This is what most parents do not want to happen, well there are exceptions everywhere though; and it appears that only 26% of 18-65 reported having a highly supportive sibling relationship; 19% has apathetic one, while 16% has hostile, in an Oakland University survey.
Siblings do stop speaking, why ties break down and how real families reconcile, do vary from case to case. But Brother and sister estrangement is a common unspoken phenomenon. Most siblings in contentious relationships still feel pulled towards one another.
Most of the times, it is rivalry that turns to strife. As kids, brothers and sisters fight. They get angry for stealing toys or crossing invisible boundaries. The ability to fight with your siblings and resolve those conflicts is an important developmental achievement. Siblings who never learn to manage these conflicts are most at risk for adult estrangement. You have no incentive to remain in contact. You just want to stay away.
There are two personality types who appear prone to being estranged by siblings: those who are extremely hostile and those who are grievance collectors. Those with successful careers and fulfilling lives are less likely to fixate on the past and even enjoy over-coming their 'underdog' reputation.
Completely cutting off a sibling, regardless of how much it may be deserved, has serious ramifications. Those who initiate estrangement often feel deep regret later. We have our parents for at the most say 30-50 years, but we have our siblings for 50-80 years, and they are the only person who remembers your childhood, and you have nothing to say to them? It's tragic, Fight open up...
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