Tuesday, October 27, 2026

Kattapana

 


We made a leisurely eastward drive from coastal Kochi to Kattapana which is not as touristy a place as Munnar or Thekkady. But our  stay at the pet friendly resort was idyllic.

Kerala is truly God's Own Country as we move from the sun-kissed beaches, past backwaters and the plains of coconut groves and verdant paddy fields upwards through plantations of rubber, cardamom, coffee and tea.

Bereft of polluting smokestack factories, Kerala's air is pristinely pure.

and ideally suited for "healthy living".

 Kerala should therefore focus on tourism ( especially medical) and be a preferred  destination for retirees from across the globe.


Urava Farm Stay, Kattapana.





Fafda and jalebi: Dussehra


 Fafda and jalebi: Dussehra/Navratri 

Time waits for no one


 This classic photograph, taken at the 1956 Cannes Film Festival, is a group photo of the most beautiful women of the era when cinema was first released.  The names of the people in the photo, from left to right, are: Marilyn Monroe, Audrey Hepburn, Sophia Loren, Brigitte Bardot, Elizabeth Taylor, and Grace Kelly.  Time waits for no one, and now only Sophia Loren (now 91 years old) remains of that generation of beauties.

Saheb Bibi Golam ~ Bimal Mitra




 Saheb Bibi Golam, the Bengali novel by author: Bimal Mitra was published in 1953.

The novel is a celebrated work of Bengali literature about the decline of a wealthy zamindar family and the disintegration of the feudal social order. 

The story unfolds through the life of Bhutnath, a young man who arrives in Calcutta seeking employment and becomes connected with the household of the wealthy Chowdhurys.

At the heart of the story is Chhoto Bou (the younger wife), a lonely woman whose husband, Chhote Babu, neglects her in favour of alcohol and other women. Desperate to win back his affection, she tries to adapt herself to his lifestyle, even taking to drinking in the hope that they might spend time together.

Bhutnath becomes a confidant and observer of her suffering. Her story unfolds against the backdrop of a household losing its wealth, authority and relevance as the old feudal order begins to crumble. 

The novel is about much more than a troubled marriage. It explores:

- A woman's loneliness and her longing for love and recognition.

- The unequal position of women in a patriarchal society.

- The decline of aristocratic privilege and feudal culture.

- The contrast between outward grandeur and inward decay.

The title can be understood as The Master, the Wife and the Slave — referring to the interconnected lives of the aristocratic husband, his wife and the man who becomes involved in their world.

Is the Raveena Tandon television adaptation the same as the book?

Yes, it is based on the same novel, but it is an adaptation rather than a scene-by-scene reproductio

Sahib Biwi Gulam (2004)

- Channel: Sahara One

- Lead actress: Raveena Tandon

- Raveena played Chhoti Bahu.

- The series was directed by Amitava Bhattacharya, with Rituparno Ghosh serving as creative director.

- It was a period drama filmed in Kolkata. 

  Other actors in the television series

  • Ayub Khan Played Chote Babu, Chhoti Bahu's husband.
  • Roopa Ganguly Played Majhli Bahu.
  • Mouli Ganguly Played Jaba.
  • Rajesh Shringarpure Played Bhutnath.
  • Arjun Chakraborty Played Majhle Babu.
  • Benjamin Gilani Played Subinay Babu.
  • Other cast members included Zeb Khan, Kabir Sadanand, Aparna Bhatnagar and Vaquar Shaikh. 

We also have the famous film Sahib Bibi Aur Ghulam (1962) This is the classic Hindi film produced by Guru Dutt and directed by Abrar Alvi.

Its principal cast was:

- Meena Kumari as Chhoti Bahu

- Guru Dutt as Bhutnath

- Rehman as Chhote Babu

- Waheeda Rehman as Jaba

It is based on the same Bengali novel, though the screenplay makes changes to the original story. 

Was fortunate to get the English translation titled Saheb Bibi Golam. The National Book Trust of India lists a 2024 edition of 636 pages. Reading the novel would give you a fuller understanding of the social world and the characters than either screen adaptation alone.

The novel first appeared in serialized installments in the Bengali newspaper, Desh. The story is set in the last few years of the nineteenth century, rapidly changing Calcutta. It is a tale of the city that Job Charnock set up in 1690. And on the other, it is a story of two families (very different from each other) seen through the eyes of the main protagonist, who is more of an observer than a classical hero. The book offers a panoramic view of Calcutta between the years of 1895- 1914, exploring its various facets as it changed over time. It is as much about Calcutta as it is about two women from two different households with contrasting lives. It is vivid in its descriptions of the city and people, filled with interesting and real characters, offering the modern reader a distinct feel of the time and place. The period of the novel covers epochal events in Indian history. Characters and events of then Calcutta has been captured in a very interesting way. 


The novel begins with a demolition of an old feudal mansion in Banamali Sarkar lane, Calcutta. It is sometime in the twentieth century and the overseer, Bhutnath Chakraborty is haunted by the memories of the past – when this mansion housed not only the great Chowdhury clan but also many different families of people who had been serving this family for generations. The Chowdhury mansion is a microcosm of the upper-class feudal set-up that was on it’s last legs in a city that was increasingly dominated by British colonialism and the rapid industrialisation.


The story then begins (in flashback) – Bhutnath Chakraborty – of village Fatehpur, District Nadia – lands in Calcutta from his small village, in search of employment. Bhutnath has been fascinated by Calcutta for a considerable time by then.

The emotional heart of the novel is Pateshwari, known as Chhoto Bou — the youngest wife in the family.

Her husband, Chhote Babu, is increasingly absorbed in drinking and visiting women outside the home. Although Chhoto Bou occupies the position of a respectable wife, she is deprived of the intimacy and companionship that marriage has led her to expect.

She does not simply want wealth or status. She wants her husband to spend time with her, to recognise her as a woman and companion, and to give her a meaningful place in his life.

Chhoto Bou begins to believe that if she can share her husband's habits, she might bring him closer to her. She tries drinking, hoping that this will create a bond between them.

Her decision is deeply poignant. Rather than asking why her husband refuses to fulfil his responsibilities, she begins changing herself to meet his desires.

What begins as an attempt to save her marriage becomes a destructive path. Her emotional dependence, isolation and growing entanglement with alcohol expose the terrible price she pays for wanting something that should never have been extraordinary: her husband's affection.

Bhutnath's relationship with Chhoto Bou gives the story much of its tenderness and complexity. He becomes someone through whom her loneliness and vulnerability can be seen.

He is not merely a narrator recording the fall of a wealthy family. Through his experiences, we encounter the human beings hidden behind its grandeur — people trapped by custom, desire, class and circumstances they struggle to control.

The novel's emotional power comes partly from this contrast between Chhoto Bou's inner life and the world that offers her so little freedom.

As the story progresses, the family's splendour becomes increasingly fragile. Its members continue to inhabit a world shaped by inherited privilege, even as the economic and social foundations of that world weaken.

The mansion's decline is therefore more than the fall of one family. It reflects the disintegration of a feudal order and the emergence of a changing society.

Chhoto Bou's personal tragedy and the household's decline unfold alongside each other. The fate of the woman and the fate of the old world become intertwined.

The novel leaves us contemplating the fragility of human relationships, the consequences of social inequality and the ways in which people can be destroyed by circumstances they did not create.

Kajol: Sunshine in a Tea Cup

 



Shobhana Samrat's mother is Rattan Bai. She was an actress and singer, and she acted in the film "Frontiers of Freedom" in 1936. Rattan Bai was also the grandmother of actresses Nutan and Tanuja, and she played a significant role in Shobhana's early life and career in the film industry.

I find Kajol so endearing. The way she speaks, the way she smiles, the way she laughs. She knows who she is, knows her boundaries and will not compromise them. She is her authentic self always



Happiness Is a choice, it is about the choices you make.

Success – we put to many pressure to define what should be…

It means you are happy with your life….

If you are satisfied with your life, beyond good and bad…You are able to do what you want.

You have to fill up your own bucket – whether it be pain bucket or happiness bucket, choice is yours.

I am strong and radiant because I can cry.

Your inners will come into your outers.

"I am strong and radiant because I can cry... "

 

Meditation is being supremely present in the present. – Mindfulness – Dhyan.

Pull mind back to the focus of what you are doing now. 




Untill Udar Khi Zindagi, everything was from heart. Starting acting then, and at the age of 18 was burnt out. 

Glamar and Fame are side effect and not enure with it. 

Feminisam is being completely who you are. 

She started acting in Bekhudi, Micky and Gautam where her protective parents in the movie. 

Mini Cooper Vs. Mercedes Benz

 The two Kerala car accidents in October 2026 have sparked a wider debate about whether wealth, family connections and social status can influence accountability under the law. Both involved young drivers and fatal collisions, but the circumstances were different.

1. The Mini Cooper crash — “My father will take care of everything”

11 October 2026 · Nedumbassery, near Kochi airport

  • Driver: Suhail Sajeev, 19, whose family is associated with business.

  • What happened: A speeding Mini Cooper collided with a scooter carrying three young people — Eyas (also reported as Iyas), Gopika and Devika, all around 21 years old. All three died.

  • Why it caused outrage: The driver was alleged to have been intoxicated. Witnesses reported that he said his father would take care of everything after the crash.

  • The money and influence controversy: The victims' families raised concerns that the accused's family connections might affect the investigation. The allegations of interference remain distinct from what has been established in court.

  • Legal development: On 17 October, a magistrate rejected bail applications by Suhail and three co-accused, citing concerns including possible witness influence and interference with the investigation.


2. The Mercedes-Benz crash — alleged influence of judicial power

25 October 2026 · Cheranalloor, Kochi

  • Driver: A 17-year-old boy, the son of an Additional District and Sessions Judge.

  • What happened: A Mercedes-Benz allegedly driven by the teenager struck the scooter of Jayabalakrishnan, a 55-year-old roadside food vendor, who died from his injuries.

  • Why it caused outrage: The teenager was initially released on station bail. The victim's family questioned whether the accused's father's position in the judiciary might influence how the case was handled. These are allegations, not proof of preferential treatment.

  • The power and accountability controversy: Following public protests and criticism of the initial police response, the police added a culpable homicide charge, took the teenager into custody again and subsequently presented him before the Juvenile Justice Board, which granted him bail.

  • Latest development as of 26 October: Police registered a case against the father as the vehicle's registered owner under Section 199A of the Motor Vehicles Act. The investigation was transferred to the District Crime Branch, and authorities indicated that they would seek cancellation of the teenager's bail.


What connects the two incidents?

Mini Cooper case

Mercedes-Benz case

19-year-old driver

17-year-old driver

Three people killed

One person killed

Business family's wealth and influence questioned

Judicial family's position and influence questioned

Reported remark: “My father will take care of everything.”

Concern centred on whether the father's official position could affect the investigation

Alleged intoxication and excessive speed

Excessive speed alleged; police initially reported no indication of intoxication



The larger question is about equality before the law. The victims came from ordinary working backgrounds, while the accused came from comparatively privileged families. The public concern is whether the same procedures, investigative rigour and accountability would apply regardless of wealth or connections.

It is important, however, to distinguish public suspicion from proven interference. Both cases require independent, evidence-based investigations, and the accused remain entitled to due process.

The common lesson is simple: a parent's wealth or position should neither shield a child from accountability nor determine the outcome of a legal case. Road safety, responsibility and justice must apply equally to everyone.



The family at the centre of the 11 October 2026 Nedumbassery crash is that of Suhail Sajeev, the 19-year-old accused of driving the car that killed three young people. 

- Father: Sajeev Jamal, a retail and textile businessman.

- Mother: Nooha Sajeev, a businesswoman who owns Iha Designs, a designer boutique brand with business operations in Kerala and the UAE.

- Son: Suhail Sajeev, 19, the principal accused in the fatal crash.

- Family business: Iha Designs, associated with designer clothing and boutiques. 

Why did the family attract public attention?

The Mini Cooper was reportedly registered in Nooha Sajeev's name, and she had shared a video of presenting the car to her son as a birthday gift. 

After the collision, witnesses reportedly heard Suhail say that his father would take care of the matter. This remark, together with concerns raised by the victims' families about the initial police response, fuelled allegations that wealth or connections might influence the case. Those allegations are not, by themselves, proof that the family interfered with the investigation.

On 18 October, Nooha issued a public statement expressing condolences to the victims' families, asking people not to spread unverified claims and saying that her family would support the bereaved families.

The crash killed Devika, Gopika and Ijaz (also reported as Eyas), three young people who worked in Kochi. The case has prompted a wider debate about parental responsibility, access to powerful cars and equal accountability under the law. 

The family publicly identified in the Kochi Mercedes-Benz accident of 25 October 2026 is that of Rino Francis Xavier, an Additional District and Sessions Judge serving at the Motor Accidents Claims Tribunal in Irinjalakuda, Thrissur district. 

- Father: Rino Francis Xavier, the registered owner of the Mercedes-Benz involved in the crash. Police named him as an accused under Section 199A of the Motor Vehicles Act in connection with his minor son's alleged offence. 

- Son: His 17-year-old son, who allegedly drove the car and struck a scooter on Container Road in Cheranalloor, Kochi.

- Victim: Jayabalakrishnan, a 55-year-old roadside eatery owner who died in the collision while returning home from work. He is survived by his wife and three children. 

The victim's relatives alleged that the judge intervened to protect his son and questioned the initial police handling of the case. These allegations should be distinguished from established findings.


Lessons:

Kashi Art Cafe in Fort Kochi


 By now, a vlog made by a gobar-headed nut-job about Keralam being a hotbed of Jihadi-sponsored anti-India activities has gone viral (predictably), with all like-minded nut-jobs praising it and sensible people condemning it. It is only to be expected in our crazy democracy, and I am not surprised.

Amrit Singh Darren, a North Indian influencer is the vlogger in the centre of the controversy, whose video about Kashi Art Cafe in Fort Kochi went viral in October 2026. His Instagram account is reported to be @littichokha_up_. The controversy is not simply about a painting or a cafe; it has developed into a wider debate about communal harmony, freedom of artistic expression and the portrayal of Kerala on social media. 

This douchebag had termed the above picture as a "portrait of Jinnah". That any sensible person would laugh at such a description is beside the point - this screwball is preaching to his choir, who will rail at anything even remotely connected to Pakistan.

This is an art installation by Riyas Komu, titled "Blood Brothers: Two Fathers from Gujarat". It depicts the irony of two leaders from the same state, both lawyers, compratiots in the freedom struggle, becoming opponents and fathering two neighbouring countries permanently at each other's throats. Two countries who are brothers united in blood, but who are constantly baying for the blood of the other. It's a very powerful political statement.

And about the artist: Riyas Komu is an artist from Keralam, based in Mumbai. He is internationally known and acclaimed. (Google for details.)

What exactly happened?

1. The cafe and its name

Kashi Art Cafe is a well-known cafe and gallery on Burgher Street, Fort Kochi, established in 1997. Contrary to the vlogger's assumption, the cafe's name is derived from the Japanese word kashi, associated with sweets and confectionery, rather than being a reference to the Hindu holy city of Kashi (Varanasi). The cafe serves a range of food, including beef dishes.

2. The artwork that triggered the row

The installation, Blood Brothers: Two Fathers from Gujarat, was created in 2008 by Kerala-born multimedia artist Riyas Komu. It juxtaposes images of Mahatma Gandhi and Muhammad Ali Jinnah, both born in Gujarat, whose intertwined political histories culminated in the Partition of British India. 

3. What the vlogger alleged

In a video posted around 22 October 2026, Darren objected to Jinnah being displayed alongside Gandhi, criticised the cafe for serving beef despite its name, and claimed that Muslims accounted for 95% of various businesses and occupations in Fort Kochi. He also alleged that local people with right-wing views were afraid to speak openly and portrayed Kerala as being in danger. Those demographic claims have been reported as allegations, not established facts. 

4. The backlash and police case

The video attracted criticism for allegedly encouraging religious division. Fort Kochi police registered a case under Sections 353(2) and 192 of the Bharatiya Nyaya Sanhita, concerning statements that may promote communal enmity and provocation likely to lead to rioting. Registration of a case does not establish guilt. 

What does the artwork actually mean?

Gandhi and Jinnah were contemporaries from Gujarat, both trained in law, and both played significant roles in the struggle against British rule. Yet their political paths diverged, and Partition resulted in the creation of India and Pakistan amid extraordinary violence and suffering.

The title Blood Brothers invites us to reflect on their shared origins and the intertwined histories of the two countries. The work can be understood as an exploration of brotherhood, political division and the enduring human cost of Partition, rather than as a simple endorsement of Jinnah. 

One important detail that many people may have missed

According to Onmanorama's report of 26 October 2026, the installation had already been removed from Kashi Art Cafe at least three months before the controversy erupted. The gallery had replaced it as part of its normal rotation of artworks. The viral video therefore revived a controversy around an installation that was no longer on display. The cafe subsequently experienced a surge in visitors coming specifically to see it. 

Why has this become such a big issue?

There are three distinct questions here:

- Artistic interpretation: Can an artist explore the complicated history of Gandhi, Jinnah and Partition without being accused of endorsing everything Jinnah stood for?

- Communal relations: Is it fair to portray an entire neighbourhood or state as dangerous on the basis of religious identity, unverified demographic claims or the food a restaurant serves?

- Freedom and accountability: People are entitled to criticise an artwork or a restaurant, but allegations of statements promoting communal enmity are matters for the legal process to examine.

The controversy has also entered Kerala's political debate, with leaders from different parties responding to questions about secularism, communal harmony and the vlogger's allegations. 

My assessment: The strongest response to a provocative video is to establish the facts, understand the artwork in its historical context and reject sweeping generalisations about communities. One can disagree with an artist's interpretation without treating the mere presence of Jinnah in an artwork as proof of anti-national activity.

Kashi Art Cafe in Fort Kochi is currently owned by Edgar Pinto, a businessman who also owns the Old Harbour Hotel. 

A little background:

- Founders (1997): Anoop Skaria and his wife, Dorrie Younger. They established the cafe as a space bringing together food, art and cultural conversations. 

- Current owner: Edgar Pinto, who took over the cafe and helped develop its role in Fort Kochi's contemporary art scene. 

Anoop Skaria, an important figure in Kochi's art and cultural community, passed away in October 2018.

Monday, October 26, 2026

Agentic AI

 




Reasoning -) Planning -) Acting





Continue the loop till good response score.


If you had an AI agent for daily task - what would it automate?




















https://app.crewai.com/

Build with no code. 





1. HR Interview Agent
Problem
HR team receives hundreds of resumes.
Agent Input

  • Candidate Resume (PDF)
  • Job Description
Agent Actions
  1. Read Resume
  2. Extract Skills
  3. Match with JD
  4. Calculate Match %
  5. Generate Interview Questions
Output
Candidate: John Smith
Experience: 4 Years
Skills: Python, SQL, AWS

JD Match: 82%

Recommended Interview Questions:

1. Loginto Crew Studio
2, Create New (Agent -) New AGent)
3. Tool and Integration

















Friday, October 16, 2026

Suhail


Many high-profile parents struggle to spend enough time with their children because of their busy schedules. Sometimes, they try to compensate by giving them expensive gifts or vehicles. But material comforts can never replace proper parenting or teach children to grow into responsible, compassionate human beings.
In this case, I feel Iha has failed in her parenting, even though she is undoubtedly a hardworking woman who built her own business through years of dedication and effort.
However, the tragic loss of three lives cannot be overlooked, and the person responsible must be held accountable for his actions. The victims and their families deserve justice, and no one should be allowed to escape responsibility.

At the same time, why should Iha Designs and the years of hard work behind the business be dragged into every discussion and deliberately tarnished because of her son's actions? His responsibility for this tragedy and her achievements as an entrepreneur are two different matters.

Building a business takes years of dedication, sacrifice, and hard work, but its reputation can be damaged in an instant. We can question her parenting while still acknowledging her professional achievements.

Justice must be served for the three lives lost, and accountability must be ensured. But holding someone accountable for their actions should not become an excuse to destroy another person's hard-earned livelihood..

For argument sake let's believe that his parents are not to be troubled, but then how does the son kill 3 people and then have the audacity to say that his Uppa will take care of him??
If a boy from a normal family faces this situation he will be scared to death and not be defiant after killing 3 people.
" Vappa nokkikolum Amma kanichu kodutholum ????

The courage and audicity to say this confidentially and not breakdown because his actions lead to 3 death is really annoying and unexpectable.




 




Another story of how Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely .

Suhail, was remanded to a Borstal school in Kakkanad while the Ernakulam Rural Police investigate the culpable homicide case. Looks like licence of three bars were revoked. They people in the car had been to three bars before the incident.





Thursday, October 15, 2026

Wintering ~ Katherine May

 


Katherine does a beautiful job of bringing out the tools one should harbour in one’s arsenal to weather difficult times. It’s a lovely, languid read, one that I would like to come back to.It’s so comforting to read especially if you are going through a time of stress, grief or facing challenges in your life. It is like being given permission to stop and heal from what challenges you. 

Author Katherine May invites us to embrace this winter with all that it has to offer. And May doesn't just mean the season, but rather the "Everybody winters at one time or another; some winter over and over again. Wintering is a season in the. It is a fallow period in life when you're cut off from the world, feeling rejected, sidelined, blocked from progress, or cast into the role of the outsider. Perhaps it results from an illness; perhaps from a life event such as a bereavement or the birth of a child; perhaps it comes from a humiliation or failure. Perhaps you’re in a period of transition, and have temporarily fallen between two worlds. Some winterings creep upon us more slowly, accompanying the protracted death of a relationship, the gradual ratcheting up of caring responsibilities as our parents age, the drip-drip-drip of lost confidence. Some are appallingly sudden, like discovering one day that your skills are considered obsolete, the company you worked for has gone bankrupt, or your partner is in love with someone new. However it arrives, wintering is usually involuntary, lonely and deeply painful. Yet it’s also" May was inspired to share her experiences from her own periods of winter and what she has learned from the radical act of real self-care (i.g. getting enough sleep, being restful, and generally slowing down our routines to combat the workaholic culture). May fearlessly combats the wave of toxic positivity - a newly morphed Instagramable version of bootstrap mentality - that has taken over many of the books that attempt to discuss our reactions to stress. What one can instead expect from 'Wintering' is a guide that is more akin to sharing a coffee with a friend than reading a self-help book.

'Wintering' is difficult to place into any one genre.May doesn't just look at weathering personal winters, she turns her pen to the anthropological and the historical as she examines how other cultures and creatures prepare for winter. May seeks out the peace and solace found in nature's winter. Observing everything from the hibernating nests of dormice, wolf dens, and the survival tactics of bees, to the practice of ice swimming, the wonder of the northern lights, and the frigid cold of the Arctic Circle and how those who choose to live there embrace winter. Casting her net wide a little closer to home, May writes about different spiritual practices that welcome winter; such as attending the winter equinox celebration at Stonehenge, discussing the rituals of winter with her Finnish friends, and evaluating the experiences of those who are battling with Seasonal Affective Disorder. May even includes the literary aspect of wintering by weighing the importance of snow in fairy tales, meditating on John Donne's poem "A Nocturnal upon St. Lucy's Day" and Sylvia Plath's "Wintering". May concludes that to welcome winter is to survive it. It is a hopeful and philosophical approach that I found deeply comforting.



In a lovely bit of writing, May reveals that in times of distress she likes to travel north. That the cold air feels clean and uncluttered and that she can think straight. I adhere to May's belief that the cold has healing properties. As she writes, "you apply ice to a joint after an awkward fall. Why not do the same to life?" There will always be winters. There will always be periods of sadness and solitude. Therefore, we must prepare for them as best we can. What does this look like in practice? Baking? Soup making? Reading my candlelight in cozy socks? Yes and no. Those things certainly aren't going to hurt your mentality when dealing with winters. However, it is more about recognizing when you need to coil into yourself. Protect yourself. Sleep. Slow down. Grow. Anticipate spring. Feel the turning of the year with gratitude.


CONTENTS 

PROLOGUE: 

SEPTEMBER: INDIAN SUMMER 

OCTOBER  MAKING READY HOT WATER GHOST STORIES 

NOVEMBER  METAMORPHOSIS SLUMBER 

DECEMBER  LIGHT MIDWINTER EPIPHANY 

JANUARY  DARKNESS HUNGER 

FEBRUARY  SNOW COLD WATER 

MARCH  SURVIVAL SONG 

EPILOGUE: LATE MARCH THAW 

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS 

This book is the work of many hands, and I only hope I can remember to thank them all. First and foremost, thanks to my interviewees, who were extremely generous with their time and their willingness to explore some difficult subjects. Any errors are mine and not theirs. Thanks also to Richard Ashcroft for emergency philosophical consultation services. Thanks to Nira Begum, Olivia Morris, Bianca Bexton, Sue Lascelles and the brilliant team at Rider Books; and to Anna Hogarty, Hayley Steed, Madeleine Milburn and the Madeleine Milburn Literary, TV and Film Agency. It’s hard to express my gratitude and surprise each time one of my book ideas is taken seriously and treated with such care. Thanks to all the friends and family who rushed in to help during a difficult couple of years. Thanks to H for finding many ingenious ways to allow me to sneak off and write, and to Lucy Abrahams for discreetly diverting work away from me so that I could finish my manuscript. She probably thinks I didn’t notice. Finally, thanks to Bert for constantly forcing me to dig deep into this life. It’s always worth it.

Wintering is a poignant and comforting meditation on the fallow periods of life, times when we must retreat to care for and repair ourselves. Katherine May thoughtfully shows us how to come through these times with the wisdom of knowing that, like the seasons, our winters and summers are the ebb and flow of life.

"I’m beginning to think that unhappiness is one of the simple things in life: a pure, basic emotion to be respected, if not savoured. I would never dream of suggesting that we should wallow in misery, or shrink from doing everything we can to alleviate it; but I do think it’s instructive. After all, unhappiness has a function: it tells us that something is going wrong. If we don’t allow ourselves the fundamental honesty of our own sadness, then we miss an important cue to adapt. We seem to be living in an age when we’re bombarded with entreaties to be happy, but we’re suffering from an avalanche of depression; we’re urged to stop sweating the small stuff, and yet we’re chronically anxious. I often wonder if these are just normal feelings that become monstrous when they’re denied. A great deal of life will always suck. There will be moments when we’re riding high, and moments when we can’t bear to get out of bed. Both are normal. Both, in fact, require a little perspective. Sometimes, the best response to our howls of anguish is the honest one: we need friends who wince along with our pain, who tolerate our gloom, and who allow us to be weak for a while when we’re finding our feet again. We need people who acknowledge that we can’t always hang on in there; that sometimes, everything breaks. Short of that, we need to perform those functions for ourselves: to give ourselves a break when we need it, and to be Kind.To find our own grit, in our own time."

Monday, October 12, 2026

Because He Is ~ Meghna Gulzar


 The book traces the life of Gulzar through the eyes of his daughter. Rather than focusing only on his artistic achievements, Gulzar reflects on her childhood memories, family life, and the unique bond they shared. She portrays him as a remarkably involved father who actively participated in raising her despite the demands of a successful career in cinema.

The memoir interweaves:

His journey as a poet, writer, lyricist, and filmmaker.
His personal triumphs and struggles.
The evolution of their father-daughter relationship.
The values he imparted, particularly independence and freedom of thought.
What Makes the Book Special?

One of the most memorable ideas in the book comes from Gulzar's philosophy of parenting:

Parents assume they know more than their children, but in reality, a parent and child are learning together. If the child is two years old, the parent is also a two-year-old parent.

This belief shaped his relationship with Meghna. The book describes how he:

Got her ready for school every day.
Rearranged his work schedule to be home when school ended.
Wrote her a book every year on her birthday until she was thirteen.
Key Themes
Fatherhood and parenting
Creative life and artistic discipline
Independence and individuality
Family, love, and respect
The man behind the public legend
Why Readers Connect With It

The book is often described as less a biography and more a tribute from a daughter to her father. It presents Gulzar as affectionate, emotionally available, intellectually curious, and quietly supportive, while also documenting the realities of his personal and professional.

It's a warm, reflective read rather than a dramatic celebrity memoir.

Actually ....I met them ~ Gulzar







Actually… I Met Them is a memoir by Gulzar. Published by Penguin Random House India in 2021, it is a collection of personal memories of the remarkable people he met, learned from, and worked with throughout his career.

The book takes you behind the scenes of Indian cinema, music, and literature through Gulzar's own recollections. Rather than offering a conventional biography of each celebrity, he shares the little moments, conversations, working relationships, quirks, and personal experiences that reveal what these remarkable people were like.

Some of the personalities he writes about include:

  • Bimal Roy: Gulzar's mentor and a father figure who helped shape his early journey in cinema.
  • Satyajit Ray: Memories of a great filmmaker and the intriguing possibility of their professional paths coming together.
  • Kishore Kumar: Anecdotes about his playful personality and his unique approach to work.
  • R. D. Burman: Personal memories of the composer and his creative world.

Other chapters feature people such as Hrishikesh Mukherjee, Ritwik Ghatak, Pandit Ravi Shankar, Pandit Bhimsen Joshi, Mahasweta Devi, Suchitra Sen, Sharmila Tagore, and others. The book contains 18 chapters, each centered on an individual. 

  • Intimate storytelling: You encounter these personalities through the eyes of someone who knew them personally.
  • Lessons in creativity: Their working habits, temperaments, artistic choices, and relationships offer insights into how great artists think.
  • Humor and humanity: The stories include amusing incidents as well as touching reflections.
  • A glimpse into cultural history: The recollections bring different eras of Indian cinema, music, and literature alive, accompanied by photographs. 
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Readers who enjoy literary memoirs, behind-the-scenes stories, and portraits of creative people would enjoy it. If you enjoy understanding not only what a person created but also who they were as a human being, this book offers that kind of reading experience.

The English edition was translated by Maharghya Chakraborty from Bengali. The book originated from conversations Gulzar had with Sanchari Mukherjee for a Bengali newspaper; the collected Bengali version was titled Panta Bhate.