Friday, January 18, 2019

Never Say Never



Well almost 42 days since finally got married. Quite unbelievable even for myself. Today at the registration counter when taking the marriage certificate – kept pondering – as there was a common counter for birth, death and marriage. Was it the old me dying and a new me being born???

Maangalyatantunaanena bhava jeevanahetuh may. With this holy thread that I offer to you, please become the purpose of my life.

Marriage has a higher purpose, it can be more than just a political alliance. It is not a necessity; there should be no compulsion to get married. There's nothing worse than being married to the wrong person. You should only get married if you find someone you admire, who will help you understand and fulfil your life's purpose. And you, in turn, can help her fulfil her life's purpose. If you're able to find that one person, then marry her.

Nobody knows real thing, but think they know everything and want things in the name of custom…just the things they want. That is the saddest part of all these rituals in connection with wedding ceremony; better to keep it simple. It would be troublesome either ways – without any questioning or analysis we just follow like a heard or if we do not. Mangalsutra or Thali women carry around their neck – it comes in various shape and size and forms - Thaali is a representative of the family deity – like Goddess Meenakshi, Lord Sundareshwara, Tulsi plant, Lord Shiva, cross, Krishna, one of them is Shivling – It’s the phallus; symbolizing male potency. The irony is that the Thaali is supposed to be concealed when worn in such a way that it is not visible to others.

Once married be prepared to receive surprising feedbacks and views. With the negativities you might feel drained of energy. Till this moment, did you never know yourself? Is the only way out, reducing communication? No response is a response, serious one. Keep walking...But did I stop?

How would one react when they get into a new life and hear these instead of anything positive in one months’ time. 2019 back to be Me?

A man often blames a woman for being blaming when she is innocently talking about her problem. This is very destructive to the relationship because it blocks communication.


Two Bugs that keep me going these days one official and one personal, but Thankfully there are supporters as well at both the places and professional one would end soon. This is in addition to the evening bugs that keep me awake. Nothing last for ever, but interesting times.

Life is a journey and when you think you have finished, you realise it was just a milestone. You should learn to forget bitter experiences to leave happy life.

And read “How to win at life: Let people do what they need to do to make them happy. Mind your own business and do what you need to do to make you happy. The End.

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