Goals @ Happy Souls Club - 16 - 20 May 22

 

VISION – MISSION – ACTION

DESIRE – DREAM – DO

Ask - Believe - Receive (LOA)

Find Your Purpose - Ikigai

List 7 things you love most & figure out what you deeply desire which might help you find true calling - Love/Good/Need/Paid For - For each of the seven items - Rank each of the items, in if the world need, are you good at, and will you be paid for?

Ikigai is hidden deep inside at an intersection of four elements – Passion, mission, vocation and profession, each of which are a combination of two of what you – love, are good at, can be paid for and the world need.

Ask these 5 questions:

1. Who you are? - Not a noun, a verb 
2. What you love to do?
3. Are you good at it? 
4. Will you be paid for? 
5. What they need or want?

2 & 3 - Passion

3 & 4 - Profession

4 & 5 - Vocation

5 & 2 - Mission

• 2,3,4 - ignore 5 - satisfaction but  feel useless
• 3,4,5 - ignore 2 - comfortable but feeling of emptiness. 
• 4,5,2 - ignore 3 - Excitement and Complacency, but sense of uncertainty
• 5,2,3 - ignore 4 - Delight and fullness but no wealth

Like what you do. Do what you like. If you are doing what you don’t like, it will put your in pressure, if you do what you like, it will give you pleasure. Find what you love. 

• Why? - Purpose
• Love? - Passion
• What the world need? - Always no Idea is ahead of the time, execution of the idea is what was not accepted by the market – No idea is ahead – world need to get better. – relationship, health,
• Real question is how do you get paid for it?  yes - No 

In excel - columns - Love/Good at/Paid for/Wold need - 7 items you love - and rank each against it.

Who you are? - 

Strengthsfinder - Clifton's test : Tom Rath: https://store.gallup.com/p/en-us/10108/top-5-cliftonstrengths

Myers - Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) : Click the link below to go to the 16 Personalities website and access the test:

www.16personalities.com

Steps to Finding Your Niche:

1) Pick One Big Problem That You Want to Solve – Business/Career/Health/Money/Relationship/Creativity

2) Pick Your Micro- Niche Segment

3) Pick a Method/Tool to Solve that problem

4) Validate Your Niche Using the 5P System – Passion/Problem/Persona/Potential/Payment

5) Convert this into a Mission/Purpose

Your Riches is in your Niche. 5 P’s should align. Passion should solve problem, laser focus on persona, where there is potential in the market and there are people willing to pay for it.

Example of a Mission Statement – Elevator Pitch

Hi,  I’m Siddharth Rajsekar. I’m the founder of the Internet Lifestyle Hub. I’m on a mission to help one million people become digital coaches so that we can transform the education and employment system to live a lifestyle of freedom. 

What is done to achieve your goal, and the benefit is your mission. How you will achieve your goal. 

The Strangest Secret - Earl Nightingale

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F4s1Fyh4HAg

1. When young, all want to successful. Only 5% achieve success. 'Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.' 
2. Opposite of courage is conformity. Conformity ....people acting like everyone else, without knowing why or without knowing where they are going. 
3. Some people seem to have a magic touch, because of goals. What would happen if the Ship starts from the harbor without knowing where to go? 
4. "We become what we think about.“
5. Worry brings fear and fear is crippling. Don’t worry. Be calm and Cheerful. Don’t let petty things annoy you. 
6. He is where he is because, that is exactly where he really wants to be, regardless of whether he likes it or not.  

30 Day Action Ideas For Putting The Strangest Secret To work for you

Make a test to last 30 days. We can achieve nothing without paying the price.  Each of us succeeds in life to the extent of our ability to sell, It’s yours for the asking. What is the price? It is many things:

I.   Understand emotionally as well as intellectually that 'You become what you think of '

II.  Imagine-Cut away all fetters from the mind and permitting it to soar as it was divinely designed to do.

III. Courage : Use all your courage to force yourself to think positively on your own problem. Set a definite and clearly defined goal for yourself and let your marvellous mind think about your goal from all possible angles, you are standing in the middle of "Acres of Diamond".

IV. Save 10% of what you earn

V. Action Write on a card what you want to be - Ideas are worthless unless we act on them.

The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing – Walt Disney

30 Day test: Every one want something and is afraid of something. 

Write on a card 'What you want more than anything else.' Make sure it is a single goal, and clearly written. You become what you think about. Second, Stop thinking about what it is you fear. 

Take control of your mind for 30 days. Maintain cheerful positive outlook.  Ask, and it will be given to you. Seek and you will find.

Asses where you are after 30 days, repeat the test, repeat it again, untill the flood gates of abundence flow into you.

Post Pandemic Graduate - CA P V Pattabhiram

• Keys to Goal Setting
• It must be your goal
• Write it down
• Break it down – 

Time - Immediate, Short term, medium term, longterm. 

Type - A. Cash/Finance : Service, Wealth, Mastery

B. Relationship: Social, Family, Partner (Personal)

C. Health - Chemical, Physical, Emotional

• Performance, not outcome goals
• Vary your approach
• Just do it; don't give up.
• Use momentous occasions
• Keep it SMART  - Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-Bound

Rate Self in each and every area of your life 1 to 10 ; Total 80; Draw a circle - 4 diameter - 8 sectors - 

• Health
• Happiness
• Relationship
• Time
• Personal Growth
• Career
• Finance
• Contribution

Our life score, The total we give us in each of these areas. 

By default human are goal seekers. We are all human, our minds will wander and mindlessly we will compare and want to have and be what others are. When this happens mindfully come back to you. Affirm that, 'I am grateful and happy for what I am and I am open to receive abundance in all ways'. Do not strengthen negative or comparative thoughts. Reframe and Redirect. This is powerful. This is to reconnect with the beautiful unique you. Luke Coutino. 

Goal Setting – Exercise - GPS

Introduce GPS – Guide, shows us the location, help us find the destination, Goal-Progress-System; Global positioning system. 

Each of the areas – write down: 

i) where are you now? - Starting Point

ii) where you want to be - Destination

iii) What is the route to the destination?

Exercise: Write on a paper – all the negative things that stops your growth. Will we be happy if these things go out of our life?

Procrastination, lack of planning, wrong company, identify them. Fear - her sister is Doubt/hesitation, brother – overwhelm; relatives dream stealers, Challenge – if you meet them , it means you are leaving your comfort zone. Dream stealer (DS) – not bad intention, their dreams have left them, only you can develop a vision for your life. Be clear and committed of what you want to do. Then you will not have to fight.  DS  - be humble.

Close your eyes, keep the paper in your hand. Deep and slow inhale and exhale. Identify what is stopping you from progress. Remove them from the root.  Now slowly open your eyes. crush them in your hands, Burn these, flush it out, and come back.

Calculated risk – is good, you know where you want to go, and ready to come out of comfort zone.

The minute these are in your awareness – they lose their power. What version of your journey do you want to interpret?

You don’t lose when you fall down, you lose when you don’t rise up again. 

Method to set goals in a meaningful way – 3 year timeline. Because goals must have aspirational – get you excited and nervous. 

When we judge we term as good/bad, realistic/unrealistic – It is not the size of the dog in the fight, but the fight of the dog – It is in the energy.

To Each their own goals will make sense.

Make your own KPI's 

How to Stay on Course

Winners and losers, both can have the same goals. The difference is how they go after their goals. 

MINDSET + ACTION Plan

IEG - Implementation is the Game.

Science of struggle and success:

When human started truanting on the planet in small numbers, nature was trying to protect us, and keep up with the first layer of brain - reptilian brain. - Primary action of it is keep you safe and comfortable. Action was to fight with weaker opponent or run away to stronger opponent. It also came up with significant task - To keep focus on the environment around you.  It keeps focusing on danger or threat. It is working in us constantly, and control 95% of our life, that works on automation. This is the brain that controls your behaviour and habits. Brain not only focus on physical danger/trauma or stress, but also the emotional/mental stress or trauma.

Something's have happened in the past, but is still triggering in your brain. Morning no thoughts - and couple of seconds, it start coming. 

Reptilian brain focus on emotional trauma and put you back in the zone of safety/comfort and survival. It's job is to keep you safe and comfortable. So it is said, come out of your comfort zone. 

There is another layer of brain called mammalian brain. They stay together, one guarding when other is asleep. This is emotional brain that produces hormones. Gives fuel,  either procrastinates or is proactive. Responsible for action. Releases about 80 different chemicals in our body - life fuels in the car. If you put sub standard fuel in Ferrari what will happen? Some chemicals are:

Stress hormones - Adrenaline and cortisone. If it is too much in the body -  it goes down, everytime a problem is solved.  If feel you are causing problem when your self esteem and self worth is low. How many of you are on your own, keep thinking of an event from your past? Because that memory is somewhere deep down in your reptilian brain, thinking of that danger. Like a smoker who wants another cigarette after nicotine level goes down every time. A problem arise, you solve, hormones go down, and start feeling low - so start showing the worst case scenario before you. 

Problems take you to survival mode, and you struggle. We are addicted to this cycle, so we are unable to change our old habits. 

DOSE is the substandard fuel in the Ferrari. Everytime these 4 hormones (DOSE) are less in the body - you fall sick. You need to turn it into auto pilot mode for success. DOSE stands for Dopamine, Oxytocin, Seretonin, Endorphins. Successful people are those who are able to sove the problems. Bigger problem you solve, better the success. Your life will not be problem free untill you are in the cemetery. You can overcome problem, if you have right kind of DOSE in the body, and once one is solved, there is another that would come up. 

Another layer of brain - new and young is neocortex. Responsible to have goals in life. It has desires - called CEO of the brain, decision making, creative. It comes us with solutions , can think differently, and is superior. 

If CEO sets the goal, and team decides not to cooperate, company will not be able to achieve the result, if there is a discord. 

Very Important - Example - We set goals, during the first week of January. Think: Reptilian brain - Father, Mammalian brain - Mother, and Neocortex brain is - Child. Child will  ask, are you okay to help me to mother? Mother say okay tell us what you want? Child say - Energy. Father is watching mother and child. He asks mother what is happening? Mother tells him child's pan. Father says okay - but seems reluctant. Two weeks strong. Father is seeing the struggle, he says how initial excitement is and wants to put back in safety mode. Mother is pulled between Father and son, with instances from past being repeated, and the question mark in brain put by father, start getting paranoid and start releasing stress hormones. Son start waking up with drag, think of drooping out from goal in the third week of jan. Father again goes to the mother asking I don't understand why it is needed, says this is not the focus, if you want carry on, I am not with you. Mather is fully into paranoid. A&C released. Mother takes back struggle and survival. 

Which week do you drop your goals. 

Only way to get this in order is working on Reptilian brain, release past stored, and allowing it to connect with the neocortex. Bridge is connected.I/10th of Iceberg is above the surface and 9/10th is below the surface. What we see in front of you is what is above the iceberg.

Below the iceberg - 

the root - Upto 7 years - experiences - Reptilian brain is developed.

Stems - mammalian brain - emotional brain

RAS - Reticular Activation System - Bundle of nerves sitting between reptilian brain and Mammalian brain - Inner composs. - It works as a magnet to attract opportunities to make more money and have a better life.  - Don't understand the difference though between positive and negative. 

When we spend time, money or energy on something, your attention goes there more. When you get something for free, we do not cherish it. 

RAS is the gatekeeper in the brain. It stops the strangers. - Our Goals are strangers, with it there is a potential threat. There is a good news and bad news. bad news is this is designed when you were 7 years old, we are in a loop of creating same experiences. Good news is  neuro plastic. i.e. it has ability to constantly change. It will go through the same cycle, unless you break the loop, and it can be broken by being a Life long Learner. 

How do you know brain is changing for good? 

Life

Long

Learner

You feel more:

Energy

Focus

Inspired

Productive

You feel worthy, you break the loop and your focus is on solution. It is now moved from Survival, 

How you create habit and how it is broken

Put together your hands, folded, which thumb is up - right or left? try again, its same. Intentionally put the other. Are you feeling comfortable? No. Why? Because - as child you are used to - Your Reticular Activation System is used to it. 

You might have constant intention to change your habits. Trillions of cells are more powerful than habits, that is connected to the personality. Same personality cannot create changed results. How many thoughts do you remember that we had yesterday? If your thoughts create your reality and you do not remember them , how are we going to change it? 

Transformation is not easy. Only person who like change is the baby in the wet diaper. Everytime you fight you are releasing your A&C. Based on habits, you miss your opportunities. 

We pass out from same place, but get different results. High mark people may not be successful. Why?

Same opportunity, different results?

Answer is who you are is important, rather than what you are. 

Opportunities we do not see with eyes, but with RAS - like how we do not see things right in front of us. Based on opportunity you see, you make your decision. 

Decision - Action - Result 

Let's take one are : Money. Write how it is 

Current

Savings

Loans

How do you feel about it? Think about it, the emotions that come when you think of it. 

When it is said, don't focus on your pink elephant, we keep thinking of the pink elephant. Money is a magnifier. 

The blocks can be the same for Relationship, health, or any other area - they are like weeds in the garden, that spoil entire garden

No.     Block                                                        Action

1.      Not so Important                         Mismanagement, avoid looking at financial details

2.     Never have any extra money        Never able to do anything more than you do to earn more money

3.     Investments are complicated        You will never take efforts to invest money

4.     Sales and marketing is cheap        Hesitate to sell your product and services

These blocks are like monkey traps. Don't be stuck in your life holding on to peanuts. 

People don't earn what they are capable of earning, they earn what they are conditioned to learn. 

We do not learn from past experiences, mistakes and failures.  Our brain don't let us take the risk. It says, milk is hot, butter milk is also hot. 

Scientist created four blocs, electrified one block and asked a dog to go to each of the four block starting from A, they electrified A - dogs rushed to B, and went to other three. Next time they electrified B , dogs did not go to A; because B was electrified, dogs came out, next time did not go to A or B. This happened. Last time they electrified only D. Dogs went to D block only, did not dare to come out, stayed there and died. 

• Have Flexible Goals
• Don’t give up
• Reward Yourself
• Every Failure is Welcome
• Work Towards it
• Visualize
• Motivate
• Auto Suggestion

Believe in yourself, and in the strength you have to shape your destiny, for nothing is impossible for a willing heart. 

Remember

1. We are responsible for our life – Life is a series of thoughts/It shapes what we become/We can choose
2. Our Potential is a function of three primary Ingredients – Natural Talent/Personal Beliefs/Inner Desire
3. To Create New Thoughts we must – Affirm/Conceptualize/Emotionalize
4. Self-Esteem is person’s judgement of – Themself, how they get along with others, how productive they will be.
5. The natural success formula:

• Decide (what you want)
• Act (Upon your decision)
• Assess (Your results)
• Change (Your approach)
• Act (Keep on taking action, focusing on the desired outcome)

Summary:

A goal without a plan and action is just a wish. 

A dream with a plan becomes a goal that’s accomplishable; and a goal with action will make your dream come true.

All men and women are born, live and die. But what distinguishes one from the other is our dreams, and what we do to make them come true. We do not choose to be born, live or die; but amidst this realm of choiceless we do choose how we live. 

What? - Vision /Goal

How? - What is done? - Mission

Why? - Reason for what? - Purpose

Do you Love? - Passion