Making judgement is fine and needed for living; being judgmental meaning - being overly critical in an unhelpful way, in ways that have harmful or negative consequences is harmful. Here are five signs of being judgemental:
1. Making a lot of negative moral evaluations of others.
2. Having a moral rating system that is skewed in your own favour
3. Jumping to negative moral conclusions about others; being inclined to believe the worst.
4. Moving very quickly from judgments of the form "This action is morally wrong" to ones of the form "This person is morally corrupt."
5. Acting as if you can know that what so-and-so did was wrong even though you know much less about the context of so-and-so's action than so-and-so.
Being judgmental distorts our perception of other people, of ourselves and of what matters most in living a well-lived human life.
We judge others because we need to feel better about ourselves. It may make us feel superior or secure in the short-term, but the long-term stress of never feeling good enough can lead to a host of health issues.
How easy it is to be judgemental about others. Most of us are good at it; we judge on how the cricketers should have played; how the soldiers should have fought; who are we to judge and how are we to know what exactly is going at that place, at that point in time – there will be physical, emotional, external and internal factors determining decision making
Being Non judgemental can lead to lower levels of depression, anxiety and stress-related illnesses.
Tame the judgemental you and bring out zen-fullness; here are few tips:
Become aware of your behaviour: admitting you have a problem is the first step in recovery,
Believe in yourself: You don't need to judge others, because you're awesome. So believe in that, and remind yourself of it every day. When you feel truly content and comfortable in your own skin, you'll likely discover that you find less fault in others.
Put yourself in someone else's shoes: Remember, you make the choices you do because of your unique upbringing and life circumstances. Not everyone has had the same experiences, challenges and blessings you have had. Be empathetic and understanding.
Stop gossiping: Gossips are worse than thieves because they steal other person’s dignity, honest reputation and credibility; which are challenging to restore. When your feet slip, you can always recover your balance, but when your tongue slips you cannot recover your words.
Watch your language: Don't tell people what they 'should' do, or deem a choice to be right or wrong, bad or good. That's applying your moral code to someone's actions – and it's up to others to decide what's right for them.
If people say something bad about you, judge you as if they know about you, don’t feel bad. Just remember, “Dogs bark, if they don’t know the person”