Thursday, September 25, 2025

J.P.Alexander

 https://www.deccanherald.com/sports/cricket/imran-khan-taunts-only-way-pakistan-can-beat-india-is-if-pcb-chairman-army-chief-bat-as-openers-3739256


Pakistan is now virtually under military rule, as it has been for most of its existence. In fact, it was aptly called "an Army with a country" with the military and their extended families having an exaggerated sense of entitlement.... and running everything in the country as crony capitalists.

Today,  POTUS Trump wheels and deals with Field Marshal Munir Khan, not with Shehbaz Sharif, who became  PM after the rigged election of 2024.

Yes, while Imran Khan unarguably the most popular man in the country, rots in jail on trumped up charges including " violating Islamic marriage laws."!

Despite this, in 2024, the Independants backed by his banned PTI (Pakistan Tehreek-e- Insaaf) party, won more seats than any party contesting the elections!

In 1997, while attending a Quality Management programme sponsored by Japan's Ministry of Industry,  I stayed for a month in the same hostel in Osaka with participants from Srilanka, Bangladesh (the GM of Md Yunus' Grameen Bank), Iran, Nepal and ... 3 (Punjabi) Pakistanis.

While all 25 of us got along pretty well, especially on industry visits across Japan, these 3 Punjabis from elite Pakistani families, interacted best with our own 2 Indian Punjabis .. sharing language, culture, physique and even late night jaunts which the rest of us were disinclined to undertake.  Indeed our 2 Punjabis gelled better with the 3 Punjabi Pakistanis than with fellow Indians from Tamilnadu, Kerala, Maharashtra, Andhra, or Bengal.

The happenings over the past 3 years in Pakistan, were similar to what transpired in Bangladesh, Srilanka, Myanmar and ...now

 NEPAL.  Protests were  as much about Nepotism as they were about Corruption, and both were engineered by the Army and its generals .. Ayub Khan, Yahya, Khan, Zia, Musharaf, Muneer...leading to the humungous Rich-Poor Picketty gap in Pakistan.

We admired Imran for his cricketing abilities ranking him as one of the Quartet of Great Allrounders, all of whom specialized in the art of fast bowling.

Sir Richard Hadlee, Lord Ian Botham, our own Kapil Dev (who lifred the World Cup in 1983) and Imran Khan who led Pakistan to victory in 1992, and also completed the amazing Test double of 3000 runs and 300 wickets.

A Niazi Pathan whose mother belonged to the Burki tribe, Imran was connected to many Pakistani Biggies. An Oxford Blue in cricket, his cricketing  talent was matched by his good looks, sophistication, charm, social graces and ..... a hedonistic lifestyle as a bachelor in the 1980s. 

Susanna Constantine, painter Emma Sergeant, actress Goldie Hawn, TV anchor Kristine Backer, our Zeenat Aman, Anna White ( by whom he had a daughter),... many even visited Pakistan but finally refused to settle in that benighted and bigoted land with him. Yes, whatever Imran was or wasn't, he was an ardent patriot who saw Pakistan as his only real home.

Finally, in 1995, Jemima, daughter of tycoon Sir James Goldsmith gave up her Jewish faith to marry the dashing Pathan and even to settle down in Pakistan, where they had 2 sons.

Along with his admirable Patriotism, Imran also became more Religious, his faith soon bordering on Fundamentalism.

His long Crusade against his country's corrupt and nepotic  rulers, therefore  strikes a special note with the "faithful" masses as also with the jobless and disempowered Youth of Pakistan, who are smarting from their frustration at the rigged election of 2024.

Imran's jibe at the rulers and the PCB which they prop up has expectedly gone viral.

Yes, the best way to pull down a government is to mock it and make it an object of public ridicule. Especially when it is  Cricket icon Imran Khan, using cricketing metaphor to expose their transgressions .... after 2 massive back-to -back cricket defeats to traditional subcontinental rival India!

J P Alexander 











More about Sir


I feel genuinely humbled to be honored  as a Tennis legend by Regional Sports Centre, Ernakulam, arguably the finest integrated  Sports hub in the country, though Lotus Club ( founded by Lady Bristow ), Cochin Club in Fort Cochin and Rama Varma Club (founded in the 19th century) are of older vintage.

It was a typical.Kerala style function with presentation of shawl and Silver Medal by Chairperson & District Collector G Priyanka IAS. Honorary Secretary SAS Nawaz, IRS (with mike) is also seen, along with Committee members.

I consider this award more as a recognition of the longevity of my tennis career spanning over 70 years, than of any particular distinction on my part. 

In her address, Ms Priyanka strongly endorsed a career today exclusively in Sports, for those who are blessed  with talent, who should be given adequate training and support to succeed.

Back in our days, it was quite different. You could be  a University topper, simultaneously in Academics, Sports, Debating or whatever.

Yes, it is certainly much tougher for Gen Z to multi skill,  multitask and achieve success in multiple fields today.

Tennis has helped me in multiple ways, not the least to be a fairly healthy and active 82 year old. 

And wherever I went, I was welcome to play tennis, ... people sometimes lending me their kit, thoughI I generally carried the bare essentials with me.

Being fairly good at Tennis opened up many doors throughout my life. 

In 1960, I was one of the seven Bombay University students to receive the prestigious Sir Dorab Tata scholarship.  At the interview in Bombay House, iconic directors  JRD Tata, JD Choksi,  Nani Palkiwalla, and Mrs Vesugar evinced great interest in my extra curricular activities ... especially Elocution and Tennis.

Apart from many opportunities to play against tennis greats....

both father Ramanathan and son Ramesh Krishnan; Sankar Krishnan Premjit Lal; Davis Cuppers SP Misra, J Royappa,  Shashi Menon, AJ Udaykumar etc, I was also privileged to play at TTC a couple of times with cine star Gemini Ganesan who was a  friend of V Rammohan;

 Played also with15 year old Aamir Khan who was then at Bombay Scottish;

And with Naseerudin Shah, who played at RSC for a week in 2017 as the guest of Rahul Thomas.

And of course, with  cine star Kartika ( Sunanda Nair) daughter of my friend  Capt Nair, who was a top lady player in the 1980s.

The tennis courts of Raj Bhavan, Trivandrum were especially inviting when my friends (now Commander Rtd) Jose Manjooran and ( DGP retd) Upendra Varma IPS,  were young ADCs to Governor NN Wanchoo, ICS. Commander Jose will be remembered for the tennis extravaganza he organised in the Naval Base in 1991.. ..with Vijay & Anand Amritraj, young Leander Paes and BAT coaches David O'Meara and T Chandrasekar all being flown to the Base, in the Brittania plane by Chairman,  Biscuit Baron Rajan Pillai. ... to play on specially prepared grass courts. What a wonderful treat it was for us tennis aficianados!

Where would Indian tennis have been, sans the BAT scheme envisaged by Vijay and funded by avid tennis lover Rajan Pillai? (His dad, Janardanan Pillai, and Mom, religiously played an hour of tennis at Trivandrum Tennis Club every morning in the 1970s and 80s and his younger brother Rajmohan, is still an active player).

My school,  St Xavier's, Bombay which I joined in the 2nd standard encouraged sports and extra curricular activities. When I was in my final year, 11th std,  we won the Harris Shield for senior cricket , captained by brilliant all-rounder Vinay Choudhary, ( who is alas, no more), while tiny Sunil Gavaskar led the juniors to victory in the Giles Shield. I regularly played tennis ball cricket but was never considered good at the real sport.

I began tennis in 1955 in Mackichan Hall, Chowpathy, where my father Dr J Alexander was Warden. We played on a tarmac surface, but I also had access to the 2 slick cowdung courts at Wilson College Gymkhana, on Marine Drive, next to PJ Hindu Gymkhana.

My father was a pretty decent player and some of his colleagues  .. Dr Donald Kennedy, Dr Taylor, Profs Lysle, Fraser, Armstrong, and Misses Richie, Hewitt and Allen used to join in on Saturday afternoons. But the regulars were the hostelites from all across India and East Africa, Nigeria and even West Indies. There were many residents from Gujarat.  Bombay's then Chief Minister (later PM) Morarji Desai who was a Wilson alumnus and Mackichan resident hailed from Bulsar ( Valsad).

Moving to First Year Science in Wilson College, I was both First scholar and tennis champion in 1961-62.

The Intercollegiate tournament was played in Wilson College Gymkhana, and  the top men players then were Homi Dhalla, Gopal Gupta, Daljit Wallia, Rastogi, Karambaya .. but Wilson had a national ranked lady player in Kusumakumari Narayanan. Partnering her, we bagged the University Mixed doubles title. Shabnam Sahani ( daughter of Balraj Sahani) and Indira Iyengar (daughter of RBI Governor HVR Iyengar) and other lady opponents were pretty glamorous but lacked the firepower of Kusum's thunderous  forehand. Twenty years later, I partnered her elder brother N Gopinath ( Registrar, Kerala High Court) to take the Ernakulam District doubles title.

For my civil engineering, I decided  to study in College of Engineering ( Poona), hoping to emulate the  academic performance of Sir M Visvesvaiya whose name is up on the board for 1st rank in 1884. I missed this target by a whisker, but was considered good enough for COEP to take me as a lecturer.

The Poona of the  1960s was idyllic and COEP not only had a vibrant gymkhana but also a Boat Club on the Mula river with over 100 boats.

And History was all around us. The 8th century Pataleswar cave temple of the Rashtrakutas and Shanwarwada Palace of the Peshwas were both just a stone's throw away.

With Mustaq Kazi and Thatte, we played not only intercollegiate tennis against Fergusson, SP and Wadia Colleges, but also the Poona league where we ran into 11 year old Shashi Menon and his father, who gave us a run for our money before losing to us.

Yes, all my victories against top players was when they were either pretty old , or too young! 

Davis Cupper Udaykumar was 60, and G Palani was pretty close to that. 

S Manian, who had beaten me soundly in TOTC, Sri Chitra and GV Raja tournaments was past 60 and in poor health when I had the distinction (?) of defeating him in RSC Veterans finals,  years later.

And the fraternal duo of Parthiban-Elangovan were 14 and 13 when Varghese Jacob and I defeated  them. Colonel Kishore (who is probably the best today in RSC), and his partner Boban, were  juniors when they lost to us. 

But sweet victory it was, nevertheless.

The highpoint of my tennis was in 1975 when I participated in a round Robin to get a place on the Kerala team to play the Interstate at Hyderabad. 

Hitherto, only players from Trivandrum had played for Kerala. But Chief Justice Govindan Nair, the President of KTA, wanted other talents to vie for a place in the State team. Although, I was having major responsibilities as Purchase Manager of FACT's Cochin Project, top management in Sports-oriented FACT, were keen that I should represent the State.

KTA Secretary Prof Gopalraman, made suitable arrangements and 4 of us made the cut out of a dozen who participated (including Tarakanath Menon, K Vijayan, and Ramesh Kailas). Prof Gopalraman's son G Padmanabhan, later played tennis for Kerala University and also had a splendid career in RBI, from where he retired as Executive Director.

Chief Tennis coach of NIS, Patiala, S Krishnaswamy, came specially to coach the team for a week, while V Krishnan also gave his inputs.

In Hyderabad, we stayed at Fateh Maidan stadium and played on cowdung courts which reminded me nostaligically of my  Bombay days.

The tournament was onducted Davis Cup style and the four of us were all full of enthusiasm. But we were up against classy players, including Davis Cuppers,  ... Sankar Krishnan, J Royappa, BM Balasubraniam, SP Misra, SS Misra, SN Misra, Priyadarshi, K Raghuram. .. with predictable results.

But it was certainly a landmark in my tennis career and the 4 of us had a wonderful time together, despite the multiple losses.

 FACT, the PSU which I joined in 1966, had  strong cultural and Sports orientation under a liberal CMD,  MKK Nayar IAS.

Efforts to.promote Sports were largely directed through FACT Sports Association, of which I became President in 1987. But tennis was nowhere near top of the list, though teams were sent annually to participate in Inter PSU tournaments in Bombay, Bangalore, Madras, Delhi etc.  I regularly captained the side which consisted mostly of senior managers ..with player-doctor the late Dr Somasundaram invariably accompanying us.

Although there were courts in FSA, Udyogmandal Club, TCC and Indal, I played most of my tennis in Ernakulam at  Rama Varma and Lotus Clubs and later, Trivandrum Tennis Club, where the standards were pretty high.

In Ernakulam, we had regular Inter club matches and also an annual District Tournament which I won 9 times, with notable victories in the finals over Roy Edward, Collector S Krishnakumar (with whom I won the doubles),  Dr TP Poulose, Ajit Lal (brother of Premjit Lal), Billy Maliekal .. and a few losses too.

In 1984, I won the Central Kerala Hardcourt Tennis, a trophy which Ramesh Krishnan had won 5 years before and which was mothballed after K Sankar won in 1989, defeating me in the finals.

Another big tennis moment for me was when Ernakulam won the Inter District sponsored by MRF, at Kadayiripu Kolencherry for the rirst time in 1984 powered by  2 singles wins by M R Ramesh who was  posted temporarily to Ernakulam by SBT.

Later, playing veterans tournaments at Mundakayam and Trichur,  I had intense rivalries (largely successful) with Billy Maliekal, Dr PA Thomas, Engineer (!) Rashid, Dr Varghese Paul, K J Peter, Dr PI George etc.

The times are long past  when international players came and played here .. perhaps the last time was when Davis Cuppers Enrico Piperno and Vasudevan played the Lotus Trophy finals ...a match which I umpired. Spectator interest has declined.Why would you go and watch local players when you can see Alcaraz vs Sinner sitting in the comfort of your drawing room?

And top players today will not come for the peanuts that local clubs can pay. Fifty years back a Davis Cupper would come and play for practically nothing and generous patrons like R Madhavan Nayar or Lal of Chandrika Soaps would volunteer to foot the Rs 1 lakh blll. I remember Nirupama Mankad, late Ashok's wife playing here for just air fare and boarding-lodging . And she was multiple times National champ, .. starting her tennis at PJ Hindu Gymkhana.She now lives in the US with son Harsh, Davis Cupper and BAT product.

A lot has changed about the game. Today's powerful racquets and equipment have changed the game. The game is faster and players need to be super fit. 5'10" used to the normal height of champs like Borg and Vijay's 6'2"was unusual.Today 's guys are super agile despite their height . 

Coaching styles too have changed. What K Sankar teaches is nothing like what his did S Krishnaswamy taught us.

But the Fundas remain unchanged.

" Plus ca change, plus c'est la meme chose." as  the 3 French Musketeers would have told us.


J P Alexander


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Monday, September 22, 2025

Onam - 10 days

 

Onam is primarily a family festival, where families gather to celebrate and strengthen their bonds. People travel from far and wide to be with their loved ones during this time. Families engage in various activities, such as preparing for the Sadhya, decorating their homes, and participating in community events. This togetherness is what makes Onam a truly special occasion.

The most prominent story related to the celebration of Onam  is the tale of King Mahabali’s visit. It is said that during his reign, the land flourished, and all his subjects lived in happiness. His annual visit during Onam is marked by grand celebrations, symbolising the return of prosperity and joy. 

The significance of the pookalam (floral decorations) and the grand feast known as Onam Sadhya, are integral parts of the festivities.

One of the most beautiful traditions of Onam is the creation of pookalam, intricate floral designs arranged at the entrance of homes. Each day of the festival, new flowers are added to the pookalam, symbolising growth and welcoming the spirit of King Mahabali. The designs often feature vibrant colours and various floral patterns, making them a feast for the eyes.

The festival begins with Atham and culminates with Thiruvonam, the most important day of the celebration. In 2025, the festival will commence on August 26 and conclude on September 5.

Onam is a time for communal celebrations, where people come together to participate in various events. Local communities organise fairs, cultural programmes, and competitions, fostering a sense of belonging and joy. These events often include traditional games, art exhibitions, and food stalls, allowing everyone to partake in the festivities. 


Day 1 Atham August 26, 2025


Atham🙏





Day 2  Chithira August 27, 2025









Day 3 Chodi August 28, 2025



ചോതി നിറവിന്റെ  പടിയിൽ 

ഞാൻ നിൽക്കവേ....

ഓടിവരുന്നൊരോ ഓർമ്മകളും... 

 ഓണവും വിഷുവും 

ആത്മാംശമാക്കുന്ന അനവധി 

അമ്മമാർ വന്നു ചാരെ...


ഓണനിനവുകൾ ഓർത്ത് 

ചൊല്ലുന്നൊരാ 

ഓമനഹൃദയങ്ങളോർത്തുപോയി.. നേർത്തമോദത്തിലും

ആത്ത മോദം പാടും 

മാനസവീണകളായിരുന്നു 

അവർ ഓണനിലാവ് 

പോലായിരുന്നു... എന്നും...

സ്നേഹ നിലാവ് തെളിച്ചിരുന്നു!


തിരികെ വരാത്തൊരാ 

കാൽപദനങ്ങളും 

ചിരികളുമോർത്ത് 

ഞാൻ നിന്നുപോകെ, 

തുമ്പയും തുളസിയും

നൽ ചിന്തകളായെന്റെ

ഓർമ്മതൻ പൂക്കളംപുണ്യമാക്കി

തുമ്പങ്ങളെല്ലാം തുടച്ചുമാറ്റി


സ്നേഹത്തിൻ മണിവീണ 

മീട്ടുന്ന നിസ്വനം

ഓർമ്മത്താലത്തിൽ 

നിറഞ്ഞീടുമ്പോൾ...

ഏതോ ജ്യോതിയുംപടരുന്നു..

ചോതിയിൽ തീർത്തൊരീ 

പൂക്കളത്തിൽ!

🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷

Sandhya Dharman

Day 4 Vishakam August 29, 2025


Day 5 Anizham August 30, 2025




ചോതി നിറവിന്റെ  പടിയിൽ 

ഞാൻ നിൽക്കവേ....

ഓടിവരുന്നൊരോ ഓർമ്മകളും... 

 ഓണവും വിഷുവും 

ആത്മാംശമാക്കുന്ന അനവധി 

അമ്മമാർ വന്നു ചാരെ...


ഓണനിനവുകൾ ഓർത്ത് 

ചൊല്ലുന്നൊരാ 

ഓമനഹൃദയങ്ങളോർത്തുപോയി.. നേർത്തമോദത്തിലും

ആത്ത മോദം പാടും 

മാനസവീണകളായിരുന്നു 

അവർ ഓണനിലാവ് 

പോലായിരുന്നു... എന്നും...

സ്നേഹ നിലാവ് തെളിച്ചിരുന്നു!


തിരികെ വരാത്തൊരാ 

കാൽപദനങ്ങളും 

ചിരികളുമോർത്ത് 

ഞാൻ നിന്നുപോകെ, 

തുമ്പയും തുളസിയും

നൽ ചിന്തകളായെന്റെ

ഓർമ്മതൻ പൂക്കളംപുണ്യമാക്കി

തുമ്പങ്ങളെല്ലാം തുടച്ചുമാറ്റി


സ്നേഹത്തിൻ മണിവീണ 

മീട്ടുന്ന നിസ്വനം

ഓർമ്മത്താലത്തിൽ 

നിറഞ്ഞീടുമ്പോൾ...

ഏതോ ജ്യോതിയുംപടരുന്നു..

ചോതിയിൽ തീർത്തൊരീ 

പൂക്കളത്തിൽ!

🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷

Sandhya Dharman

Day 6 Thriketta August 31, 2025




Day 7 Moolam September 1, 2025



Day 8  Pooradam September 2, 2025



Day 9 Uthradom September 3, 2025




Day 10 Thiruvonam September 5, 2025




The Onam Sadhya is a grand vegetarian feast served on banana leaves, consisting of a variety of dishes. It typically includes rice, sambar, avial, thoran, and a selection of pickles and desserts. The meal is not just about food; it is a celebration of Kerala’s culinary heritage and is enjoyed by families and communities together. Sharing this meal is a way of expressing love and unity.


Boat Races: Vallam Kali











Vallam Kali, or boat races, are a thrilling part of the Onam celebrations. These races take place in the backwaters of Kerala, where teams compete in long, narrow boats. The atmosphere is electric, with cheering crowds and traditional music adding to the excitement. This event showcases the spirit of teamwork and camaraderie among participants and spectators alike.


The Tiger Dance: Pulikali

Performers paint their bodies like tigers and hunters and dance to traditional beats, entertaining crowds during Onam festivities. The vibrant display of colors, energy, and playful moves makes it one of the most awaited attractions of the festival. Entire towns gather to witness Pulikali, creating a carnival-like atmosphere that reflects the spirit of joy and community bonding.


Traditional Attire: Dressing for Onam

During Onam, people dress in traditional attire to celebrate the festival. Women often wear the kasavu saree, which is a cream-coloured saree with a golden border, while men typically wear the mundu, a traditional garment. Dressing up in these outfits adds to the festive spirit and reflects the rich cultural heritage of Kerala.


Cultural Performances: Dance and Music are integral part of Onam. 

Kummattikali & Folk Arts

Kummattikali: Mask dances performed door-to-door.

Onathallu: Martial art-style combat re-enactment.

Thiruvathirakali: Graceful women’s group dance around a lamp.

Kathakali & Mohiniyattam: Classical performances narrating stories from epics.


Some regions also continue celebrations with post-Onam days like Avittom and Chathayam, extending it up to 12 days. These dates are significant as they outline the various rituals and celebrations that take place during the festival. 

Tuesday, September 02, 2025

Naseeruddin & Ratna

 


Ratna Pathak Shah and Naseeruddin Shah have been married for 43 years. Despite theirs being an interfaith marriage, both have shared that their families never strongly opposed their union. In a recent interview, Ratna opened up about what has kept their marriage strong for over four decades.


“Simply put, the desire to stay married, and friendship. Common interests definitely help. At least in my case, I’ve seen all these three have been important. We did want to be together, very much so. Both of us had similar views about theatre and films,” said Ratna, who also collaborates with Naseeruddin Shah in their theatre company, Motley Productions.


She further explained, “We didn’t have to face too much opposition. People made a little noise here and there. Not like today. I don’t know what’d happen if we were to marry today. I guess we won’t be allowed to. But in those days, it was much easier. Neither of us is particularly religious, so we were able to take that decision quite easily,” in her conversation with Faye D’Souza.


Ratna also recalled, “What also helped is what Naseer said: let’s not try to define our relationship. Does it have to be husband-wife, lover, girlfriend-boyfriend, whatever it is? Let’s see where we go.” The two have also appeared together in films, including Amol Palekar’s 2005 supernatural romance Paheli (as voice artists) and Abbas Tyrewala’s 2008 rom-com Jaane Tu… Ya Jaane Na (as husband and wife).


Speaking about their differing views on acting, she admitted that it has led to many arguments. “I am going to quote from Naseer, ‘You shouldn’t want to be an actor unless you feel you will die if you don’t act.’ I am not one of those types. I am sorry. I had lots of arguments with Naseer about this. How can he say that? What happens to me? I don’t feel I will die if I can’t act! I love acting, I enjoy it, I do it with extreme concentration and seriousness. But I don’t think that is the only thing I want out of life. He said, no. ‘If you want to be an actor-actor, full-time, career actor then it has to be that important for you,’” Ratna said.


In an earlier interview with Hauterrfly, Ratna revealed that while Naseeruddin’s conventional Muslim family was more accepting of their marriage, her parents — businessman Baldev Pathak and actor Dina Pathak — were not fully convinced. “My dad was not entirely happy, but unfortunately, he passed away before we got married. Maa and Naseer had a more rocky relationship, but they settled also and eventually became friends.”


Adding to the challenges, Naseeruddin Shah already had a daughter, actor Heeba Shah, from his first marriage, which ended early. Ratna and Heeba continue to collaborate in Motley Productions, while Ratna and Naseer have two sons together — musician Imaad Shah and author Vivaan Shah, both of whom followed in their parents’ footsteps as actors.


During a panel at the FICCI Flo summit in Hyderabad earlier this year, Ratna admitted she sometimes feels overshadowed by her husband’s career but has accepted it. “It has been the most fantastic, fun ride I could have imagined. I did not really think it would be possible to have a friendship that lasts so long in such an intimate kind of a setting, but it’s the friendship that has lasted, and that is the most precious thing. That friendship has been created because we work together. I am all for people from the same field getting together. It definitely is a way of supporting, helping and finding common areas of interest; it is quite invaluable,” she said.




Naseeruddin Shah, one of the most respected actors in Indian cinema, is admired for his powerful performances and unique choice of films. While fans know him for his professional achievements, his personal life has some lesser-known chapters.


Before his well-known marriage to Ratna Pathak Shah, Naseeruddin was married at a young age to Parveen Murad. He was just 19 years old, while Parveen was 34 at the time. Reports suggest that Naseeruddin was a student at Aligarh Muslim University when they first met. Parveen, a divorcee with children, reportedly caught his attention, and the two tied the knot in 1969 in a traditional ceremony. Within a year, the couple welcomed their only daughter, Heeba.


However, their marriage faced challenges from the beginning. Family opposition was a major issue. Naseeruddin’s family was concerned about the age difference and Parveen’s past, while Parveen’s family insisted on a large alimony arrangement in case of a separation. Over time, differences in priorities and perspectives led to a gradual separation. Naseeruddin Shah eventually took nearly 12 years to settle the 

alimony.


This chapter of his life shows a different side of the veteran actor—one marked by early responsibilities, personal challenges, and life lessons beyond the film industry. Despite the difficulties, he went on to build a remarkable career while also managing his personal commitments.


Tuesday, August 26, 2025

Brahmaputra

 


Rooted in spiritual traditions and scientific studies—regarding the origin of the Ganga. Many Hindus believe that the Ganga descends from the locks of Lord Shiva, who is said to reside at Mount Kailash. This belief links the river’s origin to Kailash Mansarovar. This view is supported by various scriptures and oral traditions, which describe the Ganga as flowing from the heavens through Shiva’s hair, symbolically connecting it to Kailash. As noted by SC Bahuguna, secretary of the Uttarakhand Sanskrit Academy, “several scriptures speak about the Ganga and Mansarovar being connected” 


The conflict is not antagonistic—it’s a conflict of interpretation:


Spiritual traditions see the Ganga as divine, flowing from Kailash.Scientific studies trace its physical origin to Gaumukh.Cultural narratives often blend both, creating a rich tapestry of belief and geography.

This tension reflects a broader them: the coexistence of faith and fact, and the need to respect both without diminishing either.


The river that originates and move across from Lake Mansaroval is Brahmaputra. 


The Brahmaputra originates from the Chemayungdung Glacier near Lake Manasarovar, close to Mount Kailash in the Burang County of Tibet. In its upper reaches, it is known as the Yarlung Tsangpo River 1. This sacred region is also the source of other major rivers like the Indus, Sutlej, and Karnali, making it a cradle of transnational water systems.


Its Journey Across Borders

The river’s journey is a majestic and complex one:


Tibet: Flowing eastward as the Yarlung Tsangpo, it carves through the Himalayas in dramatic gorges, including the Yarlung Tsangpo Grand Canyon, one of the deepest in the world.


India: Entering Arunachal Pradesh near the village of Gelling, it becomes the Siang and later the Brahmaputra as it flows through Assam. Here, it nourishes the fertile plains and supports rich biodiversity and cultural heritage.


Bangladesh: Known as the Jamuna, it merges with the Ganges (Padma) and eventually becomes the Meghna, emptying into the Bay of Bengal. Approximately 3,080 km (1,910 miles) is it's length, with an elevation at Source: ~5,210 m (17,090 ft). With a Basin Size of Over 625,000 km² it travells across China, India, Bangladesh 


Brahmaputra’s journey is that of both a giver of life and a witness to human conflict and reverence.


Brahmaputra is widely regarded as one of the only two rivers in India considered masculine, the other being the Son River. This belief stands in contrast to the general reverence of rivers in India as feminine entities—like the Ganga, Yamuna, Saraswati, and Narmada—who are worshipped as divine mothers.


The gendering of rivers in Indian tradition is deeply symbolic and often tied to mythology and local beliefs. The Brahmaputra’s masculine identity is linked to its name, which means “Son of Brahma.” According to legends, the river was born from the sweat of Lord Shiva, collected by Brahma in a vessel and released as a river—hence the name Brahmaputra.


This mythological origin sets it apart from other rivers that are personified as goddesses. The Brahmaputra is also known for its ferocity and unpredictable nature, especially during the monsoon, which further reinforces its masculine symbolism in folklore and oral traditions.


The river is referenced in the Vedas and Puranas, where its masculine traits are emphasised. Unlike the nurturing and life-giving qualities attributed to female rivers, the Brahmaputra is often portrayed as powerful, assertive, and untamed.


Friday, August 22, 2025

Parents


 When Parents Die 💔

Nothing is ever the same again. A part of us changes forever. We can no longer simply be children, because the very people who made us feel safe, loved, and sheltered are no longer here. We no longer have their warm hugs to run to, their tender kisses to comfort us, or their words of encouragement that once gave us courage to face the world.


Life suddenly feels heavier and harder, because their protective love—the shield that once surrounded us—is gone. When our parents leave this world, no matter how old we are, we are left as orphans. And that truth is painfully hard to accept at any age. You may have your own family now, but deep inside, the face of your parents, their voices, and their love remain etched in your soul for eternity.


We grow older, but within each of us lives a child—longing to be cared for, guided, and protected by Mom and Dad. That child never disappears, and when our parents are gone, that longing becomes deeper, stronger, and unending.


To lose them is to lose a piece of home, a part of ourselves. Yet even in their absence, their love lives on—shaping who we are, reminding us of where we came from, and whispering to us in the silence that we are never truly alone, because the bond between parent and child is eternal.

Thursday, August 21, 2025

Career @ work

 A Few Realities We Need to See Before We Judge


I’ve spent over three decades in and around the IT services industry in different regions, seen it in its glory days, its stumble, and it reinventing itself. Over the years, also heard countless complaints — from employees, from clients, from the public.

But here’s the thing: before we keep blaming “them,” it’s worth stepping into their shoes for a moment.


The truth is, the primary mission of an IT services company is simple: grow shareholder wealth. That’s what they’re built for. Employee happiness matters — but it’s not the yardstick they’re measured by.


Now imagine being the CEO. You’ve got maybe two or three years in that chair, and every day is a race. The clock is ticking. Your board expects profit, your investors expect growth, and your own career after this depends on the bold, risky moves you make now. And you’re doing all this while staring down global and local rivals, each ready to undercut you. It’s not a blue ocean; it’s a battlefield.


Margins are razor-thin. The dream is 18% operating profit, but in reality, it often slips under 15%. And only 30–50% of revenue comes from ongoing contracts. The rest — along with the 5% growth targets — has to be hunted down afresh every single year. If you’re already a $10–30 billion company, that’s a mountain to climb, every January, without fail.


They are struggling to sustain growth, but now Union is actively trying to ensure enough headwind is provided, as they have done for many of the other industries.


Inside the organization, the structure is a pyramid — a broad base of freshers, fewer mid-level hands, and a tight layer of leaders. The average offshore rate a client pays is around $40K per year per resource. About half of that goes straight into salaries, which rise each year, while clients keep pushing for rate cuts because “productivity has improved.”


And the other half? It gets eaten up by the real costs of running the business: offices, IT systems, HR, sales, account management, compliance, training, travel, marketing, taxes, recruitment, and — yes — paying for the bench.


Productivity isn’t what the clock says. In a nine-hour day, actual measured output is often closer to 5.5 or 6 hours. Attrition runs around 20%, sometimes higher. Every departure costs more than money — it costs relationships, delivery stability, and trust. And the days of keeping a big bench “just in case” are mostly gone. If the skills aren’t in hot demand, a bench is a luxury few can afford.


Freshers start their journey with training in technical skills, soft skills, and customer interview readiness. If they don’t clear the assessments, they can’t be billed. Tough decisions follow. And the campus hire rate? It used to be 40% for aspiring IT grads. Now, it’s far lower.


Starting salaries hover around ₹3.5 lakh in big firms, often less in smaller ones. Startups might pay more, but it comes with sleepless nights about job stability. “Super dream” jobs of ₹10–25 lakh exist, but only for those with top grades, niche skills, and the stamina for longer hours and heavier stress.


Doing the same work year after year? That’s a slow road to stagnation. The market is too competitive. Upskill or risk being replaced by someone younger, cheaper, and hungrier.


It’s also worth remembering — IT salaries aren’t high because the work is uniquely more complex than other engineering fields. They’re high because clients overseas pay in stronger currencies.


Computer engineering is not the toughest engineering stream compared to electrical, electronics, and chemical.


Salary parity between people in IT and others is vast; it is not because you have any very special skills or work is much more challenging or stressful than others, but it is only because the billing and revenue mainly come from overseas customers.


Higher pay demands come from higher billing, which happens when a niche or higher outcome is ensured. This will demand longer working hours and higher stress, so choose your role with a clear understanding of your objectives – work-life balance with routine jobs or a demanding career with higher pay.


That leader making ₹1 or ₹2 crore+ today, also started small — maybe less than a lakh. They worked, learned, stumbled, and grew. The IT industry gave them — and millions like them — exposure, skills, travel, and a standard of living that was unimaginable in the 1990s.


Yes, the pressures are real. Yes, the trade-offs are painful. But this industry has transformed lives, lifted families, and rewritten futures.


So, count your blessings. Keep your eyes open to the realities. And remember — IT may not be perfect, but for many of us, it’s been the ladder we climbed, and the view from the top is still worth the journey.

Two Speed Breakers in life, you should ask, “Are we on the Right Path?”


Life’s a bit like a road trip—you’re cruising along, singing to your favorite playlist when suddenly, bump!—you hit 40. A few miles later, thump!—there’s 50. 


These aren’t just birthdays; they’re speed breakers that make you slow down and check if you’re still headed to the right destination. 


40: The Mid-Career Mirror 


Hitting 40 is like reaching the interval of a Bollywood movie. You’ve had some blockbuster moments, a few flop decisions, and maybe a dramatic walkout or two. But now, as the lights come up, you’re staring at yourself in the mirror, asking, “Is this career still my story?”


You’re not “young and hungry” anymore, but you’re also not ready to coast into “senior citizen” territory. You’re at a crossroads, and the questions hit harder than your last appraisal:


• Is this job my forever vibe, or am I just stuck in traffic?

• "Why is that 26-year-old already my manager?"

• "Should I be learning AI or growing aloe vera?"


If your current path feels like it’s leading to a dead-end job or a Monday morning dread-fest, it’s time to recalibrate. This isn’t a midlife crisis—it’s your gut saying, “Boss, let’s try a new route.” Maybe it’s time to:


• Pick up a new skill (Python’s hot, but so is knowing how to make a killer biryani).

• Switch jobs or even industries (who says you can’t go from IT to organic farming?).

• Ditch bad habits (like scrolling Insta at 2 AM) for better ones (like a 6 AM walk—yes, really).


Think of 40 as your career’s “edit button.” You’ve got enough experience to know what you’re good at and enough time to pivot toward what you love. So, grab a chai, ignore the gray hair, and ask: Where do I want to be at 50? If the answer’s not “exactly here,” start steering.


50: The Retirement Reality Check (a.k.a. “My Backyard Isn’t Paying My Bills”)


By 50, the road trip’s getting serious. You’re no longer just chasing promotions; you’re eyeballing the horizon—retirement. Back in our Parents’ Day, retirement was simple: you stopped working, grew some coconut, tapioca, vegetable, or paddy in the backyard, and hoped your kids would cover the rest for you and your spouse. Fast-forward to today, and that plan’s about as reliable as a 2G connection.


Life expectancy’s up (yay, modern medicine!), but so are costs. That backyard garden? It’s eating your savings faster than you can say “labor charges.” Your kids? They’re either in another city chasing their dreams or texting you for help with their EMI payments. And pensions? Unless you’re a government employee, that’s a fairy tale.


At 50, life drops a truth bomb: You’ve got 8–10 working years left, but maybe 25–30 years to live. That’s a whole season of life without a paycheck unless you plan now. Here’s the math:


• Working years left: 8–10 (if your boss doesn’t “restructure” you out).

• Retirement years: 25–30 (assuming you dodge the doctor’s bills).

• Savings needed: Enough to cover groceries, Netflix, political/religious mandated contributions, social events, and that occasional trip.


So, what’s the move? Start thinking passive income—mutual funds, fixed deposits, or maybe a side hustle (YouTube channel on “How to Grow Tomatoes Without Losing Your Shirt”?). 


Your dad’s generation retired to rest; you’re retiring to Excel sheets and budgeting apps.


The Modern Truth 


We’re the sandwich generation, caught between our parents’ “save in a piggy bank” wisdom and our kids’ “crypto is the future” optimism. Meanwhile, we’re just trying to stay relevant at work while Googling “Is 50 too late to start yoga?” Spoiler: it’s not.


The 40s and 50s are your wake-up calls to reflect, recalibrate, and maybe laugh at how you thought “adulting” would be easier. At 40, check if your career’s still your jam. At 50, make sure your wallet’s ready for the long haul. Because this road doesn’t end at 60 anymore—it’s a marathon, not a sprint.


So, hit pause at these speed breakers. Ask yourself: Am I on the right path? Then, with a grin and a plan, keep driving. 

A wise man I met on a journey once shared, "If your finances are secure, 70% of your worries in old age vanish."

Career Choices in India: The Tightrope Walk Between Passion, Pay, and Pragmatism


In India, a career is not merely a personal pursuit—it's a family decision, a financial strategy, and often, a social expectation. For many, selecting a profession is less about following a dream and more about managing economic risk in a highly stratified job market.


The Stark Reality of Unequal Pay


India’s career landscape is riddled with disparities. A fresh graduate in software engineering may earn between ₹5–10 lakh annually, while a teacher, nurse, or artist might earn a fraction—₹1–4 lakh. These aren’t just differences in numbers; they represent divergent life trajectories. In a country with soaring urban living costs, minimal social security, and limited institutional support for creative or vocational professions, financial safety becomes paramount.


It’s not uncommon for parents—often having made personal sacrifices—to guide their children toward conventionally "secure" fields such as engineering, medicine, or civil services. In doing so, they may unintentionally suppress the child’s artistic, literary, or unconventional aspirations. But in a socio-economic environment where job security is directly linked to survival, the pressure to prioritize practicality is deeply understandable.


A Global Comparison: Is Passion More Affordable Abroad?


In developed countries like the United States or the United Kingdom, the gap between professions is narrower, and the support systems more robust. Teachers, social workers, or musicians may not be wealthy, but they can often lead reasonably comfortable lives, earning between $50,000 and $80,000 annually. Health insurance, unemployment benefits, and retirement systems further cushion the risks of lower-income professions. In contrast, in India, such safety nets are limited or inaccessible for many.


A Strategic Middle Path: Stability First, Passion Later


Faced with these constraints, many Indians adopt a pragmatic two-phase strategy: build financial stability first, then pivot to passion. This aligns with the philosophy behind the FIRE (Financial Independence, Retire Early) movement. The approach is clear—work in high-paying roles during your 20s and early 30s, aggressively save and invest, then gradually transition to a vocation that offers purpose rather than profit—avoiding burnout from a soul-crushing job or financial stress from an underpaid passion.


A software engineer, for instance, might dedicate 10–15 years to the tech industry, accumulating wealth and securing a financial cushion. In their late 30s or 40s, they could explore careers in teaching, writing, public policy, or social entrepreneurship—fields that may not promise wealth but provide deeper personal satisfaction.


Ultimately, balancing passion with practicality is not a compromise—it’s a skill. One that can empower individuals to navigate life’s realities without abandoning their dreams.

Solitude

 


What is solitude for you?

Solitude is defined as the state or situation of being alone, often by choice, and typically without feeling lonely. It can also refer to a lonely or uninhabited place


Loneliness is an empty cup while solitude is a cup that is full. 

Create personalised strategies to incorporate solitude. 

I don't like being alone because.................................(Complete the sentence)


Convert threat into a message. 


Boredom can be a place for new idea to be born. 

Benefits of solitude:

  • Personal development

Help create self awareness, improve knowledge and skill and help build your behaviour and habits. It will support you and people around you. 
  • Mindfulness


Science behind the benefit:

  • Nervous system, switching to lower arousal system
  • Rewiring the brain - activating the internal focused network
  • Mind body connection - Strengthening vagal tone through mindfulness
Connects our psychological state and physical state. 

Vagas nerve is an important part of our nervous system. 

SOLE Implementation

S                    Start Small - 5 to 10 minutes. Make doeable change in your life. 
O                    Observe and Reframe
L                    Leave Space
E                    Establish Boundaries




Note to self: Time Capsule - for your future self

  • Grab pen, paper and envelop. 
  • Type 7 when you have the paper and pen. 
  • Question coming up, stay with them, will take it up. 
  • Write a note to  yourself - commiting to self growth - intentional solitude
  • Seal it.
  • Set a reminder to open it.
Some prompts:
  • Getting rid of negative feelings of solitude



"Solitude is not the same as loneliness!
By understanding the difference between solitude and loneliness, you can explore ways to cultivate meaningful alone time as a powerful tool for personal growth.

An insightful session on "The Power of Pause: Rediscovering Yourself in Solitude            

Shasi Tharoors Stand Up Comedy


 *Dr Shashi Tharoor @ Stand Up Comedian 👌*.....*too good to miss*

*and pl don't try and see any political angle in it, otherwise you will miss all the fun*.....

Sunday, August 17, 2025

Ramayana 41 of 2025

 





aapadaam apahartaaram daataaram sarvasaMpadaam.h |
lokaabhiraamam shriiraamam bhuuyo bhuuyo namaamyaham.h ||

"I bow again and again to Sri Rama Who removes (all) obstacles, grants all wealth and pleases all."

This is a salutation offered at the start of reading any scripture as per tradition. This prayer is for removing all obstacles encountered. The prefix Sri to Rama indicates that Rama is always accompanied by Sri, His consort Seetha in the form of goddess Sri Maha Lakshmi.

An auspicious day marking the end of Karkidakam and celebrating Janmastami. Time to contemplate,  Reread Ramayana.  The despair and grief Rama experienced Krishna never knew. Krishna cared not, nor grieved. He lead the warrior to destroy the wicked.

Their life and stories in their books are guides, guidelines and guidance to those willing to abide. One of the many is that between Sugreev's desire and Vaali's anger. Both lured them to sin. Desire and anger. KAAMOKAARSHEET MANYURAKAARSHEET.

Siblings  turns out to be Rajasic Ravan, Tamasic Kumbakaran and Satvic Vibeshan, born in the same family,  around same time and place. Can we generalise a community or group? Aren't each different?

#Ramayana #Mahabharata #Rama #Krishna #Valee #Sugreev #Rajagopalachari