Saturday, November 29, 2014

Controlling & Dramas


Interesting details:



1.When both partners in a relationship or members in a team are overly demanding, when each expects the other to live in his or her world, to always be there to join in his or her chosen activities, an ego battle inevitably develops. There is profound sense of restlessness with changes around. We're all looking for more fulfillment in our lives, and we won't put up with anything that seems to bring us down. This restless searching is what's behind the 'me-first' attitude that has characterized recent decades, and it's affecting every-one.

2. Working to establish a more comfortable style of survival has grown to feel complete in and of itself as a reason to live, and we've gradually, methodically, forgotten our original question....we've forgotten that we still don't know what we are surviving for. We are all preoccupied. We have created the means of material security in 400 years and now we seemed to be ready- poised, in fact - to find out why we had done it.We need to observe culture not just from the perspective of our own lifetimes but from the perspective of whole...millennium...universe. Today we see around, obsessiveness, preoccupation with economic progress. People have stress related diseases and can't slow down thus reducing life only to its practical considerations.

3. Controlling for everything is impossible, some plants grow large. Don't think anything happens by coincidence. It happens to complete the unfinished business! We can affect our surroundings, by what we do with the energy that belongs to us, the part we control. When we control another human being we receive their energy. We fill up at the other's expense and the filling up is what motivates us.

4. We must face up to our particular way of controlling others. Humans have always felt short of energy and have sought to control each other to acquire the energy that flows between people. But why do you want to control and dominate others? After every conversation; individuals come away feeling strong or feeling weak, depending on what occurs in the interaction. We try to be in control, and if we are in control we receive a psychological boost and so the conflicts. We do not listen to understand, we listen to reply.There have been conflicts between families, nations and employement settings. It's the result of feeling insecure and weak and having to steal someone else's energy to feel okay.

5. An alternative source exist, but we can't stay connected with this source until we come to grip with the particular method that, we, as individuals, use in our controlling, and stop doing it because whenever we fall back into this habit, we get disconnected from the source. Getting rid of this habit isn't easy because it's always unconscious at first. The key to letting it go is to bring it fully into consciousness, and we do that by seeing that our particular style of controlling others is one we learned in childhood to get attention, to get the energy moving our way, and we're stuck there. This style is something we repeat over and over again. It is called our unconscious control drama.

It is called drama because it is one familiar scene, like a scene in a movie, for which we write the script as youths. Then we repeat this scene over and over in our daily lives without being aware of it. All we know is that the same kind of events happen to us repeatedly. The problem is, if we are repeating one particular scene over and over, then the other scene of our real life movie, the high adventure marked by coincidences, can't go forward. We stop the movie when we repeat this one drama in order to manipulate for energy.

6. Everyone plays a drama of one kind or another. Your way of controlling people and situation in order to get energy coming your way, is to create this drame in your mind. Everyone manipulates for energy either aggressively, directly forcing people to pay attention to them, or passively, playing on people's sympathy or curiosity to gain attention.

When we are aloof and do not allow an important coincidence to take place, we appear to be playing a defensive drama.

An interrogator is another kind of drama. People who use this means of gaining energy, set up a drama of asking questions and probing into another person's world with the specific purpose of finding something wrong. Once they do, then they criticize this aspect of the other's life. If this strategy succeeds then the person being criticised is pulled into the drama. They suddenly find themselves becoming self-conscious around the interrogator and paying attention to what the interrogator is doing and thinking about, so as not to do something wrong that the interrogator would notice. This phychic deference gives the interrogator the energy he desires.

If someone threatens you, either verbally or physically, then you are forced for fear of something bad happening to you, to pay attention to him and so to give him energy. The person threatening you would be pulling you in to the most aggressive kind of drama, what the sixth insight calls the intimidator.

If someone tells you all the horrible things that are already happening to them, implying perhaps that you are responsible, and that, if you refuse to help, these horrible things are going to continue, then this person is seeking to control at the most passive level, with what the Manuscript calls a poor me drama.

Anyones drama can be examined, according to where it falls on this spectrum from aggressive to passive. If a person is subtle in their aggression, finding fault and slowly undermining your world in order to get your energy, then, this person wouldbe an interrogator. Less passive than the poor me would be aloofness drama. So the order of drama goes this way: intimidator, interrogator, aloof and poor me.

These are inculcated in us from childhood, from our upbringing. Interrogators make people aloof!Intimidators create the poor me or another intimidator.

Almost all of us tend to be stuck, at least some of the time, in a drama and we have to step back and look at ourselves long enough to discover what it is.

7. Once we become conscious of our control drama, then we can focus on the higher truth, the silver lining so to speak, that lies beyond the energy conflict. Once we find this truth, it can energize our lives,for this truth tells us who we are, the path we are on,what we are doing.

8. We can relate well with other people-children and adults, name control dramas, focus on other people in a way that sends them energy. If we are observant about who to talk with, then we get the answers we desire as a result. One person can uplift another. And if all the people in a group can interact this way, the group by itself will rise to a higher level.

9. We bring the whole process to consciousness. We increase our energy level and experience the coincidences consciously. This carries evolution onward at a faster pace, lifting our vibrations even higher.

The Celestine Prophecy.....By JamesRedfield



An adventure journey into the search for meaning...through the ancient Peruvian manuscript and the spiritual insights it holds.

Summary: (1)With coincidences, (2) we are in the process of constructing a new world view, (3) universe in reality is a vast system of energy and (4)human conflicts are a shortage of and a manipulation for this energy. (5) We could end this conflict by receiving an inpouring of this energy from a higher source. (6) We could clear our old repeated dramas, and find our true selves.(7)Staying in this magic flow is truly the secret of happiness. (8) Knowing how to relate in a new way to others, bringing out in them the very best, was the key to keeping the mystery operating and the answers comming. (9) Revealing where the evolution was taking us.



Points:

The first insight occurs when we take the coincidences seriously. These coincidences make us feel there is something more, something spiritual, operating underneath everything we do.

The second insight institutes our awareness as something real. We can see that we have been preoccupied with material survival, with focusing on controlling our situation in the universe for security, and we know our openness now represents a kind of waking up to what is really going on.

The third insight begins a new view of life. It defines the physical universe as one of pure energy, an energy that somehow responds to how we think.

The fourth exposes the human tendency to steal energy from other humans by controlling them,taking over thier minds, a crime in which we engage because we so often feel depleted of energy, and cut off. This shortage of energy can be remedied, of course, when we connect with the higher source.

The universe can provide all we need if we can only open up to it. That is the revelation of the Fifth Insight.

The basic of 6th was before we could fully enter the special state of mind that so many people were glimpsing - the experience of ourselves moving onward in life guided by mysterious coincidences - we had to wake up to who we really were.

Seven deals with the process of consciously evolving yourself,of staying alert to every coincidence, every answer the universe provides for you.Even to comapare your dreams to your story.

The eighth is about interpersonal ethics, it explains how we can aid others as they bring us the answers we seek. And further it describes a whole new ethic governing the way humans should treat each other in order to facilitate everyone's evolution. As all the answers that mysteriously come to us really come from other people - all around -children/young/old. But remember not to go too fast. Stay centered in your situation. Do'nt become addicted to another person, it stops your growth.

The ninth reveals our ultimate destiny. As humans we are the culmination of the whole evolution. It talks about matter beginning in a weak form and increasing in complexity, element by element evolving into a higher state of vibration.

Also there is another book - The Tenth insight, which is about compassion,forgiveness and tenacity. It talks about the afterlife dimension, where near death experiences occur.

These are explained in each of the chapters viz:

1. A Critical Mass
2. The longer now
3. The matter of energy
4. The struggle for power
5. The message of the mystics
6. Clearing the past
7. Engaging the flow
8. The Interpersonal Ethic
9. The Emerging Culture

Not easily understood in the first go, but indeed very thoughtful.

Thanks a Ton Reshma for sharing such a wonderful book with me!

Saturday, November 22, 2014

Moonnamidangal - K V Manikandan



Proud to hear about the novel release by K.V. Manikandan, and my eyes fills with tears on the thought that Kumarai chechi is not around to see this. Hope she would see this from heaven, am sure her blessings are always around.

സഹോദരന്റെ ഗർഭം പേറുകയും ആകുഞ്ഞിനെ വളർത്തുകയുംചെയ്യേണ്ടിവന്ന ഒരു കവയിത്രി അവരുടെ കഥ നോവൽ രൂപത്തിൽ എഴുതിപ്രസദ്ധീകരിക്കുന്നതാണ് ഈ നോവലിലെ പ്രമേയം , സ്ത്രീ മനസ്സിന്റെ അഗധതലങ്ങളിലേക്കുള്ള അന്വേഷണമാണ് ഇതിലൂടെ നോവലിസ്റ്റ് നിർവ്വഹിക്കുന്നത് . വൈചിത്ര്യങ്ങളിലൂടെ കടന്നുപോകുന്ന കഥാവിഷ്കാരം വായനക്കാരിൽ വിസ്മയവും കൗത്കവുമുണ്ടാക്കുന്നു . ഡി സി കിഴക്കേമുറി ജന്മശദാബ്ദി 2014 നോവൽ മത്സരത്തിൽ ഒന്നാം സമ്മാനം നേടിയകൃതി .

Keep going...Mani Meenu...

Sunday, November 02, 2014

The Pretensions of Choice


When life throws at you
A basket of choices

You dig into its depth
Fooled and ‘buffooned’

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Choices that are myths bundled into mirages
Choices that float and burst at the touch of reality

The word ‘choice’ left meaningless as destiny and fate make your life!

So wrote Devi in her blog.. http://deviharidas.blogspot.in/2014/09/the-pretensions-of-choice.html#comment-form

True we do not choose to be born, live, suffer or die but don't we have choices in life? When there are different alternatives aren't or do'nt we choose one of these choices:-) When my father was ill, we tried treating him at the best doctors around, but in the end had no choice but to let him go...

In the dream it seems like we have many choices, such as whether to have spaghetti or fish filets for dinner, or whether to turn right or left at an intersection. But do we really?

Even though we think we are making choices and have a certain amount of control over our lives, our conscious mind is actually along for the ride, while the unconscious mind creates the entire dream we experience through the power of choice, even when we don't fully realize what we're choosing.

The power of choice involves directing our attention. Your Emotional state will tell you what your are choosing.

- See more at: http://www.wellbeingalignment.com/power-of-choice.html#sthash.BNvHw966.dpuf

For those who belive in God it is clear that he does give us a choice which is an essential part of how he works with us; He did not, for instance, make it impossible for Adam and Eve to reach the forbidden tree (which He could have done), but advised them to keep well clear of it.

Is it all Fatalisam? Are all our choices already decided?

Life after death?



Death is an uncomfortable subject. Many poeple prefer not to talk about it.But sooner or later, we must confront it. And the sting of death is sharp and painful. Nothing can fully prepare us for the loss of a parent, a spouse, or a child. A tragedy may strike unexpectedly or unfold relentlessly. Whatever the case, the pain of death cannot be eluded, and its finality can be devastating. Especially for those very close, near and dear.

People often ask themselves questions that do not seem to have an answer. Sometimes this is called philosophy. Especially when a loved one dies, people ask: Is there life after death? And I have been asking this question to myself for quite sometime.

That’s a question Dr. Gary E. Schwartz has asked himself and he presented his mouth-dropping, scientific results in his book “The Afterlife Experiments”.

Read this in Facebook and thought it interesting:

In a mother's womb were two babies.
One asked the other: "Do you believe in life after delivery?"
The other replies, "why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later. "...
"Nonsense," says the other. "There is no life after delivery. What would that life be?"
"I don't know, but there will be more light than here. Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths."
The other says "This is absurd! Walking is impossible. And eat with our mouths? Ridiculous. The umbilical cord supplies nutrition. Life after delivery is to be excluded. The umbilical cord is too short."
"I think there is something and maybe it's different than it is here." the other replies,
"No one has ever come back from there. Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery it is nothing but darkness and anxiety and it takes us nowhere."
"Well, I don't know," says the other, "but certainly we will see mother and she will take care of us."
"Mother??" You believe in mother? Where is she now? "
"She is all around us. It is in her that we live. Without her there would not be this world."
"I don't see her, so it's only logical that she doesn't exist."
To which the other replied, "sometimes when you're in silence you can hear her, you can perceive her. I believe there is a reality after delivery and we are here to prepare ourselves for that reality."

Also there was this interesting discussion between Anish and Julia on why at times when we are at some place for the first time we feel we had been there before? Julia said, it was because we had been there in our past life. Would it be true?

I have never belived in life after death, but we need to live well in this life of ours. But inspite of it, this question often come to my mind....Anybody has an answer?

Ask & KMS


"Higher my achievements, and greater the position of my power, the more helpless I will become; the less I will know about the state of things. In those moments of my helplessness, my ego will come in my way of seeking help. My workplace will make me falsely believe that seeking help is a sign of weakness.

Just as you teach me to say "I do not know", I pray to you to teach me to actively seek help."

Communication is the link pin of every relationship - Personal or professional. We need to ask question when required, Seek for help when needed, KMS - Keep our mouth shut at the appropirate time. Most important of all, know when to do what!