What Stops us from achieving our dreams

 Understand what is stopping you from Starting. What if's are many.

If you have lot of doubt and fear - it is common. Your resistance will try to annoy you. That is common.

Learn to deal with your mind. Else they will win and you will lose. How?

1. Doubt - Will we be good as them? We try to compare our first step, to other 50th step. Improve. It doesn't matter where you start, there is someone who know little than you. Start there. Doubt will kill you, if you don't kill it. Everyone creates their own space and attract their own tribe. Because our vibe matches theirs. Instead of doubting - ask why should I not help? Who am I not to help? What really matter is - is this information help you. Start serving your client. 

2. Fear - Elizabath Gilbreath - Put Doubt and Fear in the back seat. You can ignore them. But don't let them take the driver's seat. Fear is Fatisicied experience appearing real, it is not real. 'If'.  Thing good and positive. It's our minds duty to protect us, so is highlighting what can do wrong. It is worth having fear. What can go wrong? You might get feedback. If one person gives feedback it is their opinion. Think positive. 

3. Overwhelm - You see all the things you have to do, but don't know where to start. If you want to eat an elephant eat bite by bite. If you have to do 20 steps, do three things today, three tomorrow - split. Overwhelm start to work in your favour when you start taking action. Chunk your 'To Do' into smaller steps. It becomes easier doing step by step. Complete clarity in the beginning is never going to happen. Know your first few steps and start taking action. 

4. Dream Stealers - People around us. 2 Typers - 1) Protective 2) Jealous. No support at home. Most people don't believe in us, because we have not proved it. Stop expecting perfect scenario to happen before you start. Initially people who love you, will warn you what all can go wrong, which will create more doubt and fear. They come with good intention, you can love and respect them. But don't go in the negative zone. Every now and then you might get trolled. Let it pass, don't take it personally. Your biggest enemy become your raving fan, when they see you success. Success and Gossip are same coin different side. Start to build your own tribe of people. Don't hate them or get into arguments.  Your dreams are most valuable , and you need to live your mission. 

5. Perfectionism - Success is shabby. Just launch, and keep fixing on the way. It does not matter how amazing your creation is, it is not worth if things don't come out at all. You can always keep improving and fixing. Chase excellence and not perfection. 80% is okay. Perfection can never be achieved. 

6. Procrastination - Resistance is very smart, it just keeps delaying. It knows your weaknesses and you will keep delaying what has to be done. Today will turn into someday, which will not come.  Start - even if at the smallest level. 

7. Victimhood - Please stop having Pitty party, start to take 100% responsibility. If it is to be it is up to me. Only our life is being effected. Don't give your power to others. Take it back. Stop playing whatever card you are playing - uneducated, lack of support, women. 

8. Spirituality - Some feel it does not match materialism. Take every religion in the world, you will realise how rich they are. Anything good need fuel to run it, and it is money. Do good, but if you do for money, you can do it for more people. Start to marry spirituality to materiality. Become comfortable with money. 

9. Isolation - Every time caterpillar become butterfly, they lose caterpillar friends and make butterfly friends. Till you become butterfly, you will not realise what your potential is. Live your best life, highest potential. Forgive and let go of what is not working in the current environment. It will go.

10. Criticism - Change your inner critic into your inner coach. Learn continuously, don't say sorry - say Thank you and how it will be done better next time. Forgive quickly. Mistakes are bound to happen. Self and others around. Not all will behave our way. If they knew better, they will do better. Grow your heart. 

11. Support and Rational - Too are young, someone at home is ill etc. Whatever in life you think is your highest priority - you will make extra care to protect it. 

12. Balance - How will we have balance? Balance do not serve anybody. What you can have is Harmony. Balance is dividing equally - harmony is fixing what is important. Handle things according to guilt.

13. Beauty - Be comfortable in your skin. Your energy is important. The level at which we play our life is important. Confidence has a different posture, adopt that. Have bold enthusiasm.

14. Humility - Afraid to handle success - It is good problem to have. Learn to handle problems. You cannot sit here and know everything. When things show up act. 

Let not your doubt stop you. Some other show stopper are - laziness, time management, imposter syndrome, frustration, comfort zone and phone. The list can go on. 

Have a beautiful garden. 

Explore what is the doubt - fix, check, understand, know it will not go away. Accept it, but don't stop. 

Start before you are ready. Keep improving after you take action. 

Early it was : Ready - Aim - Fire 

Now it is : Ready - Fire - Aim 

Keep firing to get your target.

Take action continuously. 

Don't let self-sabotage to kill your dreams. 

You can't please everybody. There will be someone judging you. Don't be afraid of judgement. 

Align with your value system, work on your passion. Create your mission. 

The purpose of God throwing a challenge at us, is to check your strength and courage. If God brings you to it, he will bring you through it. There is guidance, and a supportive hand behind you. 

Don't allow anything to stop you. 

Go do it.