People and the world….

Now people are weighed by their wealth. More the wealth, people show liking outwardly and jealousy inwardly.

DONT TRUE LOVE N AFFECTION HAVE A PLACE IN THE WOLD TODAY??. IS IT JUST RAT RACE BY GREEDY ONES!!??

Well there are exceptions, everywhere, every time. There were people like Gandhi, Nehru, Tagore, Vivekananda, and Subash Chandra Bose at the same time. Hitler, Mussoloni, Mother Therisa, Einsten, Nobel….

So let us not be in the race by greedy ones!! Let us do all the good we can, to all the people we can, in all the ways we can, at all the time we can….Let is live the one life we have, right with dignity. Let us not be like those, who cannot think for others who suffer, and help them realize their folly, not through words but by deeds….

Courage, Courage, and courage, is what is needed, to rock the cradle, the corporate, and the world…As Gandhiji had once said, problem with we Indians are that we are cowards. Also family, corporations, and the world, are build on sacrifices, some go noticed, some go unnoticed. Some are rewarded, some are not. When I told a friend, this is the gift I got, when I failed, my sis said, why should we give gifts, only when others succeed?? True they need to be rewarded, for their hardwork, but Success itself is a gift. People are sad, and needs motivation, when they fail. So when others fail, they should not be rejected, but encouraged….And indeed that is what keeps me going now….

The world of greasepaints is infused with people form both sides of the fence. The ones who deserve, but don’t ask, and the ones who get more than their fair share of the pie. Few develop the courage to seek their worth in greens, over a period of time….

John Wooden once said: ‘Things turns out best for people who make the best of the way things turn out’.

There would be many to take credit of your achievements, but very few to be by your side during tough times, who really are your true friends, and hence aptly said, only poor man knows who his true friends are.

Often several families, though living apart, function together as one unit for every major aspect. Increasing income of the FAMILY is a desirable thing. No one confused greed for money with the steady rise in income commensurate with the rising needs of modern life. Government officers who, 30 years ago, were on a couple of thousand rupees salary are now earning Rs.15000 or even more. It hurts no one's conscience that he is growing greedy. Modern life demands more. One finds it essential to earn more and more.

In a business, there is a product. At home, there is no such product. Money is spent on living. What can one realistically do to raise his family income?. Time and energy are MONEY. To save them is to pay attention to them. Time saved, in principle, is money saved. It is true of energy, too. To save TIME, one needs to organize one's work. To organize means to become efficient. Efficiency, as a rule, even as a principle, increases money. He who saves time and organizes the work for that purpose, is NOT outside.

He is inside. Doing so seriously, his outer life gradually gets transferred inside. It finally becomes inner life. Inner life is necessarily a life of concentration. It has a point of reference. We refer each work to that point of reference.

Such an inner life does not permit a man to shout or even speak loudly. His movements become measured. He refers his work to an ideal of his or to a value. Surely such a value can be a Divine Value. Referring each work to a divine value or to the Divine is known as consecration. For a family man, his own family is that divine. To refer every work to the inner divine, for a domestic person, means to have GOOD WILL. It can be a good will of emotion and be intense. One's intense emotion of good will for his family can be extended to all his friends and relatives. It becomes powerful when he decides that any good that he desires that any good that he can come to him after they all receive it first, even if is LUCK. It is a silent way and a sure way of steadily increasing one's family income.

Friends and Relatives are two sides of the same coin. Both are needed in our life. If I ask you who you tell is good, what would be your answer?? Whatever it is, they are like Father and Mother. Though there are people leaving without one, it is indeed the greatest blessing of God to have both of them by our side always. And we do not forget the way we come. Poverty indeed is the greatest curse. And it indeed was a wise saying by Dr.Abdul Kalam, to make education upto 14 years completely free, and make available loan, for education after that.

Every parents strive to do their best for their families. But, in return, children begin by obeying their parents, after a time they judge them, rarely, if ever do they forgive them. After a age, it is not money that they need, but love and affection, for which there is no time today.

Be careful and cautious in your journey through life. You have to be nice, but you can’t have people use you as a doormat. If someone commits a foul on you, make him or her aware they are, otherwise you are encouraging them. After that if people do not realize their mistake, it’s their karma. Niceness always pays off with all the goodwill that comes your way.

If you hike your wagon to the stars may be you will get to some heights. So dream big!! Things at times fall into places, may be unplanned by us, and planned by Almighty!! There are many more talented people out there who are not fortunate enough to be here. I would not wish to step on anybody’s toes to get what I want…But pray to Almighty!!!

‘So let us then be up and living, with a heart for any race…Still achieving, still pursuing, learn to labour and to wait’

M's

Some smile, some admire, some smirk, some raise quizzical eyebrows-all at one issue. Worse still some are bashed up, some are burt alive, some are buried alive, when it comes to intercaste and/or interreligious marriage.

Some say extra marital affair is wrong, marrying a married person is wrong…,For a modern, young, NRI, full of dreams, and green card, it would be a dilemma, when he is asked to marry his sister-in-law, when brother is dead, if otherwise, he looks at her, in any other way, it is wrong, for she is in the position of a mother.

Why did Krishna leave Radha?
Why did Krishna make Rukumini elope?
Why did Kansa put his sis & BIL in the same prison, when he knew that their son would kill him?
How did Virgin Mary give birth to Jesus?

When its time, any thing can happen? Impossible itself says I’m possible…we are no one to decide, what is wrong, and what is right. When we point a finger at others, three fingers are pointing at us.

Love is blind, when someone is in love, they will not see or understand anything…..

At times the things that give us pain, others cherish, while that give us pleasure, others are hurt….But then, what to choose??

Marriages are made in heaven….and elsewhere…..Adults have the right to choose who they want to live with…One needs to understand that ‘honour’ killings should not exist in a civilized society. It’s a shame that it is still going on…It is sad that parents take it as a personal vengeance when their own children marry outside of their caste or religion. What is more important to a parent? A child’s happiness or a false pride and honour?? But then what to do, they think of the society, where they live in.

One thing common in most human being is they find pleasure to see others suffering….They don’t want to see other rise…

When once, I told to a friends mother ‘Mothers are crazy…’ MOTHERS ARE NEVER CRAZY. By crazy, I meant extremely passionate, but they took it other way out……….When I said, Inshallaha (which means God willing to me) Reena told, …I don’t belive in that…Infact, there is only one perfect child and every mother has it..Come what may, they will understand, and forgive their children, but not others…..Doesn’t one become to some extend, a little selfish, once they become a mother…Anyways...No care and love like that of theirs...

Dear Friend.....

You probably relies you brighten my life when we are together, but do you know how much you brighten my life when we are apart?
Whenever something exciting happens, I think of you, and I picture myself running to tell you all about it, and we share a laugh…
When I am faced with a tough situation, I think of you, and imagine what you would do or what you would say to help me through it.
Even when there is really nothing going on, I think of you and your ability to make lifes dullest moments fun….
Even when you are somewhere else, a part of you is always here with me.

It was but yesterday we met in a dream, you have sung me in my aloneness, and I of your longings have built a tower in the sky, But now our sleep had fled and our dream is over, and it is no longer dream. The noon tide is upon us, and our half waking has turned to fuller day, and we must part. If in the twilight of memory we should meet once more we shall speak again, together and you shall sing to me a deeper song, and if our hands should meet in another dream, we shall built another tower in the sky……

If i have to be ur best frnd, if thats all i can get, then i will take the job with honor, i will be the best one yet. i 'll offer u my shoulder, i 'll show how i care, i'll be there when u need me, i am not going anywhere. i ve never known anyone who smiles or laughs as much as u do, thats always been the best part about u. You have made ur foot prints in my heart, thanku my dear frnd!!!!!!!!!!!! Whether you realize it or not….

Journey from V To A and CA

One corporate world to another…Each for a span of two years….So near, yet so far…So similar yet so different….

It is said that ‘Rolling stone gathers no moss’ What does it really mean? Isnt it the two sides of same coin….

Whatever has to happen will happen, Nobody can stop destiny…

And there was history repeating in many ways:

V A
KOCHOUSEPH MOHAMED
JAGHU ABHU
SANDHYA RESHMI
SANTHI SHALIMA
RENJITH RANEESH
SESHU SRINI
RASAL SAJID
SUJI PRIYA/MEEGA
JISA SAJINA/CIMI
ELSA ANNIE/BEENA
JOJO THOMAS
CA INTER CA FINAL
CHENNAI COCHIN
TALLY SAGE

So many friends, and new colleagues, new knowledge’s…and new ventures…Thanks, for all this would not be possible without the help and support of family, and wishes from God..Hope all for the best!! It indeed is Almighty’s plan.

And now remember Seema:

Ø He who is afraid to ask is ashamed of learning
Ø Strive hard with the exam in mind and not the end result
Ø Please don’t get tense just before the exam or else you will be unable to perform upto your true potential.
Ø Study as per the time table you have set for yourself, don’t worry about the way others study.
Ø Pray, really hard, god listens to most of your prayers..


When Mini/Anni miss met me in bus, they had asked me: So far you are still here?? Reached nowhere??

Greatest torture is mental torture, dreams not being fulfilled and people making fun of you. Some may not do that directly, but behind the back…..

Be active, others should be motivated seeing you, your energy. Work, work and work! Hard! Smart! Those who fail to plan, plan to fail….

Don’t waste your time talking, at times good to be selfish, like the girl who hurt you by not telling her name inspite of you asking her, she got through the exam..Be soft spoken, and get things done for you, as ur once room mate, Porkodu….’golden creeper’ The name you give your last daughter, so that next you have a male child.


Why Good people suffer???
Success in life is an ability to organize a productive work.
Some of them whom we consider good, may be good in their behaviour, but not really good….
Most of them are inefficient and some of them are lazy….’sombarithanam’ which effects me too at times…especially while studying/taking CA books.
There is a belif that pious people are naturally good, which is not true.

So dear: Be excellent in whatever you do…Do the things allotted to you perfectly and well….Leave the rest to God, Nobody can change his will and plan…

No second thought, you must build up good career by hard work.

Corporate….

My friend asked me to accompany her to watch this movie. As I had other commitments, could not go for the same. But missed it, as had heard a lot about Page 3, but couldn’t watch it still, and had heard that it was from the same director….

This has nothing to do with the movie, just overflow of thought…

Don’t understand how some people turn out to be managers…o.k. Management, is the art of getting things done by people, but is it the art of throwing out others, if you don’t know how to get it done by them!!! I believe, the strength of true manager lies in getting things done from even the worst person, not only from the best!!! The best person will give his best even otherwise. If you employee a person, and say he is not right, after three months, the primary fault is yours being faulty recruitment. A true manager, should be able to realize if the candidate he selected is right or wrong for the job, with in this time, unless and until, the candidate, is that cleaver, and cunning, with some ulterior motive….

Communication is the link pin, for success in any organization, and when an employee leaves the organization, true fact has to be properly communicated, not in detail, but in a precise way, so that there are no misunderstandings…. or the very foundation would be crumbled.

Everyone needs to feel appreciated and even the busiest of executives will find time to assist a person who respects them and values their advice.

Nobody is perfect in this world, there are shortcomings in everyone, and if we really do care for somebody, we would be broad enough to overlook the shortcomings, and provide a helping hand, to rectify the others mistakes.

Corporate divorce is as painful and traumatic as a marital divorce. The ‘divorce papers’ served as pink slips can leave one feeling totally worthless.

It is even more painful, to give the pink slip, to those who you see have been working well, and to whom you promise that things will be well, when they had been supporting the corporation during tough times, and you are asked to hand over the pink slip to those very people, your own friends….

On getting a new job, there are new hopes, treat is given on receipt of first salary, and nobody expects to leave soon..But then nothing lasts for ever…

Every opportunity is a chance to learn. It is not just important but essential that we look at a job loss as an opportunity. A chance that life has offered you to make yourself more marketable…To look for a possible new turn of events.

After we have come to terms with all matters emotional and practical, it is time to move on. One needs to decide where to go from here. One need not break the daily routine, resist the temptation to sleep late, watch television all day, think of your search for new employment as a full or part-time job. At the same time, enjoy your life by indulging in activities you did not have time for earlier…

The crucial part, at this juncture is Financial Management. You really need to take care of and plan to get yourself through the next several months. Know what your income and expenses are, and for sure, it will reveal possibilities, rather than present restrictions.

Let’s face it; losing a job is always a possibility. So it is better to be prepared for the worst.

Moreover, after having lived your life in a hectic frenzy, assume that this is the break that you very well deserve. A time to relax, ‘To stand and stare’

So is this a lesson to be learned too: Don’t consider anyone in Corporate offices to be your friends??? Is it so???


Thought for the day:
1. ‘Education is the one cure-all for insecurity’-Hugh Jackman.
2. Everybody has a right to happiness and freedom and security and health care and education ….
3. Success is more permanent when you achieve it without destroying your principles.
4. One of the golden keys to happiness and great success is the way you interpret events which unfold before you. There are no negative experiences only experiences which aid in your development and toughen your character so that you may soar to new heights. There are no failures, only lessons.
5. A famous saying spread in IT industry, belived to be by Narayan Murthy, Infosys Chairman, ‘Never love the company you work for, but only your job, for you do not know when the company, you work for will stop loving you.’ But I belive, why hate any one….Let us continue loving the company too…As the song goes….Where is the time to hate…When there is so little time to love….

Thought for the day.....

"I have the audacity to believe that people everywhere can have three meals a day for their tired bodies, education and culture for their spirits. I believe that what self-centered men have torn down, men other-centered can build up. I still believe that one day mankind will bow before the altars of God and be crowned triumphant over war and bloodshed, and non-violent redemptive goodwill will proclaim the rule of the land 'and the lion and the lamb shall lie down together and every man shall sit under his own vine and fig tree and none shall be afraid.' I still believe that we shall overcome."

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Don’t go by hearsays, gossips and misconceptions…Listen to your heart…Reach for the stars, Dream big, and Never give up….
Believe in yourself, and in the strength that you have to build your destiny, for nothing is impossible for a willing heart.
Winners never quit, and quitters Never win.....So Let us try and try till we succeed..

On Work....

Today Libin said, if at first you don’t succeed destroy all evidence that you tried. Does that mean we should not try? For this he said, no, it means you should restart all your efforts once again, as if you have never tried before. So also, did amma say today not to use old notes etc…. Meaning the same…Understood!!

The only way one can develop interest in any conceptual subject is by thinking on the logic behind conclusions stated in the books. When your line of thinking deviates from those conclusions do not come to the conclusion that you are proceeding in the wrong direction. Always consult a teacher in this regard. The more the doubts you have initially, the better, since it would guide you in the right direction and you are informed as to why the alternate thinking is not appropriate.

Many problems do not give complete information and require the use of assumptions. While going through a text book, question the logic behind the assumption if you think another assumption will suit the question on hand better.

In child hood we did not learn Twinkle Twinkle, or Johny Johny understanding its meaning. Over repeatedly reciting we understood its meaning…Same is the case with the prayers we chant....So also to pass even if we do not understand what it is, on repeated reading, and not giving up, you will…..

Had started with DANCE, GUITAR, KARATE and YOGA, but was not successful, in any of these, so still Jack of all trades, Master of none..But earnestly feel like completing one thing…But as achan said, even if you take seven births, and keep on learning, you knowledge would be just the knowledge of KG class, to your total knowledge now.

As Reshmita said, about the boy who always prayed to God, that he should win the lottery, one day God said to him, dear for that you please buy a lottery first…….So you study well first and write the exam, with faith and confidence…Now that you have support from all, and leave the rest to God…ALL FOR THE BEST……

And Achan always kept telling the story of the king and the spider…how the king who was about the give up, was re motivated seeing the spider, though unsuccessful, kept trying to make its web, and was finally successful.

If any person is able to show me that I do not think or act rightly, I will change, for I seek the truth. For he is injured who abides in errors and ignorance.

Now the only hindrance seems to be my sleep… and laziness to wake up early in the morning. Though punctual for most of the things most of the times, unless I forget (Don’t know how I happen to forget Devis marriage)

The first most obvious sign of a professional is punctuality, and you need to learn to be quickly…Don’t go by Sony’s logic…that Punctuality is not in coming to office at time, but delivering….but does it mean escapesim…from responsibility, and just pointing figures at others, self not being upto the mark ….Well that is said, in todays world…what is needed is not hard work, but smart work.

Tamil Wedding....

Wedding celebrations do have a special place in society, and now you can see not lakhs but crores of rupees being spend for weddings....In India too ...wedding cermony vary from place to place.

On February 2nd & 3rd, it was Ramesh and Anushas wedding....it was a typical two day Tamil wedding, and the events were new to me. Had asked some present there, what each meant, they said, it were all rituals..with Thanks giving to God.

Thought of knowing the details..and this was what was found with regard to the steps and significance:

Panda Kaal Muhurtham It is customary to invoke the blessings of the family deity to ensure that the wedding preparations proceed smoothly. Usually, this small ritual is performed one day before the wedding. The pole is adorned with turmeric powder, mango leaves and 'kolam'. The 'pujari' performs a 'puja' by sprinkling turmeric, 'kumkum' powder, yellow rice and flowers amidst the chanting of Vedic mantras. The pole is then fixed very firmly into the ground and an 'arathi' is performed. Prayers are offered so that the 'pandaal' should remain strong and firm throughout the ceremonies. The family of the bride and the groom pray to the deity who is symbolically represented by a bamboo pole.

Receiving the Groom When the groom and his family arrive at the wedding hall on the morning one day before the wedding, they are welcomed with a tray containing offerings of flowers, paan supari, fruits and mishri. Rose water is sprinkled on the groom. The bride's brother applies a tilak (dot or line) of sandalwood paste and kumkum on his forehead and garlands him. The bride's mother offers the groom's parents offer a sweet dish prepared from condensed milk. A senior female member of the bride's family performs aarti (a small ritual conducted as a mark of reverence) and welcomes them. It is also customary to break a coconut to the ground as this is believed to help ward off evil spirits.

Vratham This ritual is somewhat similar to the Panda Kaal Muhurtham. It is usually performed a day before the wedding by the family of the bride as well as that of the groom. They recite Vedic hymns in the presence of a priest (Vaadyar) and seek the blessings of a family deity. Next, they invoke the blessings of all their ancestors and pray for their intervention in removing those obstacles that threaten to disrupt the wedding proceedings. Following these ceremonies, all married women from the groom's family participate in a ceremony called Palikai thellichal.

Pallikai Thellichal The family of the bride begins this ceremony a day before the wedding. Clay pots are filled with grains. Married women from both the sides sprinkle water on the pots filled with nine varieties of grain. During this ceremony, the others present sing traditional songs to the accompaniment of music. The next day (the day after the wedding) when the grains sprout, these pots are immersed in a pond so that the fish in the pond may feed on the grains and bless the newly-weds abundantly.

Naandi This ceremony involves honouring a few Brahmins with gifts and sweets. The Brahmins are invited to represent the souls of the ancestors of the bride and the groom. The families seek their blessings before beginning the marriage proceedings.

Jaanavaasam A tradition which is rarely practised these days. The groom gets into a decorated car and is escorted to the wedding venue by a large and joyous procession of family and friends. Professional musicians accompany the procession and play traditional wedding music. Sometimes there are also fireworks to celebrate the occasion. The girl's brother garlands the groom and receives him at the Wedding hall to the accompaniment of traditional music.

Nicchiyadharatham The bride's parents perform Ganesh Pooja in the presence of the officiating priest. The bride is also present during the ceremony. Tamilians have great faith in the Elephant God, Lord Ganesh, the remover of obstacles. The groom's side gives the bride a new sari. She wears it with the assistance of her sister-in-law. A tilak of chandan and kumkum is applied on her forehead, while the pallav (part of the sari near the border) of her sari is filled with fruits, paan-supari, turmeric, kumkum and coconut. A garland of flowers is tied around her waist. Aarati is also performed for her.

Reading of Lagna Pathirigai The priest formally reads out the wedding invitation. Details on 3 generations of the lineage of the boy and the girl and other information on the muhurtam and venue is announced. This is followed by an elaborate dinner.The above mentioned are done on the day previous to the actual wedding ceremony ..On the Day of Wedding we have ...

Mangala Snaanam The mangala snaanam is the auspicious and purifying bath that the bride and groom must have in their respective homes on the dawn of their wedding day. Before the bath they are anointed with oil and a tilak of haldi-kumkum.

Kasi Yatra This is an interesting ritual and adds an element of colour and drama to the occasion. After the mangala snaanam, the groom pretends to leave for Kashi, a pilgrimage center to devote himself to God and a life of prayer. He carries a walking stick and other meagre essentials with him to imply that he is not interested in becoming a householder. The girl's father intervenes and requests him to accept his daughter as his life partner. He exhorts him to fulfill his responsibilities as a householder and thus follow what is written in the scriptures. The groom relents and returns to the pandal where he is received by the bride.

Exchange of Garlands This ceremony is full of fun and gaiety. The bride and the groom exchange garlands thrice. They are teased by their relatives. For instance, they pull the girl away when the boy reaches forward to be garlanded by her, and vice versa. The bride and the groom's uncles (mother's brother) have to hoist them.

Oonjal When the couple finally succeed in garlanding each other thrice, they are made to sit together on a swing. Married women from the families give spoonful of milk and banana pieces. They circle rice balls around the couple in circular motions, in clockwise and anti-clockwise directions and fling them away. This rite is believed to prevent evil forces from disrupting the wedding ceremony. Another rite to achieve a similar end, involves the womenfolk going around the couple four times, holding in their hands a lamp or alternately, a container of water. Songs called Oonjal Paattu must be sung during these rites.

Twin Star In one of the rituals of a Hindu marriage, the groom shows the bride the double stars of Vashista and Arundhati as an ideal couple, symbolic of marital fulfilment and loyalty. ... Since the Arundhati star is faintly visible, there is a belief that when someone is near death, they can not see the Arundhati star.

During the marriage ceremonies of Hindus, one of the ritual is the groom shows the bride the double stars of Vasishta and Arundhati.

In some Hindu communities, priests conducting a wedding ceremony allude to or point out the constellation as a symbol of the closeness marriage brings to a couple.

Secret behind watching/pointing the stars

In most twin stars system one star is stationary and other rotates around it, while Arundhati and Vashishtha both rotate in synchrony.

To tell that both husband and wife must do all things in sync and that husband must not rotate round the wife or wife should not dance to the tune of her husband, this ritual was made a part of the marriage ceremony.

Kanyaa daanam Here, the brahmachari meets his prospective father-in-law. The bride's father welcomes the groom when he comes to the mandapam (place where the wedding rituals are carried out).The mandapam houses the sacred fire around which the wedding ceremonies will be conducted.The bride's mother applies kajal in the groom's eyes. The bride's father washes his son-in-law's feet. Through this gesture the father conveys that that the boy is an incarnation of Lord Vishnu and believes that he will support and take good care of his daughter. The bride sits on her father's lap with a coconut in her hands. The father and bride offer the coconut to the groom while the bride's mother pours water over the coconut thus symbolising the 'giving away of their daughter.' The groom's parents gift the bride a nine-yard sari and a blouse to be worn for next moment, the auspicious occasion of tying the mangasultra

Maangalya dhaaranam(Muhurtam) With the help of her sister-in-law and other aunts the bride changes into a nine-yard sari and again enters the mandapam. A sack of paddy is placed on the floor. The bride's father is seated on this and the bride sits on her father's lap. The sack of paddy symbolises good fortune and abundance in terms of material and spiritual wealth. The yoke of a farmer's plough is touched to the bride's forehead. This gesture carries the hope that the couple will always walk together, by each other's side to pull the plough of life. The priest and relatives bless the mangalsutra or sacred thread and hand it to the groom who ties it around the neck of his bride with two knots. His groom's sister ties the third knot much to the rejoicing of everyone accompanied by the drums of the melam. The three knots symbolise the marriage of the mind, spirit and body. There is no Veda Mantram for tying the mangala sutram (auspicious thread) around the neck of the bride by the groom. The latter takes the mangala sutram in his hands and recites the following verse:
mAngalyam tantunAnena mama jIvanA hethunA kaNThe: badhnami subhage! sanjIva Sarada: Satam
(meaning: This is a sacred thread. This is essential for my long life. I tie this around your neck, O maiden having many auspicious attributes! May you live happily for a hundred years (with me).

Paani grahanam After maangalya dhaaranam, the groom lowers his right palm and encloses it over the right hand of the bride. He covers all the five fingers of the right hand of the bride with his right palm through this act of paani grahanam. He recites mantras in praise of Bhaga, Aryama, Savita, Indra, Agni, Suryan, Vayu and Saraswati, while holding the bride's hand. He prays for long life, progeny, prosperity and harmony with the bride during their married life. The closed fingers of the right hand of the bride is said to represent her heart. The paani grahanam ritual symbolizes the bride surrendering her heart in the hands of the groom during the occasion of the marriage.

Sapta padi During this ritual, the groom walks with the bride to the right side of the sacred fire. All along, he holds his wife's right hand in his right hand in the way in which he held her hand during the paani grahanam ceremony. He stops, bends down and holds the right toe of his wife with his right hand and helps her take seven steps around the fire. At the beginning of each step, he recites a Veda mantra to invoke the blessings of Maha Vishnu. Through these seven mantras, he asks Maha Vishnu to follow in the footsteps of his wife and bless her with food, strength, piety, progeny, wealth, comfort and health. At the conclusion of the seven steps, he addresses his wife with a moving statement from the Veds summarized below:
Dear Wife! By taking these seven steps, you have become my dearest friend. I pledge my unfailing loyalty to you. Let us stay together for the rest of our lives. Let us not separate from each other ever. Let us be of one mind in carrying out our responsibilities as householders (grihasthas). Let us love and cherish each other and enjoy nourishing food and good health. Let us discharge our prescribed Vedic duties to our elders, ancestors, rishis, creatures, and gods. Let our aspirations be united. I will be the Saaman and may you be the Rk (Saaman here refers to the music and Rk refers to the Vedic text that is being cast into music). Let me be the upper world and let you be the Bhumi or Mother Earth. I will be the Sukla or life force and may you be the bearer of that Sukla. Let me be the mind and let you be the speech. May you follow me to conceive children and gain worldly as well as spiritual wealth. May all auspiciousness come your way.

Pradhaana homam After sapta padi, the couple take their seat on the western side of the sacred fire and conduct pradhaana homam. During the conductance of this homam, the bride must place her right hand on her husband's body so that she gets the full benefit of the homam through symbolic participation. Sixteen mantras are recited to the accompaniment of pouring a spoon of clarified butter into the sacred fire at the end of recitation of each of the mantras. These mantras salute Soma, Gandharva, Agni, Indra, Vayu, the Aswini Devas, Savita, Brihaspati, Viswa Devas and Varuna for blessing the marriage and beseeches them to confer long wedded life, health, wealth, children and freedom from all kinds of worries. One prayer -- the sixth mantra -- has a sense of humor and provides deep insight into human psychology. The text of this mantra is: "daSaasyam putraan dehi, patim ekaadaSam kRti". Here, the groom asks Indra to bless the couple with ten children and requests that he be blessed to become the eleventh child of his bride in his old age.

Stepping on the grinding stone After pradhaana homam, the husband holds the right toe of his wife and lifts her leg and places it on a flat granite grinding stone known as "ammi" in Tamil. The ammi stands at the right side of the sacred fire. The husband recites a Veda mantra when he places the right foot of his wife on the ammi:May you stand on this firm stone. May you be rock-firm during your stay on this grinding stone. May you stand up to those who oppose you while you carry out your time-honored responsibilities as a wife sanctioned by the Vedas and tradition. May you develop tolerance to your enemies and put up a fair fight to defend your legitimate rights as the head of the household in a firm manner, equal to the steady strength of this grinding stone.

Sammandhi Mariyathai The families of the newly-weds exchange clothes and other gifts befitting their status during this ceremony.

Laaja homam After ammi stepping, a ceremony of doing homam with parched rice is conducted. Here, the wife cups her hands and the brothers of the bride fill the cupped hands with parched rice. The husband adds a drop of ghee to the parched rice and recites five Veda mantras. At the end of each of the recitation , the parched rice is thrown into the sacred fire as havis (offering) to Agni. Through these mantras, the wife prays for long life for her husband and for a marriage filled with peace and harmony. At the end of the laaja homam, the husband unties the darbha belt around the waist of his wife with another mantra. The husband states through this mantra that he unites his wife and ties her now with the bonds of Varuna and invites her to be a full partner in his life to enjoy the blessings of wedded life.

Griha pravesam This ceremony relates to the journey of the wife to her husband's home. The husband carries the sacred fire (homa agni) in a earthern vessel during this journey home. There are many Veda mantras associated with this journey. These mantras pray to the appropriate Vedic gods to remove all obstacles that one can experience in a journey. The bride is requested to become the mistress of the house and is reminded of her important role among the relatives of her husband. After reaching her new home, she puts her right foot first in the house and recites the following Veda mantra:I enter this house with a happy heart. May I give birth to children, who observe the path of righteousness (dharma)! May this house that I enter today be prosperous forever and never be deficient in food. May this house be populated by people of virtue and pious thoughts.Praavisya homam After griha pravesam, a fire ritual known as praavisya homam is performed by the couple to the accompaniment of thirteen Veda mantras from the Rg Veda. Jayaadi homam is also part of the

Praavisya homam. This homam offers the salutation of the newly married couple to Agni Deva and asks for strength and nourishment to discharge the duties of a grihasthas for the next one hundred years. After that, the bride shifts her position from the right side of her husband to his left side. At that time, once again, she recites a Veda mantra invoking the gods for blessings of children and wealth to perform the duties of a householder.At the end of the above homam, a child is placed on the lap of the bride and she offers a fruit to the child, while reciting a prescribed Veda mantra. Yet another mantram asks the assembled guests to bless the bride and then retire to their own individual homes peacefully. During the first evening of the stay in her new home, the couple see the stars known as Dhruva (pole star) and Arundhati. The husband points out the pole star and prays for the strength and stability of the household thru a Veda mantra. Next, the husband points out the Arundhati star to his wife and describes to her the the story of Arundhati and her legendary chastity.

Nelangu: It is Tamil Wedding Game, played by the bride and grooms party, wherein, coconuts are rolled across, and songs are sung, at times some other games too are played.…

ReceptionAfter the series of religious ceremonies, the evening reception marks a tone of informality with the guests meeting the couple and conveying their best wishes to their families.

Katta Saddam The next day after the 2 day affair, the boy's side leave the marriage hall and proceed to their respective homes. The bride's side bid adieu and provide them with all the condiments like rice, dal, tamarind, coffee powder, appalam, pickles etc. They also give packed cooked food which include coconut rice, lemon rice, tamarind rice and curd rice.

C&AG

The Comptroller and Auditor General of India is the title of a government official, established by the constitution, who audits all disbursements and accounts of moneys in and out of India. He is the head of the Indian Audits & Accounts Service (IA&AS).

The present Comptroller and Auditor General of India is Vijayendra N. Kaul.

Being into audit for this long....didnot realise that there was a head for this...Until Shalu asked me the same today....

Cycle of life.....

It has been decided that it is time for me to move on and quit the present job... This was not an easy decision and took a lot of consideration. However, it is with confidence that my new role will help me to move towards some of the goals I have for my career.

That doesnt me, I can leave it forever, as it has already become a part of my life. Will not be able to erase the days from the memories....

Its said that 'Tough time never last but tough people do'...So the decison was not a easy one...

Have send the resignation letter on 14th July 2006 stating:
‘ Having extended my service with your organization for the last two years, I presume that its time for me now to move on. At this juncture, I would like to convey my sincere gratitude and satisfaction to one and all at Amlaki for giving me an opportunity, and also for all the support and guidance extended during my days here.

The reasons for leaving are purely personal, as I need to concentrate on my studies, as the Chartered Accountants syllabus is changing, I need to clear my final examination, and am unable to give full justice to my studies in the present circumstances.

Hoping to have your wishes and blessings in all my future endeavors too. I would like to resign from this esteemed organization at the earliest, and would kindly request you to relive me of my duties here. Kindly consider this as one months notice, if needed as per the contract, and wishing to be relived before the 14th of August 2006’

Instead of keeping the blogs updated, guess I need to find a place for myself too there as a CA.....Also the label itself has got a good value, in the society, and am sure, it would help me be in a better position.

Another cycle of my life is finished, and I must begin a new cycle, I will therefore readapt myself to the new cycle without fear. I will do everything that common sense counsels to mend matters, meet results.

The journy so far was from Mumbai, after schooling and 12th, to Potta, without college, by Gods grace, clearing foundation in the first attempt…got into CA…..and while doing articleship, Bcom….But then do not know why, could not clear the inter and final soon…… Never got a rank in my life though ardently desired…..In between had taken tuitions, LIC agency, part time jobs..etc….

Then got into Veegaland in the beginning of 2000, quit the job, at the end of 2001, for CA inter, cleared the same in May 2002. Got into Amlaki in the middle of 2004, planning to go for classes again in 2005. There was lot of similarities in both my jobs…and happen to learn many new things. Personally and professionally, also could make new friends. Hoping and praying that Gods grace would be there, for the future endeavors too….May his will prevail, and wishing that he give me, and all with me the strength to accept his decisions, Thanking him for the opportunities, in the form of my family members, friends and wellwishers.. ….

Friendship & Love.....

Had a proverb once written on msn 'Nothing lasts for ever'.....Thomas Sir told me, Friendship lasts....I wondered.....Though not 100% true.........As even life doesnot last for ever....Even the bestest, truest, friendship would last only till life.......

Then I remembered an autograph by Georgekutty given: 'Friendship & Love is better than anything'

At times there are misunderstandings.....

Before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another Remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.

Life is a gift Live it... Enjoy it... Celebrate it... And fulfill it.

And while you are at it give love to someone today Love someone with what you do and the words you say

Love is not meant to be kept locked inside of us and hidden.

So give it away"Give Love to someone today!"

That u would make a difference in that someones life, may be knowingly or unknowingly you give him/her a new life.....

That someone may be your parents, your children, your spouse, your siblings, your friends, your relatives, your colleague, your neighbour or even your enemy.....

What one man cannot do, two can, and what one man can do, two can do still better......

There is so much of Good in the worst of us, and so much of bad in the best of us, that it ill behoves any of us, to find fault with the rest of us.

When you have some one to know you, to support you, even the most difficut times, the most difficult decision seems to be easy........

Thought for the day: Friendship and Love indeed is best!!!

Rate your life ......

Just tried out, Do give ur comments....

This Is My Life, Rated
Life:	7.2
Mind:	6.8
Body:	8.9
Spirit:	8.8
Friends/Family:	4.7
Love:	1.5
Finance:	6.8
Take the Rate My Life Quiz

Will your bars be shades of orange, or blue? Take the quiz and find out clicking the link...
http://www.monkeyquiz.com/life/rate_my_life.html
The Rate My Life Self-Help Quiz will ask you a number of questions and then compute your life rating. In addition, it will break down your score on the following categories: Mind, Body, Spirit, Love, Friends/Family, and Financial. Finally, it will analyze your scores. Please note that this quiz is intended for entertainment purposes only.

Your Life Analysis:

Life: Your life rating is a score of the sum total of your life, and accounts for how satisfied, successful, balanced, capable, valuable, and happy you are. The quiz attempts to put a number on the summation of all of these things, based on your answers. Your life score is reasonably high. This means that you are on a good path. Continue doing what is working and set about to improve in areas which continue to lag. Do this starting today and you will begin to reap the benefits immediately. (Read more on improving your life)

Mind: Your mind rating is a score of your mind's clarity, ability, and health. Higher scores indicate an advancement in knowledge, clear and capable thinking, high mental health, and pure thought free of interference. Your mind score is not bad, but could be improved upon. Your mental health is not weak, but you are not achieving full mental clarity and function. Learn how to unclutter your mind. Keep learning, keep improving, continue moving forward. Read advice from other quiz-takers on improving the mind.

Body: Your body rating measures your body's health, fitness, and general wellness. A healthy body contributes to a happy life, however many of us are lacking in this area. You have an excellent body score, which means you are incredibly focused on maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Continue in that focus, and your body will remain healthy and strong. Read advice from other quiz-takers on improving the body.

Spirit: Your spirit rating seeks to capture in a number that elusive quality which is found in your faith, your attitude, and your philosophy on life. A higher score indicates a greater sense of inner peace and balance. Your spirit score is dramatic. Continue on your path, do not stray. Continue to reap the rewards which your spirituality brings forth. Read advice from other quiz-takers on improving the spirit.

Friends/Family: Your friends and family rating measures your relationships with those around you, and is based on how large, healthy, and dependable your social network is. Your friends and family score suffers, yet it does not need to be this way. Strengthen your social network by reaffirming old bonds. Seek out new friendships, and they will provide you the reward you need. Try using MeetUp.com to find people near you who share your interests.

Love: Your love rating is a measure of your current romantic situation. Sharing your heart with another person is one of life's most glorious, terrifying, rewarding experiences. Your love score is very low, indicating trouble. There is love out there for you. Seek the advice of wise people on how to go about finding it. Do not lose hope. Read advice from other quiz-takers on finding and maintaining love.

Finance: Your finance rating is a score that rates your current financial health and stability. You have a rather good financial score, which is not all that common these days. Keep doing what works. Avoid common pitfalls and save for the future. You will be glad you did. Read advice from other quiz-takers on improving your finances.

Bomb Blast......

Once again in between 6-6.30 on the 11th of July 2006, at our own commercial capital, Mumbai…… ….8 blasts..more than 100 lives...many injured...along the western suburbs... this is really pathetic. In our very local trains that are heart of our city..The tragic memories of March 1993 blast is still fresh in our minds, and here there is once again…….

Some say all guys responsible for this heinous crime should be given very painful death, similar to what Mussolini got..Some say how much more can they fall, don't they have any soul which stops them ...... killing so many innocents, how sick minded they are

And the main disgust is that we can do nothing to find these transporters of death. Imagine what had been their mind set.. to kill innocent people...!
Lets pray .. the injured get back to normal.. very soon.... and may there be an end to all this.

It could have been anyone of us ... what do people get from this sadist behavior? Here we all are damn worried trying to call the other...n again the telephones r jammed no way to know if our loved ones are safe!!!

It's really so.... sad!! And the worst part is that we cannot do anything...it's like anyone can come and kill anybody...anywhere!!

This is with prayers 2 god 2 help all those who’ve been badly hit by this...hope all of our loved ones are safe.……

http://mumbaihelp.blogspot.com/This is really very helpful.
Circulate this link.

Please visit the following link and light an e-candle for the Mumbai Victims. For every candle lit - CNN-IBN channel is giving 1 Rupee to the victims (As per forwarded mail). : http://clients.ibnlive.com/features/mumatt/index.php


Guess now this blasts too have become a part of life of the Mumbaikars….like the rain, political disharmony etc.

U never know, the people behind may be a terrorist in Afghanistan, Pakistan or Iraq, or may be some one from the very land…….

Or can it be to distract your attention from the failure of the launch and the loss of crores of rupees………or for some other reason?????

Tabus dialogue in Fanna keep coming to my mind, and the sceanes……..Do people copy from films or are filmmakers copying from real life situations??? Its like the chicken and the egg problem…….
You can also read the message put at http://forwardsandthoughts.blogspot.com/2006/07/letter-from-bombay-salaam-bombay.html which is specially meant for attackers!!!

The shrinking world…

‘If ethical principles deny our right from doing evil that good may come, are we justified in doing good that the foreseeable consequence is evil??’ This was the question asked, with regard to invention of nuclear wepons.

Agriculture…Without that we may not be in a position to enjoy the food , as we do today…..

Weels- bullockcarts, motor vehicle, trains, airoplanes…(Raising petrol price)??? What next?? May be something like balloons….Let us float around in the air……..or make wings like birds to fly……

Communication: Pigeons, Earls, Postmans, Telegrams, telegraphs, Shortest life pager….mobile…. Telephones would be something in showcases, and a thing that can be shown to future generation as we see the grinding instruments like- Ammi, Attukal, uralu, Olaka….

Computer, internet, blog,

ORKUT…Whomsoevers brain behind it, and whatsoever the motive……Thanks…….For the last few days, that was my passion, though very busy with office work, found some time for it, so could not even update the blog….

So what do you think is the greatest invention of all times???

Foot ball world Cup mania……

Now everywhere u here about this….Most busiest persons are in front of the TV, by the time the game starts…. There are beautiful forwards….

Pepsi ad. ….Japan Penaltykick, goal….
Football ground….and spot…India…Ground empty all watching TV and passing comments….

Indeed, football is far more interesting than cricket, wherein we do not have to wait for long hours for the result, and each minute is valuable…

what numerology says: World cup magic:Brazil won 1970+1984=3964Also 1962+2002=3964Germany won 1974+1990=3964Argentina won 1978+1986=3964Now ______+2006=3964,_____=1958Who won in 1958??Brazil....

Ayooo Argentina, England, Brazil okkay poee… Germany, Portugal, France, Italy are remaining…..Now its an all European team. .. & 'Zindanes' time.....

Who would be the winner??

Runner up??

Would India every play the work cup football??- Will the plans of people like Sthyajith from GEC, work, will it be fruitful…

July st-Doctors Day! Chartered Accountants Day!!

One of the professions held in high esteem. The scope and future is as bright as any other skilled professions …..

Having spend major part of my professional career with Chartered Accountats,

Got into this profession & the foundation, in 1994, first inspiration from Sundherashwaran uncle (Raghavan Chittapans brother). 31st July 1995 (To the best of my knowledge and belief) , had joined George and Paulson Chalakudy. That was a day, moving around, not know the difference between a Sales Tax Practitioner, and a Chartered Accountant. It was Potta Mukundan Ammavan, who got me to that place. And definitely, the PUSH was from Amma.

At the time of leaving G & P, there was an interview session, from my colleagues there, then, which was as below.

Your views on CA course: Due to increase and vast expansion in commerce, business, industry and economic affairs, the scope for this profession too is expanding. There is always a need for proper accounting, and then a CA’s role is not limited to the area of accounting….The KKPP formula may rarely work here, but one should be fully determined to pass at first attempt, fully concentrating in it, never put of till tomorrow what you can do today. Appear each exam as though it is your last chance. If you want to be a CA think, act like a CA. It is Smart work, and not mere hard work that is needed. If you keep studying to acquire detailed knowledge, it would be difficult to pass…As it happened to me. Do not waste your time, you can go into details, even after passing. The first and foremost thing needed is to pass the exam, as ur here for it. In ur preprimary class you did not learn, nursery rhymes knowing the meaning. Devote full time of yours to this profession. I am sure if you devote your full time of yours to this you can pass within three years, both inter and final. Dedication & Concentration is must, Just like you put something on the horses face, so that its concentration is not diverted, do something with urself too..As u need self control here, unlike othercourses, therewould be no one to control u. It is easy to get into this, but difficult to get out. And once you get through your exams successfully, there is a charisma, additional value, in the society.

Your advise to Juniors: Without myself passing CA, I think I have got no right to advise others. But as it is something, which can be given without effort, can say this much: never let go of loyalty and faithfulness, tie them round your neck, and write them on your heart. Get wisdom, and insight. Do not abandon wisdom and she will protect you. Your education is your lifeguard well. Be careful how you think, your life is shaped by your thoughts. Never say anything that isn’t true. Don’t be ashamed to say ‘I do not know’ If you want to be a CA, think act, and be like a CA. And remember: Those who want to do everything can do nothing. To achieve something’s, you need to give up some other things.And at every walk of your life: Love selflessly, forgive willingly, share generously, serve whole-heartedly, and be responsible and accountable.

Happiest Moment: The day I joined, felt that within three years, I would be a CA, most of the days spend here, each time I met new friends/colleagues, the day I passed my degree, which was incredible, and am Thankful to God for the same. Even the last day, for having had the opportunity. But definitely the happiest day would be the day when your goal is achieved. And that has not happened.

Do you belive that failure is the stepping-stone to success: Yes, indeed. Those who fail, they with added determination and will , try to achieve success. The success may not be in the same field. But at times through failures, people realize that they are not fit to be in that field, and hence bloom in other fields of life. It is adversity that takes you to God, and sorrows, and failures help you realize the ture beauty, and taste of happiness and success in life. My sister keep telling me Sais quote: Desire what you deserve, desire is the root cause of all sorrows. Success is felt sweet, not by those who always succeed, and it is not final. With it comes added responsibilities. And to keep it is difficult.

And still a budding CA hope will bloom one day….. And will be a part of this celebration.

Motto: ‘ YA ESA SUPTESU JAGARTI, KAMAM PURSO NIRMIMANAH /
TADEVA SUKRAM TAD BRAHMA TADEVAMRTAMUCYATE /
TASMILOKAH SRITAH SARVE TADU NATYETI KASCAN/ ETAD VAI TAT/

That person who is awake in those that sleep, shaping desire after desire, that indeed, is the pure. That is Brahaman, that indeed is the immortal. In it all the worlds rest, and no one ever goes beyond it. This, verily, is that kamam kamam: Desire after desire, really objects of desire. Even dream objects like objects of walking consciousness are due to the supreme person. Even dream consciousness is a proof of the existence of the self.

No one ever goes beyond it. Of Echkart: ‘On reaching God all progress ends’

The Inner Reality…..

One untainted by egoism and unentangled, remains spiritually unaffected by acts done in discharge of duty. One discharging duties with this mental attitude is not touched by any activity.

He alone can enter the world of activity with its trials and temptations who is not afraid of it but who has already mastered it within his mind. All others had better keep away and remain untempted in peaceful hermitages of monastery retreats.

By what men fall by that they rise. The moment you become obsessed by desire to play a part in society, there is always the danger that those desire will keep you too busy to attend to quiet thought and higher study. Do what you do, but not a bit more.

Your presence is not necessary for the functioning of the universal machine.

Do not stay forever in solitude. Keep up a balance, a rhythm with the world. What you will gain and learn in your solitude you must work out in society and activity. What you work out in activity will be the test of what you have attained within your heart. You must test these inner attainments. In this way you may test continuously in a life of action, the integrity of inner achievement resulting from solitude.

Cut away the roots of a tree and the branches will wither of their own accord, so cut away the root of all vices and they disappear of themselves. We must be balanced. Throughout the events of life you must have wisdom and you must have courage.

As a man thinketh, so is he. If you begin to think steadily about what you really are in your innermost mature, the time will come when you final the answer to the question, ‘What am I?’

What you know of the universe is only your idea of it. Take an example. A copse sitting in a chair has the same physical organs as you. Why then, does he not see the things in the room? Obviously because the mind behind the sense which really perceives the universe, and not the physical organs, the eyes. But the mind, which perceives is made up of the sum total of your ideas. Therefore, it may truly be said that it is only your idea, which represents the universe. Everything exists in mind, and all ideas ultimately exist within the overself, the only thing that truly is.

When you understand that the reality of the universe is not separate from yourself, that is the very depth of yourself; you are beginning to know truth. Knowing this universal soul you will realize that it runs in you and throughout all matter. Deep enquiry is necessary to attain this realization. Having done so you know the real purpose of life. Whether you place your faith in material possession in the form of money, for instance or any other form of apparent security, you will find that the loss and gain in material life are dictated by destiny. Destiny will give and take regardless of your precautions.

Fix thy mind on one thing, be deviated to do, sacrifice for it, bow down to it. Thus steadied, to the supreme goal, you will reach it.

The most essential thing is devotion, then intelligence, which embodies the ability to discriminate between things as they appear to be and as they really are.

Next you must have wisdom, a sense of right proportion. Weigh things well and learn how to give up the fleeting for the eternal. You also need patience, for you are searching for something, which is very subtle. Your patience must be marvelous. Never give up your quest for truth. Learn to value it above everything.

Self-restrain is the next requirement. Bring your body and thoughts under some degree of self-control. You will have to fight yourself because you have built up habits throughout your incarnations, which have shaped your personality. You must learn to resist them and to declare, ‘These habits are not I, they are of the mind and body.’

You must have calmness. Try to be calm in life, especially in the midst of activity, the time when you most need it. Practicing calmness you will find that it brings you other virtues.

While experiencing pleasures and pains, do not be afraid, nor run away from it, nor should you identify yourself with it.

Gradually you will begin to develop sixth sense. Learn to cultivate endurance and indifference to fame and shame. No one can hurt you, no one can injure you. Cultivate indifference to fame and flattery. See life in all creatures.

Gambler, mystic, crook and saints all are looking for one and the same thing, though all have different ideas of what constitutes it. For example: Gambler wants money, and thus happiness…….Saint wants peace and thus happiness……

The ultimate thing for which all life searches is happiness, and it may be found only in the ourself.

Stilling of your mind is very much required. For this the qualities needed are humility, noninjury (helpfulness and compassion), patience, uprightness, service of the teacher, purity, steadfastness and self-control.

If you are enslaved by external objects it is difficult for you to direct the mind into that calm state which it needs in order to find truth.

The gift that is given at a wrong place or time, to unworthy persons, without respect or with insult, is declared to be dictated by ignorance. Use your talents given by God. Do not make a spiritual or intellectual gift to a person who is not ready. If you give instructions to someone who is not ripe for this quest of truth you are being foolish. Cast not thy pearl before swine.
The highest type of action is that which is free from attachment and is therefore a form of spiritual activity. To understand nature is to understand the forces, which are driving man to action. Resorting to a sequestered spot, eating moderately, speech and body and mind subdued, always engaged in action and concentration, endued with dispassion.

The mind must be restrained and brought to its own place in the heart. Self-enquiry is an intellectual exercise in the beginning, but one that leads ultimately to the abolishing of intellects tyranny. You must learn to say no to your thoughts, to refuse continuance of the very process of thinking itself, to reject the endless upheavals of intellect and final peace.

If you find people devoted to the truth, who are seeking for it, and ripe to understand it, then you may teach it to them, for it is your duty. If you do that, you will be rewarded.

If you realize your divine self, you will then automatically demonstrate prosperity, perfect health and everlasting good fortune. You can react to the misfortune of losing all that you love and possess by taking it calmly. You can say, ‘another cycle of my life is finished, and I must begin a new cycle, I will therefore readapt myself to the new cycle without fear. I will do everything that common sense counsels to mend matters, meet results.’ Or in a state of deep depression, believing that you are finished, that life has no future hope for you, you can commit suicide. Both attitudes are the expression of your own choice, but the happenings what you face is one and the same for the two moods.

The chief beneficial contribution of the cults is their encouragement of courageous moods rather than cowardly ones. The movement of today, which set out professedly to spiritualize materialism, has merely succeeded in materializing spirituality. Whether the truth is painful or pleasurable. Let us love truth. Let us accept truth for its own sake. Truth is so like a proud and exclusive lady that she will never give herself to you unless you seek her for her own sake. We here always of the success, they are achieved by the powers of the over mind. We should not fall into black magic and hypnotism. Concentrate hard enough and long enough in your activities.

Trust in the overself. Surrender yourself to it and you will find relief. You will have lost your burdened self, and whatever comes, even death, you will accept. For to know your overself is the hidden reason for your existence. Out of sufferings even beautiful things will be shown to you. Something of the eternal spirit will come to you.
If you want peace of mind, give up fault finding. Learn to accept everyone as your own. No one is alien to you, the whole world is yours. In other words, my favourate quote…There is so much of good in the worst of us, and so much of bad in the best of us, that it ill behoves any of us, to find fault with the rest of us. Also happiness and sorrow are mere states of minds, it takes equal amount of effort to be happy as to be sad.

People come into your life ...........

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. But at times its too late, when we realise a person is which one…….When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

I had met with an accident in January, near our office, from scooty, and it was one of the guy from next office of ours who took us to hospital, as the girl sitting behind me was from their office. Week before last, he returned from spain, had gone onsite from his office, and Tuesday, he commited suicide, killed himself on a railway track...He was a smart, intelligent, boy..Only one son, of well to do family.Thats sad!! But its not to tell, nothing is in our hands We are not to see only those sad parts or shocing sides, some say, v make our own fortune and call it fate;) Happiness and sorrow are mere states of mind, it takes equal amount of effort to be happy as to be sad. It was just the thought of a fraction of second that made him do that, if he had someone to share his grief with, at that juncture, he would have not done that…..
For him that was the end of the gift called life on this earth, and for others…life goes on………He had come into my life for a reason?? There are so many such people…..

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!

Specially my school, friends, and those with me for academic studies, some of them are often remembered, some are not remembered that often, but is there deep in my heart, some are forgotten……
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant

Who are my lifetime friends cannot be said right now, as I am still living…. when I had put on my msn, Nothing lasts for ever, someone said, Friendship lasts for ever- At this I remember a quote which says: sometimes, my eyes get jelous of my heart, u know why? Some always remain close to our heart, but away from our eyes.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, and the last is rare, Moreover, even life- it don’t last for ever….

Thank you all my dear friends, for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Ginkoo, Rinkoo and Tinkoo :)

Once upon a time there were three best friends named Ginkoo, Rinkoo and Tinkoo. Their favorite pass time is to go around shopping, chatting, seeing movies, roaming in a junk car, haa forgot sometimes working in office.

Suddenly there came a big brake, Rinkoo got married and went to Europe. So our poor Ginkoo and Tinkoo had to continue with their same routine passing time.

One more big change, Ginkoo also got married, but luckily she is still in Asia but in different place.

So our frustrated Tinkoo came to America for better living.

What now, Lives have changed, no shopping together:( no movies together:( .. Full day mails mails mails between these friends:) I guess this is what finally happens to all of us.

When the days are passing like that, Our Tinkoo's birthday came. So Ginkoo, Rinkoo decided to give a surprise to Tinkoo. So nice na these friends are. There comes the big master plan designed by Ginkoo and Rinkoo and they assigned this task to a third party junk fellow to implement.

What happened next?? "Happy Birthday Tinkoo" with a gift from best friends Ginkoo and Rinkoo:).

So moral of the story is : 3 best friends cannot do anything with out a third party junk fellow... Suman ...Wonderful writer too, Thanks......

Thottappilly Familay Welfare Association get together on 7th may 2006.

It began with Nalaman lighting the lamp, and the prayer song by Aparana, Vasumans daughter. Both ammumas where there. Then an old wedding photo was shown, guess it was Ravimans marriage photo, and a boy circled, and asked who it was. Audience wiere given 10 minutes time, It was Kodakara Anni chettan, and the winner was Amma. There was a good photo of every one of Thottappilly family, which was put there. Then from Gayathree (Gokulan chettans daughter), adhu and so on many, all children, started singing solo songs. I reached when the songs where going on..Then there was sports, potato raise and lemon and spoon for children, lemon raise and candle raise for grown ups. In potato race Sanker was first, and Krishnaindu second, so it was said, they are running with potatoes to fathers hotel….In lemon race Jayaammai was first and had price for musical race too….. Anthakshery was well organized by Ajitha……There were different rounds like 1. an alphabet was picked, and people singing, 2. Aju sang a song, and from it, others continued, 3. One word was picked and audience were asked to sing a song related to it (situation). 4. Name of an actor and actress (pair) was given, and audience were asked to sing a song, in which they are there.There were four groups, and the winner was Sujatha ammai and party. Then we had lunch. After that there was Quiz competation…four group again, conducted by Kishapens wife Remya. and the losser with minimum point was my team, winner, as usual was Sreerags team. Soon after that, Suji, Deeru, Manu and Sreerag went to Thrissur, for Pooram, it was pooram. Then there was musical chair, and finally meeting as usual. For next year, they have put me in the executive committee. After that prize distribution, it is decided that one girl and one boy, highest scorer in 10th be given prize every year. Also scholarship for deserving and needy of Rs. 750/- included Vaishak in it. Pen was given to those who did not get any price- including me J Thus most of them had prizes and gifts in their hands, some even 4-5. Though there were some sorrows, in between competitions, and some had not come, in all there was smiles, unity. Newly wedded introduced themselves, Sudhi Reshmi & Kishapens wife Remya, Kishapen is gone to South Africa. Deepuman dropped us at Potta, ammuma retuned home after long time, and Januammuma went to Kakkanad. I asked ammuma if it is enough for her staying with janu ammuma she said no...Guess it was for the first time ammumas attended this…though it was the sixth year. Pooja cash still not given by money, though most of them had got the advantage out of it, plots unsold, had been sold, houses built, marriages over, blessed with child, etc. in the last year. Also Ammumas family photo was being sold for Rs. 100/- Me created another blog, www.thottappilly.blogspot.com. Hope it would be a success too.

Thought for the day: Could see happiness in most of the faces at the end of the day, though many were reluctant to attend….Life is only traveled once…2 days moments become 2morrows memories…Enjoy every day good or bad, as the gift of life..
Remember, those who choose to be at peace, must help their others to be at peace, those who choose to live well must help their others to live well. And those who choose to be happy, must help others to find happiness, The value of a life is measured by the lives it touches…..

Anger is only one letter short of ‘D’anger

You cannot ignore people, small or big ,under any circumstances ......

Any person who sacrifices, all down the ages, has to suffer. It has been proved that men and women of great power and personality who have triumphantly helped a group of people, indirectly have also ignited jealousy and hatred among another group, may it be your blood relation or otherwise. Meaning thereby if you want to show your benevolence, you have to continue to do it 100% till you last on this earth. For e.g. In a joint family if one brother does take care of the family and takes charge of all for 11 months 15 days in a year, the family members will take it as routine. But if he does not for 15 days, they will point out as well as describe vividly of his 15 days inaction. On the other hand if one brother does not do anything for same 11 months 15 days, even if he does a little here and there for last 15 days, that will be glorified by the family members and recognized in the society. In a broader spectrum, Jesus Christ, Joan of Arc, Mahatma Gandhi and likes have been targeted by the society to have a painful death even if they have given the best of their lives in the interest of the society It is a group of people whose interest is affected by the inaction of the person at the command, who react negatively to the situation. Thus perhaps the celebrities ,rich and famous are not only responsible for their actions that they take, but also are accountable for the inaction and the indifference that they manifest unconsciously or subconsciously to their near and dear ones.

Now take the case of Mahajans, one has to see if he has been accountable for the inaction that he did either consciously or subconsciously for which he has paid the price.He reportedly muttered after the shot.. ."what sin I have committed?" While Praveen says that he regrets but does not repent, he can only explain this riddle. Perhaps the learning point for all of us is you can not ignore people, small or big ,under any circumstances. Prabhavati Mahajan their mother, stayed inside crying for the eldest son, who left home never to return, and the youngest who never showed up.

The Mahajans were simple, Venkatesh and Prabhavati, their three sons and two daughters. Venkatesh Mahajan (Father a school master) died of a heart attack in 1972. Soon after Pramod took his graduation degree, he began teaching at the local village school to make ends meet. Being the eldest of the siblings, it is said that "He brought up his brothers and sisters like his own children,"He began his political career as a pracharak in the Rashtriya Swayamsewak Sangh in the early 70s and went to jail in the emergency years. After that, there was no looking back. Pravin was barely nine, said family members, when Pramod Mahajan had to assume the role of father figure.As for property — a factor that is said to have been a bone of contention — the Mahajans owned 10 to 12 acres of agricultural land in Osmanabad and a plot of land in their hometown Ambejogai. Both properties were later donated to an educational institution.It is said, that, Pravin Mahajan’s relationship with his famous elder brother Pramod, who brought him up after their father Venkatesh Mahajan’s death, was strained in recent times. Pravin wife Sarangi, two children, Kapil and Vrushali the twins, students of Standard XII , were living unobtrusively in Jhanja Apartments at Damani estate in Thane for a decade. The couple's friends said Pravin had taken his family out for dinner on Friday. He left home before dawn on Saturday without informing his wife.He left Thane, some 35 kms away, around six in the morning. He reached worli almost half past seven, and then the fatal incident of him shooting three bullet on his own brother……The news papers said, Praveen told the police, he shot his brother as he was ‘boiling with anger’, for the past several days, as the BJP leader was ignoring him, and in prison, on hearing the news of Pramods death, he just smiled.In this Kaliyug as have read….its truly happening….brother killing brother….hope there would be peace everywhere…..Hope such incidents don’t happen again….. Pramod Mahajan was called the Laxman of BJP…

Most happening politicians, or national leaders, either meet with an accident or is assassinated?? Mahatma Gandhi, Indira Gandhi, Rajeev Gandhi….Let that be….Then there are accidents….too which are unforgettable are that of Madhavrao Scindia , and Rajesh Pilot…Untimely ones… Live this alone..this day politics…Take the case of Sree Krishna or Rama or Laxmana…Remember how Laxmana died??


Thought for the day: The extreme case of infatuation which turns to be hatred in an unusual condition, the human mind works at the highest level of energy, either positive or negative. Anger is only one letter short of ‘D’anger….. You can not ignore people, small or big ,under any circumstances.

Just the next day, there was an article by T.J.S. George, Indian Express, 7th May 2006, which came as an answer to the above question which was:

IT was the finality of event, more than the horror of its circumstance that made each departure a turning point in the nations history. Each death was a reminder of the powerful hold of individuals on our country. Surely history is not a distillation of rumours but a play of personalities. Now another player is suddenly gone….How death changes the course of history! Sanjay Gandhi’s death instantly altered the fortunes of the Indira Gandhi family and, with that, the dynastic destiny of India. If Madhav Rao Scindia and Rajesh Pilot had not died in their prime, would the Congress party be what it is today? If Indira and Rajiv Gandhi had not been killed?

Thought for the day: Death is common to all, and nothing lasts for ever…….Just the way differs......Everything is planned.......To quote Shakespear, the world is a stage, and all men and women mere players.....

Happy Vishu!!! Veega tour....

On Vishu day, Jalaja chitta, and all from their house had come home.

Next day, i.e. Saturday, when amma & me had gone to Chalakudy, Sindhu cheechi, children, their relative, Rajan & Sulekaha, had come home, then Raghu cheetan brought saree for amma, and shirt for achan. At night, Remanammi, ammavan, Rajesh & Binesh had come, they too brought shirt and mundu . Rajesh gave Dakshina to ammuma, Arvi uncles amma (ammai ) she was very happy.………

God willing, and courtesy to many, we had a wonderful Veega trip/get together..On Saturday, the day before the trip, Sreerag called and said, it would be good if we book some vehicle, say quails, as next day it was Easter and there would be great rush in the bus. So started looking out for it, and finally achan arranged for the same. First Shalu reached, then, Deeru & ammu reached, then Raghee & Sreerag, then Manu & Santhu, and finally at night Suji. the night before the tour, Shashiman called on Dheerus mobile....and he spoke one by one to all....u know even to me......He asked me, tour is by u.. I said no amma & Thara, he then called on landline and spoke to amma and asked about u too..... but amma dont know if was sleeping did not speak :-( So good if there is love and peace everywhere...always......

Next day morning i.e. 16th, we left home at 9.0 clock, took a shirt for George Kutty, as he had been giving so much of free passes, and discounts….Boys brought T shirts and trousers from down, before entering the park, collect tickets at 10.30, and got in by 10.45. First all of us went to the dry rides section, which is on the top, started with caterpiller ride, and then to Kuttusan kotta (Balarama village ) Its a new attraction, based on that story.http://www.veegaland.com.html , everybody did not get onto all the rides……we had chocobars, and then luch at 2.00, at 2.30 saw the musical fountain show, and then when we started enjoying the water rides, the group of eleven got separated….kept things in the locker., and enjoyed water rides till 6.45. then again all met, played at wonder splash, had tea, got a top of you and left at 7.30. Boys changed near the quails, and by the time we left veegaland it was 7.45. Yes indeed, the trip too was G.W. good. with no elders around.... Hey!!! But now we r not children, right………I got down at the hostel. Suji and Santhu went home, as they had to go to office the next day. Raghee left to Trivandrum, others had dinner at Jancy aunty I(Godu/solus house, as it was easter) and it being hartal, even on the next day till evening all were at home. But it was worth the happiness that was seen on each persons face.....There is no greater joy, nor greater reward than to make a postive fundamental difference in someones life............

Also it was Vasumans house warming on that day, and at night 10 pm. Janu ammuma reached home. But since we had Veega tour, and I got down at hostel, could not meet them.

Pro: Happy get together….All happy………..

Con: For me no much salary still Leave , + Time……lost……

Need: Unity, Happiness and Cooperation - this togetherness always!!!

Definitely muttachen would have been happy to see all his grandchildren together..Thanks to my achan, who says for parents and grandparents happiness children should get together and forget quarells...someone on that day said, together-only all children!! Though now grown up...

God, forgive them who do not know the important of relations made by God, and wants to break them!!!

Good to hear postive remarks, am sure everyone had enjoyed it, and instead of things improving from then, nothing happened?? Was it because of brainwashing?? Or what went wrong??...when there are some who, leave alone doing things for other around, boost of how often their kids have visited these place, and when their ammavan took them, had brought dress for them.........What do they want to convey?? We didnot buy dress? Or they had to buy?


Kuch pana hey thoo kuch khona hey…….