Unlocking the Golden Cage : 7 Simple Steps to Designing The Life You Love - Puja Puneet

 As amazing a life coach, Puja Puneet is so is her book 'Unlocking the Golden Cage : 7 Simple Steps to Designing The Life You Love'. This was my 92nd of 2021.

What does a woman need? What feeds her exuberance?  Freedom, Creativity, Heart. A sense of aliveness. Connection. Community. 

Ability to pour her life-giving essence into whatever she is doing. Feel seen, valued and witnessed. 

This book attempts to give key to freedom and transform one from an ordinary woman into a Divine Diva by learning the three pillars on which our life rests, the 3 Cs:

• Courage
• Clarity
• Consistency

Build up the main pillars to live a complete life, and the 3Cs are:

• Connection
• Confidence 
• Career

This books helps to embody these characteristics leaving behind words like sacrifice, tolerance and compromise and own the events of your life, by helping find

• Happiness
• Identity
• Freedom

Provided we practice the tools and techniques. 

Part 1: 

Understand what's blocking your cage first, it should be one of these:

• Family support
• Mindset
• Attitude
• Time 
• Resources

For each of these determine a value between 0 and 10, with 0 being not effecting at all and 10 being the big excuse for why no action is taken. Observe which area have the highest number and make a note to apply the 7 step process to them. 

1. Finding the Key - 100 % Responsibility : E+R= O; Event+Response = Outcome; Reaction is instant, fraught with emotion and you end up regretting; but a response is well thought out, Takes into account different perspectives and puts extreme emotional reactions like anger or panic on hold . Row your boat, assume responsibility for your life.  Stop asking the "Why me?" questions and start asking the "How can I" questions. If you believe that most things you do because "you have to" then you will feel unhappy and dissatisfied. But if you change it to "I choose to", the effect on your outcome is remarkable. 
2. Discover your wings - Clarity : Ditch the guilt and believe. You can get what you deserve, there is enough in the universe. It will make us better in nurturing our family. Passion test, What's important to you? What gives you joy? What in your life is both important and give you joy? Write it down, 10 and choose 5 of it. Write 3 markers for each passion that you can take action on. Now examine the resources and circumstances and see which passion is the best fit from them. Keep following the joy in your life, and you will reach what you are made for. 
3. Opening the lock - Limiting Beliefs : It can be a table with 2 legs, 4 legs or 8 legs. The tables are Opinion, belief and Conviction. Opinions can be changed, beliefs are slightly stronger and convictions where you are very sure of your ways, and difficult to break or change. Our mind has three duties - Protects us, gives meaning to the things that has happened to us, and keep proving it to be right. Tell your brain "I know better than you, so keep quiet". An uncaged women owns her roles and responsibility, Keeps calm in the storm and knows to handle on her emotions, designs her life and is aware of her power to do so. Know your limiting beliefs. Understand how it is ridiculous, how and where you got it from, what was the real meaning behind the event and what is it costing now? 'Truth Letter', will help you release negative emotions form the past and come back to your natural state of love and joy in the present by recapturing the caring, closeness and cooperation that are our natural state. For this to be effective spend equal time to understand the 6 - Anger and resentment (Tantrum), Hurt, Fear, Remorse, Wants, Love. Practice these techniques on a daily basis including gratitude, bragging, listing out your desires, looking at your vision board, reading goals and affirmations. 
4. Goal setting - Desiring and dreaming to fly: Your Big Hairy Audacious Goal (BHAG pronounced Bee-Hag) is the goal toward which all your other smaller goals (1 year vision, 3 year vision) are directed. Dream Big, start small, play mindfully, quantify this! 7 areas to focus are financial, business/career, health and fitness, relationships, recreation, growth, legacy. 
5. Daily Practices - Affirmation and Visualization : Understand and act the life outside the cage. Fake it till you make it. Quit complaining. Affirmations start with I am, are positive, is in present tense, short, specific, end in -ing, have a feeling word, and is about oneself. 
6. Finally Flying - Take action and Be Consistent : Law of attraction, Don't wait, act now. Be Consistent. Law of Vibration. Gratitude Journal. Complain/Blame/Excuse Jar - avoid them, and keep three jars, to know what you do more, meditation, commitment Tin. Appreciation. 
7. Community and Contribution - Create a community: Write three qualities you are looking for in people surrounding you. 
8. Conclusion - Don't wait another moment before starting your journey. 

Part 2: Articles from her blog:

These posts are categorized according to the main pillars of life, each symbolized by a type of bird:

• Eagle: Career and productivity
• Peacock: Confidence and self-esteem
• Dove: Relationships and our role at home
• Others

About 32 articles, each unique and a pearl of wisdom by itself.