Friday, February 16, 2024

Emotionally Intelligent - Statements

 

5 statements, that Emotionally Intelligent people will say:

  • I am feeling overwhelmed right now, can we take a break and revisit this later
  • I see how much this means to you, lets find a solution that works for both of us. 
  • I hear you and want to understand you, tell me more. 
  • Thank you for sharing this with me, what can I do to make it right?
  • I forgive myself for not being perfect, I am learning and growing every single day
Be humble because you are made out of mother earth and be noble because you are made of the stars. - How profound is that. 

From ignoring everyone, to be available to just be that one person, to being available  to everyone else, to just forget that one - we learned a lot. 

Whatever we are, whatever we make of ourselves, is all that we will ever have, and that in it's profound simplicity is the only meaning of life. 

ABC of Emotional Intelligence

Guilt is about behaviour - It's a call for corrective and good measure. It is mostly corrective. 
Shame is about identity - It's about who we believe we are, not what we did. It says I am wrong. It is destructive. 

Understanding the difference is the first step to navigate it. 

Anger When you get angry remember: Managing it is important. 

  1. Pause and breath before reacting. Give space for thoughtful reaction. 
  2. Express and not supress - communicate assertively. Find healthy way to express. Articulating can help from recurring. 
  3. Reflect on your triggers - understand the root cause.  - It help . Is it a specific situation or unresolved issue. 
Anger is a natural emotion, how you response is important. 

Sadness, loneliness or feeling low: Understanding it as freeze response is important. 
  1. It's a natural mechanism to freeze. It is hardwired as a survival strategy in our biology. 
  2. It is not a sign of weakness. It is a primal reaction designed to protect us. 
  3. Mind body connection matters. Reconnect with body with mindful practice. 
Not enough/Perfection : Have ever felt crushing with it? More we chase Vulnerability often seen as weakness helps dismantle shame script.. 
Self compassion is the compass. Give yourself kindness you give to others. 
Stories external can be rewritten. Embrace imperfection. 
Breaking shame is conscious choice. Always learn to tell yourself,

' I am more than the standards I set for myself?. Imperfection is beautiful and not something to hide. 
What narration do your carry and which are you willing to rewrite? Your authenticity is your superpower, embrace it, because the world needs it. '

There is a spicy connection between what you heat and how you feel. Your gut called the second brain, talks to your first brain. It's important to understand the emotional fire work. 

Jealousy: Perceived threat, real or imaginary. Powerful signal for untapped potential. It can cloud your happiness. It is a mock tale of fear of loss, illusion of someone else's success diminishing our growth. 
  1. Practise gratitude - shift focus from others to you
  2. Cultivate self compassion - acknowledge the emotion without judgement. 
  3. Channel that energy into growth. 

Super-power : Mentally strong people have super power - Self discipline. Reserve energy to those who treat with respect. Stay mentally strong, set those boundaries and keep thriving. Don't let people take your kindness for granted. 

Level 10 goals, is about infusing clarity in your journey. It's a compass for your soul. They guide you to a holistic living. They provide a new found wholesomeness to your life. 

A very powerful concept of EI. Let us compare our brain with our hand, palms is like the limbic system responsible for all you do your emotional responses , the thumb when placed it in, nail is like  amygdala, responsible for  and risk analyser. Top four fingers are  prefrontal cortex responsible for all you do with wisdom, cognition and decision making capability. When your amygdala is triggered, your lid is off you go into a Fight, Flight , Freeze mode. Make sure the prefrontal cortex is engaged. Respond not just emotionally but logically to. 

In any moment your are one decision away from discovering hope, embracing forgiveness, or choosing an abundance mindset. - each is a transformative step towards changing your  life. Not making decision is also choice. To stay in the same space and mindset. 

ABC of EI:

Awareness 
Balance 
Control 


 Are you ready to take your Emotional Intelligence to the next level? Are you tired of feeling like your emotions are controlling you, instead of the other way around? Do you want to develop the skills to communicate more effectively with others and build stronger relationships?

Learn and Practice:

✅ Self-awareness (understanding your own emotions and how they impact your thoughts and actions)


✅ Self-regulation (learning how to manage and control your emotions in a healthy and productive way)


✅ Empathy (developing the ability to understand and relate to the emotions of others)


✅ Communication (learning how to effectively express yourself and connect with others)


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