Feedback is'nt a mirror - it's a filter

 

Agree?

Understand and know the difference between Feedback vs. Criticism

Criticism compass: Decode what you receive

Horizontal line Kind to Harsh; through middle verticle line Fair to Unfair.

Put your feedbacks into 4 Quadrants. 

• Pause
• Breathe
• Label - Name the experience 'I feel hurt', 'that felt unfair'
• Shift - from judgment to curiosity - ask 'what is this feedback really about?'
• Use - grounding self talk - "I'am safe, This is not personal. I can respond. Not react."

Responding not reacting: ACR method

A - Acknowledge - Thanks for sharing that, I hear you (Doesn't mean I accept what you say)

C- Clarify - Can you help me understand what you say? Example?

R - Respond - That's helpful to know

Open without submission, curious and constructive 

It's a framework and not a new skill.