Second Thought

Marriage is no bed of roses alone. It got thorns too.. There's limit to being nice, giving, adjusting, understanding.. literally everything! In a relationship if only one does it all then it is exploitation that's in long turns to rebellion. One is bad if she start raising voice. A friend is on the verge of exploding, some of my best friends are going through challenges in life due to reasons ranging from addiction, financial issues, adultery, domestic abuse etc. Every other woman I know is silently managing.

We all get our own share of pain. Some mistakes can't be rectified and we live through. But it is never a choice to perish along with all your dreams. Truth is you can't keep everyone happy and be happy. To be happy you must do what makes you happy & not others. If it is called being selfish then be it! Being selfless has only made people unhappy.

”Who decides the expiry date of a woman’s dreams?”

For argument’s sake you may counter it’s not just for the woman. Maybe. But the fact remains that more often than not, the moment the knot is tied around her neck, she is expected to instantly reincarnate herself into a capable, efficient and obedient home maker. You may argue times have changes, however the norm remains more often than not. There are modern minded men, of course. Most of them are like those husband, though, who takes pride in moving with the times realizes late that

‘her freedom was always with his acquiescence.’

Wish men understand that marriage is not an institution for women to take care of faulty guys. And husband's don't expect their wives to earn and look like Priyanka Chopra cook and clean like domestic servant both at the same time. Wondering when today, they say wedding to be a partnership how can they be so biased? One-sided? Selfish?

Like it or not, there is a Lakshman Rekha for mostly every married women, still in India.
My lovely ladies have fun and don't restrict yourself to the boundaries of someone's expectations. A little adjustments retain peace but too much of it leads to unrest and rebellion.


The primary cause of unhappiness is never a situation but your thoughts about it... Quote in office today👍👍