Blistering perfect terrible - Trio says it all. Today Annie Siva reminded me of the lines. This was in between two deaths because of the demand for dowry camouflaged as expected gift .
Anie Siva never thought she would become a police officer when she sold lemonade and ice creams to tourists at Varkala Sivagiri ashram ten years ago. 31-year-old Anie joined as a probationary sub-inspector at Varkala police station on June 25. Though she joined the police service as a civil officer in 2016, she sees this new responsibility of a sub-inspector as a tremendous achievement. She said "today I am the Sub-Inspector of Police at the same place where I lived ten years ago selling ice cream and lemonade for the Varkala Sivagiri pilgrimage. How can I avenge yesterdays bigger than this," she wrote on Facebook. Her post has already been shared by many on social media platforms and has gone viral. Raising a kid on her own, Annie recalled how her 'life-partner' left her when she was just 19. She added that she couldn't go back to her family as they were against her marrying at the age of 18. She had a six month old baby when she returned home and was asked to live in a temporary shed near her grandmother's house. Shifting from one place to another with her son Shivasurya, Anie changed her life for good. "I started selling curry powder and soap first. Later, I became an insurance agent. Then I used to deliver essential items to people at their homes by travelling on a motorcycle and I got the money to complete my degree in Sociology", Anie added. In 2014, she joined a training center in Thiruvananthapuram to write the exam for sub-inspector post and for woman police post. After completing three years as a woman police officer, she wrote the SI selection test in 2019 and got selected. After training for nearly one and half years, she joined as a trainee sub-inspector. She took to social media and announced "It was an achievement indeed".
Some say, for survival, she had to dress like a man. This reminded me of the movieRasatantram. written and directed by Sathyan Anthikkad and starring Mohanlal and Meera Jasmine,Kanmani dresses up as a boy by the name of Velayuthan Kutty and soon starts working with Manikandan and Premachandran. I have often wonderd, what cross dressing or dressing up like a boy feel. We do war trousers and shirts, but not become altogether boy like. Historically, some women have cross-dressed to take up male-dominated or male-exclusive professions, such as military service. Conversely, some men have cross-dressed to escape from mandatory military service. Some girls in Afghanistan, long after the fall of the Taliban, are still disguised by their families as boys. This is known as bacha posh. is a practice, in which some families without sons will pick a daughter to live and behave as a boy. This enables the child to behave more freely: attending school, escorting her sisters in public, and working. So happened to read the book The Pearl That Broke Its Shell by Nadia Hashimi. (More on it in a separate post)
A 19-year-old woman, who was being pressured for dowry by her in-laws, was found dead nearly three months after her marriage. The family of the deceased has alleged that she was murdered. The deceased was identified as Suchithra. Suchithra got married to Vishnu on March 21. Suchithra's family had given 51 sovereigns of gold and a car as dowry to her. The gold and four-wheeler, however, was not enough for the teenager's in-laws and they demanded more. In a tragic story that has left Kerala in shock, a 24-year-old woman who had sent WhatsApp messages to her family sharing photos of alleged torture over dowry, was found dead at her husband's home on Monday.
Vismaya Nair, an Ayurveda medicine student, had alleged in her messages she was dragged by her hair and stamped on her face by her husband Kiran Kumar, who has now been arrested. They had been married for an year now, and she was given an acre of land, gold and car. But Kiran asked for a new car or 10 lakh rupees. Vismaya was found hanging in a bathroom at her husband's home in Kollam. Kiran Kumar, 30, an employee at the State Transport Department, has been also suspended from his government job. "My sister's death is murder. Because she was a victim of dowry harassment, was facing a lot. She had to even stay at her parents' home for a while," said Vismaya's brother Vijith.
"As a society, we need to reform the prevailing marriage system. Marriage must not be a pompous show of the family's social status and wealth. Parents have to realise that the barbaric dowry system degrades our daughters as commodities. We must treat them better, as human beings," the Chief Minister tweeted, sharing helplines. "A fair society is that which treats women and men as equals. In light of the recent horrifying incidents of domestic abuse, Kerala has decided to take more stringent measures to create a fair society. The Government and the people will stand together to end this injustice." We should.
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