Wednesday, December 07, 2022

Domestic Diva



Connect with the Domestic Goddess within you:

Small steps towards Self Love

Put yourself at the top of your to-do list, every single day and the rest will fall in place.

Keep your house guest ready . Only then you can be the domestic goddess. Use things for yourself first.  Don't keep things to be used when guest is in. 

Tips on training your staff

You cant train a donkey into horse, you can make a horse a better horse. Three time rule. Same thing explain three times. Train them for 90 days ...first...start following the three times rule....  Have systems, remove old cloths every three months. 

Create Conveniences

 Keep everything at its own place. In everyway, make your own life and those around you convenient. 

  • Have a kettle for green tea beside  lounge
  • Have extra towels in the loo
  • Have nuts etc close to my table to eat as & when

Dependability:

24 hours rule for the family members. Ultimately Leadership is in serving the people, we love.

Make a To do list in the morning and get it done. To become Divine God, we need to be able to provide people what they want. Don't let family member want to remind you. 

Becoming the Domestic Goddess:

Become Clutter Free: Have nothing in your house that you do not think to be useful or beautiful - remove all extras. Ask is this something that gives me joy? If not keep things aside. Don't just remove things because they are broken. Everything in your home should spark joy for you. Start with a room or space. 

The Pipeline story: A person used to dig everyday,  when others would go and get water from the well, gradually he had a pipeline from the well, but others did not. It is important to have pipeline mindset rather than well mindset. Create systems. Pipeline is replaced by systems. Become as effortless you can. Daily things in life. When are fans and switches cleaned? It is far more important than doing all yourself. You do what you love. Delegate to others and create systems. 

Atithi Devo Bhava: Having guest is how we share joy and love with others. It has everything to do with your ability to serve, and that is what matters. Your house should be always ready for guest. People matter, energy matter. More people are at home, it will flourish. 

Being Dispensable: Even if we are not around, things should go on. If we put all energy on things we have to do, you will not have time. We do not delegate all that we have to do and do what we love to do. Plan better. If you keep doing what you don't like, frustration and depression builds in. 

Create Pleasure Points: Do walking into your house give you pleasure? Have comfortable sofa, ready to make tea, perfume, book near tea, if you do things, it makes you present, and you just be. Walk around and see, if what you do gives pleasure. Create small unique things in your home, that will give you pleasure. 

Sprinkling Pixi dust: Just walk around your house and touch everything with your hand, and give our positive vibration. Everything has energy and aura. Women of house can cleanse the aura of everything. Remove the negativity from every thing. Remove anything that is damaged. Become aware of everything that is at home, and make things come alive. It is important that things get your energy.  You will not feel, moody, depressed, frustrated. Sprinkle Pixi dust and you will feel good about self, and people leaving there. 

The Constructive criticism: Zero Criticism, no unnecessary criticism . If you can say it on the face of people, tell it; no gossiping. Constructive criticism is good. While criticising, and when people discuss people, energy fall. Make home zero criticism zone. Have code of honour. No blaming, complaining or excuses.  More you can do this the better you can feel. Make your home a comfort zone. Be aware of things that we say unconsciously, that create criticism. Stop creating/manifesting negativity. 

Focus on Passion: Start working. Anything that gives you satisfaction. If you work only at home, you will start taking things for granted. Give the busiest man something to do and it will get done, and give someone who have nothing to do, the work will never get done. My be go for a run, be part of organisation. When you focus on passion, you house will get more efficient. 

Create Magic Moments in your house: Use all your senses to create environment to have joy - through music, lighting, aroma. All of these, though little, make so much difference to the mood. Burning bay leaf is a way to have aroma. See how different it feels, even though the house remain the same. 

Become a supervisor rather than worker: Allow people to make mistakes, as you supervise them long enough, and they start doing things the way you want to. Be the teacher and not the doer. The moment the domestic Goddess don't do this, you will be indispensable at home, and will not be able to contribute anywhere else. Start to lead, and trainee people to do certain way at home. Stop jumping in and become the Steve Jobs of your home. 

Three important reason to be a domestic Goddess: Anchoring, Self Esteem and Pleasure are three important reasons to be a Domestic Goddess. Our house is  place where we come back for calm. We need to be aligned with it. It is important that small joys should attract you and your mood should be uplifted. When our anchoring is strong, our ability to fly high would be better. From there you become who you want to. We derive our self esteem from our house. Appreciated, acknowledged and approval, helps you bloom - it is life soil, water and sunlight. Look for doing things at home that will boost self esteem either from external or internal ways. Every one should be connected to pleasure. Beauty is essential and core to our soul. Clearly beauty is essential - it is a part of life - look around. 

Be Ambitious: When we go out in the world we need our foundation to be set up and house strong. Put in effort to keep the home running. Own the part to maintain the home. Be good in your primary role. Our moods and emotions play a very important part in all we do. So our home should be happy. You can take care of both. Give love the people at home deserve. We truly can do this 'and' that and not 'or'.

Qualities needed: 1.Patience. Rome is not build in a day. It takes time. 2. Love and Connection. Energetically serve others. Build connect with others. Develop their EQ. Grow love and connection at home. 3. Get Organised. Be dependable. Have a to do list everyday. Ask for help and go out and do what you want to do. Anything you touch, that place should blossom. For that you should be your best self. Make everything better. Operate with one question and be the gorgeous domestic goddess. 

Reduce overwhelm: Become a queen of Jughad and learn best practices from your Mother. Concentrate on the things that are amazing and keep blossoming. Eveything is figureoutable. Women is the pride and should always present the best out of what we have, enjoy and grow. Use the smartness that you naturally have. Peel out the outer cover to make your flowers last. Share tips to become the queen of Jughad. Be clever and smart in the most beautiful way. Stop blaming and complaining. You are making hell out of beautiful and amazing when you blame and complain. Our journey is an evolving journey. The seed take time to grow into a tree. Find our way of operating and blossom. Do'nt be negative of your own space. The women of the house, make the mood of the house. Make it happy , positive, amazing one.

Take action - start today: Wanting is not enough, take action. Start now. If not you are letting resistance to win. Immediate action lead to success. 

Deserve life of extraordinary, don't settle for ordinary. 

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