How to be Happy Before Success - Earl Nightingale

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"Those only are happy who have their mind fixed on some objects other than their own Happiness." - John Stewart Mill

 Not as means, but as an ideal end. On the happiness of the others, on some art or anything of ones interest. There in lies the secret. The happiest people are the busy people, who enjoy what they are doing and giving. They mostly don't fear life or death. So the responsibility for our happiness is on us.

 Recreation should be re - creating. Everyone should have our own ways of re-creating ourselves in true sense. Live with interest and enthusiasm. Three important factors for any human being are

• Identity - recognition as a separate individual
• Simulation - Change the opposite of boredom
• Security - the opposite of anxiety. 

You will see new opportunities and get new ideas, you can live fully. 

Happiness can be learned. Money cannot buy health and good life. Thoughtful person finds happiness just by being alone. It is making up of our mind to be happy. It should not be a reaction to outside stimulus, but a state of mind, a regular condition. Life is full of things like sorrow and disappointment. These are normal things in life. You don't need 'such and such' things to be happy. If your are discontent it's good. You need to find something to do.  

The reason you are miserable is you are spending time thinking about yourselves, so the outside world disappears for us which becomes mercky. Such a person finds vacuum and thinks that the world is against them. So they hunt for things that attracts people to them like 'illness.' Not many will heed to them for long. This makes them angry and bitterness deepens. 

The master word is 'work'. It has great value for those performing it. You become great if you do. Human mind takes things for granted, once they get used to it. But it fades after a while. Greatness, peace and happiness are byproducts of a life that has been held steady like a ship worthy of sailing. How can you find a life worth living. Find something you can dedicate yourselves to . If your life is filled with confusion, you will be dissatisfied. 

We need to know and become self-actualizing. The basics of Happiness which is the music of the soul, is that this is a bi-product, it comes variably by indirection of seeking it. The iceberg, is a great example of how you should live, with roots firmly fixed. There is no doubt or confusion. In one day there is no hurry, but in a year a marvelous distance would have been covered. Sometimes there are storm, but iceberg is on course again. This is how the man of wisdom live. Their life is an example of time well spent. 

The next word is 'Serendipity' - Meaning - The faculty of making a happy and unexpected discovery by accident. Good things follow, following a bold course of action. Word from 'Three princess of Serendip'. Lucky man is busy man, always working and looking out for better way of doing things. The secret for happy marriage is Courtesy. Courtesy keep love fresh and alive. Everything is a relation of cause and effect. Treat all with courtesy and respect.

Learn to enjoy the present. Time is unconquerable with limited supply. Don't spend time waiting for something without doing anything. Be aware. It is dumb brooding over the future or past. It does not mean we should not plan for tomorrow. We should. But live in today. Enjoy.  Don't wait too long to start living. Place value where it belong, have the awareness of life. It is the voyage that count. Discover your full talents and use it to the fullest. Whatever you are looking for, first find within yourself. "Look alone for this one day, as this and this alone is truth" - A Sanskrit proverb. 

Envy is ignorance. A person who envies has not looked at his own road, but looks at others. He builds his own failure. Trust Thyself. What makes you happy will depend upon your personal nature. If you follow others, you will fall into identity trap. There are two identity traps. 1) You should do what others do. 2) Others will do what you do. Don't let others decide what you should do.  The dreamers are the saviors of the world. The world is beautiful is because people with Vision lived. As you dream, so shall you become. Your ideal is what you will unveil. Dreams are the seedlings of reality. You cannot travel within and stand still. There is the real world, and the world of imagination. It is habit that helps people move from the world of reality to the world of imagination. If one advances confidentially in the direction of dreams, they will get what they want. 

Four prescriptions:

1. Listen. 
2. Reach back.
3. Reexamine your motives.
4. Write your worries in the sad.

Anyone can ring happiness out of life, if you are worthy of happiness. Rise above circumstances. It's our attitude towards others and life, that determine our happiness. If a person cannot find in the daily life now, they cannot find happiness when they wake up tomorrow morning. 

Every day in our life is successful or unsuccessful. Each of us in reality, shapes our world in our own likeness.