How to Reject - Rejections! - Puja Puneet

 Just Ask, there is nothing you will lose. 

SW - Some win, Some work, some one is waiting.

Sweetest revenge is success.

Self estimate is very important:

1. Keep a victory log - our mind is attuned to remind what is wrong, keep writing what you did right
2. Mirror exercise - Look at the mirror and speak to yourself, start recognizing your awesomeness. Don't take yourself seriously. Every one is an opinion of themselves, 
3. Anything you can do of your own - whatever it takes to make you feel good, make a joy list, easiest way, good music.
4. Creating faith and surrender in the divine.  Ask good to show a solution fast and take us out of the current situation

Science of asking, and art of learning:

1. We from a young age is taught, we are not to ask.  Learning to ask is an art by itself. If you are willing to ask, be willing to give. 
2. We don't ask, because we feel obligated. You will pay it someday. The big ship is supposed to protect the boat, boat the yacht, yacht to the tube. If each of us is kind, it will go on. 

Courage to ask, and ability to hear a No. 

Asking and learning to accept rejection. 

When demoralized and we lose our spirit, don't fix too fast. we are not robots, and human being is sensitive. Give time to recover. When our emotions are back in control, our intelligence comes back, they are in inversely proportional. 

If your are persuasive enough you may get it. It could be a God challenge. When we are very close to our goal, there is a check if we really want it and will keep it properly?

What is the meaning you are going to give to rejection? Don't blame for the rejection yourself or others, recognize and learn the lesson. Just have patience. God will grace the situation to match your frequency.

When we have a wound, you don't apply the bandage immediately, you leave it open for some time, to feel the feeling, allowing it to come and go. 

How can we be kind and not defensive? We want to be kind to others, and yet to our self. Create the observer and experiencer gap. When you see other self bullying yourself, you will not allow the other person get into it. You are able to choose your response when you are an observer. Sometimes the best response is silence, walk away or confront. It cannot be pre-decided. When you become observer you tap into your intelligence. Reaction is what those people want, it will happen when you are not in your calm, your emotions are high and intelligence is low. Move into compassion going into their shoes. If they knew better, they would do better. If kindness and firmness don't work, be aggressive. That too is a response, becoming a kali till the time it is a choice and it is not happening to you. 

There is a need in all of us to be acceptable. When acceptance is such a deep need for us, that we become defensive. It is very natural. Just as anger shows up when things don't fall as our plan. We can control it by understanding that when a person don't want to understand us, they will not. Some people are predetermined to be misunderstanding. 

Manifestation: For us to attract anything, we have to match that frequency. Sometimes who are that huge in their aura it is difficult to match that frequency. 

How to use the tools daily, make it routine and rituals. Start with one thing at a time, and understand why it is done the way it is done. When our mind know the why, we are able to stick to the routines. Do gratitude every morning. You create a new neuron pathway. The negativity gets moved. If you understand the science, the better will be the application.

When there is a rejection, people pull your leg, and we go into depression. Most important, is what you say to yourself. Confront them for making fun of you. You can accept, confront or remove. When someone say it was joke - you say it was not a fun to me. Address it to them then and there, either in public or in person. If they don't correct , you can remove them. Don't be scared of loosing people. Start having right people around you. It will make all the difference.

In relationship we experience rejections, and we are unable to find the why, and it keeps on lurking in your life, and you are unable to get out of it. It becomes difficult to forgive to forget. There are two things:

1. Life is not fair
2. The quality of our life, is directly proportional to the questions we ask

The why question always belong to the victim. All whys don't have an answer. Sometimes you go deeper into the sad of life, when you ask why as the answer will never come. Replace it with How questions. Say you are strong enough, and God is trying to give something better. What is the lessons that I can learn from this. You will move into a place, where you can let it go. Letting anything go is very hard, as there is always the trauma. Forgiveness is the choice you make. It is saying I am not going to be hurt. This peace is more important. Forgetting is not in your hand. Allow better things to replace that garden. You can pluck out the weed, replace with better things, the weed not coming back is not in your hand. You can keep replacing the weed. Learn tolerance, peace and work with them. 

Zero confidence but want it desperately and feel you wont get it, how to raise the frequency? Work on confidence by taking small risk and accomplishing them. All of us shiver through life. First time we are all very nervous. But take the step. When we are insistent on something, it is an attachment. Ask God, give me this or something better. 

When people ignore you should we take it as rejection? It will depend on your relationship. People create drama sometimes - say not my monkey not my circus. People out of ego, show others as lesser. When they know if you are not willing to participate it is good. But if the people is important, and they do it because they don't know how to convince, best thing to do is to address is. Sorry is a beautiful word. Sometime it is good to realize and confront, as they may be hurt by what we did. Learn to handle in a better way - Have confidence and courage. 

Have right people surround you, you can outsource your rejection.