Think of self-confidence as an asset.
Just as you protect and invest in a valuable asset, you need to consciously protect and strengthen your confidence.
The course's approach can be reduced to:
Own → Accept → Act → Manage → Stay Positive → Plan
1. Own the situation
The first step is personal responsibility.
Instead of saying:
“My boss made me feel inadequate.”
“My colleague destroyed my confidence.”
“That client made me feel incompetent.”
Ask:
“What can I do about how I feel and how I respond?”
This does not mean blaming yourself.
The course makes an important distinction:
Taking responsibility ≠ taking all the blame.
Every outcome has multiple contributing factors. You are only one of them.
When confidence takes a hit:
- Accept your part in the situation.
- Remind yourself of your self-worth.
- Look at your past achievements and strengths.
- Decide what behaviour or action can make you stronger.
Key lesson
Don't give other people control over your confidence.
2. Embrace your imperfections
Nobody is perfect.
Mistakes, failures and difficult learning experiences are part of professional and personal growth.
Instead of seeing a mistake as:
“I am not good enough.”
Try seeing it as:
“What is this experience teaching me?”
The course describes mistakes as feedback.
The important distinction
Not every weakness deserves equal attention.
When you make a mistake, ask:
- How important is this skill?
- Will I need this skill in the coming years?
- Is this something I personally need to master?
- Is somebody else better suited to handle it?
If the skill matters → learn it.
If it doesn't matter much → learn the lesson and move on.
This is particularly valuable because confidence can suffer when we spend too much energy trying to fix every imperfection.
Key lesson
A mistake is an event, not an identity.
3. Articulate a path forward
When confidence falls, don't wait months to recover.
Take action quickly.
The course proposes three levels of goals:
🟢 Small wins
Start with something simple, specific and achievable.
For example:
- Complete an important task.
- Reconnect with someone.
- Speak up in a meeting.
- Finish something you've been postponing.
Small wins rebuild the feeling:
“I can do this.”
🟡 SMART goals
Once momentum returns, move to larger goals that are:
S — Specific
M — Measurable
A — Aligned
R — Reachable
T — Time-bound
🔵 Big dreams
Don't stop at small goals.
When confidence falls, people often become excessively cautious.
The course says:
Don't forget to dream.
Big ambitions reconnect you with purpose and possibility.
4. Manage your context
Your environment affects your confidence.
The course recommends dividing the people around you into:
Positive influences
People who:
- Encourage you
- Help you
- Make you feel capable
- Bring constructive energy
Negative influences
People who:
- Constantly create stress
- Undermine you
- Drain your energy
- Create unhealthy interactions
You may not be able to eliminate difficult people, particularly at work, but you can often manage the amount of time and energy you give them.
Manage your time too
A particularly useful recommendation is:
Do meaningful work first.
Don't begin the day by hiding in easy administrative tasks.
Instead:
Important work → routine work
Track your time for a week and see how much goes toward work that genuinely matters.
And presentation matters
The course also connects confidence with how you present yourself—clothing, grooming and appearance.
The point isn't that there is one “correct” appearance.
It is about asking:
“How do I want to present myself, and does that make me feel good about myself?”
5. Feed your positivity
Confidence needs reinforcement.
The course suggests several techniques.
Visualise success
Spend 30 seconds or a couple of minutes imagining yourself successfully completing an unfinished goal.
See:
- Yourself completing the task
- The successful presentation
- The positive response
- The feeling of accomplishment
When confidence is shaken
Use this mental sequence:
1. Recognise the feeling.
“My confidence has been shaken.”
2. Remind yourself it is temporary.
3. Remember that the incident doesn't define you.
4. Recall your recent successes.
5. Move forward.
Connect with someone positive
Think of the person who naturally lifts your spirits.
Call them.
You don't necessarily need advice or counselling. Sometimes a simple conversation with someone who believes in you can restore perspective.
Celebrate small progress
Don't wait for a huge achievement.
If you successfully move yourself from:
negative → neutral → positive
that itself deserves recognition.
6. Put together your plan
The final section turns everything into action.
The course recommends three things:
① Get one small win
Do something today that makes you feel capable again.
② Talk to a mentor
Tell someone you trust:
“I'm struggling with my confidence.”
Explain the situation and then listen.
Their perspective may help you see something you cannot see yourself.
③ Change one behaviour or routine
Introduce something symbolic that represents a new beginning.
It could be:
- Changing your work routine
- Trying a new approach
- Changing how you organise your day
- Meeting different people
- Learning something new
The purpose is to break out of an old pattern.
The whole course in 7 lines
1. Own your feelings and your response.
2. Don't confuse responsibility with self-blame.
3. Accept that imperfection is human.
4. Turn mistakes into learning.
5. Rebuild confidence through small wins.
6. Protect your environment and feed your positivity.
7. Keep acting—confidence grows through action and experience.
Current workplace guidance similarly emphasises that confidence isn't the absence of doubt; it involves trusting your ability to act, adapt and learn even when outcomes aren't certain.
One particularly powerful idea for you
I think the most important distinction in this course is:
“I made a mistake” is very different from “I am a failure.”
The first statement creates a possibility:
What can I learn?
The second creates an identity:
There is something wrong with me.
The course is essentially teaching us to stay with the first version.
And that connects beautifully with another idea running through the material:
Confidence doesn't necessarily come before action. Sometimes action comes first—and confidence follows.
That is why the course's emphasis on small wins is so practical. Contemporary workplace guidance also recommends building confidence through manageable challenges, practice and progressive experiences rather than simply trying to “feel confident.”
A simple personal confidence formula
Self-worth + Responsibility + Learning + Small Wins + Positive Relationships + Action = Stronger Confidence
Not perfection.
Not pretending.
Not never feeling doubt.
Just learning to trust yourself a little more, one experience at a time.
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