Happiness

Did you know that at Harvard, one of the most prestigious universities in the world, the most popular and successful course teaches you how to learn to be happier?__ The Positive Psychology class taught by Ben Shahar attracts 1400 students per semester and 20% of Harvard graduates take this elective course. According to Ben Shahar, the class - which focuses on happiness, self-esteem and motivation - gives students the tools to succeed and face life with more joy._This 35-year-old teacher, considered by some to be "the happiness guru", highlights in his class 14 key tips for improving the quality of our personal status and contributing to a positive life:
🚩Tip 1. * Thank God for everything you have: * Write down 10 things you have in your life that give you happiness. Focus on the good things!
🚩Tip 2. * Practice physical activity * Experts say exercising helps improve mood. 30 minutes of exercise is the best antidote against sadness and stress.
🚩Tip 3. * Breakfast: * Some people miss breakfast for lack of time or not to get fat. Studies show that breakfast gives you energy, helps you think and perform your activities successfully.
🚩Tip 4. * Assertive *: Ask what you want and say what you think. Being assertive helps improve your self-esteem. Being left and remaining silent creates sadness and hopelessness.
🚩Tip 5. * Spend your money on experiences..a study found that 75% of people felt happier when they invested their money in travel, courses and classes; While only the rest said they felt happier when buying things.
🚩Tip 6. * Face your challenges *: Studies show that the more you postpone something, the more anxiety and tension you generate. Write short weekly lists of tasks and complete them.
🚩Tip 7. * Put everywhere nice memories, phrases and photos of your loved ones *: Fill your fridge, your computer, your desk, your room, YOUR LIFE of beautiful memories.
🚩Tip 8. * Always greet and be nice to other people *: More than 100 inquiries state that just smiling changes the mood.
🚩Tip 9. * Wear comfortable shoes *: If your feet hurt you, you become moody, says Dr. Keinth Wapner, President of the American Orthopedics Association.
🚩Tip 10. * Take care of your posture *: Walk straight with your shoulders slightly backwards and the front view helps to maintain a good mood.
🚩Tip 11. * Listen to music * It is proven that listening to music awakens you to sing, this will make your life happy.
🚩Tip 12. * What you eat has an impact on your mood *:- Do not skip meals, eat lightly every 3 to 4 hours and keep glucose levels stable.- Avoid excess white flour and sugar.- Eat everything! Healthy- Vary your food.
🚩Tip 13. * Take care of yourself and feel attractive *:70% of people say they feel happier when they think they look good.
🚩Tip 14. * Fervently believe in God *: With him nothing is impossible!

Happiness is like a remote control, we lose it every time, we go crazy looking for it and many times without knowing it, we are sitting on top of it

Literally Time Travel

Happiness is meeting childhood friend; sharing stories and being young again! - Juhi Gupta

Finally it was nice to meet and have Juhi in Kerala; bringing back the school days. Amma was unable to believe she was mother of two boys; elder so big. Having mesmerized by Ishan when we first met in Mumbai; my admiration grew further listening to his talks; especially 'the bio' question! And the question-do anyone wear dupatta like this? - Change please. Nice that we were able to meet thrice.

And then next week it was Sajeena and Priya @ Hoysala. Reliving the hostel days. So nice to have them with kids at home. Surprised to see how bubbly Sajeena had so much of responsibility now and the changes in her life with two daughters.

And finally; finally; finally...another dream come true....The reunion of soul sister's.. .two weekends...lovely get together with kids, playing hide and seek; Snake and ladder; Ludo.

Time pass; we have New people in our life; but some relations never die.

To Chennai- To Ponder April 2018

A sudden invitation to visit Chennai soon after my team member was here; and an invitation for consideration. Well how did I miss the amazing Natraj statue before?

Time to visit Kapaleswara Kovil, Ramkrishna Mutt and Sai Baba Temple.

Your hardest battle is between what you know in your head and what you feel in your heart.

Will it free her to spread her wings or will it trap her in a gilded cage?

Question: What is Love?

Answer: The light of Life!

Question: What is Marriage?

Answer: *The Bill for that Light!*😂😂

Met Sathishni and Krishna Tara as well. Indeed time for reminisce...ponder ...and catch up on the lost times.

Thanks for considering me worthy...

"Do not look for the ideal man or the ideal woman – there is none." But If you understand that it is your needs that make you seek a companion, find someone who is reasonably compatible with you. If you accept, respect, love, include, care for, and take responsibility for each other, it can be a beautiful #relationship." Why not give a try? One Life.


"It is easy to understand the emotions of a woman when she is in love. If she loves you then you will always be on her mind every minute of the day and she would love to stay connected to you all the time. If she keeps calling you or texting you it doesn’t mean she has nothing else to do in her life …just remember she is taking out time from her busy schedule just to give her and time and attention to you. If she shows jealousy towards other women in your life it means she just can’t share your attention with anyone else. If she says sorry for no fault of hers it means she just loves you and she doesn’t want to make you feel bad for whatever you did to upset her. If she keeps forgiving you for your mistakes and accepts you back in her life again and again it simply means that she loves you and you are really important to her and she treasure your relationship with her. If she is truly in love with you she can go to any extent to show her love and affection and she wants nothing more than to feel loved. " {Aarti Khurana }

Yes. I am.

There's a big difference in being alone and being lonely. Being alone is a choice and being lonely is a feeling. Loners are a unique type of people. They prefer having a small circle of friends, and they do not mind spending time alone.

My alone feels so good, I'll only have you if you're sweeter than my solitude.” ― Warsan Shire

But I I'll have you even otherwise. Just want to make sure you are comparable. And why Me?

The wrong one will find you in peace and leave you in pieces. The right one will find you in pieces and lead you to peace.

Never regret being a good person, to the wrong person.

I choose to love you in silence...
For in silence I find no rejection.

I choose to love you in loneliness...
For in loneliness no one owns you but me.

I choose to adore you from a distance...
For distance will shield me from pain.

I choose to kiss you in the wind...
For the wind is gentler than my lips.

I choose to hold you in my dreams...
For in my dreams, you have no ends.

Rumi.

Where there is love, There is Life...

Could not resist sharing this; though not my own writing; this speak out my mind at this juncture:

Love is a beautiful human emotion. It ranges from affection to attraction, and represents kindness and compassion. Love inspires us, motivates us, balances us, and makes life beautiful. The love of family and friends, the love of life, love of God, loving another, this is how our life should be, filled with love and happiness. Love is the beauty of the soul, it is about kindness, patience, understanding, sharing, trusting, protecting, rejoicing, and perseverance.

Everyone wants to be loved and accepted, and no matter how successful our career, our status in life, our wealth, without love our life is empty. A wealthy business owner or a poor rice farmer will feel the same emotion when surrounded by a loving family, because it is love that makes us feel special.

Love between two people is a magical feeling, your lover is your best friend, and time is not measured by clocks but by moments, beautiful moments when both are together and sharing life experiences. But for love to last we must also respect, communicate, compromise, care, and trust each other.

Without communication there is no relationship. Without respect there is no love. Without trust there is no reason to continue.

If the relationship did not succeed, it taught us what we do not want in a relationship. Life is about learning, so instead of feeling rejected, or lost in blame, let go the past and look to the future with hope and happiness, and we shall again be blessed with love.

How much we love will determine our life and our happiness, and best of all when we give love we receive love back. The more we give the more we receive, so we should love with all our heart, because a life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit, an ocean without water, darkness without light. We must also love ourselves, not with ego but with loving kindness, because if we cannot love ourselves it will be difficult to show love to another. So love without depending, speak without offending, showing kindness and compassion to everyone, feeling blessed and grateful, because life is beautiful :)

Photo: Bilinga Beach, Gold Coast

Ticking Times

Glad to finally grab a copy of Ticking Times and reading it in one go...Interesting to read some of the questions Pattabhi Ram Sir had asked in the classes. Overall it gave a nostalgic feeling and some points to ponder. Also few why? One thing that keep coming to my mind after reading the book is what had happened to Rs.925,000? What was in the note of the train of events? Did I miss something or was it deliberately left for imagination. Excellent book covering various aspects. Am not surprised it has come from Sir. A proud moment to posses this and to have attended your classes. Looking forward for more books.

Here is what  CA Chikkerur C R wrote about the book:

Dear Pattabhi Ram sir

#TickingTimes - Yesterday, I had completed reading this book fully. Even though I bought it on 15th March 2019, could able to complete it yesterday in 4 days reading including yesterday's marathon reading of 150+ pages. Thanks to #Covid19 which bought back my reading habit.

I felt to share few points/Observations on this book as Student, Your follower and as CA.

1. #TickingTimes - I must say it is Ready Recknoer kind of book for people who wants to have CA as career. I liked Characters in that are Mike Mahi, Alka Varma and R Parkar.

2. Best part of book is how you built stories around each character. Child life of Mahi is inspirational as you gave all substance to show him as Born CA rather Certified CA.

3. I liked your narration of college life of Mahi, where you depicted him as Solution finder than Problem seater.

4. Articleship at Big4 story narration shows how much you had observed practices of Big4 in your articleship. It was True and Correct picture at any Big 4 of any articleship guy.
Dilemma experience of Tejas Arya in Big4 and Filmy style solution of Mahi on Signature issue reminds me Hindi movie of 90's

5. Beauty and substance of this book that - any new CA can see as Ready recknoer for practice is Mahi's story of building his practice of CA. Attitude matters. It is giving many hints on practices and current situation in CA field. Mahi's implimentation of Network idea is solution for SME CA firm. As a writer's right to give message through characters , I think you are hinting indirectly how SME need to solve Big 4 competition.

6. Wherever possible, you tried poke your nose in the area of fashion and explaining beauty in this book whenever you are explaining receptionist or other woman characters. But you tried your best tactic of "Touch & Go" in this.

7. You also shown a way to respond on media allegation. Indirectly You made a point that Media Trial is wrong way. Yes you gave fitting reply of Arnab kind of 24/7 news anchors.

8. As expected , you gave detailed picture of ICAI Election and working. Because your closeness with many Council members in the past and current, you gave each step of election. Your book must become RTP and Solved QP manual for any new candidate who want try his luck on Central Council membership.

9. Through Mahi Character, you had shown a way for Exam reforms needed in CA. Exam in every Quarter of a year is good idea to impliment. Hope it becomes reality.

10. Many times, I felt that you wanted to bring every character which you respect most. Bringing EX PM Manmohan Singh in this book and showing him as Game changer shows how much you respect him to the core.

11. Lastly I liked surprise twist in the tale end to the story to make Tejas role in Mahi's success shows that you made book as Good Story. Overall It was Upendra's Movie Story( Famous Director cum writer in Kannada Film Industry who gave movies like Om, A)

But I have few Q's on the book

A) Even though story has time period till 2014, I wonder how did you skip making any comment or reference on Gujarat Model, Gujarat CM (Current PM ) directly or indirectly. Did I miss anything in reading between the lines or it was intentionally missed

B) Its 8th wonder of world that how can Pattabhi sir misses #SachinTendulkar in his book. No much reference on Cricket and even no reference on World cup 2011 win in the book.

C)Even though there was in detailed documentation on election and working of ICAI, but I felt story of Birth of CA Act 1948, ICAI is missing in the " TickingTimes" which is needed for Readers who are CAs.

Conclusion : Thank you for giving in detailed story of CAs through Tickingtimes. Every page of this book has mark of your passion, your life, your observations, your taste and your aspirations.

Expecting an Autobiography from you sooner. I still wonder Why you are not jumping into administration and Election politics either in ICAI or in National politics even after having so much caliber and knowledge.

If you are not entering in politics, then it is loss for India. Can I expect Mahi's kind of decision for President post directly in ICAI in first term of Central Council soon or becoming Minister through RajyaSabha ??? Hope you act