Friday, August 22, 2025

Parents


 When Parents Die šŸ’”

Nothing is ever the same again. A part of us changes forever. We can no longer simply be children, because the very people who made us feel safe, loved, and sheltered are no longer here. We no longer have their warm hugs to run to, their tender kisses to comfort us, or their words of encouragement that once gave us courage to face the world.


Life suddenly feels heavier and harder, because their protective love—the shield that once surrounded us—is gone. When our parents leave this world, no matter how old we are, we are left as orphans. And that truth is painfully hard to accept at any age. You may have your own family now, but deep inside, the face of your parents, their voices, and their love remain etched in your soul for eternity.


We grow older, but within each of us lives a child—longing to be cared for, guided, and protected by Mom and Dad. That child never disappears, and when our parents are gone, that longing becomes deeper, stronger, and unending.


To lose them is to lose a piece of home, a part of ourselves. Yet even in their absence, their love lives on—shaping who we are, reminding us of where we came from, and whispering to us in the silence that we are never truly alone, because the bond between parent and child is eternal.

Thursday, August 21, 2025

Career @ work

 A Few Realities We Need to See Before We Judge


I’ve spent over three decades in and around the IT services industry in different regions, seen it in its glory days, its stumble, and it reinventing itself. Over the years, also heard countless complaints — from employees, from clients, from the public.

But here’s the thing: before we keep blaming “them,” it’s worth stepping into their shoes for a moment.


The truth is, the primary mission of an IT services company is simple: grow shareholder wealth. That’s what they’re built for. Employee happiness matters — but it’s not the yardstick they’re measured by.


Now imagine being the CEO. You’ve got maybe two or three years in that chair, and every day is a race. The clock is ticking. Your board expects profit, your investors expect growth, and your own career after this depends on the bold, risky moves you make now. And you’re doing all this while staring down global and local rivals, each ready to undercut you. It’s not a blue ocean; it’s a battlefield.


Margins are razor-thin. The dream is 18% operating profit, but in reality, it often slips under 15%. And only 30–50% of revenue comes from ongoing contracts. The rest — along with the 5% growth targets — has to be hunted down afresh every single year. If you’re already a $10–30 billion company, that’s a mountain to climb, every January, without fail.


They are struggling to sustain growth, but now Union is actively trying to ensure enough headwind is provided, as they have done for many of the other industries.


Inside the organization, the structure is a pyramid — a broad base of freshers, fewer mid-level hands, and a tight layer of leaders. The average offshore rate a client pays is around $40K per year per resource. About half of that goes straight into salaries, which rise each year, while clients keep pushing for rate cuts because “productivity has improved.”


And the other half? It gets eaten up by the real costs of running the business: offices, IT systems, HR, sales, account management, compliance, training, travel, marketing, taxes, recruitment, and — yes — paying for the bench.


Productivity isn’t what the clock says. In a nine-hour day, actual measured output is often closer to 5.5 or 6 hours. Attrition runs around 20%, sometimes higher. Every departure costs more than money — it costs relationships, delivery stability, and trust. And the days of keeping a big bench “just in case” are mostly gone. If the skills aren’t in hot demand, a bench is a luxury few can afford.


Freshers start their journey with training in technical skills, soft skills, and customer interview readiness. If they don’t clear the assessments, they can’t be billed. Tough decisions follow. And the campus hire rate? It used to be 40% for aspiring IT grads. Now, it’s far lower.


Starting salaries hover around ₹3.5 lakh in big firms, often less in smaller ones. Startups might pay more, but it comes with sleepless nights about job stability. “Super dream” jobs of ₹10–25 lakh exist, but only for those with top grades, niche skills, and the stamina for longer hours and heavier stress.


Doing the same work year after year? That’s a slow road to stagnation. The market is too competitive. Upskill or risk being replaced by someone younger, cheaper, and hungrier.


It’s also worth remembering — IT salaries aren’t high because the work is uniquely more complex than other engineering fields. They’re high because clients overseas pay in stronger currencies.


Computer engineering is not the toughest engineering stream compared to electrical, electronics, and chemical.


Salary parity between people in IT and others is vast; it is not because you have any very special skills or work is much more challenging or stressful than others, but it is only because the billing and revenue mainly come from overseas customers.


Higher pay demands come from higher billing, which happens when a niche or higher outcome is ensured. This will demand longer working hours and higher stress, so choose your role with a clear understanding of your objectives – work-life balance with routine jobs or a demanding career with higher pay.


That leader making ₹1 or ₹2 crore+ today, also started small — maybe less than a lakh. They worked, learned, stumbled, and grew. The IT industry gave them — and millions like them — exposure, skills, travel, and a standard of living that was unimaginable in the 1990s.


Yes, the pressures are real. Yes, the trade-offs are painful. But this industry has transformed lives, lifted families, and rewritten futures.


So, count your blessings. Keep your eyes open to the realities. And remember — IT may not be perfect, but for many of us, it’s been the ladder we climbed, and the view from the top is still worth the journey.

Two Speed Breakers in life, you should ask, “Are we on the Right Path?”


Life’s a bit like a road trip—you’re cruising along, singing to your favorite playlist when suddenly, bump!—you hit 40. A few miles later, thump!—there’s 50. 


These aren’t just birthdays; they’re speed breakers that make you slow down and check if you’re still headed to the right destination. 


40: The Mid-Career Mirror 


Hitting 40 is like reaching the interval of a Bollywood movie. You’ve had some blockbuster moments, a few flop decisions, and maybe a dramatic walkout or two. But now, as the lights come up, you’re staring at yourself in the mirror, asking, “Is this career still my story?”


You’re not “young and hungry” anymore, but you’re also not ready to coast into “senior citizen” territory. You’re at a crossroads, and the questions hit harder than your last appraisal:


• Is this job my forever vibe, or am I just stuck in traffic?

• "Why is that 26-year-old already my manager?"

• "Should I be learning AI or growing aloe vera?"


If your current path feels like it’s leading to a dead-end job or a Monday morning dread-fest, it’s time to recalibrate. This isn’t a midlife crisis—it’s your gut saying, “Boss, let’s try a new route.” Maybe it’s time to:


• Pick up a new skill (Python’s hot, but so is knowing how to make a killer biryani).

• Switch jobs or even industries (who says you can’t go from IT to organic farming?).

• Ditch bad habits (like scrolling Insta at 2 AM) for better ones (like a 6 AM walk—yes, really).


Think of 40 as your career’s “edit button.” You’ve got enough experience to know what you’re good at and enough time to pivot toward what you love. So, grab a chai, ignore the gray hair, and ask: Where do I want to be at 50? If the answer’s not “exactly here,” start steering.


50: The Retirement Reality Check (a.k.a. “My Backyard Isn’t Paying My Bills”)


By 50, the road trip’s getting serious. You’re no longer just chasing promotions; you’re eyeballing the horizon—retirement. Back in our Parents’ Day, retirement was simple: you stopped working, grew some coconut, tapioca, vegetable, or paddy in the backyard, and hoped your kids would cover the rest for you and your spouse. Fast-forward to today, and that plan’s about as reliable as a 2G connection.


Life expectancy’s up (yay, modern medicine!), but so are costs. That backyard garden? It’s eating your savings faster than you can say “labor charges.” Your kids? They’re either in another city chasing their dreams or texting you for help with their EMI payments. And pensions? Unless you’re a government employee, that’s a fairy tale.


At 50, life drops a truth bomb: You’ve got 8–10 working years left, but maybe 25–30 years to live. That’s a whole season of life without a paycheck unless you plan now. Here’s the math:


• Working years left: 8–10 (if your boss doesn’t “restructure” you out).

• Retirement years: 25–30 (assuming you dodge the doctor’s bills).

• Savings needed: Enough to cover groceries, Netflix, political/religious mandated contributions, social events, and that occasional trip.


So, what’s the move? Start thinking passive income—mutual funds, fixed deposits, or maybe a side hustle (YouTube channel on “How to Grow Tomatoes Without Losing Your Shirt”?). 


Your dad’s generation retired to rest; you’re retiring to Excel sheets and budgeting apps.


The Modern Truth 


We’re the sandwich generation, caught between our parents’ “save in a piggy bank” wisdom and our kids’ “crypto is the future” optimism. Meanwhile, we’re just trying to stay relevant at work while Googling “Is 50 too late to start yoga?” Spoiler: it’s not.


The 40s and 50s are your wake-up calls to reflect, recalibrate, and maybe laugh at how you thought “adulting” would be easier. At 40, check if your career’s still your jam. At 50, make sure your wallet’s ready for the long haul. Because this road doesn’t end at 60 anymore—it’s a marathon, not a sprint.


So, hit pause at these speed breakers. Ask yourself: Am I on the right path? Then, with a grin and a plan, keep driving. 

A wise man I met on a journey once shared, "If your finances are secure, 70% of your worries in old age vanish."

Career Choices in India: The Tightrope Walk Between Passion, Pay, and Pragmatism


In India, a career is not merely a personal pursuit—it's a family decision, a financial strategy, and often, a social expectation. For many, selecting a profession is less about following a dream and more about managing economic risk in a highly stratified job market.


The Stark Reality of Unequal Pay


India’s career landscape is riddled with disparities. A fresh graduate in software engineering may earn between ₹5–10 lakh annually, while a teacher, nurse, or artist might earn a fraction—₹1–4 lakh. These aren’t just differences in numbers; they represent divergent life trajectories. In a country with soaring urban living costs, minimal social security, and limited institutional support for creative or vocational professions, financial safety becomes paramount.


It’s not uncommon for parents—often having made personal sacrifices—to guide their children toward conventionally "secure" fields such as engineering, medicine, or civil services. In doing so, they may unintentionally suppress the child’s artistic, literary, or unconventional aspirations. But in a socio-economic environment where job security is directly linked to survival, the pressure to prioritize practicality is deeply understandable.


A Global Comparison: Is Passion More Affordable Abroad?


In developed countries like the United States or the United Kingdom, the gap between professions is narrower, and the support systems more robust. Teachers, social workers, or musicians may not be wealthy, but they can often lead reasonably comfortable lives, earning between $50,000 and $80,000 annually. Health insurance, unemployment benefits, and retirement systems further cushion the risks of lower-income professions. In contrast, in India, such safety nets are limited or inaccessible for many.


A Strategic Middle Path: Stability First, Passion Later


Faced with these constraints, many Indians adopt a pragmatic two-phase strategy: build financial stability first, then pivot to passion. This aligns with the philosophy behind the FIRE (Financial Independence, Retire Early) movement. The approach is clear—work in high-paying roles during your 20s and early 30s, aggressively save and invest, then gradually transition to a vocation that offers purpose rather than profit—avoiding burnout from a soul-crushing job or financial stress from an underpaid passion.


A software engineer, for instance, might dedicate 10–15 years to the tech industry, accumulating wealth and securing a financial cushion. In their late 30s or 40s, they could explore careers in teaching, writing, public policy, or social entrepreneurship—fields that may not promise wealth but provide deeper personal satisfaction.


Ultimately, balancing passion with practicality is not a compromise—it’s a skill. One that can empower individuals to navigate life’s realities without abandoning their dreams.

Solitude

 


What is solitude for you?

Solitude is defined as the state or situation of being alone, often by choice, and typically without feeling lonely. It can also refer to a lonely or uninhabited place


Loneliness is an empty cup while solitude is a cup that is full. 

Create personalised strategies to incorporate solitude. 

I don't like being alone because.................................(Complete the sentence)


Convert threat into a message. 


Boredom can be a place for new idea to be born. 

Benefits of solitude:

  • Personal development

Help create self awareness, improve knowledge and skill and help build your behaviour and habits. It will support you and people around you. 
  • Mindfulness


Science behind the benefit:

  • Nervous system, switching to lower arousal system
  • Rewiring the brain - activating the internal focused network
  • Mind body connection - Strengthening vagal tone through mindfulness
Connects our psychological state and physical state. 

Vagas nerve is an important part of our nervous system. 

SOLE Implementation

S                    Start Small - 5 to 10 minutes. Make doeable change in your life. 
O                    Observe and Reframe
L                    Leave Space
E                    Establish Boundaries




Note to self: Time Capsule - for your future self

  • Grab pen, paper and envelop. 
  • Type 7 when you have the paper and pen. 
  • Question coming up, stay with them, will take it up. 
  • Write a note to  yourself - commiting to self growth - intentional solitude
  • Seal it.
  • Set a reminder to open it.
Some prompts:
  • Getting rid of negative feelings of solitude



"Solitude is not the same as loneliness!
By understanding the difference between solitude and loneliness, you can explore ways to cultivate meaningful alone time as a powerful tool for personal growth.

An insightful session on "The Power of Pause: Rediscovering Yourself in Solitude            

Shasi Tharoors Stand Up Comedy


 *Dr Shashi Tharoor @ Stand Up Comedian šŸ‘Œ*.....*too good to miss*

*and pl don't try and see any political angle in it, otherwise you will miss all the fun*.....

Sunday, August 17, 2025

Ramayana 41 of 2025

 





aapadaam apahartaaram daataaram sarvasaMpadaam.h |
lokaabhiraamam shriiraamam bhuuyo bhuuyo namaamyaham.h ||

"I bow again and again to Sri Rama Who removes (all) obstacles, grants all wealth and pleases all."

This is a salutation offered at the start of reading any scripture as per tradition. This prayer is for removing all obstacles encountered. The prefix Sri to Rama indicates that Rama is always accompanied by Sri, His consort Seetha in the form of goddess Sri Maha Lakshmi.

An auspicious day marking the end of Karkidakam and celebrating Janmastami. Time to contemplate,  Reread Ramayana.  The despair and grief Rama experienced Krishna never knew. Krishna cared not, nor grieved. He lead the warrior to destroy the wicked.

Their life and stories in their books are guides, guidelines and guidance to those willing to abide. One of the many is that between Sugreev's desire and Vaali's anger. Both lured them to sin. Desire and anger. KAAMOKAARSHEET MANYURAKAARSHEET.

Siblings  turns out to be Rajasic Ravan, Tamasic Kumbakaran and Satvic Vibeshan, born in the same family,  around same time and place. Can we generalise a community or group? Aren't each different?

#Ramayana #Mahabharata #Rama #Krishna #Valee #Sugreev #Rajagopalachari 





Thursday, August 14, 2025

Stress - Alignment

 


You’re not tired because you’re weak. You’re tired because you’re misaligned. That deep exhaustion you feel? - It’s not just physical. It’s your soul whispering, “This isn’t where I’m meant to be.” Burnout isn’t always about overwork. Sometimes it’s about pouring your energy into things that mean nothing to your spirit. Following goals that were never yours to begin with. Waking up every day chasing checklists instead of connection. You weren’t born to meet deadlines. You were born to move hearts. šŸ’• To create change. To feel alive. This system teaches us to be efficient. Productive. Fast. But your soul? It moves in rhythms. Seasons. Silence. 🤫 It doesn’t care how full your calendar is. It wants your truth. So if you’re feeling disconnected, drained, done, Maybe it’s not time to push harder. Maybe it’s time to pause. To listen. To ask: “What is truly mine to do?” You’re not lazy. You’re not failing. You’re just being called home, back to your purpose, your presence, your path. It’s not a breakdown. It’s a realignment. Your spirit knows. Trust it.

T - The Tongue

 Now who wrote this?!


The tongue’s terrible tendency to tell tall tales totally tarnishes traditional transcommunication theories. The tempestuous tirades traceable to the tongue testify to the traumatic tactics of this tiny tab of tissue. Thousands that take the time to think, try to tame the tumultuous torrent of the too talkative tongue. Temporarily, the tide turns. Towering tempers turn to tenderness. Then, tragically, the trend tapers. The tongue trips, teeters, then takes a tumble; the temptation to trifling twaddle triumphs.


Take time to tabulate this timeless truth: to train the tongue takes the tremendous talent of trust. Theology teaches that trust thrives through toil. Therefore, throttle the testy tongue! Terminate the trivial topics that tinge the tenor of talk! Trim the trashy, tasteless terms that transgress traditions of truth! Trounce the trite themes that toady to thoughtless tattling!


Theoretically, the tantalizing target of a true, tactful, temperate tongue torments and teases those that tackle the task. To tell the truth, thrilling triumph throngs the tracks of the tough, tenacious thwarter of tawdry talk !!


Terrific! Truly tremendous.

Moon Palace ~ Paul Auster


 Moon Palace


by Paul Auster


//When I was fifteen, I began signing all my papers M. S. Fogg, pretentiously echoing the gods of modern literature, but at the same time delighting in the fact that the initials stood for manuscript. Uncle Victor heartily approved of this about-face. "Every man is the author of his own life," he said. "The book you are writing is not yet finished. Therefore, it's a manuscript. What could be more appropriate than that?"//


Marco Stanley Fogg, the love-child of a woman who died young, looked after by an uncle who is an itinerant musician, is scripting the story of his own life. Having a name comprising three explorers - one ancient (Marco Polo), one from relatively recent history (Stanley), and one fictional (Phileas Fogg from 'Around the World in Eighty Days') - it is no wonder that his story contains fantastical and improbable elements, and strange and wonderful journeys. Orphaned young, left alone without any means of sustenance during college, M S is running his life into the ground with a vengeance ("This was nihilism raised to the level of an aesthetic proposition. I would turn my life into a work of art, sacrificing myself to such exquisite paradoxes that every breath I took would teach me how to savor my own doom.") when he is saved by his friend Zimmer and Kitty Wu, a Japanese-American dancer who he falls in love with. She is also an orphan, albeit better placed financially and socially - and they naturally are attracted to one another.


Here is where the story takes a quantum jump to a different level. Fogg lands a job with an eccentric old man, Thomas Effing, who is blind. His only job is to read to him, from a variety of titles stocked in his home library. However, soon the old man starts sensing his death and decides to unburden himself to his young assistant - and we move into the realm of the Arabian Nights, never to return to level ground again. Improbability is piled upon improbability, and coincidence meets outrageous coincidence, as Fogg's life comes full circle. Lives become linked to one another in unbelievable ways to form a strange tapestry of tragedy.


Don't look for purpose in this novel. There isn't any. If at all, one can call it a tale of failed human relationships. But the events are so farfetched and the tragedies self-inflicted that there is no pathos: a sense of the ridiculous is always lurking in the background. Instead of looking for meaning, one must immerse oneself in the story and the beautiful, lyrical language that Auster uses.


It is a tale to lose oneself in.

Tuesday, August 12, 2025

Stress Doesn’t Wait — So Why Should You

 

Role of resilience in stress management

CBT framework

How to use stress control online



How might you approach change, if you had more tools?





We dont know what will come,

There is uncertaininty, fear, death, betrayal, grudges, issues, that is life.

"You have survived before, and you will again:



Tool is stress control online

8 week self paced program. 

Silver Oak health

CBT - Cogonitive Behavioural Therapy Program


30 minutes session - 8 week program. 



8 Steps Program. 

Thought - Feeling - Behaviour





Stress is your body’s natural response to any demand, challenge, or threat — whether real or perceived.


Here’s a breakdown:


1. What Happens in the Body

When you face a stressful situation, your brain signals your body to release stress hormones (like adrenaline and cortisol).

These cause:


Faster heartbeat


Quicker breathing


Tensed muscles


Heightened alertness


This is called the fight-or-flight response, designed to help you react quickly.


2. Types of Stress

Acute stress: Short-term, in response to immediate challenges (e.g., exams, deadlines, sudden danger).


Chronic stress: Long-term, from ongoing problems (e.g., financial troubles, caregiving pressure).


Eustress: Positive stress that motivates you (e.g., preparing for a big performance).


Distress: Negative stress that overwhelms you and harms your well-being.


3. Effects of Stress

Short-term: Sharp focus, burst of energy, but also irritability or anxiety.


Long-term: Can lead to headaches, high blood pressure, insomnia, weakened immunity, depression, or burnout.


4. Key Insight

Stress itself isn’t always bad — in small doses, it helps us adapt and grow. The problem starts when it’s constant and your body never gets to return to a calm, balanced state.


"Stress Doesn’t Wait — So Why Should You?" sounds like a tagline or campaign hook—probably for mental health awareness, workplace wellness, or even a relaxation product.


The idea behind it is:


Stress builds up quickly and doesn’t politely pause until you’re ready.


So, instead of postponing self-care or solutions, you should act immediately—whether that’s taking a break, meditating, getting help, or making lifestyle changes.


It flips the urgency: if stress is proactive, your response should be too.


It’s the kind of phrase that could work for:


A mental health app or counseling service


A spa or wellness retreat


A stress-relief product like herbal tea or aromatherapy


A workplace burnout prevention campaign


The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse ~ Charlie Mackesy



 

 "The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse" by Charlie Mackesy. The story may seem simple, but its unique illustrations and moments have a profound impact, encouraging readers to pause and reflect. Despite lacking a traditional plot, the book's beauty and depth resonate deeply.

The book's simplicity belies its depth, inviting readers to ponder life's complexities and find meaning in fleeting moments. Mackesy's illustrations and words weave a gentle narrative that explores themes of friendship, hope, and self-discovery.

The characters' interactions and musings offer profound insights, making the book a treasure for readers of all ages. Its quiet wisdom and poignant moments linger, encouraging reflection and introspection.

 1. *Profound insights*: Through gentle narratives and poignant moments.
2. *Universal themes*: Exploring friendship, hope, and self-discovery.
3. *Timeless wisdom*: Encouraging reflection and introspection.
Takeaways from this bookšŸ‘†šŸ¼

Satya Shiv Sundar

 



We know that Shiv Nadar is firmly rooted and invested in India, having done engineering in PSG, Coimbatore and worked in Poona's Walchand group before striking out on his own. The 3rd richest Indian is a bigtime philanthropist who focuses on Education in India.

 Spouse Kiran is a knowledgeable Art aficianado and promotes artists in India.

While we are happy that Sundar Pichai and Nadella have Tamil and Telugu backgrounds and have graduated from IIT and Manipal Institute, let's not forget that they voluntarily renounced their Indian citizenship and are proud Americans now with 100% loyalty to their new country. As are thousands of other "Indians".

Earlier generations .... Gandhi, Nehru, both Patels, Netaji Bose, Homi Bhabha, Vikram Sarabhai, KR Narayanan, Amartya Sen, Manmohan Singh, CV Raman  .. may have been "ashamed" to be Indians but they loved India deeply and returned to serve it faithfully.

Even many of my generation returned to India after  higher studies abroad.

For instance, Gautam Patel, the only grandson of Sardar Patel and my classmate in Xavier's School and COEP ( he studied Telecommunications), returned to teach here after studying and working in USA for a decade. 

But interestingly, his only son Kedar and young granddaughter are most unlikely to return, preferring the quality of life in the US.

And methinks that their loyalty should be 100% to the US!

Deepak Parekh with Chanda Kochhar

 



In this episode, Chanda Kochhar converses with one of India’s most respected business minds — Deepak Parekh.


For over 45 years, he’s led from the front and played a defining role in shaping India’s financial services ecosystem. He’s not just built companies — he’s built institutions that people trust.


Awarded the Padma Bhushan in 2006, his story isn’t just about business. It’s about vision, values, and the kind of leadership that leaves a legacy.


Chanda Kochhar and Deepak Parekh speak about everything — what guided his decisions, the quiet conviction behind his leadership, and what leads to true nation-building.


This one’s not just an episode. It’s a rare masterclass in humility, leadership, and purpose-driven growth.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zbv9WesSVAo

Episode begins with Sharing Common Love for Sudoku and how it keeps us active. 

Decoding a VUCA World: FTA and incredible and good model with UK, which helps trade and gives visa for trade. 

VUCA stands for Volatility, Uncertainty, Complexity, and Ambiguity. It's a framework used to describe the challenging and unpredictable nature of the modern world, particularly in business and leadership.

We have to improve productive, reduce logistic cost, reduce cost of Production. 

Path to the $5 Trillion Economy: Domestic Consumption is the major contributor of our GDP

India is growing twice the global growth. We are in a good shape with poor neighbourhood. 

US only has interests, no good friends or enemies. 

 Small Investors & Equity Market: Approach should be patients. Long time. Stock market is the devise to move the money from the impatient to patient. 

Banks - The Building Block of An Economy: Banks are like heart. They are not lending enough to corporates. Long term project finance is difficult. Only State Bank is willing. Now they are shying away. Retail deposit is less, consumption is high. Bank's deposit is not growing then how can they lend?  CRR  down, and open market policy helped. Bank has to lend for GDP to grow. LSR should also be brought down. Increase liquidity. Private sector is not expanding. Brown field Vs. Green field. 

Need to Reignite Private Sector Investments

The RRR of Current Investments Roads, Renewables, Refinery and Retail is where loans are going. 

Youth, Money & Mindset : Credit card, Car, Home loan - as soon as a person get job. How should they look at financial planning? 

Only 25% of your income should be used to repay a loan. It's the maximum. It will bring self discipline. 

Retail Lending: An Emerging Risk?:Retail demand is there, but banks need money to do that. Two areas to worry. Micro finance, arrears have gone up and number is staggering. NPA increasing. 

We worry with small falls and there is knee jack reactions. We need to have the focused approach, like how Yes Bank as handled. 

Importance of Diversifying your Savings. 


We have grown up taking life insurance. Today insurance companies are finding hard to sell. Young should have insurance. Accident and over exercising, young even at 30 are dying. Earlier it was tax and saving. But after tax benefit is removed, people are not interested. 

As entry level is less, Mutual fund with SSI has people's attraction. 

Participate in Equity, but patience pay. Buy a property, take a loan, and buy another property. 

Young mind set is get rich quick. 

The Future of Banking : Banks have to optimise their cost. the CASA  Current account/Saving account ratio is changing and coming down. People think why keep money in current account. 

Non availability of long term finance is a big concern. Manage inflation and interest rate. 

If we bring down interest rate, people will buy home, it will bring affordable. Every one take advantage of federal reserve. 

Inflation if food/agriculture related. Logistics is a big problem. From the farm to the plate there is a big loss. Neither the consumer is benefited nor the farmer. 

Agriculture bill was in favour of the farmer and they did not understand. 

Middleman has to be reduced and wastage have to come down. 

Housing in rural area is the 5th priority. First is where to keep produce. Logistics. GST has helped considerably as there are no trucks waiting at the borders. 

Bimal Jalal called him to join may public sector banks, but he was never interested. Was happy and content with HDFC.

The HDFC Calling quitting Chase Manhattan Bank, H.D. Parekh persuaded, when H.D.P was in ICICI. Started in Raymond House, in one room. Floor by Floor they brought. 

The Origin of HDFC Bank: Reserve Bank gave a small ad. saying invitation invited for private set up. They were given the first approval. Around the same time, ICICI. They said, ICICI started HDFC, why don't you come back home? They asked. 

The Big HDFC Merger, no concession, no relief, but helped to go through the process, get approval, it was exciting and kept a secret, every one found only when it was in press, it was a sad and a happy day, it's good for institution and country. We need larger banks, who can take larger risk. 

Fuelling Housing Growth developer loan was small porting. Only 15% to 20% was developer loan, because they wanted houses to be build. Only then people would build houses. Banks are not allowed to fund land. That fallacy should go. HDFC Capital, 10% Abudabi - Funding only buying land. Niche and doing well. 

Making Affordable Housing A Reality. Increase supply. Enough demand. There is more cost to build a small own. Cost of construction is high. Most developers are not interested in that. Shipping development investment corporation, there was a necessity that if your buy foreign ship you have to buy Indian, similarly, if a builder build huge building, they should build smaller ones too. 

00:42:59 Opportunities and Challenges of Insurance Sector. Mis selling has spoilt. Selling for commission. 75 year old being sold 30 years policy. Some incentive must be there, or all will put in capital market. Even Unit linked Mutual fund has come down. 

25% in govt. Security, then state security, then infrastructure...available to invest in equity and private debt is less. 

Non-Negotiables for Growth Of India are ease of doing business including land, availability of fund and finance, and some incentive like capital allowance, accelerated depreciation.  Increase liquidity. We have political, economic, stability. Huge consumer demand. 

The Man Beyond the Numbers. Not earlier, Maturity comes over age. Had to travel a lot. Did not have much time for family. Now have time to spend with family, but they don't have time for us. Have 5 lovely grand daughter 6 to 16. Grandparents have to cherish each of those moments. 

00:51:14 Risk Assessment - Build nurtured and never faltered. Have gone wrong in few cases, where I thought I never would go wrong, but have made money where you thought it wont, but basically it's all gut. Inspite of any 50 page documents. Gage, intention of the person. 

Cricket & Leadership: Shared Values - Carrying people together, humble. 

The Unscripted Moment of Life - 40k loan first, in Thane, his photo was put in the Annual report. Behave, act, perform as it is your company. Take that ownership and responsibility. Owner's should behave like professionals and professionals like owners.           

Impromptu Answers Cricket, Coffee, Homely food, Gujrati, simple vegetarian food. Song - Mera Jootha hey Japani, Sleeping late. I don't read book's but Annual reports. App mostly used Cricket score and Sudoko. Be Humble and Kind. Kohli - Strategic thinker, passion, commitment. 

Leadership is not about noise. But about courage, vision backed with execution. 

Sunday, August 10, 2025

First. Forever : N.J.Yashaswi


 Just finished reading First. Forever of the very inspiring 'Dreamer, Doer, Die-hard optimist, Visionary Entrepreneur,  Mentor'; as the footprint describes,  of the founder of ICFAI. 

Though gone too soon at just 61, he has indeed created a legacy with the vast number of universities,  educational institutions and books. 

Through them he has touched many a lives. A must read. 

Also awaiting a detailed Biography on him to be released soon.

When people struggle to complete one professional course he was first rank holder in B.Com, CA and CWA both inter and final.

Thursday, August 07, 2025

Pesarattu & Allam Pachadi

 


Ingredients

Whole green gram (moong dal)

Rice (optional, for crispiness)

Ginger

Green chillies

Cumin seeds

Salt

Water

Oil or ghee for cooking

🄣 Preparation Steps

Soak: Rinse and soak whole moong dal (and rice if using) for 4–6 hours or overnight.

Grind: Drain and blend with ginger, green chillies, cumin, and salt to a smooth batter. Add water as needed.

Rest: Let the batter rest for 30 minutes (optional but helps texture).

Cook: Heat a pan, pour a ladle of batter, and spread it thin like a dosa. Drizzle oil or ghee around the edges.

Flip: Cook until golden and crisp, then flip if desired.

Serve: Traditionally served with ginger chutney or upma.


Here’s a summary of how to make Ginger Chutney (Allam Pachadi), a popular South Indian condiment that pairs beautifully with idli, dosa, vada, and especially pesarattu:


🌶️ Ingredients

Fresh ginger – sliced (not finely chopped to avoid bitterness)

Onions – cubed and separated into layers

Chana dal & urad dal – for texture and aroma (can substitute with peanuts)

Dry red chillies – for heat

Tamarind – soaked or added directly

Jaggery – for sweetness

Salt – to taste

Oil – for sautĆ©ing

šŸ³ Preparation Steps

Soak tamarind in ¼ cup water or set aside for blending later 1.

Heat oil in a pan and fry chana dal and urad dal until golden. Add red chillies and fry until crisp 1.

Remove dal and chillies from the pan and let them cool.

In the same pan, sautƩ onions and ginger until onions turn pinkish-golden. Avoid browning the ginger 1.

Cool all ingredients, then blend with salt, jaggery, and tamarind until smooth 1.

Optional tempering: You can temper with mustard seeds, curry leaves, and a pinch of hing if desired.

Feedback is'nt a mirror - it's a filter

 

Agree?

Understand and know the difference between Feedback vs. Criticism

Criticism compass: Decode what you receive

Horizontal line Kind to Harsh; through middle verticle line Fair to Unfair.

Put your feedbacks into 4 Quadrants. 

  • Pause
  • Breathe
  • Label - Name the experience 'I feel hurt', 'that felt unfair'
  • Shift - from judgment to curiosity - ask 'what is this feedback really about?'
  • Use - grounding self talk - "I'am safe, This is not personal. I can respond. Not react."

Responding not reacting: ACR method

A - Acknowledge - Thanks for sharing that, I hear you (Doesn't mean I accept what you say)

C- Clarify - Can you help me understand what you say? Example?

R - Respond - That's helpful to know

Open without submission, curious and constructive 

It's a framework and not a new skill. 



Monday, August 04, 2025

Knives Out


 By Nandakishore Varma


Agatha Christie wrote the whodunnits with the most intricate plots. She was never "literary" (even though her language is pretty good); she never created very complex characters; and her stories followed the same formula, with the detective finally assembling all the suspects and pulling the most unlikely one out of the hat. Very unrealistic, as her critics (despicable humans, all of them!) scoff; very enjoyable, as her countless fans (among whom the author of this post considers himself) say. (Those who badmouth Dame Agatha and her works need to be given strychnine in their soup, shot through the heart and stabbed in the back of the neck as they sit reading in their library - but that's the subject of another post.)


I watched the movie "Knives Out", directed by Rian Johnson yesterday night, and was immediately reminded of Christie. I looked it up on Google and - voila! - it seems that he is a fan, and this movie is a tribute to Dame Agatha. And what a tribute! It is intricate, fast-paced, and an extremely ingenious whodunnit; but what makes it special is its level of self-awareness. The tribute is also a spoof on the genre of the cosy British murder mystery.


Harlan Thrombey, a best-selling crime novelist, dies on the night of his 85th birthday. It's apparently a suicide, with author having cut his throat himself. However, renowned private investigator Benoit Blanc is pulled into the investigation by an "anonymous client", who suspects foul play. And in the tradition of all good whodunnits, the whole family is there so that there are no dearth of suspects! As the investigation proceeds, the police doddering about in the time-honoured whodunnit fashion and the private sleuth going about in his own eccentric way his wonders to perform, secret after secret is revealed until the murderer stands exposed.


The movie is full of caricatures of the standard tropes of mystery fiction. The money-grubbing relatives, the never-do-we'el son, the dedicated nurse, the unimaginative police officer and the eccentric detective (who is of French origin, natch!) all playing their roles to perfection. The house is a huge New England mansion with creaking staircases and secret entrances, which all faithfully play their assigned roles. The camera floats through the mysterious corridors and the editing transitions smoothly between the flashbacks and the present. We know that we are watching a great murder mystery - but at the same time, the director is telling us not to take him too seriously.


Every good whodunnit usually has something unusual in it. Here it is the strange medical condition that plagues nurse Marta (who is also the central character) - telling a lie makes her vomit! This unrealistic "disease" is used to full potential by the director to drive the tale forward.


Most whodunnits can usually be only watched once - once the cat is out of the bag, we lose interest. But I believe this movie can be watched multiple times to appreciate the beauty of its construction. Kudos the director. Well done, _mon ami_!

Sunday, August 03, 2025

A Gentleman in Moscow ~ Amor Towels (40 of 25)


From 21st June 1922 to 21st June 1955 Count Alexander Rostov live in an attic room at Hotel Metropol  while Russia undergoes decades of tumultuous upheaval.

An historic fiction,  'The Gentleman in Moscow' by Amor Towels deals with the why and how of the life of this gentleman in Moscow. 

Few striking lines from the book:

"Having acknowledged that a man must master his circumstances or otherwise be mastered by them, the count thought it worth considering how one was most likely to achieve this aim when one had been sentenced to a life of confinement"

Parents responsibility "To bring a child safely into adulthood so that she could have a chance to experience a life of purpose and, God willing, contentment."

"But what of poetry? You ask. What of the written word? Well, I can assure you that it too is keeping pace.......our poetry has become an art of action. One that will speed across the continents and transmit music to the stars"

Then comes Mayakovsky's poem:

Suddenly - I

shone in all my might,

and morning range its round.

Always to shine,

to shine everywhere,

to the very depth of the last days,

to shine -

and to hell with everything else!

That is my motto -

and the sun's!

Poem and Poetry and then there is Helena's death in 1916, Nina's desire to experience everything,  friendship with Marina and Andrey and Emile, and Mikhail Fyadorovich Mindich and Katerina and love in different boxes like buttons of Anna and Sofia. 

Where we go, what we do does it matter?

"I am confused about the ending and need help figuring it out. Was Rostov just swinging by his childhood town to see his old home and pick up his gf before finally leaving the country to reunite with Sofia..."

Wanted clarity and so went through goodread reviews and this is what I understood:

Osip is the key! As the Kremlin officer who is "charged with keeping track of certain men of interest" - he is the Kremlin officer at the end who says "round up the usual suspects" - a huge nod to Casablanca and a smirk. So no one probably even looked for him or Anna! 

He did leave Russia before the revolution but came back knowing the risks. He came back, because Russia was his home. And, he made the best of it in the Metropol...what an adaptive individual! But, in the end, he wanted to go back to his old stomping grounds...where the apple trees were blooming. Who knows what happened next. I think that is up to the reader. But, I do think that if Rostov was caught he would have been happy that he was able to get his "daughter" out, that he was re-united with his love, and that he was able to breathe the fresh air of the country while looking at the apple blossoms once more. How it could it get any better than that for a man who had lived the better part of his life inside a hotel?

Bishop will never find the count because the Bishop thinks the count is all about surface aspects of wealth and fame so he would assume The Count will be in some world capital living large. The Count was all about the simple pleasures of courtesy, appreciation, shared history which is why he returned to his home.


Robert Irish Rostov getting out of Russia would be too "romantic" an ending, I think. I thought the twist of going "home" was brilliant for a character who had been entrapped for so long. The presence of the "willowy" Anna does add an element that suggests their love is likely doomed, but in such a small town, and a ruin, maybe not. I think that uncertainty is part of the beauty of the ending.

Count tricked his pursuers into thinking he went to Finland, and even before that he tested what Osip would do by showing him Casablanca. As we saw, Osip has no intention of actually going after Count.

Count did reunite with Anna in his birthplace but his house had been burned down and we saw he is quite capable of letting go. He may be settling in some remote village, Russia is enormous, they would never find him, and it's been 50 years since they got rid of aristocracy, I don't think it's at the top of Party's list of important things to do any more.


But one thing that hints he may be leaving Russia is his conversation with Anna:


“Sasha, I know you don’t want to accept the notion that Russia may be inherently inward looking, but do you think in America they are even having this conversation? Wondering if the gates of New York are about to be opened or closed?


“You sound as if you dreamed of living in America.”


“Everyone dreams of living in America.”


Now this could just be what prompted him to send Sophia to America, but the fact that Anna wants to go there and that he meets her at the end could also be foreshadowing where they're going after that. I just don't see Anna as someone leading a quiet and unassuming village life.

Could be, he visited his childhood home one last time, rendezvous with his lover in a place the authorities would never think to look for him, then left Russia to join his beloved adopted daughter . That last part is not stated, but I believe it is so. Russia was no longer the place of his heart when he reached the point of arranging his adopted daughters escape, and he would never have cast his daughter adrift in western society that he himself no longer knew. His lover also had only a shadow of her former Russian life, and would have ventured out to start anew.

‐---‐-----


*A Gentleman in Moscow*


*by Amor Towles*


_Mild Spoilers_


Who – or what – is a “gentleman”?


Well, he can be defined in two ways – one: born of aristocratic stock; two: marked out by distinguished behavior.


Count Alexander Ilyich Rostov, the protagonist of this novel, is both. And he is caught in the wrong place at the wrong time. 1922 Russia, after the Bolshevik Revolution, is not exactly a healthy place for an aristocrat to be. Deemed an enemy of the proletariat by the accident of birth, the most likely fate for such people is either a bullet to the head or a berth in Siberia.


Rostov is spared either, however, on the strength of a revolutionary poem he had written. So he is awarded a strange sentence – permanent house arrest in the Hotel Metropol in Moscow – not in his usual luxurious suite, but an attic room. He is allowed freedom only within the hotel. The Count, with unflappable equanimity, accepts his fate: he is a smart aleck, and has squirrelled away enough clandestine gold to get him through life. However, after a period, ennui starts to set in which has him questioning the meaning of life – until he meets nine-year-old Nina Kulikova.


Nina Kulikova is the daughter of a Ukrainian officer staying at the Metropol. Like the Count, she is also bored – but with a child’s inherent ingenuity, she has found a way out. Nina has the skeleton key to all the rooms of the hotel, and soon the count is following her about on her escapades. Nina gives him back his zest in life – and when she leaves, she gifts her friend with the skeleton key. Along with it, it seems that Rostov also gets the skeleton key to the hidden facets of life.


As the years roll by, Lenin gives way to Stalin. Proletarian rule becomes despotism. Russia is devastated by war. People move in and out of Alexander Ilyich’s life – the actress Anna Urbanova, his lover; his childhood friend, the fiery poet Mikhail Fyodorovich Mindich (Mishka); Osip Ivanovich Glebnikov, Chief Administrator of the Secret Police, who wants the count to tutor him in French, English, and the ways of the capitalist West; Richard Vanderville, an American aide-de-camp who wants the count to spy for him; Emile, the cook at the hotel and Andre, the maĆ®tre d’ of the hotels restaurant Boyarsky, Rostov’s bosom pals; and the sinister waiter dubbed as the “bishop” by the count, who rises due to party connections to ultimately becomes the hotel manager, and Rostov’s main antagonist… during this journey (from 1922 to 1953: when Khrushchev takes over the USSR), the aristocrat becomes a humble headwaiter – and unexpectedly, the foster father to Nina’s daughter, Sofia. And as she grows up, Count Alexander Ilyich Rostov realizes that there is something more to life than just existing.


***


This novel is extremely readable. The author has a voice that is almost Wodehousian (though not as laughter inducing). Count Rostov, a specimen of the idle rich, looks upon the world with a sort of amused detachment, which the author forces us to share (the title, “A Gentleman in Moscow”, is apt in every sense). Told in such a voice, Russia’s tumultuous and many a times distressing history becomes amusing and sometimes downright hilarious. Verily, Aristotle was right – the world is indeed a comedy to those who think.


But all said and done, this is a contrived novel. We can see Amor Towles trying to be cute on every alternate page – his strain is almost physically visible. In order to keep the novel’s mood from changing, the author has also been forced to gloss over large swathes of history (the war years pass away in the blink of an eye, for example). Also, authorial intervention in the form of footnotes and direct speech inhibits the flow of the narrative frequently. This is purposefully done – it is in perfect keeping with the story’s mood – but it’s a literary device that becomes all too obvious.


The final verdict: an extremely enjoyable novel – but not great literature by any means.

(Review of Nandakishore Sir)

Friday, August 01, 2025

Working Guidelines - Values/Growth


 In 1951, Yoshida delivered the renowned "10 working guidelines" in Dentsu

  1. Initiate projects on your own instead of waiting for work to be assigned
  2. Take an active role in all your endeavours, not a passive role
  3. Search for large and complex challenges
  4. Welcome difficult assignments. Progress lies in accomplishing difficult work
  5. Once you begin a task, complete it. Never give up. 
  6. Lead and set an example for your fellow workers
  7. Set goals for yourself to ensure a constant sense or purpose
  8. Move with confidence, it gives your work force and substance
  9. At all times, challenge yourself to think creatively and find new solutions
  10. When confrontation is necessary, don't shy away from it. Confrontation is often necessary to achieve progress. 
Tag Values

  1. Integrity: Be Fair
  2. Innovation: Be Original
  3. Sustainability: Go Green
  4. Growth: Laser Focus
  5. Accountability: Own it
  6. Trust: Build it


I Will Judge You by Your Bookshelf ~ Grant Snider


*I Will Judge You by Your Bookshelf*

*By Grant Snider*

Courtesy: Nandakishore Sir

I have been a great fan of Grant Snider for a long time. I follow his quirky "Incidental Comics" on FB.

This book is a collection of his cartoons on reading and writing. As usual, it's full of his funny quips and cute drawings. The way he gives shape to literary metaphors through simple images is mind-blowing.

This book is recommended for reading - and re-reading - and re-re-re-re... reading (ad infinitum).

(I attach a few of his full page illustrations with this review.)













T.N. Manoharan ~ Spotlight 39 of 25

 

He was one in a million.

He taught taxation,  his clarity and grace on stage was admirable.

He co-authored Tech Phoenix—in just 75 days. His meticulousness was legendary. Every version, every discarded draft, every appendix—tracked with precision.

In a private conversation, he told that he would walk into the sunset at 70. So he did.

He was a scholar, statesman, and teacher. But above all, he was authentic.

Steering the Satyam Recovery

But then came Satyam in 2009. When India faced one of its worst corporate scandals, when trust in the profession was shaking, the government didn’t look for the loudest voice or the most connected player. They looked for the steadiest and Mano sir was called in. He calmly stabilised the company, reassured employees, and convinced banks with meticulous financial plans, orchestrating a historic rescue without seeking the spotlight.

 There is his  story we did on him for the book Flying High (also published in A Few Good Men). It captures the life and quiet legacy of an extraordinary CA. Also read the spotlight on him. 

Read the full story here:https://industrialeconomist.com/the-man-who-led-by-listening-remembering-t-n-manoharans-legacy/

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1kbEQxe3g6GySdQ4iXB8u_8i81w92vAz6/view?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR7ygQFn_bSbrUxWhWTlhp_g5EDGc9sro-t5Lss1ldSCQY_WttDY1-eNtooXsQ_aem_9Sps6qJh78HixgxoVQck9A

We must justify

our existence by

touching as many

lives as possible

by sharing and

caring.

When you win, don’t take it to

the head and feel headstrong

but take it to the heart to

feel rejuvenated and humbled.

When you face setbacks,

don’t take it to the heart to

feel depressed but take it

to the head to analyse why

it occurred and prevent

recurrence. With EGO we are

gone, without it we can go on.