Thursday, July 13, 2006

Rate your life ......

Just tried out, Do give ur comments....

This Is My Life, Rated
Life: 7.2
Mind: 6.8
Body: 8.9
Spirit: 8.8
Friends/Family: 4.7
Love: 1.5
Finance: 6.8
Take the Rate My Life Quiz



Will your bars be shades of orange, or blue? Take the quiz and find out clicking the link...
http://www.monkeyquiz.com/life/rate_my_life.html
The Rate My Life Self-Help Quiz will ask you a number of questions and then compute your life rating. In addition, it will break down your score on the following categories: Mind, Body, Spirit, Love, Friends/Family, and Financial. Finally, it will analyze your scores. Please note that this quiz is intended for entertainment purposes only.

Your Life Analysis:

Life: Your life rating is a score of the sum total of your life, and accounts for how satisfied, successful, balanced, capable, valuable, and happy you are. The quiz attempts to put a number on the summation of all of these things, based on your answers. Your life score is reasonably high. This means that you are on a good path. Continue doing what is working and set about to improve in areas which continue to lag. Do this starting today and you will begin to reap the benefits immediately. (Read more on improving your life)

Mind: Your mind rating is a score of your mind's clarity, ability, and health. Higher scores indicate an advancement in knowledge, clear and capable thinking, high mental health, and pure thought free of interference. Your mind score is not bad, but could be improved upon. Your mental health is not weak, but you are not achieving full mental clarity and function. Learn how to unclutter your mind. Keep learning, keep improving, continue moving forward. Read advice from other quiz-takers on improving the mind.

Body: Your body rating measures your body's health, fitness, and general wellness. A healthy body contributes to a happy life, however many of us are lacking in this area. You have an excellent body score, which means you are incredibly focused on maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Continue in that focus, and your body will remain healthy and strong. Read advice from other quiz-takers on improving the body.

Spirit: Your spirit rating seeks to capture in a number that elusive quality which is found in your faith, your attitude, and your philosophy on life. A higher score indicates a greater sense of inner peace and balance. Your spirit score is dramatic. Continue on your path, do not stray. Continue to reap the rewards which your spirituality brings forth. Read advice from other quiz-takers on improving the spirit.

Friends/Family: Your friends and family rating measures your relationships with those around you, and is based on how large, healthy, and dependable your social network is. Your friends and family score suffers, yet it does not need to be this way. Strengthen your social network by reaffirming old bonds. Seek out new friendships, and they will provide you the reward you need. Try using MeetUp.com to find people near you who share your interests.

Love: Your love rating is a measure of your current romantic situation. Sharing your heart with another person is one of life's most glorious, terrifying, rewarding experiences. Your love score is very low, indicating trouble. There is love out there for you. Seek the advice of wise people on how to go about finding it. Do not lose hope. Read advice from other quiz-takers on finding and maintaining love.

Finance: Your finance rating is a score that rates your current financial health and stability. You have a rather good financial score, which is not all that common these days. Keep doing what works. Avoid common pitfalls and save for the future. You will be glad you did. Read advice from other quiz-takers on improving your finances.

Wednesday, July 12, 2006

Bomb Blast......

Once again in between 6-6.30 on the 11th of July 2006, at our own commercial capital, Mumbai…… ….8 blasts..more than 100 lives...many injured...along the western suburbs... this is really pathetic. In our very local trains that are heart of our city..The tragic memories of March 1993 blast is still fresh in our minds, and here there is once again…….

Some say all guys responsible for this heinous crime should be given very painful death, similar to what Mussolini got..Some say how much more can they fall, don't they have any soul which stops them ...... killing so many innocents, how sick minded they are

And the main disgust is that we can do nothing to find these transporters of death. Imagine what had been their mind set.. to kill innocent people...!
Lets pray .. the injured get back to normal.. very soon.... and may there be an end to all this.

It could have been anyone of us ... what do people get from this sadist behavior? Here we all are damn worried trying to call the other...n again the telephones r jammed no way to know if our loved ones are safe!!!

It's really so.... sad!! And the worst part is that we cannot do anything...it's like anyone can come and kill anybody...anywhere!!

This is with prayers 2 god 2 help all those who’ve been badly hit by this...hope all of our loved ones are safe.……

http://mumbaihelp.blogspot.com/This is really very helpful.
Circulate this link.

Please visit the following link and light an e-candle for the Mumbai Victims. For every candle lit - CNN-IBN channel is giving 1 Rupee to the victims (As per forwarded mail). : http://clients.ibnlive.com/features/mumatt/index.php


Guess now this blasts too have become a part of life of the Mumbaikars….like the rain, political disharmony etc.

U never know, the people behind may be a terrorist in Afghanistan, Pakistan or Iraq, or may be some one from the very land…….

Or can it be to distract your attention from the failure of the launch and the loss of crores of rupees………or for some other reason?????

Tabus dialogue in Fanna keep coming to my mind, and the sceanes……..Do people copy from films or are filmmakers copying from real life situations??? Its like the chicken and the egg problem…….
You can also read the message put at http://forwardsandthoughts.blogspot.com/2006/07/letter-from-bombay-salaam-bombay.html which is specially meant for attackers!!!

Monday, July 03, 2006

The shrinking world…

‘If ethical principles deny our right from doing evil that good may come, are we justified in doing good that the foreseeable consequence is evil??’ This was the question asked, with regard to invention of nuclear wepons.

Agriculture…Without that we may not be in a position to enjoy the food , as we do today…..

Weels- bullockcarts, motor vehicle, trains, airoplanes…(Raising petrol price)??? What next?? May be something like balloons….Let us float around in the air……..or make wings like birds to fly……

Communication: Pigeons, Earls, Postmans, Telegrams, telegraphs, Shortest life pager….mobile…. Telephones would be something in showcases, and a thing that can be shown to future generation as we see the grinding instruments like- Ammi, Attukal, uralu, Olaka….

Computer, internet, blog,

ORKUT…Whomsoevers brain behind it, and whatsoever the motive……Thanks…….For the last few days, that was my passion, though very busy with office work, found some time for it, so could not even update the blog….

So what do you think is the greatest invention of all times???

Foot ball world Cup mania……

Now everywhere u here about this….Most busiest persons are in front of the TV, by the time the game starts…. There are beautiful forwards….

Pepsi ad. ….Japan Penaltykick, goal….
Football ground….and spot…India…Ground empty all watching TV and passing comments….

Indeed, football is far more interesting than cricket, wherein we do not have to wait for long hours for the result, and each minute is valuable…

what numerology says: World cup magic:Brazil won 1970+1984=3964Also 1962+2002=3964Germany won 1974+1990=3964Argentina won 1978+1986=3964Now ______+2006=3964,_____=1958Who won in 1958??Brazil....

Ayooo Argentina, England, Brazil okkay poee… Germany, Portugal, France, Italy are remaining…..Now its an all European team. .. & 'Zindanes' time.....

Who would be the winner??

Runner up??

Would India every play the work cup football??- Will the plans of people like Sthyajith from GEC, work, will it be fruitful…

July st-Doctors Day! Chartered Accountants Day!!

One of the professions held in high esteem. The scope and future is as bright as any other skilled professions …..

Having spend major part of my professional career with Chartered Accountats,

Got into this profession & the foundation, in 1994, first inspiration from Sundherashwaran uncle (Raghavan Chittapans brother). 31st July 1995 (To the best of my knowledge and belief) , had joined George and Paulson Chalakudy. That was a day, moving around, not know the difference between a Sales Tax Practitioner, and a Chartered Accountant. It was Potta Mukundan Ammavan, who got me to that place. And definitely, the PUSH was from Amma.

At the time of leaving G & P, there was an interview session, from my colleagues there, then, which was as below.

Your views on CA course: Due to increase and vast expansion in commerce, business, industry and economic affairs, the scope for this profession too is expanding. There is always a need for proper accounting, and then a CA’s role is not limited to the area of accounting….The KKPP formula may rarely work here, but one should be fully determined to pass at first attempt, fully concentrating in it, never put of till tomorrow what you can do today. Appear each exam as though it is your last chance. If you want to be a CA think, act like a CA. It is Smart work, and not mere hard work that is needed. If you keep studying to acquire detailed knowledge, it would be difficult to pass…As it happened to me. Do not waste your time, you can go into details, even after passing. The first and foremost thing needed is to pass the exam, as ur here for it. In ur preprimary class you did not learn, nursery rhymes knowing the meaning. Devote full time of yours to this profession. I am sure if you devote your full time of yours to this you can pass within three years, both inter and final. Dedication & Concentration is must, Just like you put something on the horses face, so that its concentration is not diverted, do something with urself too..As u need self control here, unlike othercourses, therewould be no one to control u. It is easy to get into this, but difficult to get out. And once you get through your exams successfully, there is a charisma, additional value, in the society.

Your advise to Juniors: Without myself passing CA, I think I have got no right to advise others. But as it is something, which can be given without effort, can say this much: never let go of loyalty and faithfulness, tie them round your neck, and write them on your heart. Get wisdom, and insight. Do not abandon wisdom and she will protect you. Your education is your lifeguard well. Be careful how you think, your life is shaped by your thoughts. Never say anything that isn’t true. Don’t be ashamed to say ‘I do not know’ If you want to be a CA, think act, and be like a CA. And remember: Those who want to do everything can do nothing. To achieve something’s, you need to give up some other things.And at every walk of your life: Love selflessly, forgive willingly, share generously, serve whole-heartedly, and be responsible and accountable.

Happiest Moment: The day I joined, felt that within three years, I would be a CA, most of the days spend here, each time I met new friends/colleagues, the day I passed my degree, which was incredible, and am Thankful to God for the same. Even the last day, for having had the opportunity. But definitely the happiest day would be the day when your goal is achieved. And that has not happened.

Do you belive that failure is the stepping-stone to success: Yes, indeed. Those who fail, they with added determination and will , try to achieve success. The success may not be in the same field. But at times through failures, people realize that they are not fit to be in that field, and hence bloom in other fields of life. It is adversity that takes you to God, and sorrows, and failures help you realize the ture beauty, and taste of happiness and success in life. My sister keep telling me Sais quote: Desire what you deserve, desire is the root cause of all sorrows. Success is felt sweet, not by those who always succeed, and it is not final. With it comes added responsibilities. And to keep it is difficult.

And still a budding CA hope will bloom one day….. And will be a part of this celebration.

Motto: ‘ YA ESA SUPTESU JAGARTI, KAMAM PURSO NIRMIMANAH /
TADEVA SUKRAM TAD BRAHMA TADEVAMRTAMUCYATE /
TASMILOKAH SRITAH SARVE TADU NATYETI KASCAN/ ETAD VAI TAT/

That person who is awake in those that sleep, shaping desire after desire, that indeed, is the pure. That is Brahaman, that indeed is the immortal. In it all the worlds rest, and no one ever goes beyond it. This, verily, is that kamam kamam: Desire after desire, really objects of desire. Even dream objects like objects of walking consciousness are due to the supreme person. Even dream consciousness is a proof of the existence of the self.

No one ever goes beyond it. Of Echkart: ‘On reaching God all progress ends’

The Inner Reality…..

One untainted by egoism and unentangled, remains spiritually unaffected by acts done in discharge of duty. One discharging duties with this mental attitude is not touched by any activity.

He alone can enter the world of activity with its trials and temptations who is not afraid of it but who has already mastered it within his mind. All others had better keep away and remain untempted in peaceful hermitages of monastery retreats.

By what men fall by that they rise. The moment you become obsessed by desire to play a part in society, there is always the danger that those desire will keep you too busy to attend to quiet thought and higher study. Do what you do, but not a bit more.

Your presence is not necessary for the functioning of the universal machine.

Do not stay forever in solitude. Keep up a balance, a rhythm with the world. What you will gain and learn in your solitude you must work out in society and activity. What you work out in activity will be the test of what you have attained within your heart. You must test these inner attainments. In this way you may test continuously in a life of action, the integrity of inner achievement resulting from solitude.

Cut away the roots of a tree and the branches will wither of their own accord, so cut away the root of all vices and they disappear of themselves. We must be balanced. Throughout the events of life you must have wisdom and you must have courage.

As a man thinketh, so is he. If you begin to think steadily about what you really are in your innermost mature, the time will come when you final the answer to the question, ‘What am I?’

What you know of the universe is only your idea of it. Take an example. A copse sitting in a chair has the same physical organs as you. Why then, does he not see the things in the room? Obviously because the mind behind the sense which really perceives the universe, and not the physical organs, the eyes. But the mind, which perceives is made up of the sum total of your ideas. Therefore, it may truly be said that it is only your idea, which represents the universe. Everything exists in mind, and all ideas ultimately exist within the overself, the only thing that truly is.

When you understand that the reality of the universe is not separate from yourself, that is the very depth of yourself; you are beginning to know truth. Knowing this universal soul you will realize that it runs in you and throughout all matter. Deep enquiry is necessary to attain this realization. Having done so you know the real purpose of life. Whether you place your faith in material possession in the form of money, for instance or any other form of apparent security, you will find that the loss and gain in material life are dictated by destiny. Destiny will give and take regardless of your precautions.

Fix thy mind on one thing, be deviated to do, sacrifice for it, bow down to it. Thus steadied, to the supreme goal, you will reach it.

The most essential thing is devotion, then intelligence, which embodies the ability to discriminate between things as they appear to be and as they really are.

Next you must have wisdom, a sense of right proportion. Weigh things well and learn how to give up the fleeting for the eternal. You also need patience, for you are searching for something, which is very subtle. Your patience must be marvelous. Never give up your quest for truth. Learn to value it above everything.

Self-restrain is the next requirement. Bring your body and thoughts under some degree of self-control. You will have to fight yourself because you have built up habits throughout your incarnations, which have shaped your personality. You must learn to resist them and to declare, ‘These habits are not I, they are of the mind and body.’

You must have calmness. Try to be calm in life, especially in the midst of activity, the time when you most need it. Practicing calmness you will find that it brings you other virtues.

While experiencing pleasures and pains, do not be afraid, nor run away from it, nor should you identify yourself with it.

Gradually you will begin to develop sixth sense. Learn to cultivate endurance and indifference to fame and shame. No one can hurt you, no one can injure you. Cultivate indifference to fame and flattery. See life in all creatures.

Gambler, mystic, crook and saints all are looking for one and the same thing, though all have different ideas of what constitutes it. For example: Gambler wants money, and thus happiness…….Saint wants peace and thus happiness……

The ultimate thing for which all life searches is happiness, and it may be found only in the ourself.

Stilling of your mind is very much required. For this the qualities needed are humility, noninjury (helpfulness and compassion), patience, uprightness, service of the teacher, purity, steadfastness and self-control.

If you are enslaved by external objects it is difficult for you to direct the mind into that calm state which it needs in order to find truth.

The gift that is given at a wrong place or time, to unworthy persons, without respect or with insult, is declared to be dictated by ignorance. Use your talents given by God. Do not make a spiritual or intellectual gift to a person who is not ready. If you give instructions to someone who is not ripe for this quest of truth you are being foolish. Cast not thy pearl before swine.
The highest type of action is that which is free from attachment and is therefore a form of spiritual activity. To understand nature is to understand the forces, which are driving man to action. Resorting to a sequestered spot, eating moderately, speech and body and mind subdued, always engaged in action and concentration, endued with dispassion.

The mind must be restrained and brought to its own place in the heart. Self-enquiry is an intellectual exercise in the beginning, but one that leads ultimately to the abolishing of intellects tyranny. You must learn to say no to your thoughts, to refuse continuance of the very process of thinking itself, to reject the endless upheavals of intellect and final peace.

If you find people devoted to the truth, who are seeking for it, and ripe to understand it, then you may teach it to them, for it is your duty. If you do that, you will be rewarded.

If you realize your divine self, you will then automatically demonstrate prosperity, perfect health and everlasting good fortune. You can react to the misfortune of losing all that you love and possess by taking it calmly. You can say, ‘another cycle of my life is finished, and I must begin a new cycle, I will therefore readapt myself to the new cycle without fear. I will do everything that common sense counsels to mend matters, meet results.’ Or in a state of deep depression, believing that you are finished, that life has no future hope for you, you can commit suicide. Both attitudes are the expression of your own choice, but the happenings what you face is one and the same for the two moods.

The chief beneficial contribution of the cults is their encouragement of courageous moods rather than cowardly ones. The movement of today, which set out professedly to spiritualize materialism, has merely succeeded in materializing spirituality. Whether the truth is painful or pleasurable. Let us love truth. Let us accept truth for its own sake. Truth is so like a proud and exclusive lady that she will never give herself to you unless you seek her for her own sake. We here always of the success, they are achieved by the powers of the over mind. We should not fall into black magic and hypnotism. Concentrate hard enough and long enough in your activities.

Trust in the overself. Surrender yourself to it and you will find relief. You will have lost your burdened self, and whatever comes, even death, you will accept. For to know your overself is the hidden reason for your existence. Out of sufferings even beautiful things will be shown to you. Something of the eternal spirit will come to you.
If you want peace of mind, give up fault finding. Learn to accept everyone as your own. No one is alien to you, the whole world is yours. In other words, my favourate quote…There is so much of good in the worst of us, and so much of bad in the best of us, that it ill behoves any of us, to find fault with the rest of us. Also happiness and sorrow are mere states of minds, it takes equal amount of effort to be happy as to be sad.

Thursday, May 18, 2006

People come into your life ...........

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. But at times its too late, when we realise a person is which one…….When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

I had met with an accident in January, near our office, from scooty, and it was one of the guy from next office of ours who took us to hospital, as the girl sitting behind me was from their office. Week before last, he returned from spain, had gone onsite from his office, and Tuesday, he commited suicide, killed himself on a railway track...He was a smart, intelligent, boy..Only one son, of well to do family.Thats sad!! But its not to tell, nothing is in our hands We are not to see only those sad parts or shocing sides, some say, v make our own fortune and call it fate;) Happiness and sorrow are mere states of mind, it takes equal amount of effort to be happy as to be sad. It was just the thought of a fraction of second that made him do that, if he had someone to share his grief with, at that juncture, he would have not done that…..
For him that was the end of the gift called life on this earth, and for others…life goes on………He had come into my life for a reason?? There are so many such people…..

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!

Specially my school, friends, and those with me for academic studies, some of them are often remembered, some are not remembered that often, but is there deep in my heart, some are forgotten……
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant

Who are my lifetime friends cannot be said right now, as I am still living…. when I had put on my msn, Nothing lasts for ever, someone said, Friendship lasts for ever- At this I remember a quote which says: sometimes, my eyes get jelous of my heart, u know why? Some always remain close to our heart, but away from our eyes.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, and the last is rare, Moreover, even life- it don’t last for ever….

Thank you all my dear friends, for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Thursday, May 11, 2006

Ginkoo, Rinkoo and Tinkoo :)





















Once upon a time there were three best friends named Ginkoo, Rinkoo and Tinkoo. Their favorite pass time is to go around shopping, chatting, seeing movies, roaming in a junk car, haa forgot sometimes working in office.

Suddenly there came a big brake, Rinkoo got married and went to Europe. So our poor Ginkoo and Tinkoo had to continue with their same routine passing time.

One more big change, Ginkoo also got married, but luckily she is still in Asia but in different place.

So our frustrated Tinkoo came to America for better living.

What now, Lives have changed, no shopping together:( no movies together:( .. Full day mails mails mails between these friends:) I guess this is what finally happens to all of us.

When the days are passing like that, Our Tinkoo's birthday came. So Ginkoo, Rinkoo decided to give a surprise to Tinkoo. So nice na these friends are. There comes the big master plan designed by Ginkoo and Rinkoo and they assigned this task to a third party junk fellow to implement.

What happened next?? "Happy Birthday Tinkoo" with a gift from best friends Ginkoo and Rinkoo:).

So moral of the story is : 3 best friends cannot do anything with out a third party junk fellow... Suman ...Wonderful writer too, Thanks......

Tuesday, May 09, 2006

Thottappilly Familay Welfare Association get together on 7th may 2006.

It began with Nalaman lighting the lamp, and the prayer song by Aparana, Vasumans daughter. Both ammumas where there. Then an old wedding photo was shown, guess it was Ravimans marriage photo, and a boy circled, and asked who it was. Audience wiere given 10 minutes time, It was Kodakara Anni chettan, and the winner was Amma. There was a good photo of every one of Thottappilly family, which was put there. Then from Gayathree (Gokulan chettans daughter), adhu and so on many, all children, started singing solo songs. I reached when the songs where going on..Then there was sports, potato raise and lemon and spoon for children, lemon raise and candle raise for grown ups. In potato race Sanker was first, and Krishnaindu second, so it was said, they are running with potatoes to fathers hotel….In lemon race Jayaammai was first and had price for musical race too….. Anthakshery was well organized by Ajitha……There were different rounds like 1. an alphabet was picked, and people singing, 2. Aju sang a song, and from it, others continued, 3. One word was picked and audience were asked to sing a song related to it (situation). 4. Name of an actor and actress (pair) was given, and audience were asked to sing a song, in which they are there.There were four groups, and the winner was Sujatha ammai and party. Then we had lunch. After that there was Quiz competation…four group again, conducted by Kishapens wife Remya. and the losser with minimum point was my team, winner, as usual was Sreerags team. Soon after that, Suji, Deeru, Manu and Sreerag went to Thrissur, for Pooram, it was pooram. Then there was musical chair, and finally meeting as usual. For next year, they have put me in the executive committee. After that prize distribution, it is decided that one girl and one boy, highest scorer in 10th be given prize every year. Also scholarship for deserving and needy of Rs. 750/- included Vaishak in it. Pen was given to those who did not get any price- including me J Thus most of them had prizes and gifts in their hands, some even 4-5. Though there were some sorrows, in between competitions, and some had not come, in all there was smiles, unity. Newly wedded introduced themselves, Sudhi Reshmi & Kishapens wife Remya, Kishapen is gone to South Africa. Deepuman dropped us at Potta, ammuma retuned home after long time, and Januammuma went to Kakkanad. I asked ammuma if it is enough for her staying with janu ammuma she said no...Guess it was for the first time ammumas attended this…though it was the sixth year. Pooja cash still not given by money, though most of them had got the advantage out of it, plots unsold, had been sold, houses built, marriages over, blessed with child, etc. in the last year. Also Ammumas family photo was being sold for Rs. 100/- Me created another blog, www.thottappilly.blogspot.com. Hope it would be a success too.

Thought for the day:
Could see happiness in most of the faces at the end of the day, though many were reluctant to attend….Life is only traveled once…2 days moments become 2morrows memories…Enjoy every day good or bad, as the gift of life..
Remember, those who choose to be at peace, must help their others to be at peace, those who choose to live well must help their others to live well. And those who choose to be happy, must help others to find happiness, The value of a life is measured by the lives it touches…..

Saturday, May 06, 2006

Anger is only one letter short of ‘D’anger

You cannot ignore people, small or big ,under any circumstances ......

Any person who sacrifices, all down the ages, has to suffer. It has been proved that men and women of great power and personality who have triumphantly helped a group of people, indirectly have also ignited jealousy and hatred among another group, may it be your blood relation or otherwise. Meaning thereby if you want to show your benevolence, you have to continue to do it 100% till you last on this earth. For e.g. In a joint family if one brother does take care of the family and takes charge of all for 11 months 15 days in a year, the family members will take it as routine. But if he does not for 15 days, they will point out as well as describe vividly of his 15 days inaction. On the other hand if one brother does not do anything for same 11 months 15 days, even if he does a little here and there for last 15 days, that will be glorified by the family members and recognized in the society. In a broader spectrum, Jesus Christ, Joan of Arc, Mahatma Gandhi and likes have been targeted by the society to have a painful death even if they have given the best of their lives in the interest of the society It is a group of people whose interest is affected by the inaction of the person at the command, who react negatively to the situation. Thus perhaps the celebrities ,rich and famous are not only responsible for their actions that they take, but also are accountable for the inaction and the indifference that they manifest unconsciously or subconsciously to their near and dear ones.

Now take the case of Mahajans, one has to see if he has been accountable for the inaction that he did either consciously or subconsciously for which he has paid the price.He reportedly muttered after the shot.. ."what sin I have committed?" While Praveen says that he regrets but does not repent, he can only explain this riddle. Perhaps the learning point for all of us is you can not ignore people, small or big ,under any circumstances. Prabhavati Mahajan their mother, stayed inside crying for the eldest son, who left home never to return, and the youngest who never showed up.

The Mahajans were simple, Venkatesh and Prabhavati, their three sons and two daughters. Venkatesh Mahajan (Father a school master) died of a heart attack in 1972. Soon after Pramod took his graduation degree, he began teaching at the local village school to make ends meet. Being the eldest of the siblings, it is said that "He brought up his brothers and sisters like his own children,"He began his political career as a pracharak in the Rashtriya Swayamsewak Sangh in the early 70s and went to jail in the emergency years. After that, there was no looking back. Pravin was barely nine, said family members, when Pramod Mahajan had to assume the role of father figure.As for property — a factor that is said to have been a bone of contention — the Mahajans owned 10 to 12 acres of agricultural land in Osmanabad and a plot of land in their hometown Ambejogai. Both properties were later donated to an educational institution.It is said, that, Pravin Mahajan’s relationship with his famous elder brother Pramod, who brought him up after their father Venkatesh Mahajan’s death, was strained in recent times. Pravin wife Sarangi, two children, Kapil and Vrushali the twins, students of Standard XII , were living unobtrusively in Jhanja Apartments at Damani estate in Thane for a decade. The couple's friends said Pravin had taken his family out for dinner on Friday. He left home before dawn on Saturday without informing his wife.He left Thane, some 35 kms away, around six in the morning. He reached worli almost half past seven, and then the fatal incident of him shooting three bullet on his own brother……The news papers said, Praveen told the police, he shot his brother as he was ‘boiling with anger’, for the past several days, as the BJP leader was ignoring him, and in prison, on hearing the news of Pramods death, he just smiled.In this Kaliyug as have read….its truly happening….brother killing brother….hope there would be peace everywhere…..Hope such incidents don’t happen again….. Pramod Mahajan was called the Laxman of BJP…

Most happening politicians, or national leaders, either meet with an accident or is assassinated?? Mahatma Gandhi, Indira Gandhi, Rajeev Gandhi….Let that be….Then there are accidents….too which are unforgettable are that of Madhavrao Scindia , and Rajesh Pilot…Untimely ones… Live this alone..this day politics…Take the case of Sree Krishna or Rama or Laxmana…Remember how Laxmana died??


Thought for the day: The extreme case of infatuation which turns to be hatred in an unusual condition, the human mind works at the highest level of energy, either positive or negative. Anger is only one letter short of ‘D’anger….. You can not ignore people, small or big ,under any circumstances.

Just the next day, there was an article by T.J.S. George, Indian Express, 7th May 2006, which came as an answer to the above question which was:

IT was the finality of event, more than the horror of its circumstance that made each departure a turning point in the nations history. Each death was a reminder of the powerful hold of individuals on our country. Surely history is not a distillation of rumours but a play of personalities. Now another player is suddenly gone….How death changes the course of history! Sanjay Gandhi’s death instantly altered the fortunes of the Indira Gandhi family and, with that, the dynastic destiny of India. If Madhav Rao Scindia and Rajesh Pilot had not died in their prime, would the Congress party be what it is today? If Indira and Rajiv Gandhi had not been killed?

Thought for the day: Death is common to all, and nothing lasts for ever…….Just the way differs......Everything is planned.......To quote Shakespear, the world is a stage, and all men and women mere players.....

Friday, April 21, 2006

Happy Vishu!!! Veega tour....


On Vishu day, Jalaja chitta, and all from their house had come home.

Next day, i.e. Saturday, when amma & me had gone to Chalakudy, Sindhu cheechi, children, their relative, Rajan & Sulekaha, had come home, then Raghu cheetan brought saree for amma, and shirt for achan. At night, Remanammi, ammavan, Rajesh & Binesh had come, they too brought shirt and mundu . Rajesh gave Dakshina to ammuma, Arvi uncles amma (ammai ) she was very happy.………

God willing, and courtesy to many, we had a wonderful Veega trip/get together..On Saturday, the day before the trip, Sreerag called and said, it would be good if we book some vehicle, say quails, as next day it was Easter and there would be great rush in the bus. So started looking out for it, and finally achan arranged for the same. First Shalu reached, then, Deeru & ammu reached, then Raghee & Sreerag, then Manu & Santhu, and finally at night Suji. the night before the tour, Shashiman called on Dheerus mobile....and he spoke one by one to all....u know even to me......He asked me, tour is by u.. I said no amma & Thara, he then called on landline and spoke to amma and asked about u too..... but amma dont know if was sleeping did not speak :-( So good if there is love and peace everywhere...always......

Next day morning i.e. 16th, we left home at 9.0 clock, took a shirt for George Kutty, as he had been giving so much of free passes, and discounts….Boys brought T shirts and trousers from down, before entering the park, collect tickets at 10.30, and got in by 10.45. First all of us went to the dry rides section, which is on the top, started with caterpiller ride, and then to Kuttusan kotta (Balarama village ) Its a new attraction, based on that story.http://www.veegaland.com.html , everybody did not get onto all the rides……we had chocobars, and then luch at 2.00, at 2.30 saw the musical fountain show, and then when we started enjoying the water rides, the group of eleven got separated….kept things in the locker., and enjoyed water rides till 6.45. then again all met, played at wonder splash, had tea, got a top of you and left at 7.30. Boys changed near the quails, and by the time we left veegaland it was 7.45. Yes indeed, the trip too was G.W. good. with no elders around.... Hey!!! But now we r not children, right………I got down at the hostel. Suji and Santhu went home, as they had to go to office the next day. Raghee left to Trivandrum, others had dinner at Jancy aunty I(Godu/solus house, as it was easter) and it being hartal, even on the next day till evening all were at home. But it was worth the happiness that was seen on each persons face.....There is no greater joy, nor greater reward than to make a postive fundamental difference in someones life............

Also it was Vasumans house warming on that day, and at night 10 pm. Janu ammuma reached home. But since we had Veega tour, and I got down at hostel, could not meet them.

Pro: Happy get together….All happy………..

Con: For me no much salary still Leave , + Time……lost……

Need: Unity, Happiness and Cooperation - this togetherness always!!!

Definitely muttachen would have been happy to see all his grandchildren together..Thanks to my achan, who says for parents and grandparents happiness children should get together and forget quarells...someone on that day said, together-only all children!! Though now grown up...

God, forgive them who do not know the important of relations made by God, and wants to break them!!!

Good to hear postive remarks, am sure everyone had enjoyed it, and instead of things improving from then, nothing happened?? Was it because of brainwashing?? Or what went wrong??...when there are some who, leave alone doing things for other around, boost of how often their kids have visited these place, and when their ammavan took them, had brought dress for them.........What do they want to convey?? We didnot buy dress? Or they had to buy?


Kuch pana hey thoo kuch khona hey…….

Friday, March 24, 2006

"The Best Things in Life Aren't Things"

It's been said that success is getting what you want, but happiness is wanting what you get. Or to put it another way: Perspective, next to money, is the easiest thing to lose.

So, by all means, seek to increase your charisma. Try to become the most effective person you can be. Work at making a good first impression and projecting a positive image-but also try to retain self-awareness.

Look around you; think how you appear to others; be alert to the impression you're creating, or trying to create. If you try too hard to impress, or make a big to-do of the grand gesture, or come on too strong or too insensitively, you'll often end up creating a negative impression.

Also another thing is that, there is always a feeling, that well dressed means, with lots of makeup, or latest fashion, no. As Kapil Dev says in an advertisment, simplicity main eak adbuth shakti hey.

The best impression and the surest way to charisma often just means putting others first. It's been reported that one New York cab driver, for example, makes $30,000 more a year in tips alone than other cabbies. Why? Because he offers passengers a choice of several newspapers, cold drinks, or fresh fruit. He asks them what kind of music they'd prefer, and otherwise does his best to make his customers comfortable. In hectic, brusque Manhattan, his small acts of decency make him stand out.

Thus, folks with the most effective images often are those who are the least obtrusive about it. In fact, sometimes it's a simple act or gesture of courtesy-like announcing your first and last name when you see someone who may possibly have forgotten them-that burnishes your image, that really sets you pleasantly apart. Or maybe it's a short note of thanks for some favor. Or saying something nice and genuine about someone in front of his or her boss.

If never made, these gestures probably wouldn't be missed; that's why they're so obvious when you make them. In other words, being a genuinely good person, who cares about others and who does things because they are the right things to do, may be the ultimate key to increasing your personal magnetism, or charisma.

Always do right because, as Mark Twain said, that will gratify some people and astonish the rest.

Divine Design By God.....

There was a small boy who came to ask his mumma wether he can go and play.His mumma was sitting on a sofa and was emboidering.As the child was very small and could hardly reach till his mumma’s knee so saw that emboidery from below.All he could make out was a jumble of colourful threads which was not at all pleasing.He said to his mumma,”what are you doing? It looks so filthy. Why are you wasting time on this filthy work? What will you do with it?” and after remembering that for what he had come, asked again,”Please may I go to play”.His mumma replied,”Yes you can go to play. But be careful and come back before dark. Don’t be late because you know that I love you so I am concerned for you. And what I am doing is not finished yet, so when you will return after play then I’ll show you”.The child goes off to play and returns back before dark.He finds his mother still sitting on the sofa making that emboidering and out of shear curosity runs towards her and demands her to show him what she was doing.His mumma picks him up and makes him sit on her lap and shows him the emboidery from above. It was a beautiful ROSE.The boy got a shock of his life. The emboidery which was seeming nothing else other than a jumble of colourful threads which looked filthy and dull from below was actually a BEAUTIFUL ROSE which was nothing else than PERFECT.Then the boy told mumma that I was really stupid to think the work you were doing was filthy and nothing else than unplanned criss-cross of colourful threads but in actual its simply DIVINE.His mumma answered that you looked the emboidery from your side and hence made an impression on your mind of it to be so but you actually didn’t see the true side which was towards me.

This STORY is a personification of our relationship with GOD. What ever we do or think is limited by our vision and is incaptive of our unknown Destiny and so take the result to be immadiate, insantaneous & final and hence mourn for it . But HE is the ONE who actually makes it. Whatever bad happens with us we feel it was a dark shade of our live as not being able to view the whole picture. But when GOD makes US sit on HIS lap to view the whole picture then we realise that how beautifully those dark shades were woven with bright ones to make that DIVINE DESIGN. SO WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON AND HAPPENS FOR GOOD BECAUSE GOD LOVES US AND IS CONCERNED FOR US.

We always live seeing one side of our life which is basically the past and the present. But the actual picture of our live can only be viewed if we could know all of them our past, present and future. We can just make guesses of our future for our decisions like “if we do this then this will happen to make me happy” but in actual it “would” or “would not” lies in the hand of our future. So there is only ONE who can see the true picture WHO knows our past, present and future. And you know him well because HE is the ONE………..Above you to BLESS you.Below you to SUPPORT you.Before you to GUIDE you.Behind you to PROTECT you.Beside you to COMFORT you.&Inside you to SUSTAIN you.

So, when ever you don’t find a solution to your problems and feel that you have lost control over life and actually can’t do anything to change the circumstances ………….. then trust me that GOD is near by and he is making a DEVINE DESIGN for “YOU”.SO LEAVE EVERYTHING ON GOD AND WAIT FOR YOUR CHANCE TO VIEW THAT DEVINE DESIGN !SO HAVE FAITH !

Thought for the day: Dar Badar Bhatakane Se Kya Hota Hai, Wahi Hota Hai, Jo Munzoore Khuda Hota Hai....

Saturday, March 18, 2006

Dreams…….


Whilst skies are blue and bright,
Whilst the calm hours creep,
You are always there my darling,
Making heaven out of hell and caring..

You make me reach at stations,
Which are not my destinations,
Over the seas of imagination,
I have no clarifications.

Taking hold of my illusions,
You give smiles of joy and tears of woe,
But they are deceitful shine and flow,
You are but a fleeting show…

Dark is the island with solitude,
With no response to joy and mourn,
But you are always there my darling,
From birth to death and dawn to dustk.

No wonder why great men say,
‘Life is but an empty dream’
For you are just like her,
Soon passing away to nothingness….


Thought for the day: Without dreaming you cannot achieve anything & just keep dreaming also can’t help you in achieving anything. But when you convert your Dream into Desire, then Dare (go for it) & Do It, nobody can stop you from achieving success. But while using these four words together in life for success remember "never take wrong path to fulfill your dreams."
Some people like my advice so much that they frame it upon the wall instead of using it.---------Gordon R. Dickson.

(Again this was written for VAST Poetry competition on 3rd March 2001)

The Black Day

Sitting in my armchair as I do on this day, every year, I asked to myself ‘Why did this happen to me?’ From the 15th of March 1980, I was all alone in this vide world. ‘Who is responsible for all this?’

Right from my childhood I was a boy who always revolted against injustice. Whenever I found things going wrong, I lost my self-control. My mother always used to advise me ‘Dear Son, be at peace or it will one day lead you to danger’. I was an active participant of every activity since childhood. The child in me grew into a boy and the boy into a man. With the fleeting of the time things did change, but my basic nature did remain the same. In 1978 I got married to a beautiful beloved of mine and in 1979 a child was born.

It was at this time emergency was declared and then next ruling party lost its majority, the opposition formed the government for the first time in the history of India. Political instability and hence turmoil and the desire for revenge prevailed throughout.

Whatever one party declared, the other opposed, this lead to unrest and soon took the form of strike. Strike became part and parcel of daily life. That year, on the 10th of March 1980, budget was declared and there was a rise in the prize of diesel. My friend then a bus owner, and an active participant of the opposition government brain washed me and entrusted me with the task of stopping all the vehicles from running on the 14th and 15th of March 1980. It was my first political leadership and I was enthusiastic. Various groups were formed, and posted at different places to stop the vehicle, on the 14th of march the strike was successful and my joy knew no bound on my success. I was over confident.

On the 15th of March, I got up early in the morning. It was my sons first birthday. The day seemed to be very beautiful. Each little flower that opened, and each little bird that sang, had a bewitching beauty. My wife, son and myself went to the nearby temple offered our prayers for long, peaceful and successful life and returned home. Then I got ready to participate in the strike. My wife asked me: ‘Dear, why do you want to spoil this beautiful day, by simply quarrelling and creating unrest’. I said, ‘ you wont understand, it’s a mans job’. You take care of the child; I will be back by 4 pm.

In the afternoon, I heard that a car was stopped from running but as the driver paid no heed, and was in a hurry, the young leaders threw stone at the car, which hit the driver’s head. The driver in the car lost control dashing at a near by tree, died on the spot, a lady and a child at the back seat were seriously injured. I reached that spot immediately.

To my dismay I found my child lying dead and my wife unconscious, with her head seriously injured. I was spellbound and knew not what to do. A few of my friends took them to the nearby hospital and there I realized that my child fell from the cradle, and the hand that rocked the cradle, full of woe asked my neighbours to take them to the nearby hospital. But then soon she too passed away.

My life lost its meaning. I had lost two precious things in my life. Words of my mother echoed my ears. May be if I was at home on that day, I could have saved my wife and child. I knew not what to do. But realized that doing what you like is freedom, and liking what you do is happiness. To lead a happy life in the long run, I had to be tolerant and understanding. We had broken the shackles of slavery in the year 1947, but the march for real freedom continued.

I wanted to bring about a change, in the present system and felt that it was my duty to see to it that no more families face such a situation as I did, in the past. With no one of me around, I started working in this direction. Strikes of Japan came to my mind where, on declaring strike, in a shoe factory, workers produced shoes just for one leg, thereby causing no unrest, keeping up productivity, and meeting their demand.

I field a case in the high court for the abolition of strike where I failed my case and losing it, I went to Supreme Court. Yesterday the case was in my favour. But I think did I gain something or lose…. Anyway the fight for real freedom still continues…


(This story is mere fictional, and any resemblance to any person, living or done, is mere coincidental…It was written for the story writing competition of vast on 4th March 2001.)

Thought for the day: LIFE is the first gift, LOVE the second, and UNDERSTANDING the third…ANGER is only one letter short of DANGER…

Democracy

Right from the evolution of human beings there evolved two traditions spiritual and technical, and there is a form of government governing the people. A quick glimpse from the stone age to date, reveals monarchy, dynasty rule, priest and common men and landlords & tenants often trying to put forth that they are right and thus proving their superiority, or getting things done.

Today the main form of governments that we see the world over is either democracy or military rule. Dynasty rule and monarchy is also seen at places. But democracy is largely accepted.

Democracy is a form of government in which the supreme power is vested in the people collectively and is administered by them or the officers appointed by them. Abraham Lincoln has aptly defined democracy as the government of the people, for the people and by the people. Sanjay Gandhi, in an interview taken by Uma Vasudev and published in The two faces of Indira Gandhi aptly says that by democracy one does not mean the freedom to destroy everything there is in a country but the freedom to built a country. Every individual in a democratic country has the freedom of expression and has many fundamental rights as against that seen in countries with presidents rule or military rule.

In the year 1947, India achievd freedom, but it became a sovereign socialist republic only in the year 1950. This was accepted keeping in mind the great population and limited space in India.

One of the basis of democracy is the recognition of equality of rights and privileges to all people. And for its success its important that all should practice ‘equality’ and be disciplined, to make use of the things given to them. A person should not discriminate people and ideologies. ‘Respect others, not only our faith’. This is a very important factor. One should not think that only his views or ideas are right and others are wrong. Men should not consider women to be intellectually stagnant, physically weak and economically a parasite. Each should remember that there is so much of good in the worst of us, and so much of bad in the best of us, that it ill behoves any of us, to find fault with the rest of us.

Each individual should be conscious of the activities going on around him for the success of democracy. Moreover one should solve problems by peaceful means and country should be free from economic insecurity.

At times we wonder if it is democracy, or dynasty rule that is found here......Its SUNNY DAYS FOR SONS.............Whether it be politics, profession, or Bollywood............It is a matter of great shame that in India democratic principles are married by ghastly incidents like corruption at all levels especially in the top bureaucracy, assassination of our great leaders etc. moreover irrespective of her-Indias rich & varied heritage and great many natural resources, she is in the clutches of poverty, unemployment, communal disharmony etc. Plutocracy and not democracy is seen to be ruling our country today though she is the biggest democracy in the world. Hoping that in the future with the infusion of time, talent, imagination, money and manpower, India will emerge as a super power. It is a matter of great pride for all of us, to see, unity in diversity here, with many numbers of languages, religion, and people, rich and varied heritage, geographical, and cultural differences.

To quote Rabindranatha Tagore: 'It is not the parliamentary system that guarantees democracy in a state, but certain specific virtue in the citizens namely, courage to stand up for ones right, tolerance of opposition, moderation in passion and a sense of humour which refuses to take a politician at his face value. No people who lack these virtue can ever be democratic whatever their political institution.'

The essay written for essay writing competition held by VAST on 26th March 2001.

Tuesday, March 14, 2006

Impossible itself says I’m Possible-Whether it be life or cricket…….

ABSOLUTELY AWESOME was Sunday the 12th March 2006 for the cricket fans….around the world…Not only in South Africa, Australia or India…….

The ecstatic South Africans starred in the end-game as the home team chased down a world record 434 posted by Australia. Powered by Herschelle Gibbs's 175, the South Africans raced to an improbable 438 for 9 to win the fifth ODI with a ball to spare and clinch the series 3-2. It was a remarkable day when a world record 872 runs were scored, at the Wanderers in The City of Johannesburg the most populous city in South Africa on Sunday. (The SA 438 Vs Aus 434 match)

The previous highest scoring ODI was the one in which India beat Pakistan by five runs in Karachi where 693 runs were scored. Also I remember have watched another exciting match between India and Bangladesh, then periodic super runs by Ajay Jadeja and Azharuddin, but nothing like that on Sunday….It was Eak se badkar eak…..a true team effort…..Indeed, the strength of a chain is determined by its weakest link, and in the match on Sunday, there was no weakest link……….It was indeed something incredible, unbelievable.


Some play cricket for fun, for some it is another game of sport, for others it’s a matter of supremacy, for some it’s a matter of pride, for some it is life, for some, it is the way to make money. The Match-fixing (cricket) , the headlinegrabber scams, have brought down the interest in cricket from the minds of many.

Cricket like most other sports, is not just a game, but an art, which involves a skillful portrayal of ones talent, and an extraordinary display of hand-eye coordination, accuracy, power, ability, and attitude…….Concentration, is the key for success.......

When I had been engrossed in watching cricket, next day at office, Our sir asked me, “By the way have you heard of a movie called iqbal., directed by a person called Nagesh Kukunoor, of the hyderabad blues fame, it was a kind of Hinglish movie, about a deaf and dumb peson who wants to become a cricketer, and he finally becomes successful, very touching………. To add to the cricket mania this movie too was shown on Sony Max on Sunday……”

Some how I missed it, it is a movie, worth watching………teaching you many things……….


As most Indians are obsessed with the game of cricket, Sports-based themes are seen in Bollywood films like Chamatkar, Lagan and now Iqubal.

Nagesh Kukunoor's IQBAL not only looks at the sport and the politics that come with it IQBAL works due to [a] Straight-out-of-life setting, [b] Never-say-die spirit [c] Strong undercurrent of emotions throughout [d] the footage devoted to the training [Naseer-Shreyas] and [e] Expert performances by every member of the cast.

Cricket is the religion, of Iqbal, and he aspires to join the Indian cricket team some day. Iqbal faces obstacles at every step. His father dislikes cricket. Iqbal has no means or financial help to undergo training. But his school-going sister [Shweta Prasad] encourages him to pursue his dreams. Subsequently, Iqbal convinces a village drunkard, Mohit [Naseeruddin Shah], to coach him. But the road to victory is far from rosy. The rival coach [Girish Karnad] acts as a major impediment. But Iqbal overcomes all obstacles in the end. The constant bickering at home, the relationship between Iqbal and his father, mother and sister, the clandestine training sessions, the dirty politics that the budding cricketer faces and the finale -- these are moments that cannot be erased from your memory!


Also on this day, Indian cricket team, edged ahead on penultimate day, at Mohali, India, Weather permitting and God willing, where, a test between India, and England, wending its way to a weather-blighted draw, shook off and transformed on Sunday. After only 65 overs of play were possible on the first two days, due to bad lights, and drizzling rain, middle Saturday gave a little teaser. Holiday crowd was treated to an even better fourth day that has set things up rather nicely. Dravid considered one of the finest practitioners of his art, conceived some memorable strokes, but for the 9th time was dismissed in nervous 90’s scoring 95 runs. Then things began to happen. Anil Kumble scalped three as England spluttered to 112 for five. India wrenched a 38-run lead from England's jaws. India won the test the next day. The opening match of the three-test series ended in a draw in Nagpur last week. Just the day before, accolades poured in for leg spinner Anil Kumble who became the first Indian to claim 500 wickets in the second cricket Test against England at Mohali. It was Kapil who held the Indian record with 434 before the Karnataka bowler surpassed him during a Test against Bangladesh in 2004. The man of the match was Anil Kumble for having taken 9 wickets, and in Indian express on 14th March 2006, there was an article saying Is Kumble a keralite, Lok Sabha debate????? Laugh, and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone……. Do you remember Ganguly- Saurav?? For Dravid, the win proved, the five bowler theory right. Best Wishes to him, and our cricket team...........And to all.............

Thought for the day: Thinks are not what you feel it to be……. Impossible itself say I’m Possible-Whether it be life or cricket…….So let us then be up and living, with a heart for any race……Desire, dream Do………Mission, Vision, Action…….Act!!! Only when you start doing something, you will reach your goal…..

Monday, March 13, 2006

“cause people are never happy in ...............”-27.1.05

Every body has dreams, plans and goals, when it is met, they feel happy. When they see hindrance to it, they are sad.

In organizations and management, this comes under motivation. Though not a management graduate, there are things that experience and life teaches us.

Different people look for different things. The needs of people vary and Abraham Maslow had put forth this as:


1.Basic needs: (security, Food, cloth, money), Safety needs (security), Social needs (Affiliation), Ego (Esteem), Self Actualisation needs.


To be more precise, some work for money, (to meet their basic needs), some because they need to show them selves off in the society, some because they love to work.

All have needs, though not the same, and therefore their attitude, desire and view vary, which are more or less like, steps, satisfaction of one need leads to the next, and so on. Every people look for different things, and in whatever levels a person is, they may have, professional and personal lives, and each life of theirs they have their own plans and desires.

As management do not like having surprises, even the employees, do not like hearing surprises.
It is really frustrating for the female employees, to know that they need to compulsorily work, even when, they are not feeling well or when they have whole weeks work planned kept pending at home. For men too they have their weekend plans, to be completed. Especially married, people are more frustrated when they do not have understanding employers because, they have to keep a balance between their personal and professional life, more than the bachelors/spinsters need. Removing an employee, with neither one months notice, nor salary for one month, have really demotivated the employees, in the sense, now they have begun to feel that there is no safety in working here, and the employers here will leave them at any time with no prior notice. When they ask me I just ask them could you give me the guarantee that you will not die today? But I know this is a harsh question, which some may not like to hear. Moreover it is funny to see that employees need to sent a leave letter, for a holiday……….

What the employees expect are:
1.Meaningful and interesting job.- Employees are here to work and not to plan, All things cannot be delegated, Planning has to be done by the top management, and once tasks assigned, there should not be constant change in priorities, what is said, urgent and they are made to work sitting late hours, they would like to see it implemented, or next time, when they are given, some important urgent task, they would be reminded of the old problems. There need to be planned and specific, goals & objectives.
2.Career advancement. This could be by job enlargements, job enrichments,
3.Supportive top management. -Generally it is said, follow the leader. Practice is better than precept. People work better and best for those, whom they see working. Not always shouting and creating problems work.
4.Participative decision-making- No doubt decisions are to be made by the top management, they need to make the employees, understand the requirements, preferably documented, but they would have a sense of satisfaction, when they are consulted in decision making. For example in project plans, dates have to be determined, by top management, and then consulted with subordinates for confirmation.



Motivation Carrots Rewards Monetary

Sticks Punishments Non Monetary.

This works if and only if:
a. Emphasis is more on carrots.
b. Sticks are to be administered skillfully and sparingly.

Many organizations cannot demarcate between the two, many a times what is implemented as a motivator turns out to be a demotivator in the long run. But decisions like, time, once made would lead to additional costs, to the company when reverted. For example is the performance appraisal. Now a days many organizations are suffering because of this decision made few years back. Once on the basis of good performance, a good increment is given to some employees, others are left behind. They how much so ever better they perform, cannot, easily earn the level of the first person, because, he in the future, if doest work, even a small increase, would be substantial for him. This is not only with respect to the monetary benefits but also with regard to the status, position and designation. In give the employees a scope for bargaining as to how he had reached that a level. Many organizations realize this, and right from start they decide to reward good employees by giving them some additional awards, cash/non cash prices for that year.


Just removing the trained employees, and recruiting new ones, would only add to the cost of the company, delay in generating revenue, and more problems.



“Which project is working best?”


Projects…………It was really surprising to hear that the best project moving as of now is Accounting package, I was astonished, shocked, and somewhat it was a joke for me. A project is a temporary endeavor, undertaken to create a unique product or service. It is unlike operations, which are ongoing and repetitive, with well-defined scope. For its success it should be within a predefined, quality, cost, and time paramater. The scope, time and cost should be predetermined. One needs to deploy the right resources in the right time-in right quantity.
One needs to prioritize things. Having highest priority for all means is no priority at all. Knowing the priority ranking helps project manager in proper planning. Failing to plan is planning to fail.
Fine some of these where there with the accounting project. But there are still some things missing.
There was change in the management, person heading this team switching over to another project, unknown person like me checking in QA server, which is too slow, and needs help of tomcat, bull dog, time spent on chats. Calling people when they are on leave.

There should be proper allocation and demarcation of authority, responsibility and accountability.

Professional responsibility toward team.

Need to respect personal, ethical and cultural differences in order to ensure a collaborative project management approach.
-Understand the strength and weaknesses of different team members and blend them well in a team
-Understand cultural and ethnic differences
-Respect different work ethics and practices of team members.
-Keep the team members informed of the project progress and future course of actions
-Provide training where necessary
-Give the team members honest, timely and transparent feedbacks and be interested in their welfare
-Manage conflicts with fairness
-No bias on the basis of Nationality, gender, religion.

Good this is the project plan, it is there. But what about authority, responsibility and accountability? What about the quality, cost, time paramaters and the scope ? What is the control on these projects? When The CEO shouts or points something, there is a huge cry.

It is said that well begun is half done. Just creating fuss at the last minute will not work. People in general feel that, there are constant reworking of things, and all efforts go waste, for nobodys fault!!!! That is one of the reasons for the present frustrations and confusions. Prioritizing things and Communication is the link pin, for success of any project. Proper communication at the right time, and in the right manner is needed. Written communication is a must and required for the success of any organization, not just explaining things, and need to be the basis for every organizational activity. Moreover now that the offices are in two different places, proper coordination and sense of oneness & belonging that we all are one big family, has to be there. Not just blaming the other end/others. It is also seen that among some there is a feeling that this being an invested co. FZ LLC, company will go on what may, and once the present projects are completed soon, then there would be no work………..So delay…………I Don’t think any in India would have this feeling, because here it is a private company.

Another thing for sure, just assuming that the investors would always be there with us, and there is no competition, is dangerous. Though we need not return the share money in a company once it loses its goodwill, there would be no new investors willing to invest here. Having had good specs from people like, pinnacle, no doubt, there is leakage of business secrets, and anything can happen. Just removing the trained employees, and recruiting new ones, would only add to the cost of the company, delay in generating revenue, and more problems. Things really have to move in an organized manner and not in a haphazard way. Better late than never.


“Personal notes & views”

In the month of December I happened to see the movie Munna Bhai MBBS, in which the Dean/principal of the medical college says:

Though a successful doctor for years, his hands would shiver if he had to operate his daughter?

Why? It was simply, because he loved his daughter.

Moral of the story: Same as someone said: “Never love the organization you work for, love your work.”

Knowledge alone would help you reach your goals. You don’t know when the organization you work for will stop loving you.

Work and ask not what others can give you, see what you can give to them. When you do your duty without expecting anything, you will be happy. We leave life only once, (Though the scripts say of 7 lives, I don’t think anybody leaves for that) so why waste time being sad? Nobody will bring to himself or herself, sorrow or frustration, as all would like to be happy always. Moreover “Happiness and sorrow are mere states of mind……… It takes equal amount of effort to be happy as to be sad.” Many don’t realize this.

We need to work and leave for the present. Saving and working hard now, thinking that we will enjoy in the future is not fully right, though we need to have some savings for the future. No body knows when a tsunami, earthquake, flood, fire, bomb or by any other means death will embrace you. Live in the present. We work for decent leaving, what we get now only is ours; let that be from our employers. Because the happiness, the salary we get now, is only what we will have, once the organization stops loving us, everything will be that of the company itself, so also all the bad that the employees do. At the most the employer can leave the employee, but the result of faulty recruitment is the most for the employer.

Also LOVE YOUR JOB, BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY BECAUSE YOUNEVER KNOW WHEN COMPANY STOPS LOVING YOU - Narayana Murthy

Undoubtedly, there is no greater teacher than Life!
The above-mentioned things are basic facts, which many fail to understand.

Moreover so far as I am concerned, I strongly believe that there is so much of good in the worst of us, and so much of bad in the best of us, that it ill behoves any of us to find fault with the rest of us. There are always scope and areas for improvement for all of us, and all would be looking for good and positive guidance. When an employee is seen not doing well in one area, there are always areas where he could do well. Once a person is recruited, before leaving him, there should be a policy of giving notices. Just asking them for the notice, when we do not keep the word, is not fair.

The first group of employees, here (Pritish, Hari) is more or less like the first group of employees there. (Sanjeev). Keeping them or leaving them is the managements choice.

Advantage: Sincere, Hardworking, Dedicated, Loyal, Have put good amount of hardwork during the initial days.

Disadvantage: Strong bargaining power in the long run.

Well all this can be seen in family lives too...........

Thats the story of when you divorce me, carry me on your arms.......Some relationship are built so much of love....But it takes only few minutes to break them...........?????? But why???

As the sms: In offices and at the time of Marriage why do two give hands or catch hands, when they meet first??- Is it like what the boxers do before they beging the fight????

Thought for the day: Happiness and sorrow are mere states of mind, it takes equal amount of effort to be happy as to be sad. We have only one life, why waste it, being sad.... Worry doesnot empty today of its sorrow, it empties, tomorrow of its strength. If a door is closed another will open, No body can change what has to happen....Once again....Expectation is the cause of all problem, accept things as they come........

Wednesday, March 08, 2006

Middle Path the most dangerous path –The magic of three

In an economy pure system is one, which retains its original features and are inflexible, while a mixed system is the one, which is a contribution of two pure systems. Eg. Of pure system was that in old Russia of pure socialism or as in old America, i.e. laissez faire capitalism, while that of the mixed system is that of India. A view of the present economy of the world reveals that the countries with mixed economy has failed unless they stick to or favour one pure type a bit more. The mixed economy of India has led to imbalance growth of private and public sectors, bureaucratism, undue control, waste of resources and corruption. Undoubtedly cooperation is hailed as a golden link between capitalism and socialism, because it eliminates the drawbacks of both the conflicting economy. Thus is there three – Capitalism-Middle (mixed)-Socialism.

Now take the lives of the people individually, Those living in undeveloped areas are filled with blind belief and superstitions, are punctual, filled with many good qualities and lead a calm life expecting everything to be the gift of GOD. Those living in developed countries, believe everything to be a game of science and are not superstitious, but ask questions and tries to get answers and implement it in life. Then there are the third categories of people, living in places, which are developing like India…

So also is the case with men, rich people enjoy all the pleasures, can buy and gain everything and anything, dominate others while poor people do not know the pleasures enjoyed by the rich though they too have their pleasures, cannot buy or gain everything and even do not try to, for they lead a hand to mouth existence, which is very pity…They should be made progressed for the welfare of mankind. The poor are given sanctions and reservations while rich can enjoy everything. But the real sufferers are the middle classes.

Take the case of ages in mans life. Young age and old age, carries with it some sorrows, the real sufferers are the middle aged people. "Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It's the transition that's troublesome." Past is history, future is history, Present is reality….

The middle path is just like walking in the middle of the road, if we consider life to be like roads. You cannot keep yourself away from the road, if you want to progress. And when on road, it is unknown as to when a vehicle will hit you. You ought to be the most careful person, when you walk.

Students: Very bright ones, pass out with flying colours, ‘Mandhabudhis’, abstain from studies, the average struggle trying to reach high, but are either successful or unsuccessful. In schools, teachers are sandwiched between principals and students.

Had an sms saying three major dreams of men are: to be as handsome as his mother thinks, to be as rich as his child believes, and to have as many women as his wife suspects.

There are three kind of people, People who dream the whole day, people who work the whole day, and those who dream an hour before setting to work to fulfill their dreams. The third category, involves lot of time and hardwork……….But isnt it better we be there!!!

Now what is this magic of three:

Life: Childhood Manhood Old age.

God: Brahma Vishnu Mahesh
Creator Sustainor Gurdain

Gunanas Satya Rajas Tamas
Qualities

Divine form Shara Akshara Parmathma

Christian Pita Putra Parmathma

People Man Women Eunich

Tenses Past Present Future

Things Beginning Middle End


The Number 3 :

Christians interpret the number 3 as representing the Trinity of Father, Son and Holy Ghost. The great psychologist Carl Jung interpreted as meaning the merging of the will with the heart and the soul. The ancient Babylonians and Celts interpreted this number to represent creation being born out of the union of 2 and thereby being a 3rd and distinct thing. The number 3 is associated with Cronos, the Greek Titan who fathered the Olympians; Hecate, the Queen of the Witches and Goddess of the Crossroads; Pluto, the Roman God of Death; Saturn the Roman equivalent of Cronos and Tyr, the Norse God of Battle and Strength. 3 is associated with the colors yellow, lemon, beige and cream. Flowers associated with the number are yellow roses and orchids. The gemstone associated with 3 is topaz.

Some superstitions about the number three include: A series of unlucky events always happen in threes. It is bad luck to see three butterflies sitting on a leaf. Spitting three times shoos away the devil. It is unlucky to light three cigarettes from the same match. If an owl hoots three times, there will be misfortune. If a cat washes his ears three times you can expect a visitor. A three-legged dog brings luck. Try anything a third time and it will succeed. If you wash your hair on the third day of the month you will have great wealth. It is unlucky to get married May 3rd. If you dream about the number 3, you will lose your lover.
http://www.newagenotebook.com/Numerology/holy-and-unholy-numbers/

Three solves the discord created in the polarity of two, resulting in a new integration and wholeness. This can be seen in the divisions of a human: mind, body, and spirit, whose unification makes us whole , our visible world is three dimensional. Three can also relate to expansiveness and learning through life experiences. It is considered to be lucky, and is often associated with money and good fortune. Three can depict several people joining together to achieve a common goal, whether through a social or professional affiliation. Three also represents communication of all kinds, expression, drama, acting, and humor. It also represents the number associated with creativity. As a basis of all creation, the blending of creative energy of one (male) and two (female) create new life, so the resulting creation is associated with the number three.

Although three possesses attributes of wisdom, understanding and knowledge, negatively it can exhibit pessimism, foolhardiness and unnecessary risk taking. Three is seen as a very magical number. In some cases, the number three can take on some negative aspects and is seen as demonic or unnatural, as there are no creatures in our world who walk upon three legs. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unlucky_number#Three)

Now did you understand anything from all this!!! We have our own share of sorrows, apprehensions and fears…But most of us, hate to reveal them openly….What are others to understand you…when you yourself is rarely understood…..As in his class on Efficency in work place, Manny Paul said, the most we know is about ourself, but when any one of us was asked to come to stage and speak for two minutes, none could get up….Because of FEAR----In most of the books by G. Sekhar & Sharavana Prasad…You find…What is FEAR….Feel Energetic And Act for Result……It is difficult to live this way, but you have to go this way….

Thought for the day: As is said, Some are born great, some have greatness thrust upon them, some achieve greatness (Again three), So let us Act now, Let us then be up and living, with a heart for any race, still achieving, still pursuing, learn to labour and to wait…….(From Psalm of Life)

Loving together is such a treat,

for no one else could be so sweet...

Three things in life:
Once gone never come back: Words, Opportunity, Time.
Are never sure: Dreams, Success, Fortune.
That make you great: Hardwork, Sincerity, Success
Most valuable: Love, Selfrespect, Time
Must not be lost: Peace, Hope, Honesty.
That Destroy a person: Greed, Pride, Anger.

Tuesday, March 07, 2006

Secularism or Pseudosecularism

Having forwarded an email a PPS on pseudosecularism, there was an interesting communication from friends, which said:

Hinduism is the way of life, but the people who practice it must be aware of the same. Such E-mails must not be passed on, as it may create negative emotions on the person reading it, since most of people is easily affected by negative remarks in their personal life.

It’s really bad in the Professional life and in the year 2006, when people of other countries are thinking of the future with lots of challenges in information technology, new challenges in studies and lot lot more, we, stupid Indians are crying over the split milk and fighting or arguing over Religion and its various teachings and ideology, etc.etc.


[Nice to know your reaction, this is at least a proof that u have gone throught it. Moreover we should react to situations around us, in all possible ways........May be we cannot start a political party like Rang De Basanthi or Yuva, but we can always do our bit.]

Regarding reacting to situations around us in all possible ways, I think in todays world better not to react to all the situations around us, OK, some exceptions may be there like we can react with some of our GOOD friends, with some family members, with some (good) colleagues etc. that too only in a friendly way - But not with all.

With regard to the forward, what I have felt is:

In India, unlike other countries, there is needless too much of reservations given: caste wise, religion wise, etc....Dont you think all this is wrong, and its high time that these reservations are removed......

But , if a Rasal or Meera think that this is wrong, we are not going to do anything to change such reservations nor we can raise voice against this. To be frank, we are not going to do anything, as said in malayalam "oru chukkum cheyyan pokunnilla". In India, unlike other countries, there are lots of other problems to mentioned a few : poverty, injustice, cheap political games, scams etc. etc. can we change these things, just a big 'NO', as a popular song from one of Govinda movie "it happens only in India"

Dont u think that one of the secret of the success of Veegaland , Banglore etc.(not bending to the demands that local employees be given preference for jobs), Why this reservations!!!!High time it is stopped.....( Thats my view,)

But, no one can think regarding stopping of reservations or so. It is purely propaganda to create some communal disharmony or to Boost (as is always done by some cheap, stupid political parties and by some 'crazy' people).


Well this is the view of most of the common people, then why so much of communal disharmony through out??? Isn’t all this unwanted, cheap politics……When and how will there be an end to all this…..
Being an Indian most common men, have never tried to show off or tried to spread any religious ideology with in any social order/group, for most of us, our religion is HUMANITY and we do strictly Believe in it, and think its right.