Thursday, May 09, 2024

Know Your Finance

 


Financial Planning Assessment


Assess your finances


Net worth is Assets minus Liabilities


Plan your financial goals



Envision your future

       


Risk appetitie

          


Insurance


Any good health insurance will not be copay , IPD and OPD need to be covered. 


Insurance need analysis. 

Worst way is agents. 

Need analysis  to be done - Expenses analysis, 


50% for necessitiy

30% for Wants and 

20% for savings

Zero based budgeting - strategic approach and evaluation periodically. 

Invest



Do not use your credit card for emergency. 

Emergency fund is Bank or liquid Mutual fund. 

Gold - good investment if cash equivalent. 

Money market funds or liquid funds. 

3 to 6 months of Emergency funds. 


Every 10 years, inflation doubles. 

FIRE - Financial Independence Retire Early


Invest - FP



Invest - LS


Money like water - three states - solid, liquid, or gas...

Untouched, used or evoprated. 

Debt Management


Avalanche - high interest rate loans repaid first. 

Snowball - Smallest loan amount first. 

Consolidation - All debt, as one big heap and clear periodically through out. 

Best way is windfall gains or increase in income is used. Rather than increase the spend.

Cash Surplus Activity - 


  • Equity
  • Debt
  • Hybrid
Never prudent to take a loan to clear another loan. 

NSC website - Financial planning and Wealth Management

Wednesday, May 08, 2024

Financial Statements, Records & Accounts


Accounts is a record. 

Of all the financial transactions takes place in an organisation. 

Collection of that is accounts. 

It's a financial transaction when money is involved. 

Money should come in, go out, or due to me or by me. If one of this 4 things happen someone should record it. 

Collection of this is called accounts. 

Objective of business enterprise is making profit and it is not obvious. 

Whatever gets recorded, every ones in a while gets summarised. 

Summary of this is Financial statements. 

Whatever get's recorded must appear either on the phase of 

Profit and Loss - Expenses and Income

Balance Sheet - Liabilities and Assets. 

All the data that goes into it comes from the Accounting records of the organisation.

Therefore in an organisation nothing can happen that will not be shown on the phase of these financial statements. 

 Everything gets recorded

Tuesday, May 07, 2024

English Novels & Movies Adaptations

There have been three adaptations of Rebecca in Malayalam films. Only the first one followed the plot somewhat faithfully. 

Hindi adaption is Kohraa.






ഉറങ്ŕ´™ാŕ´¤്ŕ´¤ ŕ´¸ുŕ´¨്ദരി was the closest adaptation 

Utaram was adapted from No Motive.


The key concept of the movie Grandmaster was taken from The ABC Murders by Agatha Christie

And I don't think this needs any elaboration. The beauty of Jithu's adaptation is that even after watching it, you can still enjoy the book!

But Jithu has just taken only the core theme of misdirection. The story is entirely different.
First Malayalam 70 mm movie Padayottam (1982) was an adaptation of The Count of Monte Cristo.

Gumnaam Hindi film was based on Christie's 'And Then There Were None'

Bees Sal Badh from a truly different adaptation of 'The Hound of the Baskervilles'.

Malayalam Movie New Delhi based on "The Almighty" by Irving Wallace; Rajavinte Makan, "A Rage of Angels" by Sidney Sheldon; August 1, "The Day of the Jackal" by Frederick Forsyth; Thalavattam, a horrid hotch potch of "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest"

Hindi Karz and , later, Om Shanti Om were loosely based on 'The Reincarnation of Peter Proud'.

⁩ Naduvazhikal was based loosely on "The Godfather'

Tennessee Williams' play The Glass Menagerie was adapted into a movie by Shyamaprasad. Prithviraj and Sheela acted in it. Also Aakasha Gopuram adapted from Ibsen's The Master Builder.

How to spoil "Othello" beyond redemption is Kaliyattam.

Balu Mahendra's 'Yatra' with Mammootty and Shobhana had bits stolen from 'First Blood' and a climax that borrowed from the hit song 'Tie a Yellow Ribbon Round the Old Oak Tree'. Only difference was they used lamps instead of yellow ribbons.

'Throne of Blood' Kurasowa movie is considered the best adaptation of "Macbeth"

 Jeevan Mrityu starring Dharmendra was inspired from Count of Monte Cristo.

A Study in Scarlet -  ŕ´°ŕ´•്ŕ´¤ം ŕ´•ുŕ´źിŕ´š്ŕ´š ŕ´®ോŕ´¤ിŕ´°ം

Towards Zero - ŕ´ś്വലിŕ´•്ŕ´•ുŕ´¨്ŕ´¨ ŕ´Ş്ŕ´°ŕ´¤ിŕ´•ാŕ´°ം

The Murderer at the Vicarage - ŕ´°ŕ´•്തക്ŕ´•ുŕ´®ിŕ´ł

1912 novel Daddy-Long-Legs by Jean Webster, ~ Kanamarayathu. This was adapted as a Mills & Boon romance too - "Beloved Benefactor"


 The Murder of Roger Ackroyd - 1. ŕ´ˇോŕ´•്ടർ അവനീŕ´¨്ŕ´¦്ŕ´°ŕµ» 2. ŕ´•ŕ´ ാŕ´° ŕ´Şിŕ´źിŕ´š്ŕ´š ŕ´•ൈ 3. അപസർപ്ŕ´Şŕ´• ŕ´µീŕ´°ŕµ»

The Hound of the Baskervilles - ŕ´ąŕ´¨ുŕ´®ാŕµ» ŕ´•ുŕ´ź്ŕ´źി 🤣🤣🤣

Cross cultural adaptation of books stories.

And Amitabh Bachan Tweets


Almost entirely true ji. Then again it could be the technicians without whom the portrayal shine differently...or moreso it could be the Hero who carries the script on his shoulders...to develope the film to fruition... You!! Its all relevant and relative ...I feel. Nobody would know better, than you. Respect for your thought.Art, spells the grammar of eclectic  conveyances...the Bible of Nature's resonance.  The Human mind , age essence of it All. Eternally grateful Amit...respect and regards 🙏🙏🙏

Even FaFa told in the interview yesterday. 



Anymore that you can think of? What say?

Monday, May 06, 2024

Happiness

 Dr. Robert Waldinger is the fourth director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, which has studied the lives of its 700+ original participants and their 1,300+ direct descendants for over 85 years. Here is his conversation with Sahil Bloom https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gVJxMMIj6-0

It is considered the longest-running longitudinal study on adult life, health, and happiness.

1. Relationship Satisfaction Impacts Health

"Relationship satisfaction at age 50 was the single greatest predictor of physical health at age 80."

Relationship satisfaction was a more effective predictor of health at age 80 than cholesterol, blood pressure, or any other health marker tracked by the study.

The strength and quality of your relationships has a direct and powerful impact on your physical health as you age.

2. Loneliness Has Real Consequences (& It's More Prevalent Than Ever)

Loneliness is on the rise.

60% of adults say they don't feel very connected to others. The amount of time teenagers are spending in person with their friends is down 70% over the last two decades.

And unfortunately, loneliness has consequences.

A number of studies—including Dr. Waldinger's Harvard Study—have found that the health impact of loneliness is quite dire.

Chronic loneliness has been found to increase dementia risk by up to 50%.

Lack of social connection is worse for your health than tobacco and alcohol abuse, obesity, and more.

3. Make "Social Fitness" a Priority

Dr. Waldinger says our social health should be thought of in the same manner as our physical health—that it's the result of tiny daily actions that compound over long periods of time.

Make your social health a part of your daily routines: When you think something nice about someone, let them know right then, tell your partner one thing you appreciate about them every single day, reach out to that friend and catch up, plan that dinner.

Your daily social health actions compound. Build your Social Fitness.

4. Check Your Energy to Improve Your Life

Check your energy level after spending time with someone. Do you feel energized or drained?

Spend more time with your energy creators and less time with your energy drainers. Your life will improve.

5. Ambivalent Relationships are the Most Toxic

Ambivalent relationships—those that are sometimes supportive and sometimes demeaning—are actually worse for your health than purely demeaning relationships.

A variety of studies on humans and animals have shown that ambivalent relationships have sharper negative health consequences than purely toxic ones.

Audit your relationships. It may be time to reduce the energy given to these people.

Tell - Dare

"To dare is to lose one's footing momentarily. Not to dare is to lose oneself." – Soren Kierkegaard, born today in 1813


Happy Heavenly Birthday to, Soren Kierkegaard, who was a Danish theologian, and a philosopher, and a poet, and social critic, and a religious author, who is considered to be the first existentialist philosopher!!! Just by this statement, you could see how intelligent, and interesting, his thinking, and thoughts were!!!


Dare to Be. Dare to Tell. Dare to Respect. Dare to Drive Results. 


If nothing else "Super - cali - Fragilistic - Expiali - Docious"

Your Road - Your Responsibility


 

“It’s your road, and yours alone, others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.”

~Rumi


The best walk ever is to conquer your fear. There may others to walk with us on our journey, but to walk alone without fear is the greatest. ❤️ Rumi ❤️


Here are some of the key points that the quote conveys :

- It is a reminder that every individual has their own unique journey in life.

- The road to success and happiness is personal and cannot be walked by anyone else.

- Others may offer support and guidance, but ultimately it is up to the individual to take the steps necessary to achieve their goals.

- The quote emphasizes the importance of personal responsibility and self-empowerment.

- It encourages individuals to take ownership of their lives and make their own decisions.

- The quote also suggests that we should not rely on others to solve our problems or make our decisions for us.

- Instead, we should take charge of our own lives and make our own way in the world.


Here is a road. You decide to take it or not. If you take it, it's your road. Other's may walk it with you, but nobody can walk it for you.

Take charge of own life. We are fortunate to not have to make our own way in the world. There are roads created. Choose wisely which to travel, with whom, when and why.

Choose your W's; how will find it's own way.

You do not get what you desire, you only get what you deserve.

Desires become deservingness only through CDSIE.

  • Consistent
  • Directed
  • Self-motivated
  • Intelligent
  • Effort
You do not have a choice, cannot skip any of the 5. 

Life is so subtle that sometimes you barely notice yourself walking through the doors you once prayed would open. —BRIANNA WIEST
Ryder Carroll, The Bullet Journal Method: Track Your Past, Order Your Present, Plan Your Future

Sunday, May 05, 2024

Chakkiku Otha CA.


 Yet again Jairam proves he is different from others.

Not sure how much of the credit should be given to him...Definitely a major chunk will go to Parvathy.

This is a mini Indian wedding taking the best of all worlds, covering many traditions,  great choice of costumes,  makeup, hair style. 

Wedding at Guruvayoor, and Thrissur Hayaat followed by reception next day at Ernakulam Bolghaty palace.

Chakkiku Otha CA. Arranged turn love marriage.

Malvika weds Navneeth.

Are Marriages đź’‘ made in Heaven or is it a doorway to hell?

Only time can tell that. To each their own. 

Why worry.  Cherish and enjoy the moments.  Create memories.  

Hoping, wishing and praying 🙏 for the best. May there be showers of blessings 🙌 on yet another couple đź’‘ 


Proud 👏 of her. Surely better than many others.
















Events did not end there. There  was yet  another Palakad reception on 6th May. 




The day before wedding started on 2nd May, but there was actual Mehandi and events even before that. Guruvayoor Thalikettu on 3rd, kochi reception on 4th. 

Presumably this is the last event. Unsure if there is yet another surprise reception in Chennai. 

Saturday, May 04, 2024

Longest English Words

 Don’t expect to find the absolute longest one here. That word would take up about fifty-seven pages, and it’s the name of a protein called titin found in humans. The full name has a whopping 189,819 letters! Most dictionaries don’t include this word and many other super long ones. It’s because dictionaries have limited space, and most people don’t need to know these super technical words. Some used are:

1. Pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis (forty-five letters) - A lung disease caused by the inhalation of silica or quartz dust. 

Pneumono - ultra - microscopic -silico - volcano - conio - sis

2. Pseudopseudohypoparathyroidism (thirty letters) - A mild form of inherited Pseudopseudohypoparathyroidism that simulates the symptoms of the disorder but isn't associated with abnormal levels of calcium and phosphorous in the blood. 

3. Floccinaucinihilipilification (twenty-nine letters) - The estimation of something as valuless. Ironically, Floccinaucinihilipilification is a pretty valuless word by itself. It's almost never used except as an example of long word. 

4. Antidisestablishmentarianism (twenty-eight letters) - Orginally described opposition to the disestablishment of the church of England, but now it may refer to any opposition to withdrawing government support of a particular church or religion. 

5. Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious (thirty-four letters) - Word to use "When you have nothing to say". It appears in some but not all dictionary. - You can also use it to say Very good or wonderful. It was used in the Mary Poppins film. (Super / Cali / Fragilistic / Expiali /docious



6. Incomprehensibilities (twenty-one-letters) - Longest word in comman usage.

7. hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia (36 letters) - Fear of long words - hip-po-po-to-mon-stro-ses-quipped-alio-phobia

More on this here:

https://thelanguagenerds.com/2024/14-of-the-longest-words-in-english/?fbclid=IwAR3-265JEsLv5CR5f8guSSNdDC5QMksjy9s7ISIyRr5du0SoPhd9jpOKkYE 

Friday, May 03, 2024

Apple - Marco De Angelis

This cartoon is created by Marco De Angelis and he explains....
 
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The guess work went on as:

Who are the characters on the left side of the table?


 There's Robin Hood, Adam, Eve, Serpent, Newton, Cinderella, Steve jobs(?) and a hag(?)
 Oh is it William Tell and his son before Robin hood?
 I think it's Aphrodite or Helen and Paris
 Whats the apple connection to Helen? Diana and Aphrodite same.
 The Judgement of Paris
 Apple of Discord?
 Root of Trojan war ?
 Let's not forget that Paris thought with his penis than with his head. Moreover, in patriarchal societies like the Homeric world, beautiful women were perceived as status symbols by men. Otherwise, he wouldn't go crazy over the prospect of acquiring Helen as his wife.
 It's a myth. Let us contextualise it. Most myths, analysed with modern sensibilities, won't be acceptable.
 Helen was the prize Aphrodite bribed Paris with if he deemed her the most beautiful of the three goddesses and gave her the golden apple aka. Eris's apple of discord. Eris was angry that she was not invited for the wedding of Achilles' parents, king Peleus and the Sea nymph, Thetis.
 I think the serpent is Takshaka. Didn't he hide himself in Pareekshit's apple?🤪
This guy is from the Bible. Takshaka's cousin from the Middle East.
 Wasn't that a lemon?
A fruit for sure🤣
 So also the forbidden fruit. Nowhere is it mentioned it was an apple. Scripture says Forbidden fruit.
The Fruit of the Tree of Knowledge


Thursday, May 02, 2024

Bag of Bones ~ Stephen King (29 of 24)

 


The narrator, Mike Noonan, a bestselling novelist, suffers severe writer's block after his pregnant wife Jo suddenly dies due to a brain aneurysm. Four years later, Mike, still grieving, is plagued by nightmares set at his summer house in TR-90 (an unincorporated town named for its map coordinates), Maine. He decides to confront his fears and moves to his vacation house on Dark Score Lake, known as "Sara Laughs".

On his first day, he meets Kyra, a 3-year-old girl and her young widowed mother, 20-year-old Mattie Devore. Mattie's father-in-law is Max Devore, an elderly rich man who will do anything to gain custody of his granddaughter, Kyra. Drawn to Kyra and Mattie, Mike hires John Storrow, a custody lawyer, for Mattie, and things start looking up. Mike begins to write again, and realizes that Jo's ghost is helping him to solve the mystery of Sara Tidwell, a blues singer whose ghost haunts the house. He also learns that Jo frequently returned to the town in the year before her death, without telling him.

Mike begins having recurring, disturbing dreams and visions, and realizes he shares a psychic connection with Kyra. Max and his personal assistant, Rogette, try to drown Mike but he survives with the help of his wife's spirit. Max unexpectedly commits suicide that same night. Mike sees a pattern when he sees that local inhabitants have names that begin with "K" or "C" and learns how relatives of townspeople have drowned in childhood.

While Storrow and the private detective he hired are celebrating the end of the custody battle, Mattie attempts to seduce Mike. As they are embracing, Mattie's trailer is subjected to a drive-by shooting, injuring Storrow and the detective and killing Mattie. The detective is able to kill the driver and incapacitate the shooter with Mike's help. Mike then grabs Kyra and drives back to his home as a violent thunderstorm begins. The shooter's buddies try to stop them, but refuse to follow him to "Sara Laughs". Under the influence of Sara's ghost, Mike is tormented to drown Kyra and commit suicide himself. Jo's ghost prevents him and calls his attention to the novel he has begun to write. In the pages there are clues that lead Mike to discover documents Jo had hidden, among them a genealogy showing Mike's blood relationship to one of the town families.

Several families whose origin lay within the town had firstborn children with "K" names who were all murdered—Kyra, as a descendant of Max Devore, is scheduled to be the next to die. The genealogy also shows that Mike and Jo's child would have been the next firstborn child with a "K" name in the family line. Mike realizes this must be Sara Tidwell's curse for something that had been done to her. He leaves and searches for Sara's grave, stopped by the ghosts of several members of the old families. He learns in a vision that these men had viciously raped and killed Sara, and drowned her son Kito in the lake; all the "K" children who died were descendants of those men. Mike reaches Sara's grave and succeeds in destroying her bones, ending the curse.

Upon returning to the house, Mike discovers that Rogette has kidnapped Kyra. He follows them to the lake, where Mattie's ghost appears and knocks Rogette into the water. Rogette tries to pull Mike in with her, but is impaled by the storm's wreckage from the dock. Mattie's ghost says her goodbyes to Mike and Kyra.

The novel ends with an epilogue, revealing that Mike has retired from writing and is attempting to adopt Kyra. His status as a single, unrelated male complicates things, and the adoption has taken longer than anticipated. The outcome of the adoption is left unresolved at the end, but the reader is given hope that it will be positive.

The film adaption show:

Best-selling novelist Mike Noonan and his wife, Jo, are unable to conceive children; Mike conceals that he has a low sperm count. Jo is killed by a bus while crossing a street. As she dies in his arms, Mike notices she bought a pregnancy test, and assumes that she may have been having an affair. Overcome by grief from her death, Mike develops a case of writer's block. He suffers a series of nightmares about his wife and their summer home on Dark Score Lake in Maine. On advice from his brother, Sid, Mike takes a trip to the summer house.

Once there, he meets a young widow named Mattie Devore and her 6-year-old daughter, Kyra. Befriending them, he earns the ire of Mattie's estranged father-in-law Max Devore. Max has been trying to get custody of Kyra since Mattie shot his son Lance (Lance was trying to drown the child). Despite the turmoil, Mike begins to write again, but visions and nightmares lead him to believe he isn't alone. He finds that his wife's spirit is with him. He also detects the spirit of a 1930s singer named Sara Tidwell who plays records of her music. Sara also appears in dreams that Mike has of her last day alive in 1939. During his stay at the lake, Mike learns about "Dark Score Crazy," an apparent form of madness that caused several men in the town to murder their daughters by drowning them.

Max and his assistant attack Mike while he is in the lake. Afterwards, Max gives Mike an offer that he will stop the custody battle for Kyra if Mike agrees to leave them alone and not press charges. Mike agrees to it, and Max after that commits suicide. At the funeral, Mike meets Edgar White, an old friend of his grandfather. Edgar confesses to Mike that Edgar, Mike's grandfather, and two other men assisted Max with the rape and murder of Sara Tidwell and the drowning of her daughter, Keisha. With her dying breath, Sara cursed the boys' descendants to drown their own daughters in retribution for drowning Keisha. The boys buried Sara with her daughter in the woods.

Mike tells Mattie the story. Mattie concludes that since Jo was pregnant, she returned to Dark Score and spent time investigating the curse on Mike's bloodline, not cheating on him as he hypothesized. Mattie is suddenly shot and killed in a manner that Mike saw in a dream, but before she dies she begs him to take care of Kyra. Mike is chased back to his home by Mattie's killers who turn out to be descendants of Sara's attackers obsessed with fulfilling the curse, but he escapes when they are caught by surprise and killed by a falling sign during a storm. Mike tries to console Kyra and puts her to bed. Max's spirit angrily compels Mike to drown Kyra in fulfillment of the curse, but Mattie's spirit struggles to thwart him. Mike takes refuge in his office, where he finds clues left by Jo in the story he had been writing, directing him to douse Sara and Keisha's remains with lye to end the curse.

A tree that had been transformed into the figure of a woman marks the burial site. Mike returns to this tree to recover the remains, but the tree haunted by Sara's spirit attempts to deter him. Jo appears and distracts Sara, allowing Mike time to use the lye to dissolve the bones. Sara's spirit is appeased and the tree returns to normal. Mike says a final goodbye to Jo. He returns home to find Kyra in the bathtub, and he is attacked by Max's assistant who tries to kill them both. Mike kills her, and Mattie's spirit appears before them. Mattie tells Kyra that she is safe and that Mike will take care of her. The next morning, Mike announces that he intends to adopt Kyra as his own daughter.


The Dark Tower ~ Stephen King (28 of 24)

 The Dark Tower is a series of eight novels, one novella, and a children's book written by American author Stephen King. The series is referred to on King's website as his magnum opus.



Incorporating themes from multiple genres, including dark fantasy, science fantasy, horror, and Western, it describes a "gunslinger" and his quest toward a tower, the nature of which is both physical and metaphorical. The series, and its use of the Dark Tower, expands upon Stephen King's multiverse and in doing so, links together many of his other novels.

In addition to the eight novels of the series proper that comprise 4,250 pages, many of King's other books relate to the story, introducing concepts and characters that come into play as the series progresses.

The series was chiefly inspired by the poem "Childe Roland to the Dark Tower Came" by Robert Browning, whose full text was included in the final volume's appendix.

The Gunslinger (1982)

The Drawing of the Three (1987)

The Waste Lands (1991)

Wizard and Glass (1997)

The Little Sisters of Eluria (1998)

Wolves of the Calla (2003)

Song of Susannah (2004)

The Dark Tower (2004)

The Wind Through the Keyhole (2012)

In the story, Roland Deschain is a member of a knightly order known as gunslingers and the last of the line of "Arthur Eld", his world's analogue of King Arthur. Politically organized along the lines of a feudal society, it shares technological and social characteristics with the American Old West but is also magical. Many of the magical aspects have vanished from Mid-World but traces remain, as do relics from a technologically advanced society. Roland's quest is to find the Dark Tower, a fabled building said to be the nexus of all universes. Roland's world is said to have "moved on", and it appears to be coming apart at the seams. Mighty nations have been torn apart by war, entire cities and regions vanish without a trace and time does not flow in an orderly fashion. Sometimes, even the sun rises in the north and sets in the east. As the series opens, Roland's motives, goals, and age are unclear, although later installments shed light on these mysteries.

King created a language for his characters, known as the High Speech. Examples of this language include the phrases Thankee, Sai ("Thank you, Sir/Ma'am.") and Dan-Tete ("Little Savior"). In addition, King uses the term Ka, which is the approximate equivalent of destiny, or fate, in the fictional language High Speech (and similarly, Ka-tet, a group of people bound together by fate/destiny). This term originated in Egyptian mythology and storytelling, and has figured in several other novels and screenplays since 1976. 

Stephen King asked a bookmobile driver, "Do you have any stories about how kids really are?" She gave him Lord of the Flies. It proved formative: "It was, so far as I can remember, the first book with hands—strong ones that reached out of the pages and seized me by the throat. It said to me, 'This is not just entertainment; it's life or death.'... To me, Lord of the Flies has always represented what novels are for, why they are indispensable."

Richard Bachman is a pen name (as well as a fictional character) of American horror fiction author Stephen King, first adopted in 1977 for the novel Rage.

The Long Christmas Dinner & Our Town ~ Thornton Wilder (27 of 24)

 


The Long Christmas Dinner is a play in one act written by American novelist and playwright Thornton Wilder in 1931. In its first published form, it was included in the volume The Long Christmas Dinner and Other Plays in One Act.

 Thornton Wilder, a three time Pulitzer Prize winner and the only winner for both fiction and drama.

The characters, as they are listed in the script:


Lucia

Mother Bayard

Roderick

Cousin Brandon

Charles, son of Roderick and Lucia

Genevieve, daughter of Roderick and Lucia

The Nurse

Leonora, wife of Charles

Ermengarde

Sam, son of Charles and Leonora

Lucia II, daughter of Charles and Leonora

Roderick II, son of Charles and Leonora


Setting: 90 years in the dining room of the Bayard House.

Length: ~35 minutes

Summary: A one-act drama about several generations of one family:

A play whose action traverses ninety years and represents in accelerated motion ninety Christmas dinners in the Bayard home. The development of the countryside, the changes in customs and manners during this period of time as well as the growth of the Bayard family and their accumulation of property sums up vividly a wide aspect of American life. It is a serious play lightened with humor of character; it has a human, tender, moving quality both appealing and forceful.

It was first performed jointly by the Yale Dramatic Association and the Vassar Philaletheis Society.

Currently, Samuel French, Inc., owns the rights to The Long Christmas Dinner.

Our Town:

The characters do not yet understand how brief life really is, and they spend the time going about their everyday lives, not leaving the town or fulfilling dreams they may have. Our Town also creates a theme of appreciating life. Because life is so brief, it's important that we don't waste it.

The quote "You've got to love life to have life, and you've got to have life to love life," from Thornton Wilder's play Our Town, encapsulates the essential connection between love and life.

Emily Webb – one of the main characters; we follow her from a precocious young girl through her wedding to George Gibbs and her early death. George Gibbs – the other main character; the boy next door, a kind but irresponsible teenager who matures over time and becomes a responsible husband, father and farmer.

Readers Digest


 Such a sad news to wake up to. 

My childhood growing up with National geographic , readers digest and what I call ‘the Purple ‘ encyclopaedia set !! Huge fan of Readers Digest compilations. 

Deeply distressed to hear this.Its like ripping away an integral part of my childhood.

Talent Hunt - Corporate


 

The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan (26 of 24)


As written by Nandakishore Varma from Cochin Book Club:

Quite a few years ago, my mum told my kid sis (who was born eleven years and three months after me): "My immortality was assured after your birth."

Mystified, my sister asked: "Why?"

Mum said: "When a woman gives birth to a daughter, she gives birth to her own womb, ensuring the continuity of life. Therefore, a daughter is called atmaja ('self-born')."

This weird yet beautiful concept, especially relevant in a matrilineal society like ours, was in my mind throughout when I was reading this novel about mothers and daughters.

Chinese society is not matrilineal. But unlike the West, where the nucleus family rules the roost and patriarchy is the order of the day, mothers and daughters do share a bond across generations. In The Joy Luck Club, Amy Tan explores this bond, and how it weakens and breaks in the melting pot of the United States of America.



Suyuan Woo, wife of a Chinese military officer in Kweilin at the time of the Japanese invasion of China during the Second World War, invents the "Joy Luck Club" to keep her mind off the impending disaster. Four women would join to play mah jong, party with whatever food was available, and talk into the night, trading stories. She continues this after she immigrates to America, after facing unspeakable personal tragedies.

When Suyuan dies, her daughter Jing Mei "June" Woo is expected to carry on this tradition, with her mother's friends An-Mei Hsu, Lindo Jong, and Ying-Ying St. Clair - women from various walks of life, bound together only by memories of a distant Chinese past and their complicated relationship with their daughters. During one of these meetings, Jing Mei comes to know of two daughters her mother was forced to abandon in China: her twin half-sisters. Her mother had spent her whole life trying to locate them; but when they are finally found, she is no more. Now Jing Mei has to take up the mission.

Against this backdrop, the story of four mothers (Suyuan Woo, An-Mei Hsu, Lindo Jong, and Ying-Ying St. Clair) and four daughters (Jing-Mei Woo, Rose Hsu Jordan, Waverly Jong and Lena St. Clair) are narrated by the characters themselves - the narration switching between Imperial China before the war and 80's USA. These disjointed narratives give a kaleidoscopic feel to the story, and is extremely effective in conveying the wonderment and alienation of an expatriate from an ancient land in a country without a past. It is also an exploration of how mothers and daughters get estranged, but still remained joined together by an invisible thread.

Truly, the womb marches on...

The Joy Luck Club consists of sixteen interlocking stories about the lives of four Chinese immigrant mothers and their four American-born daughters.In 1949, the four mothers meet at the First Chinese Baptist Church in San Francisco and agree to continue to meet to play mahjong. They call their mahjong group the Joy Luck Club. The stories told in this novel revolve around the Joy Luck Club women and their daughters. Structurally, the novel is divided into four major sections, with two sections focusing on the stories of the mothers and two sections on the stories of the daughters.


Feathers from a Thousand Li Away

The first section, "Feathers from a Thousand Li Away", introduces the Joy Luck Club through daughter Jing-Mei Woo, whose late mother Suyuan Woo founded the Joy Luck Club, and focuses on the four mothers. Jing-Mei relates the story of how her mother Suyuan was the wife of an officer in the Kuomintang during World War II and how she was forced to flee from her home in Kweilin and abandon her twin daughters. Suyuan later found out that her first husband died. She later married Canning Woo and immigrated to the United States where their daughter, Jing-Mei, was born. Suyuan and Canning attempted to find Suyuan's daughters, and Canning assumed that Suyuan had given up hope. Jing-Mei, who has been asked to take her mother's place in the Joy Luck Club, learns from the other mothers that her half-sisters are alive. They ask that Jing-Mei go to China and meet her sisters, and tell them about Suyuan's death.


The other three mothers relate the stories of their childhood. An-Mei Hsu's story relates how her mother left her family to become the third concubine of Wu Tsing, a rich merchant, while An-Mei was raised by her maternal grandmother. Her mother returns only to cut off a piece of her flesh to cook a soup in hopes of healing An-Mei's grandmother, though An-Mei's grandmother still dies.


Lindo Jong explains how in childhood she was forced into a loveless marriage and was pressured by her mother-in-law's desire for Lindo to produce grandchildren. Through her own ingenuity, Lindo fabricates a convincing story to annul her marriage and emigrate to the United States.


The final story of the first section follows Ying-Ying St. Clair, who tells the story of how she fell into a lake during the Zhongqiujie festival when she was only four. After being rescued by a group of fishermen, she realizes that she is lost. This experience emotionally traumatizes her, and she is dropped at the shore, and wanders into an outdoor performance featuring the Moon Lady, said to grant wishes. But when Ying-Ying approaches the Moon Lady after the play to wish to be returned to her family, she discovers the Moon Lady is played by a man.


Twenty-Six Malignant Gates

The second section traces the childhoods of the Joy Luck children. In the first story, Waverly Jong talks about how she started playing chess, first with her brothers and then with old men in the playground near her school. At the age of nine, she becomes a national chess champion. She is embarrassed when her mother, Lindo, introduces her to everyone she meets, showing her off like a trophy and seeming to take the credit for her daughter's brilliance. This leads to an angry confrontation between the two of them.


Lena relates the stories her mother told her when she was younger (her great grandfather sentenced a beggar to die in the worst possible manner). Lena's family moves to North Beach from Oakland. Her mother, who seems restless, delivers an anencephalic child who dies at birth. In Lena's eyes, her mother becomes a 'living ghost'. The story of their neighbors and the relationship between the mother and the daughter of the neighboring household is also mentioned.


Rose Hsu Jordan wishes to tell her mother that she plans to divorce her husband Ted. She reflects on their relationship. She then goes on to relate an incident in which her family (her parents and six siblings) go to the beach. Her youngest brother, Bing, drowns. She returns along with her mother An Mei to search for Bing, but in vain.


The last story is that of Jing-Mei Woo and the pressure that her mother puts on her to perform exceedingly well in some field (to be a child prodigy). She begins to learn to play the piano but does not perform well in a concert and stops playing. This disappoints her mother because she wanted her to be a great pianist and Jing-Mei shows no interest in being anything else but herself. Around her 30th birthday, Suyuan presents her an old piano which she used to play as a child. Although Jing-Mei admits she had forgotten how to play the piano, Suyuan encourages her to try again. She admits to Jing-Mei that she still has the talent to be a great pianist, but self-doubt holds her back.


American Translation

The third section follows the Joy Luck children as adult women, all facing various conflicts. In Lena's story, she narrates her troubling marital problems and how she fears being inferior to her husband, Harold Livotny. She does not realize he has taken advantage of her both at home and at work, where he is also her boss and earns much more than her. Ying-Ying is very much aware of this. She pointed out how Lena knew a table would crumble yet did nothing to stop it, symbolizing that her marriage will crumble because it has a weak foundation. Lena finally admits she is not happy in her marriage to Harold and is lost inside. Ying-Ying encourages her to stop being passive and stand up to her husband or nothing will change.


Waverly Jong worries about her mother's opinion of her white fiancé, Rich, and recalls quitting chess after becoming angry at her mother in the marketplace. She believes that her mother will still have absolute power over her and will object to her forthcoming marriage to Rich, after she did the same to her previous husband, Marvin Chen, with whom she has a daughter, Shoshana. After a disastrous attempt at a dinner party to tell her mother of their wedding, Waverly confronts her mother the morning afterwards and realizes that her mother has known all along about her relationship with Rich and has accepted him.


Rose Hsu Jordan learns that Ted intends to marry someone else after divorcing her. She realizes through her mother's advice that she needs to fight for her rights and refuses to sign the conditions set forth by his divorce papers. She hires a good lawyer and wins possession of the house, forcing Ted to take her more seriously.


In Jing-Mei's story, Jing-Mei has an argument with Waverly at a Chinese New Year's dinner the year before the story begins. Realizing that Jing-Mei has been humiliated, Suyuan gives her a special jade pendant called "life's importance", which she has worn since Jing-Mei was an infant. Jing-Mei regrets that she never learned the meaning of the pendant's name. She also confronts Suyuan with the belief that she had always been disappointed in Jing-Mei and admitted she could never live up to her high expectations. Jing-Mei believes that because she has never finished college, does not have a good career, and remains unmarried, she is seen as a failure in her mother's eyes. Suyuan eventually reveals her true meaning; that while Waverly has style, she lacks the kind and generous heart that Jing-Mei has. She also tells Jing-Mei that she understands the frustrations of never being good enough in her eyes and admits she is proud of Jing-Mei.


Queen Mother of the Western Skies

The final section of the novel, the title of which refers to the Chinese goddess Xi Wangmu, returns to the viewpoints of the mothers as adults dealing with difficult choices. An-Mei reveals what happened after her grandmother died, she angered her relatives by leaving with her mother. They return to the home where her mother lived as the abused fourth concubine of Wu Tsing, whose second concubine manipulates and controls the household and has taken An-Mei's half-brother as her son. An-Mei learns how her mother was forced into accepting her position after Wu Tsing's second wife arranged for An-Mei's mother to be raped and shamed. When she came to her family for help, they cruelly turned their backs on her mother and told her to leave. An-Mei finds her mother has poisoned herself two days before Chinese New Year, knowing that Wu Tsing's superstitious beliefs will ensure An-Mei will grow up in favorable conditions.


During the funeral, she takes her younger half-brother and forces Wu Tsing to honor both them and their deceased mother out of fear of him being haunted by their mother's ghost. The angry Second Wife attempts to dispute her claims and tries to discredit her. An-Mei quickly makes an example of her by destroying the fake pearl necklace that she originally gave to her, which exposes her cruelty and manipulation. This causes the Second Wife to realize that she has lost control of the household and brought trouble on herself, so she backs down. Fearing bad karma on the way, Wu Tsing honors both An-Mei and her brother as his children and their mother as his favorite First Wife.


Ying-Ying St. Clair reveals how her first husband, a womanizer, abandoned her and how she married an American man she did not love after relinquishing her sense of control in her life. She later took back her sense of control when she finally had a talk with Lena and convinced her to leave Harold.


Lindo Jong relates how she arrived in San Francisco and met An-Mei Hsu when they both worked at a fortune-cookie factory, which eventually gave her the means to plant the idea of marriage in her boyfriend's head.


The novel's final episode returns to Jing-Mei, and her mother's desire to find her lost twin daughters. Jing-Mei and her father fly to China, where Jing-Mei meets her half-sisters and embraces her Chinese heritage. In doing so, she was finally able to make peace with Suyuan. Suyuan dies before the novel begins, her history is told by Jing-mei, based on her knowledge of her mother's stories, anecdotes from her father, and what the other members of the Joy Luck Club tell her.


the reason for the communication gap between Jing-Mei and her mother, and between the other daughters and their mothers—a major theme of the novel—occurs because the mothers come from a high context culture and the Americanized daughters from a low context culture. The mothers believe that the daughters will intuitively understand their cryptic utterances, but the daughters don't understand them at all.


Amy Tan's special accomplishment in this novel is her ability to show us how mothers and daughters  love and ultimately forgive each other.

Wednesday, May 01, 2024

Letters to my daughter ~ Maya Angelou (25 of 24)


 Letter consists of 28 "short epistles", which includes a few poems and a commencement address, and is dedicated to "the daughter she never had". Angelou thanks several women on her dedication page, which is divided into three groups. The first group of five women, which includes her grandmother Annie Henderson and her mother Vivian Baxter, she calls "...some women who mothered me through dark and bright days". The second group has only one name, Dr. Dorothy Height, "...one woman who allows me to be a daughter to her, even today". The final group is the largest, made up of 12 women, whom she calls "women not born to me but who allow me to mother them". The group includes Winfrey, Gayle King, her niece Rosa Johnson Butler, her assistant Lydia Stuckey, and gospel singer Valerie Simpson.

Here are few Life Lessons from Maya Angelou's book "Letter to My Daughter":

    1. Inner Strength and Resilience: Life throws curveballs, but Angelou emphasizes that you control how you react. Don't be reduced by circumstances. Learn from them, adapt, and find the strength to keep moving forward.

    2. Embrace Your Essence: Never apologize for who you are. Celebrate your unique voice, heritage, and experiences. They shape your perspective and contribute to the richness of the world.

    3. Gratitude is a Lifelong Practice: Develop an attitude of gratitude. Appreciate the good things, big and small. Even on challenging days, find something to be thankful for. Gratitude fosters optimism and resilience.

    4. Knowledge is Power: Education is key to unlocking your potential. Pursue knowledge with a curious mind. Learning empowers you to make informed choices, navigate life's complexities, and break free from limitations.

    5. The Ripple Effect of Kindness: Be a source of light and positivity. A kind word, a helping hand, or a genuine smile can have a profound impact on someone's day. Kindness can ripple outward, creating a more compassionate world.

    6. Love Deeply, But Never Lose Yourself: Love fiercely, but remember your own worth. Don't get lost in a relationship. Maintain your independence, cultivate your passions, and continue to grow as an individual.

    7. Live a Life of Purpose: Don't just exist, thrive! Embrace your passions, set goals, and strive to make a difference in the world. Your life has meaning, find your purpose and pursue it with unwavering determination. 

Few Memorable quotes:

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.

(Popular misquote of "You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.")”

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”

“Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.”

“A friend may be waiting behind a stranger's face.”

“Let's tell the truth to people. When people ask, 'How are you?' have the nerve sometimes to answer truthfully. You must know, however, that people will start avoiding you because, they, too, have knees that pain them and heads that hurt and they don't want to know about yours. But think of it this way: If people avoid you, you will have more time to meditate and do fine research on a cure for whatever truly afflicts you.”

“I am convinced that most people do not grow up...We marry and dare to have children and call that growing up. I think what we do is mostly grow old. We carry accumulation of years in our bodies, and on our faces, but generally our real selves, the children inside, are innocent and shy as magnolias.”

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud. Do not complain. Make every effort to change things you do not like. If you cannot make a change, change the way you have been thinking. You might find a new solution.”

“I believe that one can never leave home. I believe that one carries the shadows, the dreams, the fears and the dragons of home under one's skin, at the extreme corners of one's eyes and possibly in the gristle of the earlobe.”

“The human heart...tells us that we are more alike than we are unalike.”

“Make every effort to change things you do not like. If you cannot make a change, change the way you have been thinking. You might find a new solution.”

“The charitable say in effect, 'I seem to have more than I need and you seem to have less than you need. I would like to share my excess with you.' Fine, if my excess is tangible, money or goods, and fine if not, for I learned that to be charitable with gestures and words can bring enormous joy and repair injured feelings.”

“Never whine. Whining lets a brute know that a victim is in the neighborhood.”

“We may act sophisticated and worldly but I believe we feel safest when we go inside ourselves and find home, a place where we belong and maybe the only place we really do.”

“In all the institutions I try to be present and accountable for all I do and leave undone. I know that eventually I shall have to be present and accountable n the presence of God. I do not wish to be found wanting.”

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”

“I am convinced that most people do not grow up. We find parking spaces and honor our credit cards. We marry and dare to have children and call that growing up. I think what we do is mostly grow old. We carry accumulation of years in our bodies and on our faces, but generally our real selves, the children inside, are still innocent and shy as magnolias.

We may act sophisticated and worldly but I believe we feel safest when we go inside ourselves and find home, a place where we belong and maybe the only place we really do.”

“Thomas Wolfe warned in the title of America’s great novel that ‘You Can’t Go Home Again.’ I enjoyed the book but I never agreed with the title. I believe that one can never leave home. I believe that one carries the shadows, the dreams, the fears and dragons of home under one’s skin, at the extreme corners of one’s eyes and possibly in the gristle of the earlobe.

Home is that youthful region where a child is the only real living inhabitant. Parents, siblings, and neighbors, are mysterious apparitions, who come, go, and do strange unfathomable things in and around the child, the region’s only enfranchised citizen.

We may act sophisticated and worldly but I believe we feel safest when we go inside ourselves and find home, a place where we belong and maybe the only place we really do.”

“All great artists draw from the same resource: the human heart, which tells us all that we are more alike than we are unalike.”

“I am never proud to participate in violence, yet, I know that each of us must care enough for ourselves, that we can be ready and able to come to our own defense when and wherever needed.”

“Whenever I began to question whether God exists, I looked up to the sky and surely there, right there, between the sun and moon, stands my grandmother, singing a long meter hymn, a song somewhere between a moan and a lullaby and I know faith is the evidence of things unseen. And all I have to do is continue trying to be a Christian.”

“When I find myself filling with rage over the loss of a beloved, I try as soon as possible to remember that my concerns and questions should be focused on what I learned or what I have yet to learn from my departed love. What legacy was left which can help me in the art of living a good life?

Did I learn to be kinder,

To be more patient,

And more generous,

More loving,

More ready to laugh,

And more easy to accept honest tears?

If I accept those legacies of my departed beloveds, I am able to say, Thank You to them for their love and Thank You to God for their lives.”

“We are missing Michael.

But we do know we had him, and we are the world.”

“Glory falls around us as we sob a dirge of desolation on the Cross”

“Imagine, I might really become somebody. Someday.”

“One person, with good purpose, can, constitute the majority.”

“You said to lean on your arm

And I am leaning

You said to trust in your love

And I am trusting

You said to call on your name

And I am calling

I'm stepping out on your word”

“Those are facts, but facts, to a child, are merely words to memorize.”

“There was a possibility that God really did love me, me Maya Angelou. I suddenly began to cry at the gravity and grandeur of it all. I knew that if God loved me, then I could do wonderful things, I could try great things, learn anything, achieve anything. For what could stand against me, since one person, with God, constitutes the majority?”

“The human heart is so delicate and sensitive that it always needs some tangible encouragement to prevent it from faltering in its labor. The human heart is so robust, so tough, that once encouraged it beats its rhythm with a loud unswerving insistency.”

“That day, I learned that I could be a giver by simply bringing a smile to another person. The ensuing years have taught me that a kind word, a vote of support is a charitable gift. I can move over and make another place for someone. I can turn my music up if it pleases, or down if it is annoying. I may never be known as a philanthropist, but I certainly am a lover of mankind, and I will give freely of my resources.”

"Never whine. Whining lets a brute know that a victim is in the neighborhood."




Silver Fish ~ Cochi Book Club

 

L to R Front Row : Nandini, Mary, Anjana, Isha, Meenakshi, Jessica, Konchita

Back Row - Harris, Philip, Vineeth, Bala, Rishikesh, Nikhil, Tanzid, Srihari, Shahid.



I personally feel that all languages are beautiful, and it's futile to compare them.

I find sometimes that for me more than the inherent richness of language, what's more important is the accessibility of wide variety of ideas and concept. No other language does that better than English, it connects us to wonderful ideas and literary work from around the world. Ofcourse we all have different comfort level with our native languages vs second or third language which makes them dearer to us.


God's Fool ~ Mark Slouka (Gone) (24 of 24)

 Gone. The saddest word in the language. In any language.

~ Mark Slouka, God's Fool.

How about a pain gone? Would it be sad?

Would 'almost' be the saddest word?

You almost get or do something, but then don't get there. It's gone. 

The lost time, people, places, life. 

Time and Tide waits for no one, indeed. 


"If you can read 'God’s Fool' without being astonished and touched, then you’d better check to see if your heart is made of stone…simply brilliant. A book of the year." ― Dallas Morning News Born attached at the chest, Chang and Eng were considered a marvel, an act of God. By any standard, theirs is a history of epic variety and drama. Mark Slouka recounts their tumultuous story, from the docks of Vietnam to American fame, with intimacy and compassion. - So says the good read.



The narrator, Chang, is one of Siamese twins, joined to his brother Eng by a bridge of flesh at their waists. The story takes place in three different countries. Early in life they are forced by circumstances and bad luck to leave to Paris, where they are exploited for the profits of others and deserted in extreme conditions of poverty; and later to America, where they eventually settle down as farmers in North Carolina. Although they find some peace, it is short-lived, because the Civil War breaks out and disrupts life. In short, if something can plausibly go wrong for the main characters, it does. There isn't really a moment without some conflict or foreshadowing of conflict. Because of the book beginning with the narrator as an adult more than just hinting at unhappiness and tragedy, even moments of bliss during the "flashback" are not without the reader's awareness that it will not last. If the brothers are not in conflict with the outside world, then they are suffering from an emotional rift between themselves, which is most evident and troublesome as Eng embraces Christianity and Chang does not.

Eng clings to Christianity, I believe (and it seems his brother believes so as well), because of the idea that we are all equal in the eyes of God. It is natural that someone who has been mostly treated as inferior by his fellow men that he would long desperately for equality. Still, the losses the two endure are more than enough to justify Chang's disbelief. It is a wonder that two people, who experience practically all of the same external factors, could differ so greatly in their chosen responses and beliefs. The conflict between the two (as well as other instances) displays their stubbornness, their tempers, and that they are very much human, not just cardboard-cut characters vying for the reader's pity.

It isn't by any means a feel-good story, but the subject matter is intriguing, and the writing is, at times, very beautiful. The author manages to take characters who just by their condition alone will incite the readers' curiosity, and fleshes them out so that there is more to them than that condition. They are dynamic, three-dimensional characters, with pride and shame, just like anyone else, who strive to make their own place in the world, all the while witnessing the fickle nature of the public--one minute being praised as creatures of God; the next, being ridiculed as a monstrosity.

Based on the life of Chang & Eng, the 19th-century Siamese twins who became southern farmers after touring for a while with P. T. Barnum. This one was narrated by Chang, so his perspective, the one who became a drinker, focused more on their shared life; the other more on their individuality. This one was probably more introspective, so much so & in a way that seemed out of character that it was not always believable. But what's most remakable, given how little is actually known about Chang & Eng, is how similar the two stories are, despite a marked difference in tone. The writing was probably better here, but the several story lines didn't seem to have a common thread, & the closing section on the Civil War seemed particularly isolated from the rest. 

A historical fiction about Chang and Eng Bunker, the most famous pair of conjoined twins. Orginally from China they were sold as a curiosity to be shown to kings and the like, and then escaping to "freedom." Chang and Eng not only traveled extensively but also eventually settled in North Carolina, half a world away from their native Siam. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chang_and_Eng_Bunker