Wednesday, January 07, 2026
Tuesday, January 06, 2026
The Polyester Prince ~ Hamish McDonald (1 of 26)
Dhirubhai was never simply an industrialist, a trader, a financial juggler or a political manipulator, but all four in one. He knew how to take calculated risks.If he starts an acquaintance with someone he will
Sunday, January 04, 2026
Friday, January 02, 2026
Why Even Smart Leaders Avoid Difficult Conversations ~ Junie George Varghese
Why even smart leaders avoid difficult converstation? Junie George Varghese
The 5th Mantra : The communication Fitness Studio.
Perception
Problem
Cost
Cause
Way forward
Why avoidence happen and what happens if we continue?
Know the Architucture of difficult conversation, bring focus back on clarity and timeliness.
Perception - What really is happening?
Strength becomes weaknesses. Note down the strengths on LHS and then discuss the weakness out of it.
Intelligence - Overthinking_Justification
Experience - Pattern Bias, Consequences
Authority - Reputation,
Empathy - Hesitation
Skills that build leadership is threatening when it comes to communication
Problem
Judegment Distortion - Silence confused with patence, maturity and respect, not always skill gap.
Abstract trap - 'Radical Condor' book emphasising on clarity - Compromising clarity . Give guidemap on how to improve.
Ping-pong effect - competing version of reality, objective gap.
Power increases avoidence - filtered feedback, truth becomes expensive.
Leadership training focusing on:
What to say
How to structure feedback
Which model to use?
Question is not can you handle difficult conversations?
Question is What has your intelligence helped you avoid?
Leadership doesn't remove fear. It just gives fear better vocabulary.
Cost : The invisible Tax of Avoidance.
Leadership think they are buying time, but they are buying damage at compound interest.
The Multiplier Effect: Shadow narrative, ambiguity. Clarity is important, not just the language.
Cultural Erosion: Standars blur, erosion of psychological safety and accountability
Innovation blockage: Echo chamber
The Human Sustainability Crises: Delegation to HR (identity & Credibility issues, 65% burnout)
Micro failure: 'Job hugging', 'quiet cracking', 'Mediocrity' accelerating turnover - (Chipko movement)
Galiups State of Global workplace 2025 report. 21% of employees are really engaged.
Significance of lack of communication is leading to serious consequence.
Cause - The 'why'.
The Amygdala Hijack - 'Word can change your brain' limbic system overpowers. Fight, Freeze Flight mode. Handling failure is important, but even important is handling success. Are you becoming defensive when put in a tight spot?
Cognitive Callibration - Preempt worst outcome, Decision paralysis. (People have positive and negative experience - but some pick either first. There is a pattern, without realising)
The 'Nice vs. Kind' trap: 'Crucial conversation'. Nice vs. Kind talk. Leader need to say what is needed. Truth vs. Bonds, Protect identity.
Complex cultural, regulatory and legislative landscape: 'Saying the wrong thing'
Asynchonous Friction - Channel failure, matching complexity to richness of medium
Not mapping the conversation - Improvise vs. Architecture
Presence of AI: Pressure to be 'perfectly human'.
Way forward - Not approches or models, but few pathways.
Decrease your 'Conversational Latency', Rely on the structure of clarity.
Identify a specific conversation you have been 'saving for later'.
Ask "What meaning will my silence create"
Reframe "How do I say this?' to
"Which identity am I protecting by staying silent?"
"What identity do I strengthen by speaking clearly?"\
Will you lead the conversation, or will it lead you?
"Communication is judged not by intent, but by what is understood" ~ Peter Drucker.
Dont confuse intent with impact.
Take stand without thinking too much of what others would think. Communication begins in the mind. Our thought process, mindset, belief all of this is going to have an impact in the way we understand and impact. Communication is not just talking and listening or verbal and non verbal.
Ratan Tata - lift story - asking let the guest take lift. He knew how to do it well withoug belitting others.
Integrate Gen Zee and Gen Alpha.
People want to be respected and seen. There needs to be trust. There should be human connect.
Vulnarability, is what makes us real. We are going to come with flaws. It is a part of us. Same is the case with people in power. Bring back focus on having conversation.
Former PM P.V. Narasimha Rao. Silence is golden. You have to know the difference between silence being a strategy, and silence being a default.
Perception is a very dangerous game to play. You cannot go around doctoring minds.
You should know when to keep quite and when to speak. Know when to be quite and when to be expressive.
In a meeting everyone agree, but outside mostly disagree, real issue is misalignment.
Wednesday, December 31, 2025
Onto a New Chapter, New Year
As 2025 ends, may we close some chapters with courage, leave the empty pages behind, and step into the next story a little wiser, a little kinder, and far more hopeful.
Loved Bindus post and agree:
What I’m taking forward from 2025.
This year taught me again, “if your gut raises even the smallest of alarms, listen. Listen deeply and well.”
Also, the year of truly ‘Letting go and Letting God’. Praying there is no relapse 🙏
Wishing all of you peace, joy and dreams 🙏😍
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With a heart full of gratitude, I thank this year for its lessons and grace.
May 2026 unfold with peace in our minds and joy in our everyday moments.
Wishing you abundant health, steady prosperity, and gentle strength.
May the coming year bring happiness that is deep, lasting, and shared.
As yet another calendar year comes to an end, let us infuse every moment with hope, every day with gratitude and every night with dreams.
May all our needs be fulfilled, and our wants awarded as per God's will.
Wishing all health, happiness, and prosperity in 2026!
Wishing you a profusion of happiness and success in New Year !
Happiness Humesha 😊
Tuesday, December 30, 2025
Illusions : The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah ~ Richard Bach (2 of 26)
This novel follows Richard, a barnstorming pilot, who meets Donald Shimoda—a self-described messiah who has abandoned his role. Through their conversations and shared adventures in the skies of the American Midwest, Shimoda teaches Richard profound truths about reality, perception, and the power of belief. The book explores the idea that reality is an illusion shaped by our thoughts and choices, encouraging readers to transcend limitations and embrace freedom. It includes excerpts from the mystical Messiah’s Handbook, which offers cryptic wisdom for seekers of enlightenment.
- Reality as an illusion
- Power of belief and choice
- Spiritual awakening and self-discovery
- Freedom beyond limitations
The introduction says,"I do not enjoy writing at all. If I can turn my back on an idea, out there in the dark, if I can avoid opening the door to it, I won't even reach for a pencil. But once in a while there's a great dynamite-burst of fling glass and brick and splinters through the front wall and somebody stalks over the rubble, seizes me by the throat and gently says, "I will not let you go until you set me, in words, on paper." THAT is how I met "Illusions."
Also, the back of the book has like a starry night time scene and says More than a great national bestseller. A great way of looking at life. "Here is a test to find whether your mission on earth is finished. If you're alive, it isn't.
Illusions is a lighthearted mystical adventure story about two barnstorming vagabonds who meet in the fields of the Midwest. Richard Bach meets Don Shimoda, the Reluctant Messiah. Magic and miracles surround Don. He calls them Illusions, not Miracles. Richard wants to learn. Don presents him with Messiah's Handbook: Reminders for the Advanced Soul. It starts 'Perspective, Use It or Lose It. If you turned to this page, you're forgetting that what is going on around you is not reality'. Richard reads more and more and Don speaks more and more. Very beautiful life-clarifying phrases.
If you liked JLS, you’ll love Illusions. It’s basically the same philosophy but with pilots instead of birds! It’s a lighter, funnier read, but the ideas hit hard.
The 'changing the past' concept is my favorite. With a brain holding 50 years of un-pruned memories, I’m convinced that the past only exists in our 'remembering self' (to use Kahneman’s term). It feels very close to the Vedantic View—the idea that our world is a mental projection. Even the intense memory of a 'first love' is often just an image we created. If we change the narrative or emotion attached to it, we literally alter the past."
Illusions revolves around two barnstorming pilots who meet in a field in the Midwestern United States. The two main characters enter into a teacher-student relationship that explains the concept that the world that we inhabit is illusory, as well as the underlying reality behind it:
'What if somebody came along who could teach me how my world works and how to control it? ... What if a Siddhartha came to our time, with power over the illusions of the world because he knew the reality behind them? And what if I could meet him in person, if he was flying a biplane, for instance, and landed in the same meadow with me?'
Donald William Shimoda is a messiah who quits his job after deciding that people value the showbiz-like performance of miracles and want to be entertained by those miracles more than to understand the message behind them. He meets Richard, a fellow barn-storming pilot. Both are in the business of providing short rides—for a few dollars each—in vintage biplanes to passengers from farmers' fields they find during their travels. Donald initially captures Richard's attention when a grandfather and granddaughter pair arrive at the makeshift airstrip. Ordinarily it is elders who are cautious and the youngsters who are keen to fly. In this case, however, the grandfather wants to fly but the granddaughter is afraid of flying. Donald explains to the granddaughter that her fear of flying comes from a traumatic experience in a past life, and this calms her fears and she is ready to fly. Observing this greatly intrigues Richard, so Donald begins to pass on his knowledge to him, even teaching Richard to perform "miracles" of his own.
The novel features quotes from the Messiah's Handbook, owned by Shimoda, which Richard later takes as his own. An unusual aspect of this handbook is that it has no page numbers. The reason for this, as Shimoda explains to Richard, is that the book will open to the page on which the reader may find guidance or the answers to doubts and questions in his mind. It is not a magical book; Shimoda explains that one can do this with any sort of text. The Messiah's Handbook was released as its own title by Hampton Roads Publishing Company. It mimics the one described in Illusions, with new quotes based on the philosophies in the novel.
"I WILL NEVER FORGET THIS"
You tell this and the mind would not forget.
To like this book, one need to be old enough to be questioning and young enough to be searching. Guess, I am either too old or too young, to not have either understood or appreciated this book.
Monday, December 29, 2025
Sarojini Naidu
She wrote love poems that made the British Raj weep—then used that fame to help bring down their empire.
Sarojini Naidu was 13 years old when she wrote her first poetry. By 16, she'd published her first collection. By her early twenties, British literary critics were calling her work "exquisite" and comparing her to Keats and Shelley.
She wrote in English—the colonizer's language—with such beauty that the colonizers themselves couldn't help but admire her. Her poems about Indian gardens, temples, and festivals introduced British readers to the India they'd occupied but never understood.
They called her "The Nightingale of India."
They had no idea she was about to use that voice to demand they leave.
Born in Hyderabad in 1879 to a progressive Bengali family, Sarojini was a prodigy. Her father was a scientist and educator who believed daughters deserved the same education as sons. At 16, she won a scholarship to study in England, first at King's College London, then Cambridge.
In England, she fell in love with a man from a different caste—Govindarajulu Naidu. When she returned to India and married him in 1898, it was scandalous. Inter-caste marriages were socially unacceptable. Her family supported her anyway.
She could have spent her life writing beautiful poetry, being admired by British literary society, living comfortably as one of the few Indian women welcomed in elite circles.
Instead, she met Mohandas Gandhi.
It was 1914. Gandhi had returned from South Africa and was beginning to organize resistance to British rule. When Sarojini met him, something shifted. The poet who'd charmed British audiences realized her real audience should be the Indian people fighting for freedom.
She didn't stop writing poetry. She weaponized it.
In 1917, Sarojini co-founded the Women's India Association, organizing Indian women into a political force. She traveled across India giving speeches that combined her poetic eloquence with revolutionary politics. British officials who'd once praised her poems now watched her nervously.
She became one of Gandhi's closest allies—and one of his most effective speakers. Where Gandhi spoke with moral authority, Sarojini spoke with wit, charm, and devastating humor.
When British officials tried to intimidate her, she'd respond with lines so sharp they'd become legendary. Once, when told that organizing against the British was "unladylike," she reportedly replied that she'd learned everything about being unladylike from watching British governors' wives.
The British didn't know how to handle her. She was too famous to simply arrest without consequence. Too eloquent to dismiss. Too well-connected internationally to silence easily.
So they arrested her anyway.
In 1930, Gandhi launched the Salt March—walking 240 miles to the sea to make salt illegally, defying the British salt tax. Sarojini walked with him. When Gandhi was arrested, she took over leading the march.
She was arrested multiple times throughout the 1930s and 1940s. Each arrest made her more famous. Each imprisonment made more Indians realize that even the most privileged, educated, internationally celebrated Indian woman was still just another colonial subject to the British.
In 1925, Sarojini became the first Indian woman president of the Indian National Congress—the main organization fighting for independence. She was leading the political movement that would eventually force Britain to leave India.
Think about the audacity of this arc: British literary critics discovered her as a teenage poet writing in their language. They celebrated her. They brought her to England. They praised her exquisite verses about Indian life.
And she used that platform, that fame, that access to their language and their admiration, to help dismantle their empire.
During World War II, when Britain demanded India's support against fascism while maintaining its own colonial rule, Sarojini was among those who said: You want us to fight for freedom in Europe while denying us freedom at home? The hypocrisy is unbearable.
She was arrested again in 1942 during the Quit India Movement—the final major push for independence. She was 63 years old, imprisoned with other elderly freedom fighters, and she used the time to write and organize.
August 15, 1947. India gained independence.
Sarojini Naidu was 68 years old. She'd spent more than thirty years fighting for this moment. She'd been arrested, imprisoned, given up comfort and safety, turned her fame into a weapon against the empire.
And she wasn't done.
When India needed its first woman governor, they appointed Sarojini to lead Uttar Pradesh—the most populous state in the newly independent nation. She was the first woman governor in Indian history.
She served for two years, until her death in 1949.
Here's what makes Sarojini Naidu's story so powerful: she could have chosen comfort. She was internationally famous, personally admired by British intellectuals, financially secure. She could have spent her life writing beautiful poetry and being celebrated in both England and India.
Instead, she chose revolution.
She used her poetry to make people feel—then used those feelings to fuel political change. She used her fame to gain access to power—then used that access to challenge power. She used the colonizer's language—then used it to demand decolonization.
And she did it with wit, humor, and devastating effectiveness.
There's a famous photograph of Sarojini laughing with Gandhi and other independence leaders. She's in the center, head thrown back, clearly in the middle of telling a story that has everyone amused. She looks joyful.
That's the other thing about Sarojini: she never lost her joy. Even while fighting empire, being imprisoned, risking everything—she maintained her humor, her warmth, her ability to laugh.
The British could imprison her body. They could never imprison her spirit.
When she died on March 2, 1949, India mourned. The Nightingale had stopped singing. But the nation she'd helped birth was just beginning to find its voice.
Jawaharlal Nehru, India's first Prime Minister, said at her funeral: "She was a great Indian, a great woman, and a great human being."
But perhaps the best tribute came from the thousands of ordinary Indians—especially women—who saw in Sarojini proof that women could lead nations, that poets could be revolutionaries, that beauty and strength weren't opposites but allies.
She wrote poems about palanquin bearers, wandering singers, and Indian dawns that made British readers weep for a country they'd never truly seen.
Then she helped ensure they'd have to leave that country.
She was 13 when she started writing poetry.
She was 68 when India became free.
Fifty-five years of turning words into weapons, fame into power, poetry into revolution.
The Nightingale of India sang many songs. But the sweetest was the one she sang on August 15, 1947, when her country finally belonged to its own people.
She wrote love poems that made the British Raj weep.
Then she made them leave.













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