Showing posts with label Death. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Death. Show all posts

Saturday, October 10, 2026

Double Remedy Day


Today, October 10, 2026, is Sarva Pitru Amavasya (also known as Mahalaya Amavasya or Pitru Moksha Amavasya). Because it falls on a Saturday, it is also highly significant as Shani Amavasya.
This rare combination makes today an incredibly powerful day for spiritual cleansing, ancestral blessings, and karmic remedies.

If you do not know the exact death anniversary (Tithi) of a departed loved one, or if you missed performing rituals during the fortnight, performing Shraddha or Tarpan today covers all ancestors collectively.

According to Hindu tradition, the souls of ancestors visit the earthly realm during Pitru Paksha. Today is the day they bless their families and return to their heavenly abode. Seeking their forgiveness and expressing gratitude today brings peace, prosperity, and removes Pitru Dosha.

Culturally, Mahalaya marks the end of the dark fortnight and the arrival of Goddess Durga. Sharad Navratri begins tomorrow morning, transitioning the energy from remembrance to celebration.

This time it's special and powerful as it falls on a Saturday. While Pitru Paksha is about the genetic or inherited karmic debt of your ancestors, Shani Dev is the cosmic judge of your own current lifecycle actions. Observing today helps alleviate Shani Dhaiya, Sade Sati, or afflicted Saturn placements.

This is historically treated as a "Double Remedy Day" because both influences deal heavily with karmic balance. The conjunction of two mighty carmic forces.

Amavasya represents a period of deep darkness before a new cycle begins. Strikingly, the crow is deeply tied to both aspects of this day. In Hindu tradition, crows are believed to be the vehicles that carry food offerings directly to our ancestors (Pitrus). Concurrently, the crow is the official divine vehicle (Vahana) of Lord Shani. The convergence emphasizes that actions taken today have a dual impact—pacifying the past (ancestors) while aligning with the judge of the present (Shani).


 

Monday, October 05, 2026

The Flydubai FZ1073 Story: Fact, Perception, and the Search for Truth

 



The September 30 incident involving Flydubai Flight FZ1073, travelling from Dubai to Tel Aviv, has rapidly become more than an aviation story. According to authorities, the aircraft was diverted to Saudi Arabia after a violent cockpit incident involving the co-pilot, while passengers, crew, and off-duty pilots reportedly helped prevent a potential catastrophe. Investigations are ongoing, and aviation and security agencies continue to examine the facts.


Yet public opinion has split into two very different camps. War isn't over: Al-Qaeda praises flydubai co-pilot, calls for more attacks


One side sees the incident as a real-life story of courage. For them, the captain, crew members, passengers, and those who intervened represent ordinary people making extraordinary decisions under pressure. The praise directed at those involved reflects admiration for composure, professionalism, and human bravery in the face of danger.


The other side remains skeptical. Some question whether all reported details will ultimately withstand scrutiny, noting how dramatic elements, conflicting reports, and evolving narratives can make real events resemble a Hollywood screenplay. They argue that major stories often acquire layers of interpretation before all facts are established.


In many ways, the debate resembles the theme explored in the film Drishyam: the same sequence of events can generate multiple versions of the truth depending on who is telling the story. The Malayalam and Hindi versions themselves arrive at similar truths through different narrative paths.


Perhaps the lesson is that facts, stories, and perceptions are rarely identical. History records events, people construct narratives, and truth if ever often emerges only after time, evidence, and careful investigation separate certainty from speculation.

Sunday, September 27, 2026

Now


When I'll be dead.....,
Your tears will flow,..
But I won 't know...
Cry for me now instead !

You will send flowers,..
But I won't see...
Send them now instead !

You'll say words of praise,..
But I won't hear..
Praise me now instead !

You'll forget my faults,..
But I won't know...
Forget them now, instead !

You'll miss me then,...
But I won't feel...
Miss me now, instead

You'll want to say Love You...
But I won't be able to hear ...
Say it now, instead

You'll wish...
You could have spent more time with me,...
Spend it now instead !!

''Spend time with every person around you, your families, friends, lover, acquainted....

Make them feel  Special ,
Because  you never know when time will take them away from you forever''..

Life is too short.
Love  all   and   Forgive all.🏃🍫

Tuesday, September 01, 2026

Tribute to Praveen Anna @ Himalayan Memories













North Kailash


 South Kailash


Praveen Anna was more than our leader and guide; he was the quiet rhythm that steadied our Kailash Mansarovar - Himalayan steps. In the silence of the peaks, his presence reminded us that strength can be gentle, and guidance can be wordless.

To me, he meant trust — the kind that lets you walk into the unknown without fear. He meant simplicity — a reminder that life’s grandeur lies in shared laughter, warm tea, and patient listening. He meant anchor — when the valleys seemed too deep, his calm steadiness held us firm. So many memories of him linger.

With our group it was his second Sajourn in 2018. Soon after his first trip he joined our team. In our flight from Nepal, I had the opportunity to be seated next to him, and we had meaningful chat. It was amazing to see how after the walk to Kailash, he immediately started dancing with joy. The various games he made us play is fresh in my mind and feel like just yesterday though it has been 8 years. I can still hear him echo endurance, when he asked each of us to explain our feelings in one word.

Ever since the news reached us of his being missing in the recent China flash flood at the Immigration Centre, my heart carries grief. Grief, because the mountains have lost a soul who mirrored their quiet majesty.

Praveen Anna’s memory will remain like the Himalayas themselves — vast yet humble, enduring yet compassionate. His absence leaves a silence, may his spirit continue to guide those who loved him.

May his journey onward be as peaceful as the mountain dawns he cherished. May those who mourn him find strength in remembering the gentleness he embodied.




 This year Praveen Anna was with the S3 group of which, 22 were from the United States, 12 from Canada, 11 from Australia, 9 from the United Kingdom, 4 from Germany, 3 from France, 3 from Nepal, 2 from Netherlands, 2 from New Zealand, 2 from Singapore, 2 from Spain, one each from Finland, Hungary, Israel, Lithuania, Philippines, Portugal, Russia, and South Africa. A total of 80, this includes 34 male and 46 female participants and a few other volunteers who were camped in the nearby hotels... three volunteers and one doctor. But we have no official confirmation of any kind. But looking at the scale of destruction, it looks bad. 

Can we give weightage for 'hope'. This is all what we aspire for. Hope. That someone who we cared for is in a better place.....🙏🏼

Tuesday, April 07, 2026

Bhagavathi Attai...


 Bhagavathi Attai...am Sorry, please 🙏 forgive me. Thank you. I love you. 

Your repeated signs were a lesson.

Grief, Guilt and Gross negligence in the delay in meeting you has no excuses.

You will be fondly remembered.  

What is destined to be, will be. What is not destined to be will never be.

Will remember you say where ever you had been to, Bahrain,  Mumbai, Canada you were meant to be in Kitchen.

On my birthday,  I had the desire to you, so also on Easter. Sunday I felt like you telling me, I have given you two opportunities,  will not give you any more.

Don't keep waiting. Just do.

Saturday, January 31, 2026

Ajit Pawars Death ~ Plane Crash

 While India’s news is full of talk about #AjitPawar’s death and what happens next in politics, a much quieter and more painful story is being ignored. In the halls of power, people are discussing seats and elections. 



But in four homes in Thane, Mumbai, and Delhi, there is only silence.


When that plane crashed in #Baramati, the fire did not care who was important and who was not. 


It took a politician, but it also took a father, a daughter, and a protector.


Looking at the news today, you would think only one person died.


We need to say their names: #Sumit, #Shambhavi, #Pinky, and #Vidip.


Captain Sumit Kapoor was not just the pilot. He was a veteran who had spent 16,500 hours in the sky. He was also a father whose son became a pilot just to be like him. Today, that son has to live with the fact that every time he flies, he will see his father's face. For him, this wasn’t a political event—it was the end of his hero.


Then there is Captain Shambhavi Pathak. She was only 25. The daughter of an Army officer, she worked incredibly hard to earn her pilots license, even going to New Zealand to train. Her last act wasn't a speech; it was a simple "Good Morning" text to her grandmother. Her father is a soldier who knows about duty, but no amount of training helps a parent bury a daughter who was just starting her life.


In a small chawl in Mumbai, the story is even harder to hear. Pinky Mali had promised her father, Shivkumar, that she would call him the moment she landed. She even told him she would try to let him say hello to "Dada" on the phone. Now, Shivkumar is sitting in his room, holding a phone that will never ring. His heart is broken by a promise that was snapped in a second.


While the "important" man was being looked after, Vidip Jadhav was just doing his job, like he had since 2009. He left his house in Thane at 6:30 in the morning, waving to his neighbours like any other day. He leaves behind a wife and two young children. To the news cameras, he was just "security." To those kids, he was the most important man in the world.


An empty chair at a dinner table in a small flat hurts just as much as one in a palace. A mother’s cry in a chawl is just as loud as the grief of a famous family. If we only cry for the powerful, we have forgotten how to be human.


Five families were broken in that crash. All of them are hurting the same. We should remember all of them.


#CreditsToTheRightfulOwner

Dr. Roy C.J ~ Confident Group



Dr. C.J. Roy (also known as CJ Roy), the 57-year-old founder and chairman of Bengaluru-based Confident Group—a prominent real estate developer operating in Karnataka, Kerala, and beyond—was found de*ad on January 30, 2026, at his office in central Bengaluru from a self-inflicted g*nshot wound, with police suspecting su*cide amid ongoing Income Tax Department raids (and some reports mentioning Enforcement Directorate scrutiny) on his company's premises. A luxury car enthusiast, he owned an extensive collection including reportedly 12 Rolls-Royce models (such as multiple Phantoms), Lamborghinis, a Bugatti Veyron, and other high-end vehicles, though money couldn't shield him from the tragic circumstances of his d*ath, which has shocked the business community.


He worked for HP heading planning decision,  quit and joined Real Estate as per his sweet will and not a chance.

The tragic death of Confident Group Chairman C.J. Roy has shocked the business world and sparked a deeper conversation about Emotional Intelligence and success. Roy was known for building a powerful real-estate empire and living a life many admired. From the outside, he represented confidence, achievement, and ambition. But his sudden passing reminds us that success on paper does not always mean peace of mind.


On the day of the incident, Roy was facing intense pressure following official searches linked to his business. While investigations continue, experts say moments like these test a person’s Emotional Intelligence, the ability to understand emotions, manage stress, and seek support during difficult times. Leaders often carry silent burdens, and without strong emotional awareness or support systems, pressure can feel overwhelming.


C.J. Roy’s story is now being seen as more than a business tragedy. It is a powerful reminder that Emotional Intelligence is as important as financial success for personal growth and wellbeing. Wealth, power, and recognition cannot protect someone from emotional struggles. As people discuss this story online, one question stands out are we focusing enough on emotional strength while chasing success?

There is a possibility that this was a homicide staged to appear as a suicide. This warrants a thorough and independent investigation.

Friday, August 22, 2025

Parents


 When Parents Die 💔

Nothing is ever the same again. A part of us changes forever. We can no longer simply be children, because the very people who made us feel safe, loved, and sheltered are no longer here. We no longer have their warm hugs to run to, their tender kisses to comfort us, or their words of encouragement that once gave us courage to face the world.


Life suddenly feels heavier and harder, because their protective love—the shield that once surrounded us—is gone. When our parents leave this world, no matter how old we are, we are left as orphans. And that truth is painfully hard to accept at any age. You may have your own family now, but deep inside, the face of your parents, their voices, and their love remain etched in your soul for eternity.


We grow older, but within each of us lives a child—longing to be cared for, guided, and protected by Mom and Dad. That child never disappears, and when our parents are gone, that longing becomes deeper, stronger, and unending.


To lose them is to lose a piece of home, a part of ourselves. Yet even in their absence, their love lives on—shaping who we are, reminding us of where we came from, and whispering to us in the silence that we are never truly alone, because the bond between parent and child is eternal.

Thursday, January 02, 2025

Live : Be Alive



Whatever happens, stay alive.
Don't die before you're dead.
Don't lose yourself, don't lose hope, don't lose direction. Stay alive, with yourself, with every cell of your body, with every fiber of your skin.
Stay alive, learn, study, think, read, build, invent, create, speak, write, dream, design.
Stay alive, stay alive inside you, stay alive also outside, fill yourself with colors of the world, fill yourself with peace, fill yourself with hope.
Stay alive with joy.
There is only one thing you should not waste in life,
and that's life itself...

- Virginia Wool




 


His Staus Update in FB and I started still there


The charred body of an Lanes was found in a gutted car in a secluded rubber plantation ...


The news send shiver across....Not a good news to start the year with. 

Wednesday, September 18, 2024

Chandran Uncle


 


Uncle you will be greatly missed.  Have heard of you since childhood, but started interacting with you since 1994, and even more since 2000. 

It was around the time of your fathers death, I got to know and meet the full family, and all of it feel like just yesterday. 

I remember how you would be there for us, for everything, irrespective of our asking or informing. When I first got my job and moved to this side, on the day of joining hostel, even before we reached, you were there. Those were the days of no mobile phone, I wonder how you knew.  Thara stayed at your home during the Industrial Training days. 

In my second innings again I went with them , my mom had kept a surprise mobile in my bag for me, which kept ringing when me and aunty had been to a silent place.

Then the discussion on Income tax and return filing, place hunt for Thara, and my Achan's Chemo. For Achan it was you and Panku Uncle his constant companions, Arvi Uncle was more like his elder brother. 


 Kakkachan - Kakkanad Chandran,  that is what people called him as he was dedicated to his work and would never leave Kakkanad.  But once retired as DGM, his heart and mind was in Potta. 

Am curious to know what happens after death, have you met my dad in heaven? Have the friends met? How is all there? How are you? Both of you still in Potta? 




Not over it, and here comes the news of another death. Raghavan Uncle. It's interesting how people meet in life. How they connect . And then what happens?




Tuesday, September 03, 2024

Survive - Mary Magdalene

 




Losing a loved one is one of life's most difficult and devastating transitions - it could be death or separation. It is never easy to say goodbye. Death, or any kind of separation from someone (or something) we love, is an experience that can rattle us to our very core and uproot us from the life we know. The pain of loss is often too unbearable for words; it leaves us dazed, dumbfounded and shocked. Then suddenly, there comes a day when we wake up, but it takes time. 

Loss is a part of life we all must face during our time on earth. We will lose people we love and adore, people we feel close to in certain ways, people we have come to know in the public eye. We will lose people we didn't even think we cared for anymore, and we will be shocked at the impact of that loss on our lives. We will grieve with our nation and the world for the tragedies and losses that reach universal proportions and affect all people. We will mourn the ended relationships and significant personal losses that herald the end of an era. 

Each will face mourning and grief in our own personal way, in our own time, universal principal is 'There is no way over grief, only through it'. We must cry, feel the pain, get to the end, surrender and let go. It is a complex process, a healing journey. 

Death and loss place us in one of life's most profound and challenging 'classrooms'. When someone or something significant dies, a part of us does as well. This ending births a new beginning. 

Mary Magdalene, shows us the power of a woman's love, the challenge of the healing heart and the willingness to go on in the face of deep mourning. She represents the right to grieve and the ability to survive and grow beyond any loss. 

Embrace your pain, stay present, honor your feelings, Carry on, Build an altar, honor the gifts, take over the mantle, Move on. 

The Goddess Pages ~ Laurie Sue Brockway.

Friday, April 05, 2024

Death Process

 It’s normal to wonder what will happen when you die. From a physical standpoint, death is when the body's vital functions stop, including breathing (respiration), heartbeats, and, brain activity.

The actual moment of death is part of the process of dying during which all these functions shut down. Sometimes, it happens gradually and sometimes it happens very quickly.

After death, the body starts to undergo changes as its temperature drops. The skin color and texture look and feel different, and the muscles relax, stiffen, and then relax again.

What Happens at the Moment of Death?

By definition, death is when blood (circulatory) and breathing (respiratory) stop and cannot be brought back, or brain death (when the brain/brain stem stops working) occurs.

The determination of death must be made according to accepted medical standards.

The moment of death is not necessarily painful. While people with certain medical conditions may feel pain at the end of life, others die without any pain. 

Often, people with terminal conditions like cancer get pain medication so they are comfortable during the dying process. 

The moment of death is often thought of as the moment when the heartbeat and breathing stop. However, research is showing that death may not be that immediate. 

The brain is thought to keep “working” for 10 minutes or so after death, meaning that a person’s mind may have some kind of awareness of dying.

In a hospital, there are a few criteria that healthcare providers use to declare death including:

  • No pulse 
  • No breathing
  • No reflexes
  • No reaction from pupils to bright light 

In a setting like an ER or ambulance, paramedics look for the five signs of irreversible death to determine if resuscitation, or revival, would be possible or not. 

What Happens One Hour After Death?

At the moment of death, all of the muscles in the body relax (primary flaccidity). The eyelids lose their tension, the pupils dilate, the jaw may fall open, and the joints and limbs are flexible.

With the loss of tension in the muscles, the skin will sag, which can cause prominent joints and bones in the body, such as the jaw or hips, to stick out more. 

What Happens One Hour After Death?

At the moment of death, all of the muscles in the body relax (primary flaccidity). The eyelids lose their tension, the pupils dilate, the jaw may fall open, and the joints and limbs are flexible.

With the loss of tension in the muscles, the skin will sag, which can cause prominent joints and bones in the body, such as the jaw or hips, to stick out more. 

As muscles relax, sphincters release and allow urine and feces to pass.

Within minutes of the heart stopping, the body will get pale as the blood drains from the smaller veins in the skin (pallor mortis). This process can be more visible in people with light skin compared to darker skin.

The body starts to cool from its normal temperature of 98.6 degrees Fahrenheit until it reaches the air temperature around it. 

The “death chill” (algor mortis) is when the body temperature falls at a steady rate of 1.5 degrees F per hour.

The expected decrease in body temperature during algor mortis can help forensic scientists get the approximate time of death, assuming the body has not completely cooled or been exposed to extreme environmental temperatures.4

What Happens 2 to 6 Hours After Death?

Since the heart no longer pumps blood, gravity begins to pull it to the areas of the body closest to the ground (pooling), a process called livor mortis.4

If the body is not disturbed for several hours, the parts of the body that are nearest the ground can develop a reddish-purple discoloration that looks like a bruise. It’s caused by the accumulation of blood.5 Embalmers sometimes call it the "postmortem stain."

From 2 to 6 hours after death, chemical changes in the body's cells cause all muscles to stiffen (rigor mortis). The first muscles affected are the eyelids, jaw, and neck.6

Over the next several hours, rigor mortis spreads to the face and down the chest, abdomen, arms, and legs until it finally reaches the fingers and toes.

Interestingly, the old custom of placing coins on the eyelids of the deceased might have originated from the desire to keep the eyes shut, since rigor mortis affects them first.

When infants and young children die, it is not unusual for their bodies to not display rigor mortis, possibly because of their smaller muscle mass.

What Happens 7 to 12 Hours After Death?

Maximum muscle stiffness from rigor mortis in the body occurs after about 12 hours. However, this timeline will be affected by a person's age, physical condition, sex, air temperature, and other factors.

At this point, the deceased's limbs are hard to move. The knees and elbows will be slightly flexed, and the fingers and toes can look unusually crooked.

What Happens 12 Hours After Death?

After reaching a state of maximum rigor mortis, the muscles start to loosen because of the continued chemical changes in the cells and internal tissue decay.

The process (secondary flaccidity) takes place over one to three days and is affected by external conditions such as temperature (for example, cold slows the process).7

During secondary flaccidity, the skin shrinks and creates the illusion that the deceased’s hair and nails are growing. Rigor mortis starts to disappear going in the opposite direction—from the fingers and toes to the face—over 48 hours.

Once secondary flaccidity is done, the body's muscles will relax again.

Summary

The process of dying is natural and follows several steps. You might be curious about what will happen to your body after you die or you might prefer not to think about it. Whether you want to learn about what physically happens to the body after death is up to you.

Here is a brief summary of the changes that happen in the body in the hours and days after death:

One hour: Relaxation of muscles (primary flaccidity) starts right away, followed by the skin becoming pale

Two to six hours: Muscles begin to stiffen (rigor mortis)

Seven to 12 hours: Muscle stiffness peaks (rigor mortis is complete)

12 hours: The muscles start to relax again (secondary flaccidity) and the process will take 1 to 3 days

What part of your body dies first?

At the end of life, organs shut down at different rates. For instance, the lungs typically cease working before the heart stops completely.

In some people, the brainstem stops functioning before other organs. This is known as brain death. However, research suggests some brain functions may continue up to 10 minutes after death

How long does a body stay warm after death?

The body begins to get colder immediately, but body temperature drops slowly, at 1.5 degrees F per hour.

 What is the last part of the body to die?

The brain and nerve cells require a constant supply of oxygen and will die within a few minutes, once you stop breathing. The next to go will be the heart, followed by the liver, then the kidneys and pancreas, which can last for about an hour. Skin, tendons, heart valves and corneas will still be alive after a day.

For the first few minutes of the postmortem period, brain cells may survive. The heart can keep beating without its blood supply. A healthy liver continues breaking down alcohol. And if a technician strikes your thigh above the kneecap, your leg likely kicks, just as it did at your last reflex test with a physician.

As the blood pools, patches appear on the skin within 30 minutes of death. About two to four hours postmortem, these patches join up, creating large dark purplish areas towards the bottom of the body and lightening the skin elsewhere. This may be less apparent on darker skin. This process is called livor mortis.

Once your brain stops functioning, it is of course impossible to hear things. However, if your heart stops first your brain may still be able to function for a brief period of time before running out of oxygen. During this period you could most likely still hear.

What happens 2 minutes before death?

Facial muscles may relax and the jaw can drop. Skin can become very pale. Breathing can alternate between loud rasping breaths and quiet breathing. Towards the end, dying people will often only breathe periodically, with an intake of breath followed by no breath for several seconds.

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Note the eyes fails to detect light soon after death, but the Corona would be alive for almost a day. 

Sunday, January 07, 2024

Incredible India ~ Mastercrafted Copywriiting

Masterfully crafted, arresting visuals by Ogilvy for Incredible India. Masterclass in copywriters indeed. It's not just the Amul Ads.


'Not all Indians are Polite, Hospitable and Vegetarian'


'And to think these days men get away with giving chocolates and flowers to their wives'


'One day men will travel at the speed of thought. Pity. "


'The inspiration behind the rapid advancement in camera technology.'


'Rat race, stress, Corporate fiction, rise above it'


'A step by step guide to salvation' 



'Don't panic. There is always rebirth.'


What are your inspiration?

Tuesday, September 19, 2023

Deathiquette

 Deathiquette – its not about u the condolence giver. Its about the bereaved who have lost a big chunk of their heart.

Offer help if you can – silenly and discreetly.

And say some kind words about the departed if you knew them well enough. Or be quiet and let the bereaved mourn in peace

But for gods sake at my most intense time of grief do not be so self absorbed and insensitive enough to only talk about ur past losses … its painful. 

Death is not a social outing… its a heart wrenching , soul devastating irreparable loss.

Grief is real – only the real will understand.

If the bereaved do not respond to ur calls/ messages be gracious. Not righteous. If they dont respond, be empathetic. This is not about you… its about them.

Do not ever ever advise them to move on This is the most insensitive of it all.

Friday, December 31, 2021

Anusha - Let Go, Be Happy; can we?

A year that did not deter unpleasant surprises.  Wanted and expected to end it on a positive note, and the year keep proving that there is still more to be unfolded. 

Can hear your sweet voice, and see your beautiful  kollams, can't believe what I heard  praying that it's not true and  if true, may there be abundant strength to bear the loss.

May the almighty let your soul rest in peace and give you and each one in the family the strength to bear this loss. The news is devastating,  and I was lost... feel bad that I was not around at this time, but had been praying for each of you.


This is my favorite. So young and charming you where. What would your kids do without you? My heart goes out to your daughter and of course to your son, mom, hubby and others at home too.

Easy to say life goes on but not for the families who lost their near and dear ones. I think God fell in love with your make shift restaurants, songs and kolam, and God wanted one for heaven.  What a loss it is going to be for the dear ones, you have left behind - especially all those who have a part of you in them. 

You are the fourth person, with a son and daughter, who left very untimely. Wondering why, and the faces of others and their family flash before me. May there be lot of strength and courage. 

Religion, customs, traditions, horoscope, was any of these unable to foresee this coming, and find a solution? 

Saturday, November 06, 2021

Death & Hope - Zindagi Eak Safar Hey Suhana, Yeha Kal Khya ho, Kisne Jana

 One day you may hear a voice for the last time; and you never know which day that would be.

A POWERFUL poem by Prof Lee Tzu Pheng

Sip your Tea

Nice and Slow

No one Ever knows

when it’s Time to Go,

There’ll be no Time

to enjoy the Glow,

So sip your Tea

Nice and Slow.

Life is too Short but

feels pretty Long,

There’s too Much to do, so much going Wrong,

And Most of the Time You Struggle to be Strong,

Before it’s too Late

and it’s time to Go,

Sip your Tea

Nice and Slow.

Some Friends stay,

others Go away,

Loved ones are Cherished but not all will Stay.

Kids will Grow up

and Fly away.

There’s really no Saying how Things will Go,

So sip your Tea

Nice and Slow.

In the End it’s really

all about understanding Love 

For this World  

and in the Stars above,

Appreciate and Value who truly Cares,

Smile and Breathe

and let your Worries go,

So Just Sip your Tea

Nice and Slow."

When I'm dead.

Your tears will flow

But I won't know

Cry with me now instead.

You will send flowers, 

But I won't see

Send them now instead

You'll say words of praise 

But I won't hear.

Praise me now instead

You'll forget my faults,

But I won't know.....

Forget them now  instead.

You'll miss me then,

But I won't feel.

Miss me now, instead.

You'll wish You could have spent more time with me,

Spend it now instead

When you hear I'm gone, you'll find your way to my house to pay condolence but we haven't even spoken in years.

Look for me now.

People should move on, and not become a prisoner of the past. You grieve. There is no better medicine than grieving. You grieve in private. But come back to life with vigor. All of these is true generally, especially during these times, when there is no hope for tomorrow. Nothing can be more wrong than that. 

"Most of the excuses I made...

- not enough time

- not enough money

- not enough knowledge

- not the right connections

...were just ways to avoid the real bottleneck: Not enough courage.

There was always a small step I could have taken—if I had the guts to take it.

Friday, October 29, 2021

Health Economics and Life Loss

Everybody would die one day, where, when and how, nobody knows. 

Every day is a mystery. It was so hurting to know that we are so engrossed in our work, we have no time to ask for or share others feelings. 

We all have a story to  tell. Knowing your life story- the good, bad and ugly parts- helps you become more self aware and improves your relationship with yourself and others. It builds your resilience and grit. 

Each of us have these resilient life moments-  some deeply personal. While the scars may remain (as an evidence of healing), through those experiences you may have a newfound appreciation for life, discovering personal strengths, a sense of enhanced relationship with self and/or others, discovery of new possibilities and/or a sense of deepening spiritual changes (Tedeschi & Calhoun)

While the choice to share any personal BUT resolved  resilient life story moment is ones to make, to share is the best way to show you care. Talking helps. 

Attended recently 'Dr M Roshini Memorial Oration' and it was thought provoking. 

Suresh Bhimsinghji said - Be connected  when people are alive. Call up someone you miss, tell them how much you care. Ask them  "How are you? How can I be of help for you? "

Naresh Kumar - Udaykumar - Asha,  Courage is a grace under pressure.  

Manivannan - Health Economics - Ravi Shanker

Health economics is a branch of economics concerned with issues related to efficiency, effectiveness, value and behavior in the production and consumption of health and healthcare. Health economics is important in determining how to improve health outcomes and lifestyle patterns through interaction between individuals, health care providers and clinical settings. In broad terms, health economists  study the functioning of healthcare system and health-affecting behaviors such as smoking, diabetes and obesity.

Pandemics change the way we practice:

  • Demand Supply 
  • Insurance penetration
  • Government Intervention
  • Investment in Public Health
It will help to:
  • Attract new patients
  • Retain existing patients
  • Attract and retain right talent
  • Tech adoption
  • Know your balance sheet
  • Succession planning/liquidity of your efforts
Top line is Vanity
Bottom line is Sanity
Cash flow is Reality

Some people survive, some perish - thrive. 

Recommended books to read: 

  • Romancing the Balance Sheet - On the Go by Anil Lamba, 
  • The fortune at the bottom of the Pyramid - C.K. Prahalad

It's wrong to say Profit is a bad word in healthcare. Profiteering is bad. 

As we continue to look at the radical changes sparked by access to technology, we must reflect on how often organized systems operate in the presence of change. In evolution, we have seen how organisms focus on perceiving changes, responding to environment through selection, and remain agile by maintaining diversity. 

If companies want to thrive in disruptive environment, they must perceive change, continuously develop alternative solutions, and select product/service features that reflect market forces. 

Mutation, Evolution and Disruption - this is how organizations adapt to change in environment 

Speciation and Diversification.

drmani@kauveryhealth.com

Jayalal: Wellness is the  most important concept. 75% death due to NCD - Alcohol, smoking, improper diet and exercise. - Country health economics. Comparing with Ethics, of economics and bio ethics. 

A thoughtful initiative from Pattabhiram Sir. More Power to you. Thank you for being you. 

Friday, October 01, 2021

Death - Haridas Chengalath



You roll on, you roar on,

all the living are scared of you,

of your dark deceptive dimensions.

You have rocked, tossed and wrecked

many a vessel with impunity.

You have broken their masts,

smashed their hulls

and sucked them down

to the bottom of your guts.

You have devoured countless hopes

and as many dreams

with sadistic pleasure.

Yet you crave for more,

and gulp down scalps as ever.

You roll on, You roar on,

all the living are scared of you,

of your dark deceptive dimensions. 
 

Wednesday, June 02, 2021

Mother Son - Tera Mujhse Hai Pehle Ka Nata koi...

We are indeed powerless in the hands of destiny, as he say. When some one's time arrive, it just arrives. You can do everything in your power to preclude the inevitable. But if it has to happen, it will happen. 

This is the story of a son who did something amazing whilst his mother  was on her death bed...

Life is short, have no regrets ,laugh loud ,forgive ,help needy and enjoy every possible moment as you don't know what's in store for you in future..

He says with this song, he tried to call her, his mother, Sanghamitra Chatterjee, back with all his might. First read about this in twitter: Doctor@DipshikhaGhosh who is  into Critical Care Medicine. Dog mom. Half Bengali, half Telugu. Fighting one (hundred) covidiot(s) at a time.


General perception is that 'Doctors don’t feel pain. Doctors deserve it even if they’ve tried their best. Doctors are the face to be blamed for the inadequacy/failure of the system. Why are doctors outraging?' Every other profession also has violence in their workplace. Try to first find out why doctors left and are continuing to leave. This is a country that not only doesn’t value its HCWs, it turns a blind eye when we’re threatened and experience violence and hatred for the system’s shortcoming. Even now doctors are being vilified. I don’t have thousands of followers for my degree. It happened because people connected with the kindness and the empathy. One act got me more than I ever imagined was possible. She said. 

Soham Chatterjee @sohamchatt on May 17 Replying to @DipshikhaGhosh said I thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing the story in the first place. Also, Apollo Gleneagles is indeed one of the best in critical care in India. My mother fought like a champ and so did they. At the mercy of our destiny, we are ultimately helpless.

Dr Dipshikha Ghosh works in the Covid ICU at Apollo Hospital in Kolkata, she said, she was blessed to have had the opportunity to be there. Some moments are surreal, some memories are forever.

Sanghamitra Chatterjee came to the hospital on May 6. It was a ‘severe’ Covid-19 case, and we got to work immediately, putting her on high-dose steroids, nebulisations, prophylactic antibiotics, among other medications. Unfortunately, her condition started deteriorating fast and she had to be put on non-invasive ventilation — a frightening process for many patients. The tight-fitting mask clings to the area around the nose and mouth, often leaving cuts on the bridge of the nose and marks on cheeks. Many patients keep taking the mask off, sometimes squeezing their fingers into the mask to find relief from the discomfort. Sanghamitra didn’t complain.

On May 12  Sanghamitra,  didn’t have more than 24 hours left. Her oxygen levels had plummeted and she was now being sustained on 100 per cent external oxygen. By 3 pm, it was time for that video call. Her 25-year-old son Soham hummed Tera mujhse hai pehle ka naata koi, breaking down several times. There were many moist eyes in the ward that afternoon. Doctor stood there, silently. It’s a practice that most doctors have perfected over the past year — a straight face, a steady voice — even as they watch family members crumble with grief, scream and shout. Some try to vehemently deny the reality, others stare into the screen, trying to capture the last moments of their loved ones for life. In such moments, doctors can say nothing, just have to be there. Exactly 12 hours after that call, Sanghamitra breathed her last. She was only 48. Like many of the  patients, she had many more years left in her, but the virus cut her journey short. The emotional farewell by Soham and the fact that another life  was lost added to the pain.

For healthcare workers across the world, the experience of these long, gruelling shifts in thick polyester PPEs, daily encounters with grief, and the emotional burden of failing patients is going to take a massive toll in the near future. They work with hope that in the long run, their efforts matter.

The people who took it upon themselves to do whatever possible to try to bridge gaps in the broken system and genuinely help others, thanking you doesn’t do it justice. You chose to do the right thing when it would have been easier to not. Respect. You have earned it.

Every single person in a position of power who has abused it to be eligible for medical care when not requiring it,  hope you take responsibility for adding to the statistics. You waste efforts, you waste resources that could have helped someone live. The central government and the state governments owe every single human being an apology for their complete disregard for public health. They didn’t anticipate this and they didn’t even listen to the experts who warned everyone. There’s a lot of work to be done. 

And now when the medical professionals are working so hard, there is blame on allopathy and the unnecessary debate. Is this the time? Is this what government's spreading positivity is all about?  Remember this mother and son could be any body's. 

Friday, April 30, 2021

What a Month - Of Deaths!

 When Death come , we wonder why - and slowly get into the routine. But how do we cope up when there is one after the other?

Last year during Covid - It seems all the other diseases had taken a back stage, but these year, seems there is a competition.

5 Deaths and 2 in ICU - personally; and innumerable all around.