12 Life Lessons from a Man who’s seen 12000 death

Thanks to Nitto for sharing this.

Kashi Labh Mukti Bhawan in Varanasi is one of the guesthouses where people check in to die. Bhairav Nath Shukla has been the Manager for 44 years. He shared his 12 recurring life lessons with Deepak Ramol, who shared it in upliftconnect.com; and also has his youtubes updated. Interesting, so thought of sharing.

1. Resolve all conflicts before you go

2. Simplicity is the truth of life

3. Filter out people’s bad traits

4. Be willing to seek help from others

5. Find beauty in simple things

6. Acceptance is liberation

7. Accepting everyone as the same makes service easier

8. If/When you find your purpose, do something about it

9. Habits becomes values

10. Choose what you want to learn

11. You don’t break ties with people; you break ties with the thought they produce.

12. 10% of what you earn should be kept aside for dharma

The End To Movie Watch & Reviews

Life is a mystery - Mystery of beauty, bliss and Divinity.

And here we get the news of the mysterious death of the beauty diva of yesteryear. Who is to be blamed? How can we mourn?

Well for me personally; having been a great fan of her can relate each phase of my life to her movies or events from her life. So personally I decide to say goodbye to movies.

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MY REALLY PERSONAL NOTE ON SRIDEVI

YES she was the most desirable woman and the biggest super star of the country and ruled as a main heroine in the entire country for more than 20 years..But that’s just a part of the story

However shocked and sad I feel about Sridevi's death, it’s finally once again a rude reminder for all of us about how unpredictable, cruel,fragile and mysterious both life and death are

After her death ,there is definitely much more for me to say than what most people are saying now about how beautiful she was, what a great actress she was, how her death affected them, " RIP"s "Om shanthi" s. etc etc etc
Sridevi's life is a classic case of how each persons actual life is completely different from how the rest of the outside world perceives it.
For many, Sridevi's life was perfect . Beautiful face, great talent, seemingly stable family with two beautiful daughters--
From outside everything looked so enviable and desirable... But was Sridevi a very happy person and did she lead a very happy life?

I know her life from the time I met her first for my film kshanakshanam . I saw with my own eyes how her life was like a bird in the sky till her father’s death and then became like a bird in a cage due to her overprotective mother

In those days actors used to be only paid in mostly black money and due to fear of tax raids her father used to trust friends and relatives who all betrayed her the moment the father died
Coupled with this the ignorant mother made many wrong investments in litigated properties and all those mistakes combined made her penny less by the time Boney came into her life
Boney himself was in huge debts and all he could afford to give her was a fat shoulder to cry on
After her mother became a psychotic patient because of a wrong surgery on her brain in USA,though Boney sued the hospital they dint get any huge amounts of money in settlement because of some agreement mistakes he did with the lawyers there
Once the mother died her younger sister Shri Latha eloped and got married to their neighbours son ..The mother before dying put all properties in sridevis name but her sister put a case on her demanding half the property claiming that her mother was insane and not in her senses when she signed the will due to the brain surgery

So in effect the woman desired by millions in the world was all alone in the world except for one Boney

Boney ‘s mother portrayed her as a home breaker and publically punched her in the stomach in a five star hotel lobby in revenge for what she presumed about what she did to Boney’s first wife Mona

Except for the short glimmer of English vinglish Sridevi has been pretty much a very unhappy woman
Boney’s debts ,the uncertainty of the future,the ugly turns and twists in her private life left deep scars in the super stars sensitive mind and there after she was never at peace. She went through so much in her life and due to her early career entry,life never gave her time to grow up at a normal pace.
More than the external peace, her internal mental state was of a high degree of concern and this caused her to look at her own self . She was the most beautiful woman for so many people. But did she think she was beautiful ?
Yes but every actresses nightmare is age and she was no exception
For years she was doing cosmetic surgeries the effects of which can be clearly seen In her interviews and public appearances,
She always came across as very shy,insecure and low on confidence .
Some one who is very uptight, who built a psychological wall around her as she was scared of anybody to really see what's going on within her. She was panicky about anybody knowing what her psychological insecurities were.
Not because of her fault, but because she was thrust with fame from a very young age that never gave her a chance to be independant and be what she could really be and really wanted to be
She had to put on the make up and be somebody else not just infront of the camera,but also behind the camera.

Though I as an audience thoroughly enjoyed her on the screen , I now after knowing her as a person wish that she was allowed to be a star even in her normal life instead of being constantly directed by her parents,her relatives, her husband and to an extent even her own daughters .. She was scared whether her daughters would be accepted or whether they will go the Hema Malini’s daughter Esha Deol way

I could see in her eyes the pain she was going through deep inside her and that’s because she is actually a child trapped in a woman’s body ..she is naive as a person, but suspicious because of her bitter experiences which is not a very good combination . She used to convey to me so much through her silence than most would in their best conversations

Coming to her death ,it is most likely a combination of heart stroke induced accidental drowning death in the tub . But medications might have played a huge role.

Many suicides and accidental deaths happen after big parties or weddings. That's because people with depression and insecurities can't understand why the whole world is so happy and enjoying, but they are not able to feel the happiness inspite of all the glitter and spotlight. That reminds them that they are deeply sad and that there is nothing wrong with the world and the fault is with just them that they are not able to feel anything.

Some people who are very deeply depressed commit suicide. Others, just to control their depression and anxiety, take extra pills not knowing that it can be dangerous in certain doses and conditions

Keeping the speculations on her death aside and coming back to the point of her life,I generally don't say " Rest In Peace" after people die, but in her case I want to really say it because I very strongly believe that she would finally and really rest in peace now for the first time in her life ,

Or shall we say death?

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Henceforth no more Moonlit nights! Chandni gone forever. Alas!
We’ll never forget those Lamhe  

20th March: International Day of Happiness

In 2011, the UN General Assembly adopted a resolution which recognised happiness as a “fundamental human goal” and called for “a more inclusive, equitable and balanced approach to economic growth that promotes the happiness and well-being of all peoples” Celebrated for the first time in 2013 “This International Day of Happiness is more than just a fun celebration, it also remind us all that the world is a better place when we connect with and care about the people around us”
https://youtu.be/K7gYZENLTmY

What's wrong with the world today?
A drop of Happiness can cause
Smiles
Optimism
Self worth
Reduced Depression
Improved Health

But what a day it was. An International declaration of the celebration; and 39 Indians abducted by Isis were declared dead😕

Tried to take stock of people around me who were really happy and could not find any.

Some striving for basic necessity;
Some wanting a house; others a car;
Those having cars wanting bigger ones.
Single Souls looking for a life partner,
Married ones wanting to get seperated;
Those busy with work wanting some leisure,
Ones with time looking for a past time.


Life is so quer with its twists and turns.

A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms. Wish we could learn to be happy from them.

Mother and Wife @ Happy Women's Day

Having been an ambitious and talented student having travelled all over India due to father's transferable job had the normal desire of every lady as well; to be a loving mother and wife. After graduating in she fell for this guy. Eventually she got married into a well to do family. She was successful, educated, visionary but all the man cared was did she know to cook?

There started small rifts in the family; she took up higher education got a job. Decided his income could be used for necessity and her as an additional supplement. Then they had one son. Were almost on the verge of buying a house but there were rifts and it did not materialise.

Thinking of the many women of substance and talent who ruine their lives getting into wedlock.


Man n woman are different. There are differences in terms of physical, physiological, mental, characteristical, biological in men n women. The purposes are unique for both of them. Appreciate the differences n uniqueness and salute men n women.

Woman assumes various roles in our life as mother, sister, friend, guide, teacher, wife, daughter, companion etc

My sincere n heartfelt thanks to those women who added value n colors in my life 🙏😀😍😘💐 To all who have been through tough time. Is her role only to cook and take care of her family and be confined to the four walls?

A colleague said -
I know of women who stay lazy and party around and cook rarely and blame men for everything wrong in their lives, all in the name of gender equality........Quite obvious Today is not dedicated to the above........
Today is meant to be dedicated to all The Women, around whom life revolves, without whom their families would starve for food and affection, without whom there would be No More inspiration, without whom we cannot quote epitome of parenting and care.......Without whom we cannot talk about work life balance.......I dedicate my admiration to Those Women.....Happy Mother, Sisters and Friends who are born women and still remain an integral part of my Life. You Make Me Complete. Happy Women's Day.

May be I did/do not fit into that category.
Managing What.....One cannot manage All. If I gain something in life......I will have to give up something......It's all a weighing machine......I have gained more, than what I lost.....??

Here's hoping that in the future we won't need to celebrate a Women's Day or Men's Day; that gender equality will be a matter of fact, a matter of value and a matter of pride; something we all take for granted. Then we can truly celebrate all 365 days in a year as "human days" 🏵 😊
Till that utopia becomes a reality ..Stay blessed everyone!!!

The Ride not taken. Travel @ March 2018

Had a dream come true; women's ride on Honda Activa from Ernakulam To Mankunnu near Munnar on the 10th of March.

Thanks to Sreebha for introducing me to it. Had her mom; Deepa and her daughter also join us for the ride with Jaysree who was always a great rider and driver and with whom we had discussed about doing this long before.

We were 6 Women linked to our company with two mother-daughter combination.

Coordinated by Niveditha Nithya to amazing sacred caves we set off under the leadership of a woman of substance a true leader who kept her smile and spirit inspite of all hardship. All this had full backing from Shanavas Ekka and team.

Riders- Co -riders of the trip where:

Sayoojya- Aksa (The tails; who had a tough time on the onward journey as I was slow, and they could not overtake me)
Jayasree -Sreebha's Mom
Sreebha-Anju (Tall and strong Anju; Great to know you from Thrissur; Tough Time never last but Tough people do. All will be well)
Meera- Anagha K.S (Young; budding solo traveller - way to go my girl : - will always remember you when I see a puddle - 'Kuzhi'
Deepa-Deppa's Daughter
Niveditha-Jessy (They had to finally come in car as they did not get their two wheeler right and ready)

So here we met 6 New people and it was great to know them and helped us make our trip a memorable one.

We had fun on the go...✌😊 Starting with breakfast from Aryas at 9.30; team pic near Mariane Drive at 11.30; lunch at Ravipuram around 1.30; fight at Sarafa memorial hospital for parking the two wheelers there; Nithya and Jessie running around for their two wheelers; we having ice creams Fruit Exotica; Coffee craze; Nut overload; Malai Craze; French Vanella; French Strawberry...to beat the heat...from Cream & Stone.

Finally at around 3.30 pm the real ride began with flag off from the Mayor of Kochi and we halting at every 30 kms. Though hot in the beginning it was pleasant by the time we reached Kothamangalam; had beautiful sunset view; fuel tea break at Adimali and by the time we reached Kallar it was dead dark. From there Munnar 15kms. towards left Mankunnu 16 kms. As some riders looked tired and kept asking have we reached stopped the car to ask if anyone need break. Alas Nithya and Jessie fell off the scooter and her leg was bleeding. Jeans had to be torn off below the left knee. Still she was determined to ride. Road with holes; with twists and turns; ups and downs, slow but steady we reached the destination by 8 pm. We could see forest fire on a hill nearby - scary it was. Did we really reach the destination or did we not? Lo and Behold there was an uphill task ahead of us. Our stay was little high from the main road with no proper roads. It appeared miles away as we had to climb after a long day and it was literally impossible for Nithya. Three others from Umbatto lifted her and took her upstairs. She had to be taken to the hospital for dressing.

Great place; Great people; Great ambience you would just love it if you are a nature lover; though we could not admire the beauty at night. Campfire under open sky on rock top; stay in a cave house resort is all that we could cherish that night with amazing homely good and guitar by Rithique. We missed Nitya' s presence initially but she joined us soon. As I close my eyes a week after, I can still see the star studded sky above, feel the music and campfire. But we got into rooms to sleep at night. Oops Sreeba and Aish - The two daughters could not sleep even there because of spider and ants; and finally there was the tent inside the room - Another first.

Woke up by 4 am, Thanks to the Ants I did not have to break my yoga routine and by 6 am could be back to the amazing place where we had our campfire this time getting on to climbing the tree catching and getting onto through roots. Did Shambavi Mudra and meditated in a cave underneath a bit cautious if there were snakes crawling around. Did not see any, but there were red ants. Returned by 7.30 had Kappa and Chicken for breakfast and off we went for next walk.Caves, trees, rocks; but no waterfall as it was hot, amazing walk but we were split into two teams...what more would you want to refresh your mind? Great job Junais with 40+ names including Shiva/Eashu and Great guide full of energy Johny Chettan with great homely food with Molly Chechi. All the best to the team behind. Peace. There was much more to see; but we had to start our return trip. Before we got down few shared their thoughts and it was interesting to hear that even Napolian was afraid of Cats and when strong people come together men/women team would be stronger and we can accomplish greater task. Half heartedly we had to start our ride back home to reality.

Great effort and job. Thank you guys for the amazing job and Great memory. It was interesting to know work colleagues better and to know about others around, a little more insight into life via a ride.

All through I missed and wished you were around Acha. On reaching Adimaly we had our break for tea and it was good to know that there were well wishers and friends worried as I was unavailable for around 18 hours as there was no data and range uphill.
"If you have at least one person genuinely supporting You, you're blessed!" So I am. Jisha even tried and got Sreebas number to enquire.

It was saddening and shocking to know that the forest fire had taken lives of more than 10 people and therefore trekking was stopped at Munnar.

Wishing you all the very best in all your future endeavours my dear co-riders and one and all behind the show who helped make these two days memorable.