Showing posts with label Ideals. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Ideals. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 09, 2010

BVRYS eProfessionalz Corporate Solutions Private Limited

A journey of thousand miles begin with a single step….



This was an email from Vijay on 8th February 2010, and just three months down the line, they are planning to open offices in Thrissur and Bangalore:


Dear Sirs,


“We know not where our dreams will take us, but we can probably see quite clearly where we will go without them.”


Looking back, I have been fortunate enough with the opportunity to serve you over the past some period and am looking forward to serve you better and carry forward the relationship in future too. As part of the continuous efforts to diversify the range of services, improve the infrastructure and to cater to secretarial, legal, administrative and other related consultancy services to our clients, myself, along with a team of experienced professionals have transformed into "BVRYS eProfessionalz Corporate Solutions Private Limited." [wherein myself, Mr. Balasubramanian N., Mr. Ramachandran T. M., Mr. Yogindunath S. and Mr. Syamkumar R. as Directors]


Pursuant to the above change we have shifted our office to " Swasthika, Room No.A3, Building No.44/1595, First Floor, Devaki Castle, Opposite NUALS, Kaloor, Cochin - 682017".


The Company will be providing wide range of corporate advisory and consulting services. We ensure you that we will cater to your needs promptly and wisely and request you to kindly consider our services and contact us. It will be our pleasure if you drop in at our new office sometime.


“BVR & Associates” our new firm of Practising Company Secretaries, [where myself, Mr. Balasubramanian and Mr. Ramachandran T M, as partners], is also functioning in the same premises.


At BVRYS, it will be our pleasure to serve you.

Expecting your prayers, supports and blessings as always,


Thanking you,

Yours faithfully,


For BVRYS eProfessionalz Corporate Solutions Private limited Practising Company Secretaries


Sd/-

S. Vijay

Director Partner


Ph : 0484 – 4046695, 4046696, 4063938

Cell : 94475 76134

E Mail: vijay@bvrys.com

cochin@bvrys.com

Friday, March 19, 2010

Why people dont forgive?



People act and react in non loving ways when they don’t know better. People bear grudges out of ignorance and innocence. When they can experience a better way, they go for it.

No one in their heart of hearts really wants to withhold and punish. It is merely the only way he or she knows to react when another person disrespects them.
We have problems because ‘we know not what we do.” We experience pain in our relationships because we do not know how to share our love in ways that work.
We are missing the skills.

I loved to here in the interview Fatima saying, hate and dislike is not good.
The story reiterates, Life is like a roller costar ride..it is a vehicle, and time is its wheels..Life is fragile and short deed of God..It may tick away at the tick of a second, so why put on pride and hatred?


The best but difficult way to forgive is to forget..

Love and forgive all….Where is the time to hate…when there is so little time to love…Decision making is upto us. Trust is more important in every relationship. There are people around to brain wash, in lust of power, money or?? Why do people fabricate things? Garnish their own traits while tarnish that of others?

What better time to think of this, when it was around this time, Jesus Christ dies on the cross, with prayers, 'Forgive them, for they know not, what they are doing'

If you cant fly run,
If you cant run, walk,
If you cant walk, crawl...
But whatever you do..
'Keep moving towards your goal...'

But so good…if it is for and towards peace, love, understanding, and cooperation…

Don't be the prisoner of the past, be the architect of the future...

Sunday, December 13, 2009

Be the change you want to see

Quite some time, wanted to post this...In fact before doing so, I wanted to see it once more in Youtube/orkut...but whenever I tried, my IE got disconnected??

A beautiful video...and the only one, on a road block, and people stuck on their way to their own destinations...in a hurry. And now they were here waiting, some enjoying, some tensed, some frustrated, some curious why? Some knowing the reason, waiting, with the thought 'This is not my job'. Somebody will set things right...

And then there was this boy on his way back guess from school, and he tried to move the big tree fallen on the road. Sure he was too young to do it alone, but then others, motivated, joined him and they moved the tree..

Quite interesting and motivating...Wanna see it? Check out in youtube or the only Video in Yashin's Orkut profile..Oh God! such an awesome Video shot...

Tum chalo to Hindustan chale Duniya ke iss runbhumi mai , Jab desh humara data hua hai , Le jaye jo Visha Shikhar par , wo nayak yahi kahi kada hua hai.
And the title comes from the Message from Abdul Kalam, in our office production floor, asking people to turn off the monitor when moving out of the office....


Indeed we need to be the change we want to see....Starters, Go Getters....

It also reminded me of the pic send by Paul, on the paining on the Indian Highway/pathway...




Thumbs up for people:
Who be the change they want to see...who step down, and give way to others...and when talking about this..I am reminded of Sonia Gandhi...

Who understand and do their duty towards their people, siblings, parents, friends and relatives, like my own parents, from whom I have learned most of the things and

Thumbs down for people:

Who be roadblocks, and hinderances with lust for power, wealth, and go upto any extend to keep it, even when it is time to move out.

Who keep finding reasons to prove that 'Why should I do?' 'Why not he or she?' or Keep saying 'I will not do'

True everybody cannot do everything...but indeed one can be the change one want to see......

Saturday, November 28, 2009

Eid Mubarak, Swami Saranam, Merry Christmas


It’s the time for fastings and then feastings everywhere…. And all have the chanting of the beads....

As the human mind broadens, its spiritual steps broaden too…The time has already come when a man cannot record a thought without its reaching to all corners of the earth, by merely physical means, we have come into touch with the whole world, so the future religions of the world have to become as universal, as wide….

Blessedness, eternal peace, arising from perfect freedom, is the highest concept, underlying all the ideas, absolutely free existence, not bound by anything, no change, no nature, nothing that can produce a change in him.

Each one projects his own ideal and worships that. This external world is only the world of suggestions. All that we see, we project out of our own minds….The wicked see this world as a perfect hell, and the good as a perfect heaven. Lovers see this world as full of love, and haters as full of hatred; fighters see nothing but strife, and the peaceful nothing but peace…

I am happy to see people who see and understand all as one and the same….Advaita….from Vedanta….

Judaism, Christianity and Islam teach that Abraham was a model of how humans should live their lives displaying courage, faith, sacrifice, obedience, and trust in one supreme God. We believe that the “spirit” of this story is to see Abraham as a role model and to encourage all of us to live our lives with the same courage, faith, and determination to be the best person we can be. The Hindus divided humanity into three 'races': the "Aditya"s or the Hindu Gods , the "Daitya"s and the "Danava"s. The last two were held to be inimical to the Hindu Gods. All three were step-brothers derived from the same father Kashyapa. The mother of the Gods was Aditi, meaning the unlimited one, while the other two were derived from Diti, the limited one and Danu.

The Westerners (and Egyptians) were called Danavas in Sanskrit. The Greeks were known in Latin as Danao. 'O' is normally pronounced as 'v'. (Deo and Dev; Deodhar for Devadharu etc.) There is a Latin proverb "Timeo Danao et donos ferrentes; which means Beware of the gift bearing Greek.

Yayati's wives were transferred to Abram in the Jewish version. The first wife, Sarai or Sarah, carried the name of Brahma's consort Saraswati. The second wife in the Jewish story was also a slave. The story of Isaac is drawn from two Hindu sources. The first is the story of Daksha the son of Brahma who lost his head to the God Shiva and was revivified with a goat's head. Isaac, in Abraham's story was replaced by a ram for sacrifice at the bidding of God. The name Isaac is related to Eesha the Sanskrit word for the divine. The second story related to Isaac is the one of Ikshvaku who wanted to eat fresh meat on his death-bed and ordered his son to go on a hunt. The young man committed a minor infraction in rituals and was deprived of his right of succession. Isaac under similar conditions was persuaded by deception to pass on the mantle to Jacob who was later anointed Israel.

Noah was the Hindu Manu . The story of the Ark was a reproduction of the Hindu story of Matsyavatara or the fish incarnation, during the period of the Satyavrata Manu. The Jews called themselves Semites as descendants of Shem the son of Noah. Shem is perhaps derived from the Sanskrit term Shivam for pure. It is also the quality of another God, Shiva.

Then this diversity, was it just the passage of time, the differences in language and interpretation or something more?

No wonder there is so much to learn from History…

Make better decisions….

Our decisions today, will decide our life tomorrow…..It is easy to select between good or bad, but when you have to select in between two good or two bad…your decision really matters….It is all up to us to decide with our head or heart…..Courtesy Fanna…

This is the advice that Zooni receives from her father just as she is about to venture out into the world on her own for the very first time. Little does she know that these very words will shape her life. ..and again the movie ends with the same advice...Happen to see this movie again....



Whatever decision you make, you will at a point ponder on the road not taken.....

Decisions, like any other activity, won’t get better without systematic review. If you don’t know which of your decisions are most important, you won’t be able to prioritize improvements. If you don’t know how decisions are made, you can’t change the process for making them. If you don’t assess the results of your changes, you’re unlikely to achieve better decisions. The way to begin is simply to give decisions the attention they deserve. Without it, any success you achieve in decision making will be largely a matter of luck…..

Your decisions in your life are yours to make, and then you will have no one to blame on….Make better decisions….At times....isnt life all about the decisions that you make....

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Values

Getting my mobile after nearly one year, lost on 6th November 07, and got back on 31st October 08, after a span of nearly one year, was indeed a remarkable incident. And both happened, in the midst of my examination!

Well friends, here is a piece of information, please note the IP # of your mobile, and if you happen to loose your mobile, do not forget to launch the complaint with the police. They will get it searched from the cyber cell. The need is that the recipient should have started using the lost/stolen mobile.


Trust Lost on friend, proved to be genuine, and the person, a teacher….who has to teach the students, values, stealing a mobile, reveal the values practiced by today’s generation. She is a teacher, from a school in Kakkanad.

We have the ‘ashtadharmas’ taught in school, namely ahimsa, dharma, jnanam, satyam, sevanam, shanti, thyagam, and vinayam.

Practice of the same begins from within, as character is what we are in darkness. What is the use of preaching something and practicing something else? What is the use of serving the society, if one cannot serve the family?

Also the recent performance appraisals, also have brought to light that, just as birds of a feather are flocked together, knowingly or unknowingly people cherishing similar values, tend to be more friendly, to each other….It differs from people to people. For some it is respect, and for others it could be sincerity, honesty, punctuality, tolerance, Dignity….and so many…apart from the Ashthadarmas.

It is seen that, any person who can stick to a ‘maximum’ (It could be even lesser, say three ) of five values, irrespective of the situation is assured of achieving success in life…Values could be anything.

And this history as proved. Mahatma Gandhij, is related, to Truth and Ahimsa. Nehru, for his love for children……

The Inner beauty by Brahma Kumari was a book worth reading on this subject and, the advertisement on TATA mobile has left a mark Suno Dil khee Awaz, Dunya khi math suno, with people like Abdul Kalam, Karan Johar…..

"...I had a mixture of relations and experiences. Some of the relations were wonderful, and some of the experiences were awful, but the awful teachers served a good purpose by being a bad example. All examples are good" – something related said by Larry Ellison

To quote Swami Vivekananda, “let the world say whatever they want, stick to your convictions and the rest is assured, the world would be at your feat"

Mission announces exactly where you are going, and the values describe the behaviors that will get you there...One of the major reason for big shots like Arthur Andersen and Enron,to collapsed in flames, is the vision-mission melt down.

Sunday, August 24, 2008

Independence Vs. Freedom

These thoughts flash upon my inward eye, on seeing the pictures displayed at OPI-Kochi Cafeteria, for the photography ‘Expression’ competition. What would your favorite Parrot do as soon as you open its cage and if you have not cut its wings? Before you blink, it would fly away. A picture, like that of Nemo, raised a question, would the fishes have thoughts like Nemo in ‘Finding Nemo’ (computer-animated American family film).



How would you feel if you are taken away from your parents or loved ones, and put alone in a new circumstances/environment? How do you feel when your loved one is not around you or is no more?



Doing what you like is freedom. To do what you like you need not necessarily be independence. It may not be always possible to do what you want if you are independent. You may have to depend on others to do what you like. It is said that the biggest human freedom is the choice between Hate and Forgiveness. Freedom is normally with respect to internal realization.



When we normally speak about independence, it is a relative term. Nobody can be completely independent, unless they make a captive economy for themselves. One has to depend on so many things, so many times. Independence is dependent on outside objects.



Used as synonymous often, there have been numerous debates, as to if they are same or not. Whether it is at the level of individual, family, corporate, or country, there is some difference between independence and freedom. In celibacy there is independence, but in marriage there is freedom.



One would prefer going to US or Dubai, than Saudi Arabia? Most individualistic society is USA according to a 1980 study, and a centre of attraction for many. It could obtain this distinction, because of the function of the reasoning minds, of the people there, which began since its independence, declaration of the legal separation from Great Britain, on 4th July, 1776. Atmosphere there have made individuals independent, strong, reliable, and confident. Above all, you find freedom there. There is one of the greatest symbols of freedom, the Statue of Liberty, also known affectionately as "Lady Liberty". She welcomes arriving immigrants to US



Independence (of a nation) means the nation is not subject to the government of another nation. Freedom of a nation means that its citizens are free to determine their own fates and live their own lives. A country may be independent and not free and vice versa. Whatever, Independence Day, is a day of great rejoice for any country.



More than half of the independent countries in the world are democratic today. We can see that as years roll by, more and more nations are willing to accept democracy as a form of Government. It began with New Zealand becoming the first country to give full voting right to its people way back in 1900. The map of democracy is constantly changing since then.



The salient feature of democracy, which makes it outshine other form of governance, are:

1. There could be real freedom to express our views or opinion.
2. People could choose or change rulers.



During 2004-07 we would have come across this about India:



Headed by a Sikh economist,
Presided by a Muslim scientist,
Directed by a Catholic Italy born lady,
With 82% Hindu population,
Proclaimed to be worlds largest democracy,
We live in a country with a rich & varied heritage,
Willing to accept everything and everyone.
It can happen only in India……….





61 years ago, we broke ourselves from the clutches of British rule, and have become independent. But are we free now? Can we be free from the clutches of inequality, communalism, corruption and the like?

Thursday, February 28, 2008

Greatest Discovery......& Little about sacrifice.....





What do you think is the greatest Discovery?

If this question is asked to each of us, there would be nearly one crore answer....I remember once a sir saying, it was agriculture...

So it is a matter of Perception. Again remembered the story at office yesterday. Parasivan forwarded a mail with a boy crying, one girl smiling, and one semi smiling, and had named them, Processor, Manager and Team leader. Our BB resend it, rearranging the boy crying to be in middle naming him the Team leader, the one smiling to be the Manager, and the third, processor. The Managers perspective would be still different.

Kali asked Kalidasa: Ask for a wish.

Kalidasa said: Grand me anything, except one thing.

Kali asked: What is that one thing.

Kalidasa said: Dont put me in an unfortunate place where people will not understand me or my poetry.

Each of us on earth has our own task to do. Talents differ, all is well and wisely put.

We need to do our duty with utmost sincerety, work with excellence...If you sweep the street, sweep it so well as no one has done before. Everybody should remember you for that. Roses, bees, never doubt their capacity or ability. Cuckoo is never tired of singing and ants of working.

Its always wise to turn your hobby into business. There should not be conflict between your work life and things you enjoy outside work.

Each of us, can make use of our tremendous capacity, of the brain cells, discover ourself, find out our dormant mind.

The moment you are satisfied and aspire no more, you die. - Pondichery mother. (The most esential thing air)

You aim for the skies only then, you can reach for the stars. The world is reacher for those who aspire to ever and ever reach higher and higher.

Remember:
I Can! I Will ! I Shall!

We Can! We will! We shall!

Having written so much about all this, the noble price, etc....it would be incomplete not to put forth that, all great people may not be rewarded or get awards or noble prices, but they would always be remembered for their gretness, deep down in the hearts..

The greatest example being none other than our Mahatma Gandhi, Vivekananda etc....Moreover, Familys love is indeed lifes greatest blessing.

Speaking about Gandhi, one would always remember:
Truth & Ahimsa,
Simple living & high thinking....

But there is also the 7 sins that he spoke of:
1. Politics without principle.
2. Wealth without work.
3. Commerce without morality.
4.Knowledge without Character.
5.Pleasure without consciousness.
6. Science without humanity.
7. Worship without sacrifice.

This brings me to sacrifice...

Sacrifice is letting go of something that you are holding on to, or are attached to, which gives you pleasure for something bigger that would bring good. Sacrifice brings strength in life. Life without sacrifice is stagnant. Sacrifice gives you the quantum leap. It takes you, to a higher pedestal. Often, people think sacrifice makes life dull and joyless. Infact, it is the sacrifice which makes life worthliving. The amount of sacrifice in your life brings out your magnimity and helps you to move out of misery. A life without sacrifice is nothing. Zeal, enthusiasm, strength and joy are all connected to sacrifice.

This is the reason why, all the greatest persons, including our parents, are all having a story of too many sacrifices behing them.

The beginning and the end seems to be quite contrasting right. But in it is the beauty of life...How beautiful would be a garden, if there was only on kind of flower, or the world, if there was only one colour??

So do let me know what you thing is the greates discovery?? Do put it in the comment...It would be nice to read it...

Monday, January 28, 2008

From my sis's Collections...Dairy...

Never Loose an opportunity of seeing anything that is beautiful for beauty is Gods good handwriting.

Manu, the ancient codifier of Hindu law said:
Duteous girl obey her father,
Husband sways the duteous wife,
Son controls the widowed mother,
Never free is a woman’s life.

Once it was belived that women are intellectually stagnant, physically weak and economically a parasite.

Words of haste make friendship waste.


Man makes his own fortune and calls it fate.


You don’t love people because they are beautiful, but they seem beautiful because you love them.

Tough Times Never last; But tough people do…..

When you’ve exhausted all possibilities, remember this, you haven’t!!

Nobody is a total failure, if he dares to try to do something worthwhile.
Its impossible to fail totally, if you dare to try. If its going to be its up to me!

Never let a problem become an excuse.

Gods delays are not Gods denials.

Todays decisions are tomorrows realities.

The one battle most people lose is the battle over the fear of failure…..
Try….
Start…
Begin….
And you’ll be assured you won the first round.

Take care….
People who take care never go anywhere..

Take a chance!
Take charge!
Take control!!

Better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing flawlessly.

When faced
with a mountain,
I will not quit.
I will
keep on striving
until I climb over,
find a pass through,
tunnel underneath,
or simply stay
and turn the mountain
into a gold mine,
with Gods help!!

You wont win, if you don’t begin.

Don’t kill the dream execute it!!

As Tharas poetry, Oh! Examination what a botheration for the generation…….
Oh God! Give me the guidance to know when to hold on and when to let go and the grace to make the right decision with dignity.


On decision making: How to handle good ideas- Don’t hibernate, don’t luxuriate, don’t commiserate, don’t procrastinate.

Wise people dedicate- They do it now. No grass grows under their feet. So they don’t waste.

Don’t wait for an inspiration. Use your head and your heart will follow. Winning starts with beginning and beginning starts with a single action.

To really succeed in life all you have to do is:
1. Get started
2. Never quit.


Steps to success:

 Think correctly
 Read Profitably
 Work sensibly
 Earn Honestly
 Spend rightly
 Deal tactfully
 Eat properly
 Travel Lightly
 Love dearly
 Adjust cleverly
 Relax quietly
 Dress smartly
 Live wisely

Decision making is easy if there are no contradictions in your value system.

For writing: The words you use will change your mood for better or worse. The client shapes the structure and from then on the structure shapes the client.

Earth hath no sorrow that heaven cannot heal.

Into each life some rain must fall, some days must be dark and sad and dreary.

You wouldn’t worry of what people think of you, if you knew how seldom they do.

Worry doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow it empties today of its strength….

There will never be another now…
I’ll make the most of today.

There will never be another me….
I’ll make the most of myself.

The me I see is the me I’ll be….

Friday, November 16, 2007

Meaningful stuff...Basic lessons to be remembered in life...

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
Till the day my mobile was lost, I felt and belived that the safest place was where I leaved in, we friends used to share everything. But now that my mobile is lost during the day time, and its damn sure that nobody other than the hostel inmates where there, its hurting to see others faces.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She
answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated,
"PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line,
she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the
telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
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NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
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NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
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RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship.
It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
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PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?"
Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
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BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love.
Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance.
We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

Sunday, October 21, 2007

Take Time.....

Two things that people often complain of being short is Money and Time. But we do find both for what we (individual perception) feel is most important. These are matters of priority. As Achan often said: Time and Tide waits for no man…..

Favourate quote as gifted by Ajex:

TAKE TIME

Take time to work,
It is the price of success
Take time to Meditate,
It is the price of power
Take time to play
It is the secret of perpetual youth,
Take time to read
It is the way to knowledge,
Take time to be friendly,
It is the road to happiness,
Take time to laugh,
It is the music of the soul,
Most important of all,
Take time to love and be loved.

Saturday, October 13, 2007

What is important? Money or Happiness

I was too fascinated by this question in the community Fuzzier thought Firmer View in orkut,

What is important? Money or Happiness
Please note this is my inaugural topic. This topic is very fuzzy to me. People say both needs to be there. But there is only 1 answer and your response should indicate one or the other but not both.

My firmer opinion is money because I rarely see happy people who do not have money. If I have money, I see many faces smiling at me else no one cares about me. I see I can buy happiness for them with money because all I see is requests for material things.

I do care for someone needs to be translated only by fulfilling their wishes which requires money.


It does not matter if you are unhappy by pursuing money because if you want to be happy, the world will be unhappy with you.

From: http://www.orkut.com/CommMsgs.aspx?cmm=39276565&tid=2555366010596117930&start=1
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It was part of my question put ten years back, what is most important:

Money 2. Power 3. Intelligence/Knowledge 4. Beauty

Well my finding is put in the conclusion below, but first let us analyse this question:


Definitely both are needed for the existence of a comman human being. But in case one say ‘there is only 1 answer and your response should indicate one or the other but not both.’

My answer was Happiness Always!! Though I belive that Poverty is the greatest sin, the greatest curse, the greatest sorrow in once life.

To come to this conclusion, let me ask you two questions, definitely its an extreme case:

What would you prefer?

Lot of money with no family, friends or loved ones around (Remember the story of the Midas touch)
Good and supporting people around, with no money.

As rightly pointed out: ‘If I have money, I see many faces smiling at me else no one cares about me’. So definitely, only a poor man knows who his true friends are. As one of my cousin said, its easier to have many glass mates, but difficult to have good classmates.

Now let us analyse each of the above individually.

MONEY: It is very important, and essential thing in life. Money is ‘something’ but not ‘everything’ in life. It is like a bog, a mirage, once you are behind it, you will never be satisfied. Tell me how much money do you want??? Definitely cannot say!!!

Guess the theme of the Tamil movie ‘Kana Kanden’ , there are many today who like the smell of currency…….

HAPPINESS: Gambler, mystic, crook and saints all are looking for one and the same thing, though all have different ideas of what constitutes it. For example: Gambler wants money, and thus happiness…….Saint wants peace and thus happiness……

The ultimate thing for which all life searches is happiness, and it may be found only in the ourself. For some true its more money more happiness, for some solitude gives happiness, for some work, for some loved ones around means happiness, for others smoking, drinking or gambling.....it would all depend....What gives happiness for one, may be sorrow for another...Say of two siblings, one would be happy to have parents around, but other would have sorrow by having them...(Baghban- The movie that reminds me of may things)

Quotable Quote: The secret of happiness is simple, find our what you truely love to do, and then direct all of your energy towards doing it. Once you do this, abudance flows into your life and all your desires are filled with ease and grace.

Doing what you like is freedom. Liking what you do is happiness. (Frank Tyger). Happiness is about freedom and it begins in the ... your life, what you like doing, how you want your life to be, and go for it.

‘The things that we desire in life are expensive, but the truth is that the things that really satisfy us are absolutely free…. Love, joy, laughter and friends….’ Most precious things in life cannot be built by hand or brought by us……Just as most beautiful things in the life are never seen but felt by the heart.

Money and power that you have today, you may loose tomorrow, but love and plesentness that you cultivate within you, you are not going to loose it until you want to.

No wonder life is richer for those who aspire to reach higher and higher, progess is life, stagnation is death…Do your duty, do what will make you happy, and that will not hurt others, and the reward will follow. Kochuouseph Chittalappillys family would feel that they are not rich as Ambanis, Ambanis would compare themselves to TATAS, TATAS to some international ………That’s life……So also in sports or other fields of life…Sky is the limit, we need to reach for the stars, keeping the contant, changing the format….

Yes, with regard to the children, when we ourselves are not contented, why blame them for asking more? Happiness comes into family, not when there is more money, but when the children and spouse is understanding and cooperative. Together they can overcome poverty.

Its not like parents abroad earning money, and years later once they celebrate onam together you say its the first onam!!! When there are people in front of them who do not have either of their parent- Will they never have onam in their lifetime??

I do not have money to give you, but if you have reached a firmer view as your answer to this question, guess both of us would be happy!! Right.

Conclusion:

The most essential thing is ‘DEVOTION’ , as you know, if you are devoted to your work, you will get promotion, which will increase your salary, and you will have money, so is the case with business, or those who are into spiritual path. Devotion to your loved ones, will give you their support, now and always. You ignore people today, saying you can live without them. Right. But whom you reject today, it is difficult that they will accept you tomorrow, who knows you may need them tomorrow.

Then comes ‘Intelligence’, which embodies the ability to discriminate between things as they appear to be and as they really are. It doesnot just mean the academic marks or qualifications, but the wisdom and ability to bring harmony, think big, and the use of the same for constructive and not destructive activities.......

This I suppose will give you Happiness!!!

Many fail to realise but how many of us:

Catch up with events like blood donation annually.
Visit orphanage, old age home, and govt. hospital at least once a year. Share their sorrows. Take care of your own ones and others too. Don’t be like those, who once married forget their parents. Take up responsibilities.
At home give others (underprivileged, some one who is not blessed as you in yor family or your servents kids etc.) the opportunity to enjoy what you have. Service do help gain one both happiness and money.
Need money for SMOKING??? Keep burning Rs. 3/- why do you hurt two souls?? During corporate meetings you have to run to the toilet often, and you feel ockward, and want to hide it when others come in front of you. So many times you burn this money, when there is so many in need of the same??


The moment you become obsessed by desire to play a part in society, there is always the danger that those desire will keep you too busy to attend to quiet thought. Good to have such forums, or else people would think of it too late.

Well, whichever path you choose, all road leads to the common door, Death is a common factor in everybodys life, and what is important is how you live........Which is a matter of choice+ how big you grow depends on where you stand and Your 'perception'.

And the even in the secret manthra for success 'AHA AHA AHA' the ingredient is not money but Happiness!!! Hope you are aware that AHA stands for Attitude, Happiness and Action!!!

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The Secret Message:

Every human being on the planet wants to be happy. Anything that anyone desires is because they think their desire will make them happy. Whether it is health, money, a loving relationship, material things, accomplishments, a job, or anything at all, the desire for happiness is the bottom line of all of them. But remember that happiness is a state inside of us, and something on the outside can only bring fleeting happiness, because material things are impermanent.

Let go to live. Enjoy the moment. Be happy. Life happens for you, it does not happen to you.. Empty your cup. Love yourself, only then you will attract the right kind of person.

There are two parameters you can live in. If you are in a joyful state and at peace, you will get more. If you are grumpy, you will not attract the right kind of person.

Choices make your destiny. 

Permanent happiness comes from you choosing to be permanently happy. When you choose happiness, then you attract all the happy things as well. The happy things are the icing on the cake, but the cake is happiness.

Thursday, September 14, 2006

We do choose.....

As Bible Advises

Never let go of loyalty and faithfulness. Tie them round your neck; write them on your heart.

Get wisdom and insight. Do not abandon wisdom and she will protect you, love her and she will keep you safe. Nothing will stand in your way if you walk wisely, and you will not stumble when you run, Always remember what you have learned. Your education is your life- guard it well. Do not go where evil men go. Do not follow the example of the wicked. Don’t do it. Keep away from evil. Be careful how you think your life is shaped by your thoughts. Never say anything that isn’t true. Have nothing to do with lies and misleading words. Don’t be ashamed to say I do not know. Look straight ahead with honest confident. Don’t hang your head in shame. Plan carefully what you do and whether you do will turn out right. Avoid evil and walk straight ahead. Don’t go one step off the right way. Children should grow up to help parents, not strangers first. Never be responsible for some one else debt. Neither a borrower nor a lender be. Never he caught by your own words, your our promises. How long is the lazy man going to lie in bed? When is he ever going to getup? While he sleeps, poverty will attack him like an armed robber.

There are 7 things that the lord hates and cannot tolerate, A proud look, A lying tongue, hands that kill innocent people, a mind that thinks up wicked plan. Feet that hurry off to do evil, a witness who tells one lie after another, and a man who strips up trouble among friends.

As Rabindranath Tagore says:

This is how I would like to be, human & humane, a fully developed person, a harmonious personality. Lover of all people, a citizen with a conscience, a patriot whose loyalty embraces all mankind. Striving for social justice, for the right of the poor to the material well being, of the citizen to self-government, of the ignorant to knowledge, of the child to unfettered development, of the women to equal dignity with men. Be humble and strive for the development of your surrounding first and world next, do both. What the child impales at school is very important. True education lies in the training of all the senses instead of merely cramming the mind with memorized knowledge. Teach through craft. Bring back life to villages. Bridge a gulf between city and village. Remove the cancer of inequality and superstition from the body of our society. The inertia, which leads us to the idolatry of dead forms in social institutions, will create in our political prison houses with immovable walls.

Fear not the waves of the sea, but mind the leaks in your own vessel. No one can take away the blessed task of service to the country. It is God given. Self-rule is eternally within our grasp. If we do not take up the work, we lose the right. It is all to our shame if we lose the natural right of service and throw blame on others for the non-discharge of our duties. It is sad and unfortunate that while we ourselves refrain from service and sacrifice, we expect the mitigation of distress from those who do not feel the natural urge to love and serve but only to throw favors out of pity.
Justice will be the measuring life for the foundation and honesty will be my plumb line, faith that is firm is also patient. I believe in life only when it is progressive, and in progress only when it is in harmony with life. I preach the freedom of man from the servitude of the fetish of hugeness, the non human. By progress, it means a continuous development of the human personality, both individual and the corporate…
Where the mind is without fear,
And the head is held high,
Where knowledge is free,
Where the world has not been broken up,
Into fragments by narrow domestic wall,
Where words come out from the depth of truth,
Where tireless striving stretches its arms towards perfection,
Where the clear stream of reason has not,
Lost its way into dreary desert Sand of dead habit
Where the mind is led forward by thee
Into ever widening thought and action,
Into that heaven of freedom, my father,
Let my country awake.

As Pattabhi Ram sir says:
Life is all about:
Humility
Honour
Honesty.

Whatever you do, be the best in that. A friend asked should I do, B Sc pysics or B. Tech after 12th, and this was the answer that came apt...Technical knowledge is always the best and good if you could excel in B Tech say if interested in physics take electronics etc. But if your heart is elsewhere do that. An arts teacher, can earn even more than doctor, there are nuns and sisters, taking care of children and family better than married people.
Many young people believe respectable and well paying jobs are in the fields of nursing and engineering. What I’d like to know is what is the problem with other jobs?
Each person has his/her own strengths and weaknesses and should learn to play by them. You may be bad at maths but that does not mean you will be bad in languages. What I mean is each person has their own capabilities and while they excel in one area, they may be weak in another.
You should make your own decisions, make your own mistakes and learn to rectify them. If you fall down, you pick yourself up and keep on moving.
A number of students are new to decision making. Lets just say you are on your way up the corporate ladder but you rather do something like advertising or fashion designing, if that’s really what you want, and then go for it.
It does not matter where you are, if you hate what you are learning, you are going to end up hating the job. There are probably many who spend hours in front of your computer playing video games. Ever think of designing your own games for a living? ? Its just a thought. This way you will be doing something that exercises your brain and make money doing it.
Choosing a career takes time. You don’t just wake up one fine morning, sit down in front of a mug of coffee and declare without a second thought, ‘ I’m going to be a doctor’ or something like that. Time matters when it comes to your future. Not all careers are stable and decisions should be make carefully.
India is not able to reach its maximum potential may be because of this lack of decision making ability among young people.It is your own luck, skill and ability that matters in the future.


And that is what I too have been doing...Some say these kinds of thoughts will not lead me any where, I have still not reached any where...But that is a perspective....as I do belive today unlike yesterday, I have reached somewhere....

Emptying my thought by putting things here to have helped me tremendously. And indeed, once I reduce my sleep, I would be the best...Again, guess its only G the almighty who could help me and wishing for that, and thus a help for my studies.

Indeed, Faith, Forgive and Forgetting what is not needed is important. Doubting Thomas will never have happiness in their life - Personal or professional. They cause trouble not only to themselves but to others too.

IF YOU ..

Your words, your dreams, and your thoughts have power to create conditions in your life.
What you speak about, you can bring about.

If you keep saying you can't stand your job, you might lose your job.
If you keep saying you can't stand your body, your body can become sick.
If you keep saying you can't stand your car, your car could be stolen or just stop operating.
If you keep saying you're broke, guess what? You'll always be broke.
If you keep saying you can't trust a man or trust a woman, you will always find someone in your life to hurt and betray you.
If you keep saying you can't find a job, you will remain unemployed.
If you keep saying you can't find someone to love you or believe in you, your very thought will attract more experiences to confirm your beliefs.
If you keep talking about a divorce or break up in a relationship, then you might end up with it. Turn your thoughts and conversations around to be more positive and power packed with faith, hope, love and action.
Don't be afraid to believe that you can have what you want and deserve.
Watch your Thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your Habits, they become character.
Watch your Character, for it becomes your Destiny.
The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settle for.

"In the search for me, I discovered truth. In the search for truth, I discovered love. In the search for love, I discovered God. And in God, I have found everything."

Friday, September 08, 2006

Don’t Throw the Quit Switch

(((Most people succed because they are determined to. People of mediocre ability sometimes achieve outstanding success because they don’t know when to quit. – Heorge Allen, Football Coach)


Every Olympic athlete, every leader, and every human being has a certain little known brain part in common: a quit Switch.

Some people, out of lifelong habit, throw the quit switch at the first sign of frustration. Their workout gets difficult, so they throw the switch and go home. Their day of phone calls gets frustrating, so they throw the switch and go for coffee with a coworker for two hours of sympathetic negativity.

Everyone has a Quit Switch. Not everyone knows it.

Get to know it. Notice yourself flipping the switch. You can’t quir and you won’t quit until you throw the switch. A human being is built like any animal to persist until a goal is reached. Watch children get what they want and you’ll see the natural, built- in- persistence.

Somewhere along the way, through, we learn about this little switch. Soon, we start flipping the switch. Some of us begin by flipping it after a server frustration, and then star flipping it after medium frustrations, and until finally it is thrown in the face of any discomfort at all. We quit.

If you weren,t in the habit of throwing the switch too early, you would achieve virtually any goal you ever set. You would never give up on your team. You’d make every month’s sales goal. You’d even lose all the weight you ever wanted to lose. You would achieve anything you wanted because you would not throw the switch.

The Quit Switch is something you can focus on, learn about, and make work for you instead of against you. Whether you flip it early or late is only habit. The switch flipping habit is misinterpreted as lack of willpower, courage, drive, or desire, but that’s nonsense. It’s a habit. And like any habit, it can be replaced with another habit.
Make it your habit not to throw the Quit switch early in any process. Do not quit on yourself as a leader or on your team as producers. The less of a quitter you are, the more of a motivator you become.

IIf you feel depressed at any time in your walk through life. Read this……

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you are trudging, Seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high….
And when you want to smile, but you have to sign.
When care is pressing you down a bit…
Rest if you must, limit don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twist and turn,
As every one of us sometimes learn,
And many a fellow turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don’t give up though the space seems slow
You may succeed with another below

Often the goal is nearer then
It seems to a faint and faltering man
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victors cup
And he learned too late when the night came down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out,
The silent tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may he never when it seems afar.

So stick to the fight when you are hardest hit.
Its when things seems worst that you must not quit.

Don’t quit but turn God.

Saturday, July 15, 2006

Friendship & Love.....

Had a proverb once written on msn 'Nothing lasts for ever'.....Thomas Sir told me, Friendship lasts....I wondered.....Though not 100% true.........As even life doesnot last for ever....Even the bestest, truest, friendship would last only till life.......

Then I remembered an autograph by Georgekutty given: 'Friendship & Love is better than anything'

At times there are misunderstandings.....

Before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another Remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.

Life is a gift Live it... Enjoy it... Celebrate it... And fulfill it.

And while you are at it give love to someone today Love someone with what you do and the words you say

Love is not meant to be kept locked inside of us and hidden.

So give it away"Give Love to someone today!"

That u would make a difference in that someones life, may be knowingly or unknowingly you give him/her a new life.....

That someone may be your parents, your children, your spouse, your siblings, your friends, your relatives, your colleague, your neighbour or even your enemy.....

What one man cannot do, two can, and what one man can do, two can do still better......

There is so much of Good in the worst of us, and so much of bad in the best of us, that it ill behoves any of us, to find fault with the rest of us.

When you have some one to know you, to support you, even the most difficut times, the most difficult decision seems to be easy........

Thought for the day: Friendship and Love indeed is best!!!

Friday, March 24, 2006

"The Best Things in Life Aren't Things"

It's been said that success is getting what you want, but happiness is wanting what you get. Or to put it another way: Perspective, next to money, is the easiest thing to lose.

So, by all means, seek to increase your charisma. Try to become the most effective person you can be. Work at making a good first impression and projecting a positive image-but also try to retain self-awareness.

Look around you; think how you appear to others; be alert to the impression you're creating, or trying to create. If you try too hard to impress, or make a big to-do of the grand gesture, or come on too strong or too insensitively, you'll often end up creating a negative impression.

Also another thing is that, there is always a feeling, that well dressed means, with lots of makeup, or latest fashion, no. As Kapil Dev says in an advertisment, simplicity main eak adbuth shakti hey.

The best impression and the surest way to charisma often just means putting others first. It's been reported that one New York cab driver, for example, makes $30,000 more a year in tips alone than other cabbies. Why? Because he offers passengers a choice of several newspapers, cold drinks, or fresh fruit. He asks them what kind of music they'd prefer, and otherwise does his best to make his customers comfortable. In hectic, brusque Manhattan, his small acts of decency make him stand out.

Thus, folks with the most effective images often are those who are the least obtrusive about it. In fact, sometimes it's a simple act or gesture of courtesy-like announcing your first and last name when you see someone who may possibly have forgotten them-that burnishes your image, that really sets you pleasantly apart. Or maybe it's a short note of thanks for some favor. Or saying something nice and genuine about someone in front of his or her boss.

If never made, these gestures probably wouldn't be missed; that's why they're so obvious when you make them. In other words, being a genuinely good person, who cares about others and who does things because they are the right things to do, may be the ultimate key to increasing your personal magnetism, or charisma.

Always do right because, as Mark Twain said, that will gratify some people and astonish the rest.

Saturday, March 18, 2006

Democracy

Right from the evolution of human beings there evolved two traditions spiritual and technical, and there is a form of government governing the people. A quick glimpse from the stone age to date, reveals monarchy, dynasty rule, priest and common men and landlords & tenants often trying to put forth that they are right and thus proving their superiority, or getting things done.

Today the main form of governments that we see the world over is either democracy or military rule. Dynasty rule and monarchy is also seen at places. But democracy is largely accepted.

Democracy is a form of government in which the supreme power is vested in the people collectively and is administered by them or the officers appointed by them. Abraham Lincoln has aptly defined democracy as the government of the people, for the people and by the people. Sanjay Gandhi, in an interview taken by Uma Vasudev and published in The two faces of Indira Gandhi aptly says that by democracy one does not mean the freedom to destroy everything there is in a country but the freedom to built a country. Every individual in a democratic country has the freedom of expression and has many fundamental rights as against that seen in countries with presidents rule or military rule.

In the year 1947, India achievd freedom, but it became a sovereign socialist republic only in the year 1950. This was accepted keeping in mind the great population and limited space in India.

One of the basis of democracy is the recognition of equality of rights and privileges to all people. And for its success its important that all should practice ‘equality’ and be disciplined, to make use of the things given to them. A person should not discriminate people and ideologies. ‘Respect others, not only our faith’. This is a very important factor. One should not think that only his views or ideas are right and others are wrong. Men should not consider women to be intellectually stagnant, physically weak and economically a parasite. Each should remember that there is so much of good in the worst of us, and so much of bad in the best of us, that it ill behoves any of us, to find fault with the rest of us.

Each individual should be conscious of the activities going on around him for the success of democracy. Moreover one should solve problems by peaceful means and country should be free from economic insecurity.

At times we wonder if it is democracy, or dynasty rule that is found here......Its SUNNY DAYS FOR SONS.............Whether it be politics, profession, or Bollywood............It is a matter of great shame that in India democratic principles are married by ghastly incidents like corruption at all levels especially in the top bureaucracy, assassination of our great leaders etc. moreover irrespective of her-Indias rich & varied heritage and great many natural resources, she is in the clutches of poverty, unemployment, communal disharmony etc. Plutocracy and not democracy is seen to be ruling our country today though she is the biggest democracy in the world. Hoping that in the future with the infusion of time, talent, imagination, money and manpower, India will emerge as a super power. It is a matter of great pride for all of us, to see, unity in diversity here, with many numbers of languages, religion, and people, rich and varied heritage, geographical, and cultural differences.

To quote Rabindranatha Tagore: 'It is not the parliamentary system that guarantees democracy in a state, but certain specific virtue in the citizens namely, courage to stand up for ones right, tolerance of opposition, moderation in passion and a sense of humour which refuses to take a politician at his face value. No people who lack these virtue can ever be democratic whatever their political institution.'

The essay written for essay writing competition held by VAST on 26th March 2001.

Monday, March 13, 2006

“cause people are never happy in ...............”-27.1.05

Every body has dreams, plans and goals, when it is met, they feel happy. When they see hindrance to it, they are sad.

In organizations and management, this comes under motivation. Though not a management graduate, there are things that experience and life teaches us.

Different people look for different things. The needs of people vary and Abraham Maslow had put forth this as:


1.Basic needs: (security, Food, cloth, money), Safety needs (security), Social needs (Affiliation), Ego (Esteem), Self Actualisation needs.


To be more precise, some work for money, (to meet their basic needs), some because they need to show them selves off in the society, some because they love to work.

All have needs, though not the same, and therefore their attitude, desire and view vary, which are more or less like, steps, satisfaction of one need leads to the next, and so on. Every people look for different things, and in whatever levels a person is, they may have, professional and personal lives, and each life of theirs they have their own plans and desires.

As management do not like having surprises, even the employees, do not like hearing surprises.
It is really frustrating for the female employees, to know that they need to compulsorily work, even when, they are not feeling well or when they have whole weeks work planned kept pending at home. For men too they have their weekend plans, to be completed. Especially married, people are more frustrated when they do not have understanding employers because, they have to keep a balance between their personal and professional life, more than the bachelors/spinsters need. Removing an employee, with neither one months notice, nor salary for one month, have really demotivated the employees, in the sense, now they have begun to feel that there is no safety in working here, and the employers here will leave them at any time with no prior notice. When they ask me I just ask them could you give me the guarantee that you will not die today? But I know this is a harsh question, which some may not like to hear. Moreover it is funny to see that employees need to sent a leave letter, for a holiday……….

What the employees expect are:
1.Meaningful and interesting job.- Employees are here to work and not to plan, All things cannot be delegated, Planning has to be done by the top management, and once tasks assigned, there should not be constant change in priorities, what is said, urgent and they are made to work sitting late hours, they would like to see it implemented, or next time, when they are given, some important urgent task, they would be reminded of the old problems. There need to be planned and specific, goals & objectives.
2.Career advancement. This could be by job enlargements, job enrichments,
3.Supportive top management. -Generally it is said, follow the leader. Practice is better than precept. People work better and best for those, whom they see working. Not always shouting and creating problems work.
4.Participative decision-making- No doubt decisions are to be made by the top management, they need to make the employees, understand the requirements, preferably documented, but they would have a sense of satisfaction, when they are consulted in decision making. For example in project plans, dates have to be determined, by top management, and then consulted with subordinates for confirmation.



Motivation Carrots Rewards Monetary

Sticks Punishments Non Monetary.

This works if and only if:
a. Emphasis is more on carrots.
b. Sticks are to be administered skillfully and sparingly.

Many organizations cannot demarcate between the two, many a times what is implemented as a motivator turns out to be a demotivator in the long run. But decisions like, time, once made would lead to additional costs, to the company when reverted. For example is the performance appraisal. Now a days many organizations are suffering because of this decision made few years back. Once on the basis of good performance, a good increment is given to some employees, others are left behind. They how much so ever better they perform, cannot, easily earn the level of the first person, because, he in the future, if doest work, even a small increase, would be substantial for him. This is not only with respect to the monetary benefits but also with regard to the status, position and designation. In give the employees a scope for bargaining as to how he had reached that a level. Many organizations realize this, and right from start they decide to reward good employees by giving them some additional awards, cash/non cash prices for that year.


Just removing the trained employees, and recruiting new ones, would only add to the cost of the company, delay in generating revenue, and more problems.



“Which project is working best?”


Projects…………It was really surprising to hear that the best project moving as of now is Accounting package, I was astonished, shocked, and somewhat it was a joke for me. A project is a temporary endeavor, undertaken to create a unique product or service. It is unlike operations, which are ongoing and repetitive, with well-defined scope. For its success it should be within a predefined, quality, cost, and time paramater. The scope, time and cost should be predetermined. One needs to deploy the right resources in the right time-in right quantity.
One needs to prioritize things. Having highest priority for all means is no priority at all. Knowing the priority ranking helps project manager in proper planning. Failing to plan is planning to fail.
Fine some of these where there with the accounting project. But there are still some things missing.
There was change in the management, person heading this team switching over to another project, unknown person like me checking in QA server, which is too slow, and needs help of tomcat, bull dog, time spent on chats. Calling people when they are on leave.

There should be proper allocation and demarcation of authority, responsibility and accountability.

Professional responsibility toward team.

Need to respect personal, ethical and cultural differences in order to ensure a collaborative project management approach.
-Understand the strength and weaknesses of different team members and blend them well in a team
-Understand cultural and ethnic differences
-Respect different work ethics and practices of team members.
-Keep the team members informed of the project progress and future course of actions
-Provide training where necessary
-Give the team members honest, timely and transparent feedbacks and be interested in their welfare
-Manage conflicts with fairness
-No bias on the basis of Nationality, gender, religion.

Good this is the project plan, it is there. But what about authority, responsibility and accountability? What about the quality, cost, time paramaters and the scope ? What is the control on these projects? When The CEO shouts or points something, there is a huge cry.

It is said that well begun is half done. Just creating fuss at the last minute will not work. People in general feel that, there are constant reworking of things, and all efforts go waste, for nobodys fault!!!! That is one of the reasons for the present frustrations and confusions. Prioritizing things and Communication is the link pin, for success of any project. Proper communication at the right time, and in the right manner is needed. Written communication is a must and required for the success of any organization, not just explaining things, and need to be the basis for every organizational activity. Moreover now that the offices are in two different places, proper coordination and sense of oneness & belonging that we all are one big family, has to be there. Not just blaming the other end/others. It is also seen that among some there is a feeling that this being an invested co. FZ LLC, company will go on what may, and once the present projects are completed soon, then there would be no work………..So delay…………I Don’t think any in India would have this feeling, because here it is a private company.

Another thing for sure, just assuming that the investors would always be there with us, and there is no competition, is dangerous. Though we need not return the share money in a company once it loses its goodwill, there would be no new investors willing to invest here. Having had good specs from people like, pinnacle, no doubt, there is leakage of business secrets, and anything can happen. Just removing the trained employees, and recruiting new ones, would only add to the cost of the company, delay in generating revenue, and more problems. Things really have to move in an organized manner and not in a haphazard way. Better late than never.


“Personal notes & views”

In the month of December I happened to see the movie Munna Bhai MBBS, in which the Dean/principal of the medical college says:

Though a successful doctor for years, his hands would shiver if he had to operate his daughter?

Why? It was simply, because he loved his daughter.

Moral of the story: Same as someone said: “Never love the organization you work for, love your work.”

Knowledge alone would help you reach your goals. You don’t know when the organization you work for will stop loving you.

Work and ask not what others can give you, see what you can give to them. When you do your duty without expecting anything, you will be happy. We leave life only once, (Though the scripts say of 7 lives, I don’t think anybody leaves for that) so why waste time being sad? Nobody will bring to himself or herself, sorrow or frustration, as all would like to be happy always. Moreover “Happiness and sorrow are mere states of mind……… It takes equal amount of effort to be happy as to be sad.” Many don’t realize this.

We need to work and leave for the present. Saving and working hard now, thinking that we will enjoy in the future is not fully right, though we need to have some savings for the future. No body knows when a tsunami, earthquake, flood, fire, bomb or by any other means death will embrace you. Live in the present. We work for decent leaving, what we get now only is ours; let that be from our employers. Because the happiness, the salary we get now, is only what we will have, once the organization stops loving us, everything will be that of the company itself, so also all the bad that the employees do. At the most the employer can leave the employee, but the result of faulty recruitment is the most for the employer.

Also LOVE YOUR JOB, BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY BECAUSE YOUNEVER KNOW WHEN COMPANY STOPS LOVING YOU - Narayana Murthy

Undoubtedly, there is no greater teacher than Life!
The above-mentioned things are basic facts, which many fail to understand.

Moreover so far as I am concerned, I strongly believe that there is so much of good in the worst of us, and so much of bad in the best of us, that it ill behoves any of us to find fault with the rest of us. There are always scope and areas for improvement for all of us, and all would be looking for good and positive guidance. When an employee is seen not doing well in one area, there are always areas where he could do well. Once a person is recruited, before leaving him, there should be a policy of giving notices. Just asking them for the notice, when we do not keep the word, is not fair.

The first group of employees, here (Pritish, Hari) is more or less like the first group of employees there. (Sanjeev). Keeping them or leaving them is the managements choice.

Advantage: Sincere, Hardworking, Dedicated, Loyal, Have put good amount of hardwork during the initial days.

Disadvantage: Strong bargaining power in the long run.

Well all this can be seen in family lives too...........

Thats the story of when you divorce me, carry me on your arms.......Some relationship are built so much of love....But it takes only few minutes to break them...........?????? But why???

As the sms: In offices and at the time of Marriage why do two give hands or catch hands, when they meet first??- Is it like what the boxers do before they beging the fight????

Thought for the day: Happiness and sorrow are mere states of mind, it takes equal amount of effort to be happy as to be sad. We have only one life, why waste it, being sad.... Worry doesnot empty today of its sorrow, it empties, tomorrow of its strength. If a door is closed another will open, No body can change what has to happen....Once again....Expectation is the cause of all problem, accept things as they come........

Monday, January 16, 2006

THE REVELATIONS

1.THE REVELATIONS

(After being to Muringoor Divine Retreat Centre-14th March 1999 to 20th March 1999)

Wise people thirst for knowledge and the hope for the future as revealed in Bible (Isaiah 30-24) is: ‘Foolish people will learn to understand and those who are always grumbling will be glad to be taught.’ What is required is:

Respect ‘others’ (not only our) faith and discover their richness.
Know and obey God.
Don’t quarrel; love your enemies by forgiving them.

God is one and only one. Since God wishes to fulfill the desire of everybody in his omnipresent, omnipotent and omniscient form, he sends prophets, who are his chosen children. We are all children of God. The chosen children are those who have faith in God, who have the Holy Spirit filled in them. People believe the chosen children to be God and starts worshiping them which give rise to different sects of people and each come to be known as a ‘religion’, which is just a particular system of faith and worship.

Mathews 17 to 21 of Bible tells this about the chosen children:
“ Here is my servant, whom I have chosen,
The one I love, and with whom I am pleased,
I will send my spirit upon him,
And he will announce my judgment to the nation,
He will not argue or shout,
Or make loud speeches in the streets,
He will not break off a bend reed,
Or put out a flickering lamp,
He will persist until he causes justice to triumph,
And in him all people will put their hope.”

Avestan Zarathustra, Rama Mahavier Jain, Mohamed, Jesus Christ and Buddha are all God incarnate on earth. Buddha is to Hindus, what Jesus Christ was to Jews. Jesus Christ was a Jew, and Buddha was a Hindu. While Jews rejected Jesus, Hindus accepted Buddha. Even here Charles Darwin’s theory seems to have been applied. The theory says that the Fittest survive, the weak go to the grave. One should be in a position to adjust oneself with the change. ‘Buddha was the first being in the world who brought missionarizing into practice. Nay he was the first to conceive the idea of proselytizing. Now, or today, even here competition is seen. Since the promoters of the missionaries alone are not in a position to cater to the needs of their devotees, they choose disciples from among the devotees. But common people unknowlingly starts worshiping the prophets. There is nothing wrong in it, for Mahanirvana Tantra 4:12 says, “Material worship, is the lowest stage, struggling to rise high, mental prayer is next stage, but the highest stage is when the lord has been realized.”


It means wherever thow seest extraordinary holiness and extraordinary power raising and purifying humanity know thou that I am there. God never ever has proclaimed that Christians alone, or Hindus alone or Muslims alone will be saved. All religious books say that ‘Good’ will be saved. ‘Truth alone Triumphs’. Thus as Vedanta Sutra 3:4:36 syas (Vyasa) “we find perfect men even beyond the pale of our cast and creed.”

Then why do we quarrel? Remember the story of the frog said by Swami Vivekananda on 15th Sept 1893 at the parliament of religion-Swamiji Concluded saying that ‘A Hindu sits in his own little well and thinks that the whole world is his little well,’ This is the case with each individual living on this earth. Quarrels are caused mainly due to misunderstanding. One should be a little patient to understand what is in the mind of others, or what does the other mean by his speech.

The cruel murder of missionary workers in Orissa has been explained in Deuteronomy 13 of the Bible. A prophet or interpreter of dreams may promise a miracle or a wonder in order to lead you to worship other Gods or do other things. His promise may come true. But God is using him to test us. Those who trust God should not tust him’. Bible even tells us to rebel and put to death interpreters. This is what has been done in Orissa forgetting that hate never destroys hate only love does.

It is clearly emphasized in Mathew 25 of bible- ‘Any country that divides itself into groups which fight each other will not last very long’ Thus for the peaceful survival of our nation the one on the banks of Indus which also includes the present Pakistan, only the merger of the two can bring total peace which is but a distant dream, a dream which ought to be accomplished. History has taught us, and excavations have proved that violence begets violence and the inflecting of death leads in turn to death door. Cruel motives of men are sure to lead men to disaster. On the day of final judgments may victory be granted to truth and non-violence.

As is said in Bhagavad Geeta, ‘All those who are proficient in the science of sacrifice, are qualified to reach the ideal goal, which indeed is one and same for all seekers. The science of sacrifice tells us to be inactive in action and active in inaction.’ Knowledge alone can in the end take a person to the ultimate reality. One will see that all beings, including oneself are manifestations of the one supreme self. This infinite knowledge, alone can remove completely our sins (vasanas) and purify us. As in other branches of knowledge, one cannot set a time limit for acquisition of this knowledge. Inspite of these drawback I can say this much, strict adherence to the path pursued, deep devotion to the ideal we have accepted and are striving to reach self restraint and constant endeavor are factors that will help to attain supreme peace (Param Shanti).

If we do not have faith in others we will fail to recognize others and latter will be guilty of the same. Eg. If we do not have faith in others religion/words what would happen is, on the day of final judgement, the day being not far away, we will fail to recognize the truth, and hence would be guilty of the same as had happened to the people who had not entered the Noahas Boat. Thus the only rule in life is ‘Love’.

Edward Morgan Foster in his essay, ‘Two cheers for Democracy’ says that tolerance is the most important virtue because it is absurd or unreal to expect enemies or altogether different people to love each other. Therefore love, which is very essential, does not work in public life and international relations. Tolerance is a less difficult less dramatic but more useful virtue than love and it will enable difficult races and classes to settle down together for the salvation of this crowded jostling world. Understand the plan behind the universe. Be Patient, do your duties.

One thing is quite sure, since all religion teach the same things, those who have true faith in religion will have the qualities of , ‘harmlessness, truth, absence of anger, renunciation, peacefulness, absence of crookedness, compassion to beings, uncovetousness, gentleness, modesty, absence of hatred and absence of pride. 16-21,22 of the Bhagavad-Gita says, ‘Triple is the gate of this hell, destruction of the self, lust, anger, and greed, therefore one should abandon these three. A man who is liberated from these three darkness, practice what is good for him and this goes to supreme goal.

Recognize the whole mankind as one race; if anybody hope that the triumph of any one of the religion/country/person and the destruction of others will bring about unity, it is impossible. Beauty lies where there is unity in diversity. One should overcome the barriers considering, oneself as the sons and daughters of one single God. Each must assimilate the spirit of the others and yet preserve his individuality and grow according to his law of growth. One should never dream of the exclusive survival of his own ideas, and destruction of others. We should aim for the goodwill of all men as we have a common origin. People behave rudely or otherwise only because of ignorance- worst criminals as well as greatest saints don’t make themselves a nuisance to everybody. Be constructive in life, have inner dedication. ‘Be ye harmless as a dove, but wise as a serpent’ and ‘Cause less inconvenience to your co passengers’.


2. Religion.


‘Religion’ means a particular system of faith and worship. What binds man to God is his religion. When men have learnt to build a quiet temple inside his own heart and to be a ministering priest to his own self, religion will have done its true work.

The only way in which religion can be established is by worship, not by argument or discussion. The steps for proper worship are:
Before you can begin to worship God, you must forget yourself, before you can forget yourself, you must learn to control your thoughts and silence your minds. For this you must have humility and child like attitude.
We must not think of over selves as bodies and intellects. Thus you should forget your personal life at the time of worship.
Find for yourself some human intermediary, between self and God who will be a focus.
Make yourself strong and illumined to do without outside help, i.e stilling of the mind.

Self Reliance is the only true worship. What is needed is a fellow feeling between the different types of religion, seeing that they all stand or fall together, a fellow-feeling which springs from mutual esteem and mutual respect…Swami Vivekananda- All religions are different expressions of the same truth, all march on or die out. They are the radii of the same truth the expression that variety of minds requires.

3.God.

(Based on the debate with Mr. Menon, of Green wich oil mills, Thrissur, at the time of audit there with Jayanthy)

There is an unseen, unknown force controlling or moulding the nature and each individual here. We do not know what that external force is and therefore call it God. It is only adversity that takes man to God. Others simply say, ‘Man makes his own fortune and calls it fate’. Only that person in life can know what is fate, who has seen, felt or experienced adversity even by doing good things.

Cotton does not become cloth by itself. If there is a pen and a paper, nothing will come on the paper by itself. Some one has to lift the pen and write on it. This is nature. It is the sufficient proof for the existence of God, to those who do not believe in him. I have not seen the White House at Washington. But it is there and therefore it would be a folly if I deny it. I breath air, though I have not seen it. If we had told our great grandfather that I sitting in India can talk to or see a person who is not near us, he would not believe it, though I can see it happening today. In past people did not know the law of gravity until Newton discovered it. Thus gravity existed before Newton discovered it and would have existed even if it was not discovered.

So is that external force controlling mankind, which is called God. There is nothing like ‘my God’ or ‘your God’, but one single God-the omnipresent, omnipotent and omniscient which is ‘our God’.

Until the reality of God is unveiled, each one of us has got our own ideas. The whole concept of God depends entirely upon where we stand, for different people and also for the same people at different points of life, God means many things. For some it is a personal deity, for some human images, or other images and for some light is the form of God and space is his home. For some it is power-because wherever we go God is there. He is the creator of such a vast creation. Therefore the highest deity ought to be the impersonal and universal.
Everything in life is not within the control of men. There is an external force controlling it, moulding it. Man should learn to build a quiet temple inside his own heart, and be a priest to his own self, for God is within him, around him and everywhere. One must see God in oneself as well as in every other individual. The real God who is presently playing hide and seek with us will one day reveal his identity to us, if we earnestly desire.

I accept all religions that were in the past, and worship with them all, I worship God with every one of them, in whatever from they worships him. I shall go to the mosque of the Mohammedan, I shall enter the Christians church and kneel before the crucifix, I shall enter the Buddhist temple, where I shall take refuge in Buddha and in his law, I shall go into the forest and sit down in meditation with the Hindu, who is trying to see the light which enlightens the heart of everyone.



4. Faith.


Faith is the playing ground of impression developed through birth. ‘A man is as his faith is, nay man is but his faith’. What do you mean by faith? The belief in what I don’t know, so that I may come to know what I believe in is called faith. Faith is that towards which each of us irresistibly gravitates in all our actions, feelings and thoughts. Thus every one of us has a goal, a great destination. This is the faith in each of us. Without faith ‘might would be right’ as is happening in the world of today. If all of us on this earth had faith in God, there would be love among all of us, on this earth and we know that where there is love there is peace and God. There would be no enemity, no hatred, no war, and no bloodshed! Ha! How wonderful it would be. But today all these are present on mother earth, which reveals lack of faith. This is leading us to destruction. There is a great deal of variance in the life of men because of difference of faith. Faith is the man, have a firm faith in a noble ideal and thus act tirelessly to achieve it in a spirit of dedication and love unto him. To one who works thus in the world, success is sure. Eg. Einsten/Edison-Science, Gandhi-Non Violence.

With the birth of a man is born his faith and is the lifeblood of his living. It is a great Power. Often Christ said ‘As ye believe, so will it be’ A doubting mind is a diseased mind. Doubt is like a little germ, which gets loaded in the heart and infects the whole being. There is no happiness for the man of doubting. It throws the whole world into a state of turmoil. A man who thinks himself the most sinful of all sinners, fallen without hope, rises to his feet again when a wise and loving heart comes and rekindles in him the divine spark. Thus faith regenerates. Faith may not eliminate all our troubles. It may make it greater. We should always remember that, there is a place in every heart upon which we can absolutely depend. We must try to find that. No matter how degraded a person may be, there is still within him the divine spark. ‘There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, that it ill behoves any of us, to find fault with the rest of us.’ No matter how small or insignificant we may seem at times, we are always connected with the great whole. As we think, so we become. “Fools dwelling in ignorance, yet imaging themselves wise and learned, go round and round in crooked ways, like the blind leading the blind.”

Swami Vivekananda had said, ‘who will help you? You are the help of the universe, what in this universe can help you? Where is the man, or the God, or the demon to help you? What can prevail over you? You are the God of the Universe, where can you seek for help? Never help came from anywhere but from yourself. In your ignorance, every prayer that you made and that was answered, you thought was answered by some being, but you answered the prayer yourself unknowingly.

Faith is belief in inspiration, revelation or autority. The word sometimes refers to a belief that is held with lack of reason or evidence. 


Faith, Faith, Faith, in ourselves, faith in God- this is the secret of greatness. If you have faith in the three hundred and thirty millions of your mythological Gods, and in all the Gods which foreigners have introduced into your midst, and still have no faith in yourself, there is no salvation for you. Have faith in yourselves, and stand upon that faith and be strong.