever we need to.

The Help, The Gift, How to be a Bawse and Fish



One of the best gifts you can give a book lover, is undoubtedly books and things related to it. Book marks, book tourch and 10 books; what more could one ask for when you turn 40?

All amazing ones; I need not update my personal review as good reads has done it in an amazing way:

The Help


By Kathryn Stockett.

Twenty-two-year-old Skeeter has just returned home after graduating from Ole Miss. She may have a degree, but it is 1962, Mississippi, and her mother will not be happy till Skeeter has a ring on her finger. Skeeter would normally find solace with her beloved maid Constantine, the woman who raised her, but Constantine has disappeared and no one will tell Skeeter where she has gone.

Aibileen is a black maid, a wise, regal woman raising her seventeenth white child. Something has shifted inside her after the loss of her own son, who died while his bosses looked the other way. She is devoted to the little girl she looks after, though she knows both their hearts may be broken.

Minny, Aibileen’s best friend, is short, fat, and perhaps the sassiest woman in Mississippi. She can cook like nobody’s business, but she can’t mind her tongue, so she’s lost yet another job. Minny finally finds a position working for someone too new to town to know her reputation. But her new boss has secrets of her own.

Seemingly as different from one another as can be, these women will nonetheless come together for a clandestine project that will put them all at risk. And why? Because they are suffocating within the lines that define their town and their times. And sometimes lines are made to be crossed.

In pitch-perfect voices, Kathryn Stockett creates three extraordinary women whose determination to start a movement of their own forever changes a town, and the way women — mothers, daughters, caregivers, friends — view one another. A deeply moving novel filled with poignancy, humor, and hope, The Help is a timeless and universal story about the lines we abide by, and the ones we don't.


The Gift:

Step into the magical world of Cecelia Ahern.

If you could wish for one gift this Christmas, what would it be?

Everyday Lou Suffern battled with the clock. He always had two places to be at the same time. He always had two things to do at once. When asleep he dreamed. In between dreams, he ran through the events of the day while making plans for the next. When at home with his wife and family, his mind was always someplace else.

On his way into work one early winter morning, Lou meets Gabe, a homeless man sitting outside the office building. Intrigued by him and on discovering that he could also be very useful to have around, Lou gets Gabe a job in the post room.

But soon Lou begins to regret helping Gabe. His very presence unsettles Lou and how does Gabe appear to be in two places at the same time?

As Christmas draws closer, Lou starts to understand the value of time. He sees what is truly important in life yet at the same time he learns the harshest lesson of all.

This is a story about people who not unlike parcels, hide secrets.They cover themselves in layers until the right person unwraps them and discovers what’s inside. Sometimes you have to be unravelled in order to find out who you really are. For Lou Suffern, that took time.

How to Be a Bawse: A Guide to Conquering Life

From actress, comedian, and YouTube sensation Lilly Singh (aka ||Superwoman||) comes the definitive guide to being a bawse—a person who exudes confidence, reaches goals, gets hurt efficiently, and smiles genuinely because they’ve fought through it all and made it out the other side.

Told in her hilarious, bold voice that’s inspired over nine million fans, and using stories from her own life to illustrate her message, Lilly proves that there are no shortcuts to success.

WARNING: This book does not include hopeful thoughts, lucky charms, and cute quotes. That’s because success, happiness, and everything else you want in life needs to be fought for—not wished for. In Lilly’s world, there are no escalators, only stairs. Get ready to climb.

Fish!: A Remarkable Way to Boost Morale and Improve Results

by Stephen C. Lundin, Harry Paul, John Christensen, Kenneth H. Blanchard

Here's another management parable that draws its lesson from an unlikely source--this time it's the fun-loving fishmongers at Seattle's Pike Place Market. In Fish! the heroine, Mary Jane Ramirez, recently widowed and mother of two, is asked to engineer a turnaround of her company's troubled operations department, a group that authors Stephen Lundin, Harry Paul, and John Christensen describe as a "toxic energy dump." Most reasonable heads would cut their losses and move on. Why bother with this bunch of losers? But the authors don't make it so easy for Mary Jane. Instead, she's left to sort out this mess with the help of head fishmonger Lonnie. Based on a bestselling corporate education video, Fish! aims to help employees find their way to a fun and happy workplace. While some may find the story line and prescriptions--such as "Choose Your Attitude," "Make Their Day," and "Be Present"--downright corny, others will find a good dose of worthwhile motivational management techniques. If you loved Who Moved My Cheese? then you'll find much to like here. And don't worry about Mary Jane and kids. Fish! has a happy ending for everyone. --Harry C. Edwards


Lipstick Under My Burkha , Mom, Rangoon, Hindi Medium & Qarib Qarib Single




Alankrita Shrivastava chronicles the secret lives of four women claim their desires through small acts of courage and stealthy rebellion. Finally they face the explosive consequences of their lives going out in flames with Diwali firecrackers bursting in the background. Did not like the movie much but the night ride to watch it was amazing.
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Mom is a 2017 Indian thriller film directed by Ravi Udyawar. Produced by Boney Kapoor, Sunil Manchanda, Mukesh Talreja, Naresh Agarwal and Gautam Jain, the film stars Sridevi, as a vigilante, who sets out to avenge her daughter, played by Sajal Ali. Akshaye Khanna and Nawazuddin Siddiqui play supporting roles in the film. Again a movie watched at night move not being as interesting as the night ride with Jisha.
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Bloody Hell; Kangana is a queen. Story around yesteryear actress and locations around Rangoon; with Saif and Shahid movie was an okay watch.

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Hindi Medium an interesting movie with social message. It shows the difficulties faced by parents in getting admission in today's world .
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Qarib Qarib single attracted because of the combination of Parvathy and Irrfan Khan. A predictable storyline, it was interesting to go around Degrading, Delhi, Anwar, Bikaner, Rishikesh and Gangtok.

Hadiya - Guide to righteousness.




Akhila to Hadiya in Kerala and Payal to Hadiya in Rajastan are these cases of “psychological kidnapping”; time would answer.



Daughter of K.M.Ashokan a retired armyman an Atheist and Ponnamma a staunch Hindu from T V Puram in Kerala’s Kottayam district.



After clearing Class 12 in her second attempt, she applied for admission to the private Sivaraj Homeopathy Medical College & Research Institute in Salem, Tamil Nadu.



Akhila quickly bonded with the four — Divya, Archana Rajan, Dilna and Jaseela Aboobacker — as well as Jaseela’s younger sister Faseena, who had joined another course at the same institute. Six months later, the six took up a house on rent together, moving out of the hostel.



This was the first time Akhila had had Muslim friends, or Muslim acquaintances. Jaseela, who is now a homeopathic doctor, says Akhila would watch her and Faseena as they offered namaz five times a day. Jaseela and Faseena were from Angadippuram in Malappuram,



Says Aboobacker, “Akhila was on her way to Mangaluru, to Shahana and Musthafa. They wanted her to stop studying and end relations with her family. Jaseela told me if Akhila goes to Mangaluru, we would not get her back. Hence, she forced her to come to our house.”



On Akhila’s insistence to learn more about Islam, Aboobacker says, he took her to two Islamic institutions in Kozhikode. Both refused to admit Akhila instantly, and so they turned to Sathya Sarani, the only institute in Kerala that offers a two-month residential programme for new converts to Islam.



The president of a women’s group, National Women’s Front, A S Zainaba, also came, reportedly at the behest of Sathya Sarani.



Zainaba, who once worked with the Sathya Sarani, says the institute had sought her help to ascertain Akhila’s intentions. Akhila attended a course at Sathya Sarani, and returned to Zainaba’s house as ‘Hadiya’. “Now Hadiya also started talking about marriage, hoping to find some support system. At her behest, I registered her name on a matrimonial website,” says Zainaba.



Through Matrimonial site she met Shafin Jahan and they got married. 26, who had just returned from Oman, through an Islamist matrimonial website.



The NIA told the court that the website through which Hadiya and Shafin Jahan married "is a sham" and forced conversion and terror recruitment was the true motive. The National Investigation Agency alleges that the website has links to a terror group



In May, the Kerala High Court cancelled the marriage and ordered Hadiya to return to her family. Since then, she had been living at her father's home in Kottayam where she hardly had any contact with anyone without her father's approval.



Shafin Jahan challenged the annulment in the Supreme Court. He said Hadiya stayed with him for only 48 hours before her father went to the police.



Hadiya, the 24-year-old Kerala woman who converted to Islam and married a Muslim man, is an example of "psychological kidnapping", the country's anti-terror agency National Investigation Agency, NIA, told the top court on Monday.



A Hindu woman ordered to stay at a government shelter in Rajasthan after she declared in court that she had married a Muslim, was told on 7th Nov that she is an adult and free to choose where she wants to go. As Payal Sanghvi, 22, said she wanted to go back to her husband Mohammad Faiz, her childhood sweetheart, the Rajasthan High Court asked the police..



Payal's family admitted the young couple had been friends since school.

"We are disappointed, this girl is under some kind of spell...they used to study together in school, now what can one do about that," said her father Narpat Singhvi, upset by the court ruling.

Payal's father-in-law, denying any forcible conversion, said: "There is no love jihad...even 0.1%. They knew each other for 10 years, they used to meet often, and talked for hours on the phone. Both families knew."

The case coincides with the controversy over Hadiya, a 24-year-old Kerala woman who converted to Islam and married a Muslim. Her marriage has been challenged in court by her father, who alleged that it was a form of recruitment by ISIS that is gaining currency in Kerala.



A wife is not a chattel and the husband cannot be her guardian, the Supreme Court said on 28th Nov. after interacting with Hadiya, a woman from Kerala, who is the alleged victim of "love jihad".



Who can describe the pain or how isolated they felt. In Kerala daughter is life, wealth for parents. A desperate parents now.



Asokan said he moved the first habeas corpus in the High Court in early January 2016 after Hadiya “went missing”. “She was in PFI custody without permission to speak to her parents. My petition forced them to produce her in court. But she refused to come with us,” he said. “Still I used to call my daughter every day, at least twice.”
In August 2016, he added, he returned to the court, seeking Hadiya’s custody, after reports of 21 Keralites fleeing to join the Islamic State. “When I called her sometime in July or August, I asked Akhila if she had plans to go to Syria to rear goats (a life that puritan Dammaj Salafi groups lead to recreate the Prophet’s era). She said they had plans to go but chose to stay back as friends suggested that she complete her course (homeopathy) first.”


Asokan said he was the son of a toddy tapper, the eldest of eight children, with the responsibility of five sisters. “I don’t know if you can picture that. I could clear my 10th only at the age of 19. Still I was a Communist, a member of the CPI, I used to read a lot. I wanted to study further, but my commitments made me join the Army after 10th.”
After he had ensured his sisters were educated and married, Asokan decided to have own family. “Akhila is my only child. We decided to have only one child as we wanted to give her the best. When she joined the homeopathy course, all her friends had to take loans but I had ready cash for her studies. When I joined as a peon in a defence court after retirement, my salary and the ATM card would be with her, she would handle them. I haven’t asked for the card back even now,” Asokan said, adding that he hadn’t gone to work since his legal fight began.


Asokan wondered whether this lack of interest in news, in “what was happening around her”, made Hadiya “gullible”.



Hadiya, a Kerala-based Hindu girl Akhila who embraced Islam and later married a Muslim man, reached Sivaraj Homeopathy Medical College in Salem on Tuesday after the Supreme Court allowed her to resume house surgeoncy/internship.



Dr G Kannan, the principal of Sivaraj Homeopathy College; the dean of the college as the guardian of Hadiya



Will there ever be a Guide to righteousness? For each their own. There was no book by the creator; All religious books, proverbs are the writers thought. There is no end for some people’s saga. In a way all of us are “gullible”.

An Unsuitable Boy


Did I really miss writing a review on this book by Karan Johar?

When you don’t work together, you don’t meet each other regularly. It’s as simple as that. When you meet, you get involved in each other’s lives. When you don’t meet, there is a distance. Then you work with other people. The separation creates a distance – the geographic separation and the professional separation create an organic distance which then starts being perceived as a problem. The ones you work with, you have a relationship. You stop working with them, the relationship goes on hold, it’s as simple as that. And you meet socially, it’s all superficial and upar-upar se, like how you meet people and say, ‘Great, Great’, but there is no depth in it.



Everything is not black and white. There is the concept of grey, which is where we all operate from actually.



Hearsay is one of the biggest problems. It’s the tone that is important. Text messages are the biggest undoing of human relationships because they never come with the tone. Without tone, things sound much worse than they are. The emotion is not there in the message, they are just words. Speak to people – confront.



Confrontation is such an underrated concept. But it’s so important in any relationship. Sit across and sort a problem out. Don’t insinuate, back off, stay away, sulk. It’s such a stupid waste of time. Always confront. Don’t allow things to fester. If you continue to suppress the emotion, it will explode in your face one day.



Gar baazi ishq ki baazi hai jo chaho laga do dar kaisa, Gar jeet gaye toh kya kehna hare bhi toh baazi maat nahin.



Falling in love is the most beautiful thing ever. Sometimes, not getting that love back can break your heart into tiny little peaces. But heartbreak can strengthen you to the core.

Don't know why you have named your book An Unsuitable not.. .you are amazing; cool..congratulations on your twins. Proud of you even more.

Rahi manwa dukh ki chinta kyun satati hai, dukh toh apna saathi hai, subah chhaon dhalti hai jaati hai, dukh toh apna saathi hai…..



If you make sadness your friend because it’s part of your life, then you’ll be able to deal with it.

Life


Not sure how and why this was missed, May be because it is a forward but I would like to treasure this - being apt:

When I got enough confidence, the stage was gone...

When I was sure of losing, I won...

When I needed people the most, they left me...

When I learnt to dry my tears, I found a shoulder to cry on...

When I mastered teh skill of hating, someone started loving me from the core of the heart...

And while waiting for light for hours when I fell asleep, the sun came out...

That's life!!

No matter what you plan, you never know what life has planned for you...

Success introduces you to the world..

But failure introduces the world to you...

Always be Happy!!!

Often when we slose hope and think this is the end..

God smiles from above and says,

"Relax Sweetheart, It's just a Bend, not the End!

Four temperaments & Personality Types



Four temperaments is a proto-psychological theory that suggests that there are four fundamental personality types, sanguine (optimistic, active and social), choleric (short-tempered, fast or irritable), melancholic (analytical, wise and quiet), and phlegmatic (relaxed and peaceful). Most formulations include the possibility of mixtures of the types.





Relation of various four temperament theories

Classical

Element

Adler[13]

Melancholic

Earth

Avoiding

Phlegmatic

Water

Getting

Sanguine

Air

Socially useful

Choleric

Fire

Ruling

Corporate Rules For Happy Life




1. Trust nobody

2. What happens in office, remain in office, Never take office gossips to home and vice versa.

3. Enter office on time, leave on time, your desktop is not helping improvement in your health.

4. Never make GF/BD and/or brother/sister in office. It will always backfire.

5. Expect nothing. If somebody helps, feel thankful. If not, you will learn to know things on your own.

6. Never rush for position. If you get promoted, congrats. If not, it doesn’t matter. You will always be remembered for your knowledge and politeness, not for your designation.

7. Never run behind office stuff. You have better things to do.

8. Avoid taking everything on your ego. Your salary matters. You are being paid. Use your assets to get happiness.

9. It doesn’t matter how people will treat you. Be humble. You are not everyone’s cup of tea.

10. In the end nothing matters except family, friends, home and inner peace.

May Peace Be With You



On a terrible day, when someone greet you ‘Good morning’ one would feel extremely terrible.



Namaste – Means the divine in me, bows before the divine in you; as per one school of thought we are not supposed to bow before everyone but only before the almighty.



Hello – is often credited to Thomas Edison as a coinage for telephone use, but has no meaning per say.



Is’nt May peace be with you the best way of salutation?



We need to be at ease, or will get some disease. Health indeed is the first of life.



Mitti ka tan, masti ka man, kshan-bhar jivan– mera parichay.
(मिट्टी का तन, मस्ती का मन, क्षण भर जीवन, मेरा परिचय)
(A body of clay, a mind full of play, a second of life – that's me)

New Beginning


Unlike every year; this year missed posting during the end of December and in the beginning of Jan. Nevertheless life goes on.

If I have learned anything, it is that I won’t ever be ready for what life throws at me. I won’t have the right words when it counts; I won’t know what to choose when fate itself is staring me down. But now I know I don’t always need to have the right answer.



I’ve learned I can go on waiting for something, sustained by hope and nothing more – or I can put it aside and shrung my shoulders. Bravely accept the fact that I can’t keep my heart safe any more than I can stop love from taking everything from me.



I have learned to stop saying yes when I don’t mean it – to live as authentically as I know how. To allow the tips of my fingers to skirt the darkness, as long as I remember to keep my eyes fixed on the light. And as one door opens and another closes, I will move forward with the knowledge that unlike so many others, I have another year ahead of me – another shot at making it all the way around the sun, and a chance to get it right this time around.