Love and Heartbreak

 Don't fear, have courage,

Move with passion and speed.

Every time you succumb to psychological pressure

You fail. And Leaders should not.

Each of you is an undiscovered treasure.

Discover yourself!

Be a change maker. 

To Love, you need to learn to rise above hurt. 

Awakening happen in the mind of young. As you grow older, you convert your vision into reality.  Work with enlightened consciousness. Be a change maker. Free of the tyranny of the conflicted mind, be a start. 

1) How do we know we are in love and its not infatuation?

In the spectrum of romantic relationship there are four levels:

• Crush - you feel nice staying around someone sweet and kind, it passes away with time, there is no bond.
• Infatuation - You begin to become obsessed abut someone, and you want them to think of you. Lot of chemistry and neediness get engaged. You get infatuated, when you are low, and someone gives you an attention. Through out your life you will fall in and out of infatuation. Your eye become bigger and bigger. It's a pleasure you derive by the thought of how you are important to each other. If it is not reciprocated, it hurts and there is lot of hate
• Discovering heart felt connection - Only with it, nurturing relationship begin. You feel the others joy, sorrow and anxiety. You are sensitive. Heartfelt connection is felt. This is not just with romantic partner, but with your parents, siblings and others as well.
• Love is an enlightened consciousness. Free to be more than the now, and other person looks like a miracle, not because they have no flaws, but it's because of your sense of preciousness. You could feel this when you observe a homeless person, when you sit under an old tree.

See where you are, and understand. For this Love is beyond the ordinary conflict in mind. If you do not know how to love, you have not lived at all.

2) Heartbreak to peace.

All separation is painful. If a person had meant something to you, to separate from the person is painful. It will hurt, because you will miss the person. Separation at some level, is like death. In your body, and in you heart, you know that person is not going to be part of your life. That beautiful relation ship is gone. So it hurts. How long can we grieve? There is no specific time period. If you can, you should not be in pain for even an hour. You just pay attention to the conflict you are going through. The regret and all the thoughts. In that observation your will realize, your love, your obsession was emotional dependence on each other. So you decide to end. Set out on a quest, to become a greater human being, though love which is enlightment. 

3) One sided love. 

 

Be conscious before your use the term unconditional love. Love that is forced upon another is not love, it is violence. This is bitterns and possessiveness. It is only going to damage you. You cannot win anyone's love from such a state.  Become free and it will happen.

4) Scar from the heartbreak. 

Heartbreak is painful. It is as real, as a physical wound in the body. If you keep scar in the heart, you should set yourself free. Merge with self love, respect and peace within you. Then you will attract the right kind of person in your life. 

5) How exactly to get out of the pain of heartbreak?

Heart cant heal by trying to forgive, forget or apologies. According to Japanese tradition, when the traditional pottery is broken, they add liquid gold , Pot looks much more beautiful.  Your actions and contribution to the world, determine your worth, not how others treat you. , if you do it from your heart, practice kintsugi of the heart. Awaken the deeper love to yourself. Intimate relationship break, because you are not able to love yourself. Have respect. There will be judgements. Work of accepting and discovering love to oneself. 

Find peace and ease with yourself, until you do, every judgement, will put you down, there will be always fear.  Only in the state of self love, and when your heart heal, you will be able to love others. 

6) Why do people not understand friendship and think there is sexual or romantic relationship?

Current civilization is filled with  loneliness in the hurt and lust in the mind. People are deeply unhappy with their life. Life ahead is not clear. If you can let them see this, things will change. Love does not mean physicality. It is a small part . If it dominates, boredom is not far behind. So people fall in love and fall out of love. Relationship driven by loneliness and lust, will end with cracks in the heart. Get out of this crazy thought. 

Understand Love will happen in your life, separation too will happen. Coming together will happen. This is the river of life. You will meet many wonderful people, some will drop out, and new people will join. Let go of anger and hate, and not hold a grudge and linger with heartbreak, if you understand this. 

Don't be stuck in the narrow arguments of everyday life. Grow everyday!