Wednesday, July 23, 2025

Black line

 BlackLine is a cloud-based finance and accounting automation platform designed to streamline and modernize key financial operations. It’s widely used by finance teams to improve accuracy, efficiency, and compliance in processes that are traditionally manual and spreadsheet-driven.

What BlackLine Does

BlackLine helps organizations automate and manage:


Financial close and consolidation

Account reconciliations

Journal entries

Transaction matching

Variance analysis

Intercompany transactions

Compliance and audit readiness

Key Features

Automation: Reduces manual work by automating repetitive tasks like reconciliations and journal entries.

Real-time visibility: Dashboards and reports provide up-to-date insights into financial operations.

Audit trail: Maintains a clear record of approvals, changes, and supporting documentation.

AI-enabled tools: Enhances accuracy and speeds up processes like invoice-to-cash and anomaly detection 1.

Cloud-based: Accessible from anywhere, with minimal IT overhead2.

Who Uses It

Large enterprises and mid-sized companies across industries.

Finance and accounting teams looking to improve their record-to-report and invoice-to-cash cycles.


https://www.blackline.com/

https://sandpointc.com/blog/blackline-what-is-it-and-why-you-should-be-using-it/

Tuesday, July 22, 2025

Coldplay, Life, Corporate


 

I have something to say on the noise around the “cheating couple” that says more about us than about them. The world loves scandals. Two people caught on a screen one labeled “CEO,” the other “CHR Officer” and suddenly a stadium, then the internet, becomes the judge, jury, and executioner.


But I smile and ask: What is cheating? You call it betrayal of a partner, but often it is first a betrayal of the self. A person unfulfilled within cannot remain faithful—not because they are evil, but because their inner garden has run dry. In desperation, they go searching for rain elsewhere.


Love, he would remind us, is not a contract. It is a living energy. When it dies, you can keep pretending with rings, signatures, and photographs but deep down, your heart already knows the truth.


And to those outraged or entertained, I would whisper: Be careful of your excitement over others’ mistakes. It only reveals how deeply you long to escape your own shadows. The urge to gossip is often a subtle way of hiding your own fears.


At a Coldplay concert in mid-July, what began as a lighthearted moment on the kiss cam turned into a viral scandal that exposed deep personal failure and brought devastating consequences. 


The camera panned to Andy Byron, CEO of the tech company Astronomer, who was seen embracing and appearing intimate with Kristin Cabot, the company’s Chief People Officer—not his wife. Their awkward, panicked reaction on the big screen drew attention, and Coldplay’s Chris Martin jokingly remarked, “Either they’re having an affair or they’re just very shy.” The clip exploded online, sparking widespread speculation and ridicule. 


What was captured in a fleeting moment ended up shining a massive spotlight on a private sin that has now publicly unraveled Byron’s marriage, harmed his children, embarrassed his company, and shaken his leadership. His wife, Megan Kerrigan Byron, has reportedly removed his name from her online presence and received an outpouring of support urging her to walk away. 


While some statements of apology circulated online, the company later confirmed those were fake, adding to the confusion and turmoil. 


This entire situation serves as a sobering reminder of the truth found in Romans 6:23, “For the wages of sin is death.” 


What may begin as a seemingly small compromise—an inappropriate flirtation or hidden attraction—can swiftly grow into a devastating fallout that affects every area of life. 


As believers, we must take heed. We are called to die to our flesh daily, to live Spirit-filled lives, and to consecrate ourselves unto the Lord so we can discern the subtle traps the enemy sets for our destruction. Though all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, sin always carries consequences. 


Let this story not just be a headline we scroll past but a warning that integrity matters, holiness protects, and secret sin will be shouted from the rooftops. 


Let us pray for Andy, his wife, their children, and all involved. May this crisis lead to true repentance, healing, and—if they are willing—a testimony of redemption. And may we all remember that the enemy seeks to devour, but Christ came that we might have life, and life abundantly (John 10:10).


But then why a morphed image? Why do people want to bring politics even here and that too heads of states?


Perhaps this so-called “cheating couple” is not a headline but a mirror reflecting the fragility of human connection and the courage it takes to be honest with oneself and others. So instead of pointing fingers, sit silently and ask: Where am I unfaithful to my own truth? Where am I still wearing masks?


Because in the end, scandals pass. But self-awareness - this is the real revolution. 


Monday, July 21, 2025

A Brief History of Time ~ Stephen Hawking (38 of 25)

 



Stephen Hawking’s A Brief History of Time is a landmark book that explores profound questions about the universe in a way that’s accessible to non-scientists. It covers:

The Nature of the Universe: Hawking explores the origin, structure, and eventual fate of the universe, addressing questions like: Where did the universe come from? Does time have a beginning and an end?

Key Concepts in Physics: The book introduces complex scientific ideas such as:

  • The Big Bang theory
  • Black holes
  • Quantum mechanics
  • Relativity (both general and special)
  • The concept of time and space-time

Unification of Physics: Hawking discusses the quest for a unified theory that combines general relativity (which explains gravity) and quantum mechanics (which explains the behavior of particles at the smallest scales).

The Role of God: While not a religious book, it touches on philosophical questions about the role of a creator and whether science can explain everything.

Written in layman's terms, the book avoids heavy mathematics, using analogies and illustrations to explain complex ideas. It is one of the most influential popular science books ever written.

Chapter 1: Our Picture of the Universe

Introduces fundamental questions about the universe’s origin, structure, and fate. Hawking uses a humorous anecdote about a turtle supporting the Earth to illustrate early cosmological ideas.


Chapter 2: Space and Time

Explores the evolution of thought from Aristotle to Newton and Einstein. Introduces the concepts of absolute vs. relative time and space.


Chapter 3: The Expanding Universe

Describes the discovery that the universe is expanding, based on observations by Edwin Hubble. Introduces the Big Bang theory.


Chapter 4: The Uncertainty Principle

Explains quantum mechanics and Heisenberg’s uncertainty principle, emphasizing the limits of what we can know about particles.


Chapter 5: Elementary Particles and the Forces of Nature

Outlines the four fundamental forces (gravity, electromagnetism, weak and strong nuclear forces) and the particles that interact through them.


Chapter 6: Black Holes

Discusses the formation and properties of black holes, including escape velocity and event horizons.


Chapter 7: Black Holes Ain’t So Black

Introduces Hawking radiation—the idea that black holes can emit particles and eventually evaporate.


Chapter 8: The Origin and Fate of the Universe

Explores cosmological models, including the Big Bang and Big Crunch, and the role of entropy and time’s arrow.


Chapter 9: The Arrow of Time

Examines why time seems to move in one direction, linking thermodynamic, psychological, and cosmological arrows of time.


Chapter 10: Wormholes and Time Travel

Speculates on the theoretical possibility of time travel via wormholes and the implications for causality.


Chapter 11: The Unification of Physics

Discusses the search for a unified theory that combines general relativity and quantum mechanics—what we now call the Theory of Everything.


Chapter 12: Conclusion

Summarizes the key ideas and reflects on the philosophical implications of understanding the universe.

In the concluding chapters of A Brief History of Time, Stephen Hawking reflects on the evolution of scientific thought and the contributions of key figures like Albert Einstein Galileo Galilei and Isaac Newton as below:

Albert Einstein

Einstein is portrayed as a revolutionary who transformed our understanding of space and time through his theories of special and general relativity.

Hawking highlights how Einstein’s work showed that space and time are dynamic and can be warped by gravity.

Despite his achievements, Einstein resisted the probabilistic nature of quantum mechanics, famously saying, “God does not play dice.”

His vocal support of the zionist cause was duly recognized in 1952 when he was offered the presidency of Israel. He declined. His quote "Equations are more important to me, because politics is for the present, but an equation is something for eternity".

Galileo Galilei

Hawking credits Galileo as the father of modern science.

He emphasizes Galileo’s role in challenging the geocentric model and supporting the heliocentric theory through observation.

Galileo’s use of the telescope and his insistence on empirical evidence marked a turning point in scientific methodology.

Isaac Newton

Newton is celebrated for formulating the laws of motion and universal gravitation, which dominated scientific thought for over two centuries.

Hawking acknowledges Newton’s brilliance in creating a predictive model of the universe, though he notes that Newton’s laws eventually proved insufficient at cosmic and quantum scales.

Newton’s deterministic universe laid the groundwork for classical physics.

In the final chapters, Hawking uses these figures to illustrate the progression of scientific understanding—from a static, Earth-centered universe to a dynamic, expanding cosmos governed by both relativity and quantum theory. He ends with a hopeful note about the pursuit of a unified theory that could explain everything, blending the legacies of these great minds.

[24/07, 00:00] Me Ra: In 2006, Hawking posed an open question on the Internet: "In a world that is in chaos politically, socially and environmentally, how can the human race sustain another 100 years?", later clarifying: "I don't know the answer. That is why I asked the question, to get people to think about it, and to be aware of the dangers we now face.


Hawking expressed concern that life on Earth is at risk from a sudden nuclear war, a genetically engineered virus, global warming, an asteroid collision, or other dangers humans have not yet thought of.


Hawking stated: "I regard it as almost inevitable that either a nuclear confrontation or environmental catastrophe will cripple the Earth at some point in the next 1,000 years".Such a planet-wide disaster need not result in human extinction if the human race were to be able to colonise additional planets before the disaster. Hawking viewed spaceflight and the colonisation of space as necessary for the future of humanity.


Hawking stated that, given the vastness of the universe, aliens likely exist, but that contact with them should be avoided.He warned that aliens might pillage Earth for resources. In 2010 he said, "If aliens visit us, the outcome would be much as when Columbus landed in America, which didn't turn out well for the Native Americans."


Hawking warned that superintelligent artificial intelligence could be pivotal in steering humanity's fate, stating that "the potential benefits are huge... Success in creating AI would be the biggest event in human history. It might also be the last, unless we learn how to avoid the risks."


He feared that "an extremely intelligent future AI will probably develop a drive to survive and acquire more resources as a step toward accomplishing whatever goal it has", and that "The real risk with AI isn't malice but competence. A super-intelligent AI will be extremely good at accomplishing its goals, and if those goals aren't aligned with ours, we're in trouble".


He also considered that the enormous wealth generated by machines needs to be redistributed to prevent exacerbated economic inequality.


Hawking was concerned about the future emergence of a race of "superhumans" that would be able to design their own evolution and, as well, argued that computer viruses in today's world should be considered a new form of life, stating that "maybe it says something about human nature, that the only form of life we have created so far is purely destructive. Talk about creating life in our own image."


Hawking did not rule out the existence of a Creator, asking in A Brief History of Time "Is the unified theory so compelling that it brings about its own existence?"


We are each free to believe what we want and it is my view that the simplest explanation is there is no God. No one created the universe and no one directs our fate. This leads me to a profound realisation. There is probably no heaven, and no afterlife either. We have this one life to appreciate the grand design of the universe, and for that, I am extremely grateful.


If you like, you can call the laws of science 'God', but it wouldn't be a personal God that you would meet and put questions to. Law remain 💯


Can there be a unified theory or are we chasing a mirage? There seems to be three possibilities:

1) There really is a complete unified theory,  which we will someday discover if we are smart enough.

2) There is no ultimate theory of the universe,  j7st an invite sequence of theories that describe the universe more and more accurately. 

3) There is no theory of the universe,  events cannot be predicted beyond a certain extent  but occur in a random and arbitrary manner.









Saturday, July 19, 2025

Into the Corporate

 


Veegaland now called wonderla is where my corporate journey started. Feels like just yesterday,  I took the bus to Kaloor, to see a mini village waiting outside in anticipation.  

After waiting for almost half a day Jayraj Sir asked about 'TDS' and few journal entries. 

Back home my sis asked why would they ask about TDS for a finance interview? 

I was wonder stuck she knew about TDS as she was a chemical engineering student then. So asked her what she knew. She said it's 'Totally Dissolved Salt'. I laughed out my lungs. To each their own. Who are we to judge?

What is right and what is wrong would depend on the context. The question in the interview was about 'Tax Deducted At Source".

Within few days I got my offer letter. The actual letter.  This was before email days. 

Reading about the amazing park celebrating its 25th anniversary is when the realization hit that my corporate journey parallels its inauguration. 

One of the happiest day in my life is the day we joined the park. Can still remember the ascend. We took the steps. The day before Chandran Uncle had arranged for an hostel at kunnumpuram and before we reached he was waiting there for us. 

Friday, July 18, 2025

Love, Loss & Leadgers (36 of 25) Called Brief forever after Publishing

 Loved the preread for the upcoming book by Pragya. 


“I said to my soul, be still and wait without hope, for hope would be hope for the wrong thing;

wait without love, for love would be love of the wrong thing;

there is yet faith, but the faith and the love are all in the waiting.

Wait without thought, for you are not ready for thought:

So the darkness shall be the light, and the stillness the dancing.”

― T.S. Eliot


Priya Pradhan had been independent for as long as she could remember, but this was different—financially independent. The kind that lets you buy your own groceries, pay your own rent, and not feel guilty about eating out or buying expensive clothes and bags. It felt like breathing without permission.


She would walk into his life, smile at his mother, wear his ring, and plan a wedding which she had no intention of....." Very bold why and how is all what the story is about.....


Unputdownable!

"The Village It Takes: A Newborn Mom’s Tale"



In a quiet corner of Canada, far from the familiar chaos of home, Pushpa was living through the most beautiful and bewildering chapter of her life—motherhood. Her days and nights blurred into one long stretch of lullabies, burps, and bleary-eyed cuddles with her newborn, Aanya.


“She used to sleep for 3 to 4 hours at night,” Pushpa messaged one morning, “but since last night, she’s waking up every 30 minutes… sometimes even 10.”

A string of sad emojis followed, each one heavier than the last.


Me Ra, ever the calm voice of reason, asked gently, “Burping?”

“Yes,” Pushpa replied. “Burping done. But I’m so tired today.”


“Does she want food every time she wakes up?” Me Ra asked.

“No,” Pushpa sighed. “She wants to sleep but can’t. Gets irritated.”


Saroja jumped in with her signature humor, “That’s me! 🤣🤣”

Jisha added, “Saro… iska toh koi ilaaj nahi hai!”

“Exactly,” Saroja laughed. “Koi ilaaj nai.”


Later that day, Pushpa confessed, “I carried her the whole day. Now I have neck pain, shoulder pain… everything pain!”

The group rallied around her. Jisha even shared a funny video, “For Pushku ☝🏼😄”


Ramya offered practical advice, “Try getting her used to a cradle. It’ll get easier.”

Pushpa replied with a tired smile, “Will try that 😅”

Then, with a dramatic flair only a sleep-deprived mom could muster, she declared, “@Me Ra Chechi… a village is not enough to raise a kid 🤣🤣”


Me Ra sent a virtual bow and hug. “Kudos to all your efforts 👏”


Pushpa, half-joking, half-serious, pleaded, “Why don’t you all visit Canada one by one? You can meet Aanya 😍”

Saroja laughed, “We’ll come together, not one by one!”

Jisha teased, “Pushpa was looking for a nanny so she could sleep… and here you are planning a party!”


Pushpa grinned, “Aajao 😍”

Saroja added, “We’ll take care of Aanya… and if mummy needs a break, papa too! 🤣”


As the night wore on, the chat continued.

“All of us have been there,” Jisha said softly.

“Yes,” Me Ra agreed. “But the degree and intensity vary. Now I wonder… was Kumbhakarna depressed?”

Jisha laughed, “Both his habits were disorders—sleep, eat, repeat!”

“And he was cursed, right?”

“Yes,” Me Ra confirmed. “Not his fault.”


At 1:28 AM, Pushpa typed, “I don’t even know what I’m typing anymore. Sorry if there are spelling mistakes 😅”

Me Ra reassured her, “I make a lot. Auto-correct makes it worse. Jisha is my official editor.”

Jisha chimed in, “Auto-correct tests patience beyond limits!”


The next evening brought a miracle.

“Aanya slept almost 6 hours,” Pushpa announced.

“I got scared—why isn’t she waking up?!”

Saroja replied, “I still check Shriya while she sleeps. Every mom does. Sleeps too long—worry. Wakes too soon—problem. You’re doing it perfectly.”


Pushpa smiled. “This is going to be there always.”

“Yes,” Saroja agreed. “Even for Sambo, I still check. 🤣🤣”


The next day, Pushpa greeted the group again, “Good morning!!”

“Good day, Mamma,” Me Ra replied warmly.

Ramya popped in, “Hi dears, just got back from office.”


And so the village continued—scattered across time zones, bound by love, laughter, and late-night chats. Aanya may have been the newest member, but she had already brought them all closer than ever.


Would you like a visual to go with this story—maybe a cozy illustration of a mom holding her baby while chatting with friends on her phone?


"Cradled in Arms, Carried by Love"

The nights were getting longer, and the days, heavier. Pushpa, now deep into her journey as a new mom, found herself on the edge of tears one early morning.


“Bad… I almost cried,” she messaged at 4 AM.


Her friends were there in a heartbeat.


“Hayoo dear… crying?” Me Ra asked gently.

“What happened?” Jisha chimed in.


Pushpa poured her heart out. “She’s not sleeping unless she’s in my arms. I don’t want to let her down, but my neck, hands, back—every bone is aching. This has been going on since Monday. I’m so exhausted.”


Me Ra offered what she could. “You shouldn’t always hold them, or it becomes a habit.”

“I know,” Pushpa replied. “But when she cries, I can’t just leave her like that.”


The group listened, advised, and comforted.

“I enjoy holding her,” Pushpa admitted, “but now it’s painful. Bahut mushkil hai.”


Still, she found joy in the little things. “I keep looking at her photos from day one. I don’t want to forget her tiny face. It’s a beautiful phase, Di… but handling it alone is very challenging.”


“Kash koi hota,” she whispered. “I would’ve enjoyed this phase in the best possible way.”


“You are teaching us,” Me Ra replied. “We are learning and growing with you. Feeling blessed.”


Jisha added, “It’s okay to cry and crib once in a while. That’s what your sissy group is for. We may not have all the answers, but we’re here to listen, to laugh with you, and to hold space for you.”


Pushpa smiled through her tears. “I’m still enjoying… but ro ro kar 🤣🤣”


Later, she shared a photo of how Aanya slept—snuggled close, peaceful in her mother’s arms.

“I have a kangaroo bag,” she said, “but I think I can use it after she gains a little weight.”


Jisha recalled, “My dad used to walk around carrying the baby like that. He wouldn’t even sit. Babies don’t want you to stop moving.”


“Thankfully you didn’t have a C-section,” Me Ra said. “Or this wouldn’t be possible.”


“I know,” Pushpa replied. “I am blessed.”


"The Circle of Love"

As the days passed, the exhaustion remained, but so did the love—and the learning. Pushpa, in her quiet moments, began to reflect not just on her baby, but on her own childhood.


Ramya, ever wise and warm, shared a truth that struck a chord:

“Pregnancy, delivery, baby-sitting… we think that’s the main thing. But no, the real journey is parenting. Growing them. We learn with them.”


She paused, then added softly, “We begin to truly thank our parents—for how much they handled, suffered, and sacrificed for us.”


Pushpa replied with a simple, “Very true.”


Ramya continued, “I miss my parents every second. My kids missed their unconditional love. But thankfully, my achamma was there for me—during pregnancy, delivery… she was my biggest support. She’s 85 now. My kids call her achamma, though she’s technically their muthassi.”


Me Ra nodded, “No wonder they say girls start loving their parents even more after delivery.”


Pushpa, her heart full, whispered, “Life is so unpredictable. Nobody knows what’s going to happen next… but I loved them even before this.”


"The Weight of Love, The Strength of Mothers"

In the quiet hours of the morning, when the world was still and her baby finally asleep, Pushpa found herself reflecting on something deeper than exhaustion—her mother.


“I always prayed to God,” she whispered, “meri umar bhi unhe lag jaye.”

But now, after becoming a mother herself, the prayer had taken on a new meaning.

“How did my mom manage five kids with no support?” she wondered aloud. “And my dad… I’m sure he wasn’t as supportive as Aman.”


Her voice trembled with emotion. “My mom has gone through so much. That’s why I pamper her like a child now. The love she didn’t get when she was young—she deserves it now. I talk to her as if she’s a five-year-old.”


Ramya, listening quietly, shared her own grief. “I was very attached to my achan and amma. Their passing was a huge shock. They loved me and Soumya like we had lived with them for a hundred years.”


Pushpa nodded. “Women go through so much. And it’s become so normal that no one talks about it. As if it’s expected. As if being a mother means silently enduring everything.”


She sighed. “After the baby, everyone asks how the baby is doing. But only a few ask how I am doing.”


Ramya offered a gentle reminder. “At least now, husbands understand. Aman saw everything. He was in the labour room. He knows how scared you are of injections… and he cried when you were in pain.”


Pushpa smiled through her fatigue. “Yes. He’s been amazing.”


But the reality of being abroad, alone, was still heavy. “I’m the housekeeper too,” she joked. “I want to sleep but I can’t. And I don’t even take proper baths anymore!”


Ramya suggested Ayurvedic remedies—lehyam, arishtam, kashayam. “They help with sleep and recovery,” she said.

Pushpa laughed, “I’ll try all this in my next birth. For this life, I’m done!”


They discussed food, supplements, and the challenges of finding Indian vegetables in Canada. Milk, water, protein powders—everything was a puzzle.

“I stopped drinking milk,” Pushpa said. “The doctor said it might be causing gas for Aanya.”


Still, she was doing her best. “Tomorrow I’ll get my calcium checked and start supplements.”


Saroja popped in, asking, “How’s our Aanya beta? Slept?”

Pushpa replied, “She made me go mad today 🤣🤣 But she sleeps quickly with papa.”


They all laughed when Pushpa said, “Even on maternity leave, I’m doing a full-time job. I held her today and told her—iska badla lungi mai!”


Saroja chuckled, “Unintentionally, we do take badla. That’s why they say it’s a circle.”


Pushpa imagined Aanya thinking, “Bhagwan, ye kaisi Maa mil gayi mujhe?”


As the chat wound down, Saroja reminded her, “Darling mommy, you need rest. Try sleeping now. Want me to sing a lullaby?”

“Jo neend thodi bachi hai vo bhi udjayegi,” she joked.


Pushpa smiled. “Life is a challenge now. I can’t sleep without pumping.”



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Note on Pic above:

In her room at night, holding her newborn baby in her arms. The baby is peacefully asleep, while the mom looks exhausted but lovingly gazes at her child. Around her are signs of motherhood—burp cloths, a bottle, a phone with a group chat open, and a cradle nearby that the baby refuses to sleep in. A soft glow from a lamp casts a warm light, and outside the window, it's snowing lightly, hinting at a Canadian winter. The scene captures both the beauty and the exhaustion of early motherhood, with a touch of humor and love.

Summary:

"The Village It Takes: A Newborn Mom’s Tale"


In a quiet corner of Canada, far from the familiar chaos of home, Pushpa was living through the most beautiful and bewildering chapter of her life—motherhood. Her days and nights blurred into one long stretch of lullabies, burps, and bleary-eyed cuddles with her newborn, Aanya.




“She used to sleep for 3 to 4 hours at night,” Pushpa messaged one morning, “but since last night, she’s waking up every 30 minutes… sometimes even 10.”


A string of sad emojis followed, each one heavier than the last.


“She wants to sleep but can’t. Gets irritated.”


Later that day, Pushpa confessed, “I carried her the whole day. Now I have neck pain, shoulder pain… everything pain!”


Ramya offered practical advice, “Try getting her used to a cradle. It’ll get easier.”


Then, with a dramatic flair only a sleep-deprived mom could muster, she declared, “@Me Ra Chechi… a village is not enough to raise a kid 🤣🤣”


Saroja said, “We’ll come, take care of Aanya… and if mummy needs a break, we will take care of papa too! 🤣”


And so the village continued—scattered across time zones, bound by love, laughter, and late-night chats. Aanya may have been the newest member, but she had already brought them all closer than ever.


"Cradled in Arms, Carried by Love"


The nights were getting longer, and the days, heavier. Pushpa, now deep into her journey as a new mom, found herself on the edge of tears at time, with no helping hand, except for husband who had a full time job to attend to.


Pushpa at times poured her heart out. “She’s not sleeping unless she’s in my arms. I don’t want to let her down, but my neck, hands, back—every bone is aching.


The group listened, advised, and comforted. With new mom miles away take care of the baby, they were also learning.  Life lessons. Remotely. 


Jisha recalled, “My dad used to walk around carrying the baby like that. He wouldn’t even sit. Babies don’t want you to stop moving.”


Pushpa smiled through her tears. “I’m still enjoying… but ro ro kar 🤣🤣”


“Women go through so much. And it’s become so normal that no one talks about it. As if it’s expected. As if being a mother means silently enduring everything.”



She sighed. “After the baby, everyone asks how the baby is doing. But only a few ask how I am doing.”


But the reality of being abroad, alone, was still heavy. “I’m the housekeeper too,” she joked. “I want to sleep but I can’t. And I don’t even take proper baths anymore!”


Pushpa said, “Even on maternity leave, I’m doing a full-time job. I held her today and told her—iska badla lungi mai!”


Saroja chuckled, “Unintentionally, we do take badla. That’s why they say it’s a circle.”

30 Years of Work life

 An amazing journey.


Just realized. 


Completed 30 years since I started working and 25 years since I entered into the corporate arena. 


Really? 


Incredible indeed it has been.


Not a smooth sail. The tides were interesting, eventful and valuable with their lessons.


Bringing in amazing people, experiences and colleagues taking away some loved ones too....


As I reflect, I just have One word to say.


'Thank You'.


My heart fills with gratitude to all those who have been part of my journey. 


For the lessons taught along the way.


In case I have hurt you, let me take this opportunity to tell you


'Sorry'.


Please 🙏 forgive me. 


Prayers.


Happiness Humesha 😊 


Collect stories from your journey and  bound it in a book. Life Isn’t about finding yourself,  life is about creating yourself. Not every body's journey is roller coaster. Some are receptive and never acknowledge the hardship as hardship but a way of living life.  I gossip about myself....accepting things as is...open book with few or no secrets.....don't know

The First Pay and the Teacher Within

 It all began with a simple question that sparked a wave of memories—“What did you do with your first salary?” Pattabhiram Sir had posted it on Facebook, and it lingered in Me Ra’s mind long enough to stir a reflection.

She smiled as she typed, “My first pay was ₹75. I had joined mid-July. The next month, a full one, I earned ₹150.” It wasn’t much, she admitted, especially when compared to what she made giving tuitions. But those days were different. “Now, I don’t have the energy or patience for tuitions,” she confessed.

The conversation turned contemplative. “We were recently discussing what’s next,” Me Ra continued. “And I said, the toughest thing for me was taking tuitions—even though, as a child, I always wanted to be a teacher.”

Saroja chimed in with a laugh. “I was so patient until I turned 30, maybe. Took many tuitions. Once, a boy even hit me with his pencil box! He later became a good student.” She added with a touch of pride, “I even taught a film star once. He still comes and talks to me when we meet—his parents too!”

But times had changed. “Now I’m the worst teacher,” Saroja admitted, “especially when I sit with Shriya. First five minutes, I’m so good. The very next minute—I turn into a raakshassi!” The laughter was almost audible through the screen.

Me Ra nodded in agreement. “I’ve heard the most difficult job is teaching your own children—be it school lessons, singing, or dancing.”

“May be true,” Saroja replied thoughtfully.

Then came a quiet revelation. “My mom used to take tuitions,” Me Ra shared, “but she sent me to one. I was a dyslexic child.” There was a pause, then another truth: “Not sure if I’ve said this before. But back then, they didn’t know what it meant. Thankfully, they just forced me to compete with others in class.”

Despite it all, she found her anchor. “Maths was the only subject I liked.”

Tuesday, July 15, 2025

As Long as the Lemon Trees Grow ~ Zoulfa Katouh (37 of 2025)

 




As Long as the Lemon Trees Grow is a halal love story, but not just between two people—it’s also a love story between a girl and her country, a revolution, a memory, and a future worth fighting for. Written with lyrical beauty and brutal honesty, Zoulfa Katouh's debut novel transports readers into the heart of the Syrian civil war through the eyes of Salama Kassab, a pharmacy student turned volunteer medic. The story is woven around true events delving into human emotions behind the conflict.  

Salama once had a family, dreams, and a home. But the war changed everything. She now spends her days surrounded by the wounded and dying, trying to save others while her own heart breaks a little more each day.

She is also haunted—literally—by her personified trauma, a hallucination named Khawf (Arabic for “fear”), who constantly reminds her of the dangers she faces and urges her to escape Syria with her pregnant sister-in-law, Layla.

Salama is torn: Should she stay and help her people, or flee and protect the last family she has left? Caught in this moral dilemma, she meets Kenan, a boy with a camera, hope in his eyes, and the courage to dream despite the bombs overhead. Their love is quiet, respectful—halal—and rooted in mutual care and resistance against despair.

As the story unfolds, Salama begins to question everything she thought she knew about the war, her future, and herself. Through flashbacks, hallucinations, and harrowing real-life events, we see the depth of her psychological scars, the weight of survivor’s guilt, and the impossible burden of hope.

A pivotal moment is when a young boy, dying looks up and says:

"I will tell God everything."

This chilling line captures the emotional truth of the book—a child, robbed of justice, places his trust in divine accountability. It’s a line that burns itself into the reader’s memory.

Sunday, July 13, 2025

Hope

 

At times in life we see no Hope. That's because our vision is limited.  We do not have the view of the bigger picture. 

Come what may, never give up Hope.

Hope can achieve the impossible,  see the invisible.

Hope is not a strategy.  You should do more than enough.

Did you know  'The International Day of Hope' was on 12 July as a reminder that hope is a transformative force that can bridge divides, drive progress, and uplift the human spirit.

The Day was  aimed to celebrate and promote hope as a guiding principle for individuals, communities, and nations.

Hope you have a great week ahead! Happiness Humesha!

#Hope #Happiness #HumanSpirit


Video, a Fridge and a Bride ~ Nirmala Arvind 35 of 25


 Just finished 'A Video, a Fridge and a Bride.' 10 not out. Curious to know if Lizz finally got married, retired from RBI or there was another twist in the tale. 


A story about women and their plight that had to be told, and well narrated and gripping or I would not have finished in one sitting. 


Amazing story teller you are, why did you not write more? Why is the book named so? A metonymy? 


Thank you for lending the book. It made my weekend.

Saturday, July 12, 2025

Help


 

'Help' one word that would make our life simpler and stress free.

How often do we ask for it?

Why do we fear asking for help?

What is important is that things get done.

It is not important that you do all by yourself.

Help, this one word will lighten your struggle.

"Asking for help is not giving up, but refusing to give up."

Try it and let me know your thoughts.

#Reflection #LifeLessons #Help #Struggle #theboythemolethefoxandthehorse #quotes #CharlesMackay

Friday, July 11, 2025

Vodka Sambar ~ Mary Zareah 34 of 25


The cover promises many things with all its color. A journey, secret and beauty. The name of the book - Vodka Sambar is so striking in a unique way. The book takes us to the mountains of Gilgit - Baltistan in Pakistan and a special minority community there in Kalash Land. I think the access is restricted even for Pakistanis.they have Mahadeva ,Indra & yama as gods.  Many Pakistanis are unaware of their existence.


A major part of 'Vodka Sambar' takes place in Pakistan. May bet hat's the reason the artist used this cover art as there is a mention of truck later in the story,  may be that too was painted like this? Well the story begin in South India - Bangalore, travell in time and end in London. Curious? Read on. 


Wednesday, July 09, 2025

Unstoppable 33 of 25


 

An Inspiration to many especially for aspiring  Chartered Accountants. One who proved that age is a word but not a number.  Thanks to @Spotlight @Readwrite Production for publishing his life. Thank You Pattabhi Ram Sir for this amazing gift 🎁

Tuesday, July 08, 2025

Why do I read?



Why do I read?

I just can't help myself.

I read to learn and to grow, to laugh

and to be motivated.

I read to understand things I've never

been exposed to.

I read when I'm crabby, when I've just

said monumentally dumb things to the

people I love.

I read for strength to help me when I

feel broken, discouraged, and afraid.

I read when I'm angry at the whole

world.

I read when everything is going right.

I read to find hope.

I read because I'm made up not just of

skin and bones, of sights, feelings,

and a deep need for chocolate, but I'm

also made up of words.

Words describe my thoughts and what's

hidden in my heart.

Words are alive--when I've found a

story that I love, I read it again and

again, like playing a favorite song

over and over.

Reading isn't passive--I enter the

story with the characters, breathe

their air, feel their frustrations,

scream at them to stop when they're

about to do something stupid, cry with

them, laugh with them.

Reading for me, is spending time with a

friend.

A book is a friend.

You can never have too many. ~Gary Paulsen

(Book: Shelf Life: Stories by the Book)

Monday, July 07, 2025

Fragments of unbroken mirror ~ Santanu Sinha Chaudhuri (32 of 25)


Just finished reading 'Fragments of unbroken mirror' by Santanu Singa Chaudhuri.  Thanks a lot to Nirmala Anand Mam for recommendingthis book. Indeed Memory is a Sieve. Book Fragmants of unbroken mirror is quite nostalgic.  Old memories came alive.  It was time of reminiscences. Childhood Mumbai life, writers as a profession,  Telegram, London bus and few memorable toys, licenses, waiting and joy of getting a radio or one new item at home, song booklets, milk queues, buying vessels in exchangefor old cloths, the early news paper deliver and reading.....how fast things are changing....Beautifully documented,  literary with life lessons.


It's interesting to see how memories about school, generation of relationships,  books, experiences with pets and animals, street voices, vacations and vendors are all captured covering a period of time.



Nirmala,


Wow! I am bowled over by your friend’s reaction to the _Fragments …._ She has read it with so much attention and has remembered so many details. Even more significantly, she has captured the spirit of the stories so beautifully! When I receive messages like this, I feel it wasn’t such a bad idea to write them. Please tell her her review means a huge lot to me. 


Yes, I have a second book in mind. 


Santanu da

Sunday, July 06, 2025

Learning this week

Stressed? Take Action.

Live your day with enthusiasm so that everything feels easy.

The most difficult task is to make everybody happy, the simplest task is to be happy with everyone. 

Don't seek revenge. The rotten fruit will fall by itself. 

Every problem has a solution.  You just have to be creative enough to find it.

Happiness comes when we stop complaining about the troubles we have and offer Thanks for all the troubles we don't have. Even more, Gratitude for all the blessings we have.

Writing and Marketing

 4P's in marketing :Product,  Positioning,  Pricing and Promotion 

Positioning is doing the right thing with precision

 Story telling done with empathy can shift how people see the world

Vulnerability is a bridge and not weakness

Simplicity and sincerity have more staying power than polish and perfection

Give real stories and clear intent

 Be real, grounded and generously share what most people hold back

Make content that speak to you and not at you.

'To you' actually means engaging or interactive

'At you' is like lecturing,formal and bossy(not interactive)

Memories of My Melancholy Whores ~ Gabriel Garcia Marquez

 


Nandakishore Varma CBC writes on : *Memories of My Melancholy Whores*

*by Gabriel Garcia Marquez*

*spoiler alert*

> The year I turned ninety, I wanted to give myself the gift of a night of wild love with an adolescent virgin.


Thus begins this slim novel by the inimitable Gabo. The unnamed narrator is a man on the eve of his ninetieth birthday, a mediocre journalist by profession, who has spent his entire life imbibing the pleasures of the flesh but never loving anyone. Living in the aristocratic mansion bequeathed to him by his parents, he spends his days in the refined pursuit of music and literature, and his nights, in the not-so-refined pursuit of ladies of easy virtue.

> Sex is the consolation you have when you can’t have love.


Rosa Cabarcas, the madame of an illicit house, fulfills his birthday wish. She procures for him the services of a fourteen-year-old factory worker, whom the narrator names Delgadina. However, the only problem is that the girl sleeps through the night, and her lover has to satisfy himself by kissing and fondling her supine adolescent body - there is no consummation in real terms.

As the novel progresses, we are taken along with the narrator on a journey through his memories of loveless sex, reminisced during the current episodes of sexless love - until one fine day he realises that he is in love with his sleeping beauty. By that time, he has already become estranged from her. The old man is brought to his senses when one of his former whores tells him to go back to her.

> Don't let yourself die without knowing the wonder of fucking with love.


He does return, back to his love and back to life, as the novel ends on a strangely upbeat note for all its talk of melancholy.

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This is not your typical Gabo tale. It's pretty straightforward: there is no magical realism or the rich symbolism of his acclaimed works, and his hardcore fans are likely to be disappointed. Also, this story is one male gaze, held without blinking - women readers are likely to be put off by a privileged man's objectification of the female body as a source of pleasure and pleasure alone.

But all said and done, I believe the unlikeable protagonist is purposefully created in such a way - a very old man who looks to sex to rejuvenate himself - to force us to look at the intertwined aspects of love, lust and sex. When does one turn into the other? Attraction between opposite sexes is an evolutionary trait, created by the selfish gene so that it can ensure its survival. Sex is the only biological requirement for the continuation of the species. The pleasure we derive from the act of copulation, and the emotional attachment we feel towards the object of our lust is a purely human trait.

Thoughts worth pondering on.


 Nirmala Aravind: This is one reader who is totally put off by Marquez. A dirty old man is a dirty old man. Period

Harish CBC: From my review of Memories of My Melancholy Whores written in 2010:

Three themes that I feel recur in this novel are Love, Sex and Solitude. You can find it in the novels of Marquez in different proportions, providing varied interpretations.  Sex for Marquez is a refuge from unrequited love. Like in other novels, the protagonist sleeps with countless prostitutes, but never falls in love. Sex is a way to vent the solitude out of life. And love that appears late in life is an escape from the clutches of solitude to reality (sanity) and its beauty.


Nandakishore Varma CBC : Well, I don't know anything personal about Marquez. Personally, I separate the art from the artist. And as a writer, I feel he is one of the greatest ever.

As for this book - the narrator is a dirty old man. Agreed. But so is the narrator of 'Lolita'. And as for John Fowles' 'The Collector', the most powerful novel about the objectification of women ever written, it's mainly narrated by Frederick Clegg, a man who kidnaps a young woman and keeps her prisoner just for the sake of "owning" her. He can't even have sex with her!

Unlikeable protagonists are there in many novels. That doesn't automatically make the book bad, IMO

All good literature has layers. Like M. T. says, the story on the unwritten pages. One has to look beyond what is literally written.

Steinbeck's masterpiece, "The Grapes of Wrath", was banned once because its final scene depicted a mother, whose newborn baby had just died, breastfeeding an old man on the verge of death. Actually, she is a metaphor for the fruitful "promised land" the travellers reach after a long journey. Jerusalem has been depicted as a feeding mother too.

But if one doesn't understand the metaphor, the picture would seem vulgar.

Also many books need a different kind of reading and not just the level of 'knowing the plot'. Sometimes the dirty old writer is not a dirty old writer, a young woman is not a young woman and gazing at a sleeping girl is not just that. In such books the plot is only a gateway to a different realm.

You are entitled to your opinions, so am I

If one wants to see male libido unleashed, one should read Padmarajan.

Sarah, the sex worker in "Udakappola", is a masterly creation. The epitome of every man's sexual fantasies. And played to perfection by Sumalatha in "Thoovanathumbikal". 

But you started me thinking about the male gaze in literature. Now I can't stop

Chasing the Monsoon ~ Alexander Frater 31 of 25


 

 *Chasing the Monsoon* by Alexander Frater is a vivid travelogue that blends journalism, memoir, and meteorology, chronicling Frater’s journey across India as he follows the southwest monsoon. It’s beautifully written, humorous, and deeply reflective.

Frater's book is not just about chasing rain—it's about chasing life, culture, memory, and meaning in a country where the monsoon is both a hope and a disaster. His writing is immersive, sensitive, and often hilarious, capturing the madness and magic of India during the rains. It’s also deeply personal, tied to his childhood memories in Vanuatu and his fascination with weather.

>

> “I had long loved the monsoon, loved the way it came darkly, swelling the heart with its murky light and sound.”

**Chapter-wise Summary**

(Note: The book doesn’t have formal chapters with names, but here’s a breakdown by sections of the journey.)

**1. Prelude – Childhood and Obsession**

Frater reflects on his boyhood in Vanuatu and how his fascination with tropical storms and rain began. He introduces his dream of following the Indian monsoon from its very start.

**2. Kerala – Where the Monsoon is Born**

Frater begins in Thiruvananthapuram, awaiting the official arrival of the monsoon. He mingles with meteorologists, fishermen, and locals, absorbing the rituals and tension around the first rain.

> “In Kerala, they said, you don’t see the monsoon coming—you hear it.”


**3. Coastal Karnataka & Goa – Joyous Downpour**

As the rains travel north, Frater joins the celebration. There’s music, greenery, and a festive air. He travels by bus and train, soaking in the scenery and madness.

**4. Mumbai – Chaos and Romance**

The monsoon hits Mumbai hard. Streets flood, trains halt, but people adapt. Frater captures the city’s monsoon resilience and the intimacy of its rain-soaked life.

**5. Gujarat & Rajasthan – Drylands Meet the Deluge**

He travels into drier regions, where the arrival of rain is more dramatic. Farmers rejoice. There are also stories of superstition and climate myths.

**6. Delhi – Political Weather**

In Delhi, Frater meets scientists, bureaucrats, and weather experts. The capital's monsoon is less poetic—there’s cynicism, bureaucracy, and frustration.

 **7. Cherrapunji – The Wettest Place on Earth**

His journey ends in Meghalaya’s Cherrapunji. It rains heavily, relentlessly. Frater reflects on memory, longing, and how the monsoon has shaped not just lands but minds.

> “Here, rain is not weather—it is a condition of existence.”


A Grain of Sand ~ Narendra Murty 30 of 25

 


A Grain of Sand : Decoding Images, Rituals and Myt by Narendra Murty is again borrowed courtesy @CochinBookClub and @Harish. It is the tendency of human mind to remain enamoured by the symbols instead of breaking free from them. 


This has been beautifully expressed by Sankara in this manner:


O Lord! Pardon my three sins. I have in contemplation clothed Thee in form. Thee that art formless; I have in praise described Thee; who are ineffable; and in visiting temples, I have often ignored Thy Omnipresence. 


Santana Dharma, though it uses symbols profusely - in its images, in its Rituals and mythology - also urges us to go beyond them so that we obtain that heavenly Amrita to the Divine experience. 


When we try to show a lost/invisible object to a seeker, we guide them through the known path/route. So are the objects used to explain a child in his journey. To cling to it even after ages is mere folly.


This book reminded me of one Achan had got years before titled 'Hindukal Areyendathu'. 


Thanks, Gratitude and Salutation to Sri Aurobindi,  Narendra Murthy, Cochin Book Club and Harish.


Here’s a quick chapter‑wise breakdown of A Grain of Sand based on its structure and known themes (plus the six‑section hint from the publisher):

Section A: Invitation to Symbolism

Chapter 1 introduces the language of sacred symbols—why the veil needs decoding and how image, ritual, and myth form one cohesive symbolic tapestry  .

Section B: Images & Iconography

Chapters 2–3 explore key deity figures:

Nataraja: circle of flames, cosmic dance, Shiva as universal rhythm.

Kali: garland of heads, symbolism of destruction-renewal, her posture and attributes  

Section C: Ritual Practices

Chapters 4–5 decode typical rituals:

Pradakshina (circumambulation): the spiritual geometry of walking around the divine.

Aarti, Visarjan, Yajna: how fire, offering, and immersion carry deeper metaphysical intentions  .

Section D: Mythology as Internal Map

Chapters 6–7 reframe classic myths:

Samudra Manthan, Devas and Asuras, Pandava/Kaurava dilemmas: not just stories, but mirrors to inner transformation and cosmic balance  .

Section E: Upanishadic & Vedic Foundations

Chapters 8–9 connect rituals and images to Om, Agni, Surya, and teachings from the Upanishads and Rig Veda—showing how ancient Sanskritic thought underpins visible forms  .

Section F: Metaphysical Integration

Chapters 10–11 weave it all together:

How symbols across image, ritual, myth and scripture form an integrated path of self-realization.

Reading reality as divine narrative, and reclaiming spiritual depth in everyday worship  

It’s a progressive journey—from seeing (images) to doing (rituals), to knowing (myths & scriptures), to ultimately being (symbolic integration). Each chapter layers new meaning as you move through the sections.

Heart Lamp ~ Banu Mushtaq 29 of 25

 






Lamplight on HeartLamp

Cover reminded me of 'Traveling with Pomegranates' by Sue Monk Kidd and Ann Kidd Taylor', looks like both are in a way, spiritual journeys. One through short, searing fiction rooted in Kannada women's experiences, and the other through memoir, where a mother and daughter explore identity, faith, and transformation while traveling.

Layered, bold, and rooted in rich cultural soil. Banu Mushtaq's stories are known for exploring identity, womanhood, and resistance with quiet fire, and Deepa Bhasthi’s translation likely preserves that depth and dignity beautifully.

The pomegranate becomes this shared metaphor across cultures and genres—a fruit of memory, fertility, hidden complexity, and resilience. One book holds it like a symbol of womanhood across generations, the other as a lamp of layered inner lives.

 While it is a critique of patriarchy, gender dynamics, poverty and inequality, the stories are leavened with a generous sprinkling of humour. The quirky characters like the Arabic teacher who loves cauliflower manjuri, the drunken painter Nisar and the little boy who plies his grandmother with Pepsi in the guise of the drink of heaven........

Reminds me of my feelings about much of contemporary fiction, that characters are often unidimensional. Banu Mushtaq is in another league with exquisitely drawn characters.

Much has already been said about the masterly translation, the effortless use of Kannada/Urdu words without italics. Masterly.

The last story.....here I have to quote - 

Ultimately, Be a Woman, Once, O Lord is not just a poem—it is a protest. It calls for the dismantling of systems that normalize female suffering and demands that both the divine and society confront the reality of what it means to be a woman. Through this bold appeal, Mushtaq asserts the need for empathy, equality, and divine justice.

"Some of us step on the cindering balls of coal and carve a space for ourselves. Some of us learn to exist too close to the fire. None of us are left unscarred."

With piercing insight and a storyteller’s grace, Banu Mushtaq lays bare the raw, unspoken truths of womanhood in this relatable collection. Her characters are not just fictional—they are reflections, echoes, and realities drawn from every corner of the world. Written in an intimate, colloquial style, these stories resonate deeply, making them feel less like tales and more like shared experiences.

I read the book in a single sitting, not because it was easy, but because it was impossible to look away. Mushtaq’s background as a journalist, lawyer, and activist pulses through each page, infusing her narratives with authenticity, empathy, and power. Her sharp observations on human nature and emotional resilience make this collection unforgettable—both in its pain and its quiet triumphs.

🌟 **Heart Lamp – Discussion Guide**

#### 📚 General Themes to Explore:

* **Identity & Belonging:** How do the characters grapple with gender, religion, caste, or class?

* **Resistance & Silence:** What does resistance look like in the world of these stories—loud or quiet? Internal or external?

* **Body & Desire:** How is the body portrayed—as sacred, political, trapped, or liberated?

* **Women’s Inner Lives:** Do you notice moments when the characters' inner worlds speak louder than the plot?

#### 💬 Conversation Starters:

1. **Which story struck you most so far—and why?**

2. **Do you feel the translation carries the emotion and context well?**

   *(This is a good way to appreciate Deepa Bhasthi’s work too.)*

3. **Did any story remind you of someone you know—or yourself?**

   *(Personal reflections often lead to great conversations.)*

4. **How does the author portray faith or religion—personal, cultural, or critical?**

5. **What emotions did the stories leave you with—anger, tenderness, guilt, hope?**

#### 🕯️ Symbolism Clues:

* **The Pomegranate (cover)** – Might stand for the heart, secrets, or seeds of many stories. .

* **“Heart Lamp”** – What does it mean? Is it about keeping love, memory, or identity.

Am lucky—discussing books sounds like a rare treat.

Here is the review by Nandakishore Sir:

After being so much feted, I had expected something out of the ordinary from the author. What I got, instead, were a bunch of hackneyed and predictable stories written in extremely melodramatic prose. True, they tackle important social issues: but for me, literature means the impact of the tale as a work of art, and I could not find it here at all.


The translator says in the afterword that the author was a part of the Bandaya Sahitya movement.

Bandaya Sahitya started as an act of protest against the hegemony of upper caste and mostly male-led writing that was then being published and celebrated. The movement urged women, Dalits and other social and religious minorities to tell stories from within their own lived experiences and in the Kannada they spoke.

This has resulted in big challenges for the translator, as she openly confesses. Indian languages vary across regions, so it is impossible to catch all their nuances in translation: that must have happened with these stories too, I reckon. Much of the original beauty of writing could have been lost in translation. But unfortunately, as non-Kannadiga, reading translations is the only option I have.


But leaving the language part aside, there was nothing special about the content also. The author is a social activist, and her activism seems to have infected her fiction. Patriarchy in conservative Islam is obviously Banu Mushtaq's personal bugbear.

Come to think of it, for us, that is, for us Muslims, it is said that, other than Allah above, our pati is God on earth. Suppose there comes a situation where the husband’s body is full of sores, with pus and blood oozing out from them, it is said that even if the wife uses her tongue to lick these wounds clean, she will still not be able to completely repay the debt she owes him. If he is a drunkard, or a womaniser, or if he harasses her for dowry every day – even if all these ‘ifs’ are true, he is still the husband. No matter which religion one belongs to, it is accepted that the wife is the husband’s most obedient servant, his bonded labourer.

***

‘Che, che! You must not misunderstand me. God’s law says get married not just to one woman, but four. Should women give up their honour and dignity and come to the mosque? I waited for not one, but ten years. Did she give birth to even one boy? And the way she runs her mouth! Abbabbaa! Is that a sign of a woman from a respectable family? So I married another woman. So what? Should I not have? Didn’t I go visit her every time I felt like it? The other day, I was driving on the road when I saw Hasina. I dropped her off near the house in my auto itself, and placed ten rupees in her hands. Are we not humans? As a woman, if she can’t even adjust this much, then …’ Yakub said.

These are some samples of her rantings against patriarchy - there are many more. All valid, of course, but when such statements appear again and again, one starts to feel a bit bored.


The author does not condemn the religion as such, but rather, the men who have appropriated and corrupted it.

'...Why don’t scholars tell women about the rights available to them? Because they only want to restrict women. The whole world is at a stage where everyone is saying something must be done for women and girl children. But these people, they have taken over the Qur’an and the Hadiths. Let them behave as per these texts at least! Let them educate girls, not just a madrasa education, but also in schools and colleges. The choice of a husband should be hers. Let them give that. These eunuchs, let them give meher and get married instead of licking leftovers by taking dowry. Let a girl’s maternal family give her a share in the property. Let them respect her right to get divorced if there is no compatibility between the man and woman. If she is divorced, let someone come forward to marry her again; if she is a widow, let her get a companion to share her life with.’


‘Apa, Apa, what are you saying?’ Aashraf felt like she had lost her senses.


‘What I am saying is correct, Aashraf. All these rights are available for women in Islam...'

I agree with all of these. But when a piece of literature is used as a pulpit for pontification, it loses its charm.


There are some stories I liked. The Arabic Teacher and Gobi Manchuri was hilarious with its underplayed humour. Fire Rain, about a Muslim corpse mistakenly buried in a Hindu cemetery, enchanted with its biting satire. Another story I liked was The Shroud about the casual cruelties of the moneyed class towards the have-nots. But the rest were pretty much forgettable. And the title story, with its over-the-top melodrama, resembled an Indian movie from the sixties.


I have a feeling that this book won the Booker because it caters to West's Orientalist image of India and Islam. Reading this, privileged liberals in the West can lean back in their chairs and feel sympathy for the poor, backward citizens of the Third World and say to themselves: "There, but for the grace of God, go I."


Saturday, July 05, 2025

Basics of Investing

*CA S Srinivasa Raghavan*

Founder, HappyMentor.com

*This session is for educational and awareness purposes only. It does not constitute investment advice.*


 Don't try to second guess the market.


Have an advisor. Like a driver.


Have three things:

Insure first, invest next.

Have 3 investment:

1. Life Insurance

2. Medical Insurance

3. SIP


Ditto Insurance advisors.


Work for something better,but be grateful for what you have.


Key to success:


ACR. Accept the Unchangable. Remove yourself from totally unacceptable situation.

 Get out of people who can drain your energy.  Somepeople can drain and you cannot avoid. Use mudras.


 Happiness is in small things, Success is in big things, Meditation in nothing,  God is in everything.


8 Pillar Approach he would take in next session.


Inspiring Woman

 Koneru Humpy


Leena Nair


Justice Leila Sath


Indira Nooyi


Neena Gupta

 



In an industry that often shuts doors on women who don’t fit the mold,

Neena Gupta stood tall against society, judgement, and even loneliness.


In the 90s, she made a bold choice.

To raise her daughter Masaba as a single mother—without a husband, without validation, and without apology.It wasn’t just uncommon… it was unforgivable in the eyes of many.


She faced whispers.

She faced rejections from filmmakers who said:

“You’re too bold, too different, too much.”


Yet, behind those silences and slammed doors,

She was building a life full of truth, courage, and quiet love


Years later, she posted on Instagram:

“I live in Mumbai and work in good Hindi films. Looking for good parts to play.”


That one honest post opened a thousand hearts.

Today, she’s not just a star, she’s a symbol of second chances, of women rewriting their own stories 🌸


This isn’t just Neena Gupta’s journey.

It’s a message to every woman who chose herself, even when the world didn’t.


#NeenaGupta #SingleMotherStrong #RealLifeHeroine #WomenWhoInspire #MasabaMasaba

(Neena Gupta, struggle, single mother, bold choices, Masaba, rejection, strength, motherhood, Indian cinema, women empowerment, courage, second chances)