Contact Vs. Connect - Connection

How many people do you have in your contacts - Phone, Social media?

How many people are you connected, you connect regularly ?

Is being alone same as being lonely?

Alone is physical and lonely is an emotion. 

From caution we have moved to comfort zone, and physical distance is creating emotional distance as well

Some loneliness may be transitory and some will be chronic. If it is chronic needs help. 

It is so important to constantly be aware of who are all there in your life in the given point of time so that you don't take anyone for granted or you don't let anyone take advantage of you. 

Let's get into the exercise now. ✅

Get a pen and paper. Draw 4 concentric circles and name it c1, c2, c3, c4. Have you done it?

Now write down 10 names of people who are in close and constant contact with you. 

C1 is your inner most circle, and it consists of people in your close circle. Your family members, your close friends and your partner comes into that list. Done? Good. 

Now move on to the next circles and write 10 names down in each circle till you reach c4. Remembering 25 names would be easy. But for some the rest of the names would be tough. 

You might even think whether your circle is small and if you know only a few people in life. No, not really. When we do exercises like this, we would want to come out as the good person at the end of such exercises. 

But now it's the time to resonate with life and your thoughts that you have come through all these years. Think about the people with whom you had a fall out because there was this issue of ego playing between you and them. 

It is because of this ego that we are not able to come up with 40 names of people who are important to us. 

The same way, we have given importance to a lot of other people who don't even fit in the four circles. We have stopped ourselves from playing to the fullest, thinking what these people might judge. 

This circles should be an eye opener about your near and dear ones and who really matters to you out of them. Think a little more and come up with 40 names. 

Now to the next part of the exercise. We are going to categorize the people inside these circles. Let's start with c1.

Categorize them as 

 💚Energy giver

 🛑Energy Sucker

 🟰Neutral

Let's make one thing clear here. We are not trying to label our friends and families here. We are just trying to figure out where they stand in our lives.

We need to understand and analyze who they are and how we should respond and bond with the people in our environment. 🌟

Understanding that you are the energy power house is very important for our growth. But if your energy is always going to be sucked out completely because you are in an environment like that, you should find a way to fix these energy suckers. We can't and shouldn't try in making them the energy giver. We can try to make them neutral. ✔️

But when it comes to family members, if our parents, spouse and kids fall in energy suckers category, we need to address it immediately. It is a serious issue, as we are living with them. If someone from your family is an energy sucker, it is our duty to look out for them and try to explain it to them that what they are doing is wrong. Talk to them and try to come up with a list of what are all the problems you face with them and what is your expectation.❤️

Now question yourself.

Have you anytime told them what you expect? When was the last time you had a conversation with them without emotion, without anger, without ego? Easiest way to get out of the problem is to satisfy their ego. But you have to do what is right for you. When the problem rise again, just say sorry and accept what they say and try to explain it to them to your best. 

Tell them you will try to handle it better over the next time. But you keep on working on your path towards your success and when you slowly march towards success, they will stop giving you advice. Because every household doesn't have a perfect relationships like we see in movies. 

90% of the house have one issue or the other. I am talking this much about you concentrating on c1 because if you fix your issues with the people in c1, that will take care of 80% of your success. Because, at the end of the day, all your success matters only to people in c1 circle.

A zen concept like pouring good (eg. milk) over bad (Poisson).Yes, initially both get mixed, but with continuous/conscious doing of good over bad, in a period of time, a stage will come, the glass/person (ES) filled with good, become as an (EG) 👍

🛑 Toxic people

🛑 Toxic mindset

🛑 Toxic thoughts 

✅ Neutralise them or run away