Deathiquette

 Deathiquette – its not about u the condolence giver. Its about the bereaved who have lost a big chunk of their heart.

Offer help if you can – silenly and discreetly.

And say some kind words about the departed if you knew them well enough. Or be quiet and let the bereaved mourn in peace

But for gods sake at my most intense time of grief do not be so self absorbed and insensitive enough to only talk about ur past losses … its painful. 

Death is not a social outing… its a heart wrenching , soul devastating irreparable loss.

Grief is real – only the real will understand.

If the bereaved do not respond to ur calls/ messages be gracious. Not righteous. If they dont respond, be empathetic. This is not about you… its about them.

Do not ever ever advise them to move on This is the most insensitive of it all.